Many people fall prey to impact bias, which is the tendency to overestimate the initial impact or duration of an emotional event,
We want to learn to enjoy the present moment and the journey which includes all the emotions we experience rather than believing that happiness will be found in the future if our goals are achieved.
Many people fall prey to impact bias, which is the tendency to overestimate the initial impact or duration of an emotional event,
We want to learn to enjoy the present moment and the journey which includes all the emotions we experience rather than believing that happiness will be found in the future if our goals are achieved.
This document provides tips on how to improve motivation by addressing common "motivation killers" such as lack of confidence, focus, and direction. It discusses how lack of confidence can prevent progress if one doesn't believe they can succeed. Lack of focus is explained as not knowing your goals or having too many, and lack of direction is not knowing how to get started. The document then gives suggestions for improving each area, such as focusing on strengths, setting clear goals, and breaking large goals into action steps. Building self-discipline is also covered, addressing the need to act on plans despite feelings. Traits like self-knowledge, awareness, commitment, courage, and coaching oneself are said to help with self-discipline.
This document provides guidance on how to write an effective flight plan to achieve your goals. It discusses the importance of having clear, written goals with specific plans and deadlines. Only 3% of people have goals defined in this way. The document then outlines a 7-step process to write a flight plan, including defining goals qualitatively and quantitatively, setting deadlines, identifying obstacles, and determining required skills and support. It also presents a 4-step "Guaranteed Success Formula" to select a primary goal and develop a detailed plan through mindstorming exercises. Following these steps will help you accomplish even large goals by providing clarity, focus, and a step-by-step process.
This document provides tips to improve and maintain motivation. It discusses three major reasons people lack motivation: lack of confidence, lack of focus, and lack of direction. It then provides 101 tips to improve motivation, including setting goals, determining steps to reach goals, devoting a plan, improving skills, being persistent, writing goals down, specifying rewards and completion dates, avoiding negativity, keeping motivators visible, tracking progress, helping others, and taking breaks. The overall document aims to educate readers on how to stay motivated by providing strategies and specific actions they can take.
Would you like to possess the ability to give undivided attention on a particular task, goal, or pursuit until its completion? If your answer is "yes", then listen closely.
Many people fall prey to impact bias, which is the tendency to overestimate the initial impact or duration of an emotional event,
We want to learn to enjoy the present moment and the journey which includes all the emotions we experience rather than believing that happiness will be found in the future if our goals are achieved.
This document provides tips on how to improve motivation by addressing common "motivation killers" such as lack of confidence, focus, and direction. It discusses how lack of confidence can prevent progress if one doesn't believe they can succeed. Lack of focus is explained as not knowing your goals or having too many, and lack of direction is not knowing how to get started. The document then gives suggestions for improving each area, such as focusing on strengths, setting clear goals, and breaking large goals into action steps. Building self-discipline is also covered, addressing the need to act on plans despite feelings. Traits like self-knowledge, awareness, commitment, courage, and coaching oneself are said to help with self-discipline.
This document provides guidance on how to write an effective flight plan to achieve your goals. It discusses the importance of having clear, written goals with specific plans and deadlines. Only 3% of people have goals defined in this way. The document then outlines a 7-step process to write a flight plan, including defining goals qualitatively and quantitatively, setting deadlines, identifying obstacles, and determining required skills and support. It also presents a 4-step "Guaranteed Success Formula" to select a primary goal and develop a detailed plan through mindstorming exercises. Following these steps will help you accomplish even large goals by providing clarity, focus, and a step-by-step process.
This document provides tips to improve and maintain motivation. It discusses three major reasons people lack motivation: lack of confidence, lack of focus, and lack of direction. It then provides 101 tips to improve motivation, including setting goals, determining steps to reach goals, devoting a plan, improving skills, being persistent, writing goals down, specifying rewards and completion dates, avoiding negativity, keeping motivators visible, tracking progress, helping others, and taking breaks. The overall document aims to educate readers on how to stay motivated by providing strategies and specific actions they can take.
Would you like to possess the ability to give undivided attention on a particular task, goal, or pursuit until its completion? If your answer is "yes", then listen closely.
To most coaches, goal setting comes naturally. Identifying a goal and creating action steps is second nature to us. But because of this, it’s easy to forget most of our clients don't even have the slightest clue how to begin!
People seek out coaches to help determine what they really want in life. More importantly, they pay us to help them get there. Which means we’ve got to help them identify and articulate their very specific goals… and take clear and convincing steps to reach it.
In fact, an argument can be made that helping clients understand why goals are important, helping them to identify their own, and then creating a reasonable plan for action is your primary job as coach.
After all, how else will you help them realize their dreams?
This document provides a preview of an ebook about developing a positive mental attitude. It discusses visualizing success, canceling negative thoughts, and dealing with difficulties. The preview consists of introductions to the ebook and its chapters on forming a mental image of success, replacing negative thoughts, and addressing problems through a positive lens. It encourages the reader to download the full ebook for free.
Learning About Money Madness For The 21st Century Can Have Amazing Benefits For Your Life And Success. Achieve financial prosperity in the land of opportunity and wealth. If You Want To Skyrocket Your Success With Maney And Improve Your Overall Life. You Need To Have A Look At Money Madness For The 21st Century.
