Talking about difficult topics like race can raise anxiety for many people, and yet we must have the conversation in our schools and our lives in order to be more inclusive and change the world for the better. What are the fears and common pitfalls that keep us from broaching topics like race? Gain practical skills for facilitating as well as participating in the conversation.

1. Classroom Dialogue Tools:
Interrupting with Care and
Facilitating Through Tension
ISACS Diversity Summit
Seattle Girls’ School
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2. Agenda
 Courageous conversations
 What keeps us from having them?
 Priming for the conversation
 Interruption skills
 Practice makes less heart-attack-inducing
 Facilitation skills
 Practice makes more comfortable
 Wrap up
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3. Courageous Conversations
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4. Fears and Anxieties that Keep Us
from Having Conversations
 Offending
 Losing Face
 Tokenism
 Social Risk
 Bursting the Bubble
 Rocking the Boat
 Conflict
 Lack of “Authority”
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5. Pitfalls and Obstacles that Keep Us
from Conversing Again
 Outbursts
 Silence
 Denial
 The Good Talk
 Teacher vs. Facilitator
 Personal Attacks
 The Quick Fix
 Leadership Oppression
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6. Open Acknowledgment
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7. Define the Opportunity
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8. NCBI Effective Interventions Model
 Reduce Defensiveness
– Tone
– Body Language
– Respect
 Keep the Conversation Going
– Hear Them Out
– Ask Open-Ended Questions
– Set Aside Your Feeling for the Moment
– Dialogue
 Build the Relationship
 Win an Ally
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9. Everything You Ever Wanted to Interrupt
But Didn’t Know How To…
 Think of trigger events of phrases
 Which ones have proven most challenging?
 Which ones would you like to strategize effective
interventions for?
 Strategize for different people: strangers,
acquaintances, friends, family members, younger
people, etc.
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10. Practice Makes Less Heart-Attack-Inducing
Two Lines Facing Each Other
-Line 1 say trigger phrase
-Line 2 respond
-Line 2 move one person
-Repeat for several rounds
After 5 minutes, we will switch
roles (Line 2 say trigger, Line 1
respond) and practice another
5 minutes.
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11. Sharing the Wisdom
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12. Break
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13. Facilitation Skills
 Space
 Confidence and Competence
 Relationship Building
 Credibility
 Flexibility and Authority
 Optimism
 Modeling
 Multiple Learning Styles
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14. Facilitation Tips
 Co-facilitation
 Depersonalization
 Vulnerability
 Relationships
 Saving it for Later
 Discomfort
 Clarification
 Listening
 Hot Buttons
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15. Avoiding the Pitfalls and
Overcoming the Obstacles
 Powerful stories
 Powerful statistics
 Powerful analogies
 Facilitation Skills
 Welcoming environment
 Clear and strict norms
 Willingness to sit with
discomfort
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16. Equality versus Equity
Everybody gets a shirt versus everybody
gets a shirt that fits.
Giving everybody some insulin in
equality. Giving only people who are
diabetic some insulin is equity.
What is “fair”?
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17. Conflation of Individual/Institutional
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18. Correlation versus Causation
Correlation: When income is averaged and compared, there
is a strong correlation between race and wealth. This is due
to a myriad of historical, systemic, and economic factors that
impact People of Color and Whites differently.
Causation: When income is averaged and compared, there is a
strong correlation between race and wealth. This must be
because People of Color must not be as smart, hard-
working, or good with money as Whites.
Correlation: When more firefighters are fighting a fire, the
bigger the fire is observed to be.
Causation: The additional firefighters made the fire bigger.
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19. Accumulated Advantages
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20. Situational Advantage
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21. Privilege
“Privilege exists when one group has
something of value that is denied to others
simply because of the groups they belong
to, rather than because of anything they’ve
done or failed to do.”
[as described by Peggy McIntosh and quoted by Allan Johnson]
Privilege is SYSTEMIC. It drives the
systems that dominate our societies.
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22. Safety versus Comfort
Safety: I feel that, in this space, I can ask questions without
fear of judgment. I can voice my perspective and know that
I will be validated for the fact that that is my truth. Others
may challenge my ideas, but that challenge is in the spirit of
greater shared understanding and growth.
Comfort: I feel that, in this space, my reality will be agreed
with, validated, and unchallenged. I don’t have to explain
myself to be understood, and I don’t have to justify my
perspective, as everyone shares it.
As educators, we are constantly setting up an environment
where students are safe but not always comfortable...
SO THAT THEY CAN LEARN AND GROW.
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23. Practice Makes…
Feeling Even More Comfortable!
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24. Break
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25. Structure
 Groups of 6
– Facilitator
– Observer
– 2 Participants
– 2 “Challenge” Roles
 7 Minute Discussions
 Critical Friends Style Feedback for the Facilitator
 Switch roles
 3 Rounds of Discussion
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26. Goals to Strive For
 Be Real
 Don’t End Early
 Don’t “Admire the Problem”
 Sit With All the Feelings
 Support the Facilitator
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27. Round One Discussion Time
Discussion: Many schools struggle to have
many students and faculty members of
color because there “aren’t enough strong
candidates of color.” What do you think?
Round One
Discussion
Round One
Feedback and
Discussion
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28. Round Two Discussion Time
Discussion: Should schools revamp the
curriculum to include multiple diversity
perspectives even if there is little to no
diversity of that sort in the student or
faculty/staff population?
Round Two
Discussion
Round Two
Feedback and
Discussion
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29. Round Three Discussion Time
Discussion: What is the role of men and
women in the work toward gender equity
and social justice?
Round Two
Discussion
Round Two
Feedback and
Discussion
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30. Large Group Share
What were some:
Ah-ha moments
Great strategies
Heads up
Questions or Concerns
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31. Next Steps
 Attend more Train the Trainer workshops
 Have more real discussions with people
who affirm you
 Have more real one-on-one dialogue with
people who may or may not affirm you
 Continue to learn and grow in your
knowledge base for content AND skills
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32. Presenter Information
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
6th Faculty and
Professional Outreach
Seattle Girls’ School
2706 S Jackson Street
Seattle WA 98144
(206) 805-6562
rlee@seattlegirlsschool.org
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33. Resources
• Anti-Defamation League
• Cross Cultural Connections
(www.CulturesConnecting.com)
• Facilitation First
• Jimpact Enterprises, Inc.
• National Coalition Building Institute
• The People’s Institute
• Stirfry Seminars
• The Thiagi Group
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