Most people have beliefs that hold them back from financial success, such as believing others have better opportunities or are smarter. However, one's beliefs shape one's reality. Writing down current beliefs about money and identifying which are hindering versus supportive can help recognize patterns that don't support wealth creation. Developing new, supportive beliefs about one's own ability to be financially prosperous and visualizing them can help imprint a new, more positive reality.
This document provides guidance on setting SMART goals to help achieve your objectives. It discusses the importance of being clear on what you want to achieve and why. It recommends breaking large goals down into smaller, more manageable steps. Key aspects covered include identifying clear action steps to make progress, anticipating potential obstacles, and developing strategies to overcome challenges. The overall message is that properly defining goals and creating a plan is essential for goal attainment.
This document discusses motivational coaching and how it can help people achieve their goals and overcome challenges. Motivational coaching involves helping clients identify their core issues, understand their true motivations, develop new perspectives, and envision a life filled with motivation. Coaches work with individuals and organizations to boost confidence and overcome anxiety or pressure during difficult times like financial uncertainty. Setting clear goals and accountability, taking consistent action even when unmotivated, and using motivational videos can help people stay inspired to achieve objectives that may take longer than expected and overcome feelings of being stuck.
The Inner Game of Success - Positivity Place second presentation)Lana Kravtsova
This document discusses establishing and expanding one's comfort zone. It explains that most people operate within unconscious limits defined by their subconscious mind. These limits include an upper limit driven by self-worth and a lower limit associated with threats to survival. The neutral state resides in the middle range where one feels okay. The document provides steps to identify one's personal comfort scales, dialogue with fears, associate comfort with goals, and adopt empowering beliefs to raise one's limits. Practices include visualization, gratitude, optimism, and celebrating small victories to help achieve goals and flourish beyond one's comfort zone.
The video for this presentation is available on our Youtube channel:
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Goal setting is integral to treatment planning and helping clients learn how to make changes in their lives. This presentation walks you through some basics of goal setting and motivational enhancement suitable for licensed mental health and addictions professionals and coaches.
★★You can sign up to earn CE credits for the on-demand replay at: https://www.allceus.com/member/cart/index/product/id/521/c/ ★★
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AllCEUs is also approved as an education provider for NAADAC, the States of Florida and Texas Boards of Social Work and Mental Health/Professional Counseling, the California Consortium for Addiction Professionals and Professions. Our courses are accepted in most states through those approvals.
This document is from a book about developing single-minded focus. It discusses the importance of focus and committing to the process of improving focus. Focus helps with goal clarity, efficiency, and avoiding distractions. To develop focus, it is important to first take a step back to understand the big picture before narrowing in on specific, smaller steps. Committing to the process is also key, as developing focus takes gradual improvement over time rather than instant perfection. The document provides tips for making the process simple and enjoyable through lowering expectations and celebrating small, measurable changes.
Linda Ferguson, Senior Partner of NLP Canada Training offers a fresh perspective on what NLP is, what training should be, and what results you should see in people who have experienced a great NLP training. If you're not seeing results in graduates, it doesn't matter what appears in the curriculum: training means conditioning learning to drive noticeable change. Find out why NLP Canada Training delivers a uniquely powerful training experience.
Access the motivational video links at the bottom of the page
Perhaps the greatest test in gathering any objective, regardless of whether it be identified with efficiency, waking early, changing a propensity, working out, or simply getting more joyful, is discovering the inspiration to stay with it.
Inspiration is the key, however it's not in every case simple, throughout each and every day, to find that inspiration.
The document discusses how limiting beliefs can hold people back from financial success. It suggests making a list of current beliefs about money and identifying which ones are hindering or supportive. Most people have more hindering beliefs that don't support wealth creation. The key is to replace those limiting beliefs with new, supportive beliefs that will directly help manifest the financial goals one wants to achieve. The exercise involves envisioning the new, supportive beliefs to help impress them into one's consciousness over time.
Inside you there's a hungering for more. Is it meaning, contact or a
richer understanding of life? No one has ever acquainted such
individuals with the concept of perpetual possibility. “As a man
thinketh, so is he.” A major mode to manifesting the life you wish is to
think over what you wish out of life. What is it that you wish to do
with your life? A great exercise is to take a sheet of paper and put
down the answers to the accompanying questions:
This document provides an introduction to Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). It discusses what NLP is, how it can be useful for building rapport, understanding communication, and gaining skills. Some key concepts of NLP are outlined, including outcomes focus, sensory acuity, flexibility of behavior, and presuppositions. Methods like rapport building, representational systems, matching, mirroring, leading, pacing and listening styles are covered, with notes on effectively applying these techniques.
This document provides techniques for living the life you want through effective goal setting. It discusses what goals are, rules for setting goals, composing goals, and tracking progress. The 10 primary areas for goal setting are outlined as lifestyle, career, financial, time management, health, relationships, self-esteem, personal growth, quality of life, and other goals. Common goal setting problems like procrastination and lack of clarity are also addressed. The importance of writing goals down, setting deadlines, and having external support from a life or motivational coach is emphasized for successful goal attainment.
The document discusses the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. It outlines each of the 7 habits, including self-awareness, win-win agreements, understanding other perspectives through empathetic listening, synergistic problem solving, and renewal. For habit 1 of self-awareness, it emphasizes identifying personal values. Habit 2 of win-win agreements, encourages keeping focus on shared interests, not positions. Habit 5 of listening first requires understanding others before being understood. Habit 7 of renewal stresses the importance of sharpening one's skills through physical, spiritual, mental and social/emotional well-being.
The document provides tips for improving determination by setting clear and specific goals. It recommends completing a "best possible future self" exercise to envision success, then developing goals in different life areas and breaking them down into smaller, time-bound steps. Key tips include eliminating negative self-talk, learning from obstacles, using visualization techniques, creating a vision board, rewarding progress, and taking breaks to re-energize motivation.
This document provides an overview of improving oneself for a more successful life. It discusses defining happiness and success, setting goals, managing stress, and developing qualities like sincerity and humility. The chapters cover motivation, goal setting, differentiating between goals and values, stress management, and 20 qualities of successful people like focus, courtesy, and charity. The overall message is on developing a positive mindset and making changes to achieve one's full potential.
The document discusses how to make New Year's resolutions stick. It provides three key tactics:
1. Set a specific and inspiring goal. Connect emotionally to "why" you want to achieve the goal by visualizing yourself achieving it and how it will improve your life.
2. Set daily deliberate actions. Make small, consistent choices each day that move toward your goal rather than expecting to achieve it in one grand gesture. Successful people achieve goals through compounding many small, correct choices over time.
3. Apply the principle of integrity. Do what you say you will do by the time you say you will do it. Committing to your words, not thoughts/feelings, programs your subconscious mind
To most coaches, goal setting comes naturally. Identifying a goal and creating action steps is second nature to us. But because of this, it’s easy to forget most of our clients don't even have the slightest clue how to begin!
People seek out coaches to help determine what they really want in life. More importantly, they pay us to help them get there. Which means we’ve got to help them identify and articulate their very specific goals… and take clear and convincing steps to reach it.
In fact, an argument can be made that helping clients understand why goals are important, helping them to identify their own, and then creating a reasonable plan for action is your primary job as coach.
After all, how else will you help them realize their dreams?
This document provides a preview of an ebook about developing a positive mental attitude. It discusses visualizing success, canceling negative thoughts, and dealing with difficulties. The preview consists of introductions to the ebook and its chapters on forming a mental image of success, replacing negative thoughts, and addressing problems through a positive lens. It encourages the reader to download the full ebook for free.
Learning About Money Madness For The 21st Century Can Have Amazing Benefits For Your Life And Success. Achieve financial prosperity in the land of opportunity and wealth. If You Want To Skyrocket Your Success With Maney And Improve Your Overall Life. You Need To Have A Look At Money Madness For The 21st Century.
Most people have beliefs that hold them back from financial success, such as believing others have better opportunities or are smarter. However, one's beliefs shape one's reality. Writing down current beliefs about money and identifying which are hindering versus supportive can help recognize patterns that don't support wealth creation. Developing new, supportive beliefs about one's own ability to be financially prosperous and visualizing them can help imprint a new, more positive reality.
This document provides guidance on setting SMART goals to help achieve your objectives. It discusses the importance of being clear on what you want to achieve and why. It recommends breaking large goals down into smaller, more manageable steps. Key aspects covered include identifying clear action steps to make progress, anticipating potential obstacles, and developing strategies to overcome challenges. The overall message is that properly defining goals and creating a plan is essential for goal attainment.
This document discusses motivational coaching and how it can help people achieve their goals and overcome challenges. Motivational coaching involves helping clients identify their core issues, understand their true motivations, develop new perspectives, and envision a life filled with motivation. Coaches work with individuals and organizations to boost confidence and overcome anxiety or pressure during difficult times like financial uncertainty. Setting clear goals and accountability, taking consistent action even when unmotivated, and using motivational videos can help people stay inspired to achieve objectives that may take longer than expected and overcome feelings of being stuck.
The Inner Game of Success - Positivity Place second presentation)Lana Kravtsova
This document discusses establishing and expanding one's comfort zone. It explains that most people operate within unconscious limits defined by their subconscious mind. These limits include an upper limit driven by self-worth and a lower limit associated with threats to survival. The neutral state resides in the middle range where one feels okay. The document provides steps to identify one's personal comfort scales, dialogue with fears, associate comfort with goals, and adopt empowering beliefs to raise one's limits. Practices include visualization, gratitude, optimism, and celebrating small victories to help achieve goals and flourish beyond one's comfort zone.
The video for this presentation is available on our Youtube channel:
https://youtube.com/allceuseducation A continuing education course for this presentation can be found at https://www.allceus.com/member/cart/index/index?c=
Goal setting is integral to treatment planning and helping clients learn how to make changes in their lives. This presentation walks you through some basics of goal setting and motivational enhancement suitable for licensed mental health and addictions professionals and coaches.
★★You can sign up to earn CE credits for the on-demand replay at: https://www.allceus.com/member/cart/index/product/id/521/c/ ★★
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Unlimited Counseling CEUs for $59 https://www.allceus.com/
Specialty Certificate tracks starting at $89 https://www.allceus.com/certificate-tracks/
Live Webinars $5/hour https://www.allceus.com/live-interactive-webinars/
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Nurses, addiction and mental health counselors, social workers and marriage and family therapists can earn continuing education credits (CEs) for this and other course at:
View the New Harbinger Catalog and get your 25% discount on their products by entering coupon code: 1168SNIPES at check out
AllCEUs has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 6261. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC Credit are clearly identified. AllCEUs is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs.
AllCEUs is also approved as an education provider for NAADAC, the States of Florida and Texas Boards of Social Work and Mental Health/Professional Counseling, the California Consortium for Addiction Professionals and Professions. Our courses are accepted in most states through those approvals.
This document is from a book about developing single-minded focus. It discusses the importance of focus and committing to the process of improving focus. Focus helps with goal clarity, efficiency, and avoiding distractions. To develop focus, it is important to first take a step back to understand the big picture before narrowing in on specific, smaller steps. Committing to the process is also key, as developing focus takes gradual improvement over time rather than instant perfection. The document provides tips for making the process simple and enjoyable through lowering expectations and celebrating small, measurable changes.
Linda Ferguson, Senior Partner of NLP Canada Training offers a fresh perspective on what NLP is, what training should be, and what results you should see in people who have experienced a great NLP training. If you're not seeing results in graduates, it doesn't matter what appears in the curriculum: training means conditioning learning to drive noticeable change. Find out why NLP Canada Training delivers a uniquely powerful training experience.
Access the motivational video links at the bottom of the page
Perhaps the greatest test in gathering any objective, regardless of whether it be identified with efficiency, waking early, changing a propensity, working out, or simply getting more joyful, is discovering the inspiration to stay with it.
Inspiration is the key, however it's not in every case simple, throughout each and every day, to find that inspiration.
The document discusses how limiting beliefs can hold people back from financial success. It suggests making a list of current beliefs about money and identifying which ones are hindering or supportive. Most people have more hindering beliefs that don't support wealth creation. The key is to replace those limiting beliefs with new, supportive beliefs that will directly help manifest the financial goals one wants to achieve. The exercise involves envisioning the new, supportive beliefs to help impress them into one's consciousness over time.
Inside you there's a hungering for more. Is it meaning, contact or a
richer understanding of life? No one has ever acquainted such
individuals with the concept of perpetual possibility. “As a man
thinketh, so is he.” A major mode to manifesting the life you wish is to
think over what you wish out of life. What is it that you wish to do
with your life? A great exercise is to take a sheet of paper and put
down the answers to the accompanying questions:
This document provides an introduction to Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). It discusses what NLP is, how it can be useful for building rapport, understanding communication, and gaining skills. Some key concepts of NLP are outlined, including outcomes focus, sensory acuity, flexibility of behavior, and presuppositions. Methods like rapport building, representational systems, matching, mirroring, leading, pacing and listening styles are covered, with notes on effectively applying these techniques.
This document provides techniques for living the life you want through effective goal setting. It discusses what goals are, rules for setting goals, composing goals, and tracking progress. The 10 primary areas for goal setting are outlined as lifestyle, career, financial, time management, health, relationships, self-esteem, personal growth, quality of life, and other goals. Common goal setting problems like procrastination and lack of clarity are also addressed. The importance of writing goals down, setting deadlines, and having external support from a life or motivational coach is emphasized for successful goal attainment.
The document discusses the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. It outlines each of the 7 habits, including self-awareness, win-win agreements, understanding other perspectives through empathetic listening, synergistic problem solving, and renewal. For habit 1 of self-awareness, it emphasizes identifying personal values. Habit 2 of win-win agreements, encourages keeping focus on shared interests, not positions. Habit 5 of listening first requires understanding others before being understood. Habit 7 of renewal stresses the importance of sharpening one's skills through physical, spiritual, mental and social/emotional well-being.
The document provides tips for improving determination by setting clear and specific goals. It recommends completing a "best possible future self" exercise to envision success, then developing goals in different life areas and breaking them down into smaller, time-bound steps. Key tips include eliminating negative self-talk, learning from obstacles, using visualization techniques, creating a vision board, rewarding progress, and taking breaks to re-energize motivation.
This document provides an overview of improving oneself for a more successful life. It discusses defining happiness and success, setting goals, managing stress, and developing qualities like sincerity and humility. The chapters cover motivation, goal setting, differentiating between goals and values, stress management, and 20 qualities of successful people like focus, courtesy, and charity. The overall message is on developing a positive mindset and making changes to achieve one's full potential.
The document discusses how to make New Year's resolutions stick. It provides three key tactics:
1. Set a specific and inspiring goal. Connect emotionally to "why" you want to achieve the goal by visualizing yourself achieving it and how it will improve your life.
2. Set daily deliberate actions. Make small, consistent choices each day that move toward your goal rather than expecting to achieve it in one grand gesture. Successful people achieve goals through compounding many small, correct choices over time.
3. Apply the principle of integrity. Do what you say you will do by the time you say you will do it. Committing to your words, not thoughts/feelings, programs your subconscious mind
Getting and staying motivated requires developing the right mindset, momentum, and ways to stay on track. The key aspects of mindset include getting positive, confident, and hungry while accepting that setbacks will happen. Developing momentum involves focusing on small, positive goals; tracking progress; doing enjoyable tasks; taking breaks; and not fearing mistakes. Staying on track means keeping motivators and good company, only comparing yourself to your past self, continuing to learn, and helping others.
This document provides information about two free seminars on goal setting and personal change. The goal setting seminar will cover understanding goals, their importance, how to set attainable goals, and tips for continuing to achieve goals over time. The personal change seminar will discuss overcoming obstacles to change. Attendees will receive a donation to a flood relief appeal. The document includes examples of smart goals and tips for writing goals, as well as quotes about goals and change.
While setting goals can be effective, focusing too much on goals can lead to not achieving them. When people focus too intently on a goal, they become acutely aware of the gap between their current state and desired goal state. Noticing a lack of progress in closing this gap can lead to frustration, which works against achieving the goal. Goals are most effectively achieved when the focus is maintained on steady progress rather than being too preoccupied with the final goal state.
While goals can be effective for achievement, focusing too much on goals can paradoxically lead to not reaching them. When people try too hard to achieve a goal like falling asleep or losing weight, they often fail to do so. Too much focus on goals makes the gap between the current state and desired goal state very apparent. Noticing a lack of progress in closing this gap can lead to frustration, which works against actually achieving the goal.
This document provides guidance on setting and achieving personal and financial goals through creating a personal mission statement. It recommends breaking big goals into smaller, monthly goals and even smaller weekly goals to make them more manageable. Resources and affirmations should be listed to provide inspiration and motivation. The mission statement should be signed, dated and visible every day to stay accountable to the goals.
Now is the time to actually start building the kind of goals you want for yourself. In this lesson, we will lay out some simple instructions that you can follow to set good goals for your life.
Mel feller, mpa, mhr, asks about your passionMel Feller
Mel Feller, MPA, MHR, Asks About Your Passion.
Mel is the President/Founder of Mel Feller Seminars with Coaching for Success 360, Inc. and Mel Feller Coaching. Mel Feller maintains offices in Texas and in Utah.
The dictionary definition of passion is, “a strong or extravagant fondness, enthusiasm, or desire for anything.” Why do people start their own businesses? Is it for money, for freedom – from corporate structure or otherwise, power? What would you want to do it if you did not need to work? Some people might answer that they would want to lie on a beach or watch television, all day that might not pay you! However, is it possible to do something you would want to do whether or not you were making money – and actually make money? Of course – but if it were that easy, everyone would be doing it.
I have always suggested you should do what you love, but I had not followed my own advice sometimes. Why is it so important to pursue what is important to you? Here is what I have learned since deciding to focus on my passion:
Business success tips: How to achieve your full potential!MontySalt
Learn how to reach your full potential with these best practices! Many experts use these vaulable tips every day, including my favorite, "Know Thyself" www.montysalt.com
Change your mindset, expand your wealth page numbered-convertedAlmarieSteffiApilado1
You can achieve big things... if you think big. Change your self-talk. Make your goals big, but not unrealistic. Take daily action and make small steps outside your comfort zone. These are proven steps for thinking bigger so you can achieve more and create your dream reality.
How many incomplete goals do you currently have on your agenda? If you’re anything like the vast majority of us, then chances are that you have hundreds of projects that you started and never completed, countless goals that you told your friends but never saw through and all kinds of dreams that seem to be getting less and less likely to come to fruition.
And it’s for this reason, that you may find people roll their eyes when you tell them your ‘next big project’. When you start a new training program to lose weight and everyone – including you – knows that you’re likely to have lost interest by month two.
Or when you talk about the app you intend to make, the website, or the business project. Or when you talk about that dream trip to Japan…
This is the way of things for many of us. We work incredibly hard at things we don’t feel passionately about just to put food on the table but when it comes to fulfilling our dreams, we are remarkably ineffective.
It’s time to change all that and to start making those goals happen. But how can you turn it all around?
Your connection with reality may be the foundation of your purpose.
Not having decided purpose in life does not mean you do not have
one. It is not something you will just wake up to, one day. You have to
work hard to determine it. You may not have the option of choosing
it, as you have many choices. Many of the choices may not even be
genuine.
This document discusses how to stay focused on achieving your goals. It states that many people lose focus because they lack self-control or are too busy, but the real reason is often that they set a goal without a clear plan. It recommends setting a solid intention for your goal to stay on course. Some tips for staying focused include getting clear on what achieving the goal means, breaking large goals into smaller intentions, and having a plan to avoid losing focus due to confusion. Maintaining focus through clear intentions and planning is key to accomplishing your goals.
Personal development
Soft skills are skills that can’t easily be quantified but are still hugely important to personal success, while a hard skill is more technical and quantifiable. If you get a flat tire, for example, a soft skill you might use would be problem-solving, but the hard skill would be changing the tire.
Here are a few examples of soft skills to develop. These can help you in your friendships, romantic relationships, family life, workplace, and more. Improving these will also help improve your overall quality of life.
Your belief, that you cannot earn more than what you actually do will discourage you. You have set a financial limitation for yourself. If you are resolute that you will not be promoted then you are preparing your mind for failure in your career. The tips I share here will lead you to success. Beliefs and thoughts have created a vicious circle in your mind. These restrictions and limitations stop you from living the desired life and make you unsuccessful. This book will help you free yourself from your own restrictive thoughts and encourage you to think positively.
Introducing "The Millionaire Mindset" - Learn the Secrets of the Most Successful Millionaire and Achieve the Life You Desire.Inside this eBook,you will discover the topics about intro to the mindset,finding out the purpose of your life, do not restrict your mind with boundaries,decide on how much you want to earn,"attention" a powerful tool, self-introspection, good-well and benevolence and believe that it is easy to make money.
THE 7 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEfreesudhakar
This document summarizes Stephen Covey's book on the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. It discusses each of the 7 habits in detail:
1. Be Proactive - Take responsibility for your life and choices.
2. Begin with the End in Mind - Have a clear vision and purpose that guides your decisions.
3. Put First Things First - Spend your time on important goals and tasks rather than urgent but unimportant activities.
4. Think Win-Win - Look for solutions that benefit all parties involved.
5. Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood - Listen to others to understand their perspectives before trying to be understood.
6. Syn
Setting and achieving goals provides several benefits. Goals can be long-term, taking years to achieve, or short-term, taking months or less. The purpose of goals is to improve and bring satisfaction to aspects of your life. Committing to goals creates accountability which makes achieving them more direct. Adjusting goals as needed is important, as goals that are too easy or difficult will likely fail. Achieving goals leads to reduced stress, improved focus, better performance, and increased happiness.
The document provides an overview of an Electronic Vaccine Data System (EVDS) that has been developed to collect and provide patient, health establishment, vaccine, and safety information for monitoring vaccine uptake, coverage, and effectiveness studies. The EVDS will leverage existing systems and must support the collection of demographic information, doses received, health establishment, vaccine details, and adverse event reporting. It will allow for preregistration of health care workers and other recipients, with data prepopulated from existing databases. Vaccinators must be able to see dose details. The system will also link to laboratories to monitor effectiveness and include adverse event monitoring and reminder functions. Training objectives are listed to instruct vaccinators and administrators on using the system.
This document provides references for information related to heart health. It lists organizations like the Heart and Stroke Foundation South Africa and resources from Mayo Clinic on maintaining a healthy heart. The document expresses gratitude to readers at its conclusion.
Cholesterol screenings are available once per year at no additional cost for all beneficiaries aged 20 years and older as part of preventative benefits. Screenings can be accessed through onsite events scheduled by managers or via tariff codes at clinics and pharmacies.
Statins are the primary medication used to lower cholesterol and work by blocking cholesterol production in the liver. Other medications include bile acid sequestrants which bind bile acids in the digestive system, forcing the liver to use cholesterol to make more bile acids, and cholesterol absorption inhibitors which limit the absorption of dietary cholesterol. For people who cannot tolerate statins or who have very high cholesterol levels, newer injectable PCSK9 inhibitors can help lower LDL cholesterol. Additional medications may be prescribed for high triglycerides including fibrates to reduce triglyceride production and niacin, though it has risks. Omega-3 fatty acid supplements can also help lower triglycerides when prescribed by a doctor.
Normal cholesterol levels are: total cholesterol less than 5 mmol/L, LDL cholesterol less than 3 mmol/L, HDL cholesterol more than 1.2 mmol/L for women or 1.0 mmol/L for men, and fasting triglyceride levels less than 1.7 mmol/L. The document provides guidelines for normal cholesterol levels, including total cholesterol, LDL, HDL, and triglycerides.
People can reduce their cholesterol and maintain a healthy level through lifestyle changes like eating a heart-healthy diet, exercising regularly for 30 minutes most days, avoiding smoking and limiting alcohol, losing weight and managing stress. Making these lifestyle changes will decrease the risk of heart disease and heart attack.
A blood test called a lipid panel checks four measures of cholesterol and fats: total cholesterol, LDL cholesterol, HDL cholesterol, and triglycerides. For the most accurate results, patients should fast for 8 to 12 hours before the blood sample is taken, drinking only water during that time. The lipid panel screening provides key health information about cholesterol and fat levels in the blood.
High cholesterol can lead to a build-up of plaque in the arteries called atherosclerosis, which narrows and hardens arteries. This plaque can reduce blood flow and lead to complications like chest pain if the coronary arteries are affected, a heart attack if blood flow to the heart is completely blocked, or a stroke if a blood clot blocks blood flow to the brain.
Inactivity, obesity, and an unhealthy diet can cause high cholesterol and low HDL cholesterol as these are factors within an individual's control. Genetic makeup may contribute to high cholesterol beyond one's control by making cells less efficient at removing LDL cholesterol or causing the liver to overproduce cholesterol.
Eating saturated and trans fats found in animal products and processed foods, as well as foods high in cholesterol like red meat and full-fat dairy, can raise cholesterol levels. Lack of exercise and obesity increase risk of high cholesterol, while exercise boosts good cholesterol and improves cholesterol particles. Smoking damages blood vessels and may lower good cholesterol, putting one at risk. Age, diabetes, and high blood sugar also increase cholesterol risks as the body changes over time.
Inactivity, obesity, and an unhealthy diet can cause high cholesterol and low HDL cholesterol as these are factors within an individual's control. Genetic makeup may contribute to high cholesterol beyond one's control by making cells less efficient at removing LDL cholesterol or causing the liver to overproduce cholesterol.
Cholesterol is essential for the body's functions but too much can increase heart disease risk. There are two types - LDL or "bad" cholesterol which raises risk when too high, and HDL or "good" cholesterol which helps remove LDL. High cholesterol can be inherited but is often caused by unhealthy lifestyle choices like diet and exercise habits, making it preventable and treatable through diet, exercise, and sometimes medication.
Tuberculosis (TB) is an infectious disease that usually affects the lungs. It is caused by bacteria called Mycobacterium tuberculosis. The World Health Organization provides resources on TB prevention, testing, treatment and care that focus on a patient-centered approach integrating HIV and TB services.
Multi-drug resistant tuberculosis (MDR-TB) is a form of TB caused by bacteria that do not respond to the two most powerful first-line anti-TB drugs. It develops when TB medicines are used inappropriately or treatment is stopped prematurely. MDR-TB can be treated with second-line drugs over two years, but these are more expensive and toxic. Some cases become extensively drug-resistant TB which leaves few treatment options. All African countries except Seychelles have reported cases of MDR-TB, and 13 have reported extensively drug-resistant TB, but the diagnosis and treatment gap remains large.
34% of people living with HIV in the African Region were infected with TB in 2016. HIV greatly increases the risk of developing active TB disease, and the two diseases form a lethal combination that accelerates the other's progression. In 2016, 320,000 people in Africa died from HIV-associated TB. WHO recommends a 12 part approach including prevention and treatment actions to reduce deaths from the deadly combination of HIV and TB.
The document discusses two types of tests that can detect tuberculosis (TB) infection: the Mantoux tuberculin skin test and the TB blood test. The Mantoux test involves injecting tuberculin fluid into the arm and checking for a reaction 2-3 days later. The TB blood test measures the immune system's response to the TB germs.
1. The document discusses treating exposure and infection from tuberculosis (TB). If exposed to someone with latent TB infection, testing is not needed as the person cannot spread the infection. However, testing is recommended if exposed to someone with active TB disease or symptoms of TB.
2. A positive TB infection test only indicates exposure to the bacteria, not active TB disease, which requires further tests like a chest x-ray and sputum sample. Treatment for latent TB infection may be recommended for those at higher risk of developing active TB disease, such as people with HIV or recent exposure.
3. Active TB disease is treated with multiple drugs over 6-12 months, and it is important to take the full course as prescribed
Tuberculosis is spread through the air from one person to another. When someone with active TB disease of the lungs or throat coughs, sneezes, speaks, or sings, they expel infectious respiratory fluids into the air. If another person inhales these fluids, they may become infected with the TB bacteria.
TB germs are spread through the air when a person with active TB disease of the lungs or throat coughs, sneezes, speaks, or sings. These germs can remain in the air for several hours and be breathed in, causing a latent TB infection. People with latent TB have TB germs in their body but are not sick, while those with active TB disease are sick from multiplying germs destroying tissue and usually have symptoms. Treatment is prescribed to those with latent TB to prevent future disease and those with active TB disease to cure the illness and stop spread.
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3. Outline –
Session 5
Goals
Pitfalls of goals
Ineffectiveness
Less attention to the here
and now
Anxiety and worrying
Illusions that goal
achievement = happiness
Mindfulness and goals
Practice: Gratitude
Three minute breathing
space
Homework
4. Homework
Debrief
Did you practice meditating?
If so, what was your experience?
Did you pay attention to how you dealt with unpleasant and pleasant experiences?
What did you notice?
Were you able to accept difficult emotions and feelings?
If you were unable to accept difficult experiences, what made it difficult to do so?
Do you have additional questions or concerns?
6. Exercise: Goals and Expectations
Think of something important you have achieved. Preferably
something that you anticipated would increase your happiness
(for example finding a job, buying a house, or getting a
diploma)
7. Goals
Crucial part of our
society, culture and
workplaces
Many types of goals
Abstract and far away
– I want to be
successful
Concrete and relatively
close – I want to
complete my report by
tomorrow at 10h00
They all deal with the
future
Determine direction
When achieved, can
contribute to the belief
in our own abilities
(self efficacy)
8. Pitfalls of Goals
Although goals can be useful and motivating, an excessive focus on goals can have negative
consequences.
When too much attention is paid to goals an imbalance between goals (future) and the road
to the goal (now) occurs. We notice that our minds are constantly busy with goals: how do
we reach them? What will happen if we don’t achieve them? What do we need to do?
We then spend more time on the future than on the moment.
In this way goals can dominate our lives. In the following sections we discuss common pitfalls
of focusing too much on goals.
9. In a very simple, yet powerful way, Alan Watts explain perhaps one of
the biggest pitfalls of being overly concerned with goals: that we fail to
enjoy the present moment. By only focusing on the future, we miss the
opportunity to be present in this moment.
10. Ineffectiveness
We set goals to achieve something which we do not yet have or at least not
sufficiently.
For example, if we set the goal to lose weight, we try to get a lower body weight
than we currently have. The moment we set a goal a discrepancy or gap between
how things are now (“I weigh 80kg”) and how it is when we reach our goal (“I
weigh 60kg”) arises.
Thus, achieving a goal basically means to close the gap between the present and
the desired future. While focusing on goals can be very effective, too much focus
on goals can also lead us to not achieving the goal.
11. Alan Watts discusses how attention for the present moment can help to
transform the relationship we have with activities. By getting more focused
on the activity in the present moment, room for playfulness is created. In
this way, we can shift from a compulsory, goal focused mindset when doing
things, to a mindset that is characterised by autonomy and playfulness.
12. Ineffectiveness
Have you ever tried really hard to fall asleep? Often the harder you try to
achieve this goal, the longer you stay awake.
In a similar vein, it seems that people who aim to have fewer negative thoughts
about themselves report lower self-confidence and that people who want to
reach the goal of losing weight may actually gain weight.
In short, if we focus too much on achieving our goals this may lead to the
paradoxical result that we just don’t reach them.
But how does this happen? One reason is that too much focus on our goals not
only makes us aware of the goals, but also on the fact that we have not yet
reached them.
We are highly aware of the gap between the here and now (“I’m awake”) and
the desired goal state (“I want to sleep”). When we notice that we are not
making enough progress in closing the gap (you notice that you are still awake),
this can lead to frustration. This frustration works against us in achieving the
goal.
13. We are highly aware of the gap between the here and now (“I’m awake”) and
the desired goal state (“I want to sleep”). When we notice that we are not
making enough progress in closing the gap (you notice that you are still
awake), this can lead to frustration. This frustration works against us in
achieving the goal.
Ineffectiveness
14. Less attention to the here and now
Being too busy with goals you want to achieve narrows the focus of
your attention. You are focused on the future and you are less able
to see the value of the moment.
In this moment, many worthwhile things could happen that might
not directly have something to do with your goal, but may be
enriching yourself.
The phrase “time is money” is an extreme example. In this example,
the phrase says that time should not be wasted on things that do
not directly lead to the goal “make money”.
If what is happening right now is not directly relevant to your
specific goal, it is easy to judge that moment as pointless.
The conversation with your colleague about his weekend is not
really relevant for achieving your goal to write a report today. You
hardly see that this conversation probably leads to a better
relationship with your colleague and a better working atmosphere.
16. Anxiety and
worry
Goals are about the future. Because we can only imagine the future with our
thoughts, too much attention to goals can result in thinking too much.
In some cases these are relatively neutral thoughts like “what must still be
done?” or “when I have achieved it…”
But these thoughts can also be negative. For example, if we realize that we
might not achieve that goal in time or perhaps might not achieve it at all.
In such cases anxiety can easily occur. Anxiety, that we will not achieve our
goal, that we will fail, that it won’t turn out well, what the negative
consequences will be, etc. This often results in worrying about the future.
17. Dan Gilbert discusses the so-called impact bias. The impact bias is the tendency
for humans to overestimate the consequences of future events for their
happiness. As he puts it: “winning or losing an election, gaining or losing a
romantic partner, getting or not getting a promotion, passing or not passing a
college test, on and on, have far less impact, less intensity and much less
duration than people expect them to have.” A highly interesting talk that sheds
an interesting light on goal setting
18. The illusion that achieving goals increases
happiness
One of the most important questions one can ask when it comes to goals is:
why do we set goals?
The answer to this question is in most, if not all cases: because we believe
that achieving the goal will ultimately make us happy or at least happier.
But research has shown that in many cases this happiness is of short
duration. A study done by Brickman and colleagues (1978) for example
shows that people who recently won the lottery were not happier than a
control group.
Although achieving something can cause temporary happiness, this is rarely
of long duration. The moment we achieved a goal we are already busy with
the next goal.
We often do not stand still on our way to a goal and often spend too little
attention to the already achieved goal. This is partly because we quickly
adapt to new situations. In the literature this is called “hedonic adaption”
(Brickman and Campbell, 1971; Frederick and Loewenstein, 1999).
19. The illusion that achieving goals increases
happiness
When the new house is finally there, we are soon used to
more space and a dishwasher.
They are taken for granted. They were once a goal, but
now they belong to our standard reality.
By now we are already busy with new goals; a beautiful
garden, a rebuilding of the garage, etc.
The moment we finish our study, we are already working
on the next goal; finding a good job.
The ambition seems to never end. The momentary
gratification that results from achieving a goal seems to
be a source of motivation to want more or to want to be
somewhere else
20. Mindfulness and Goals
Mindfulness can help create
more balance between goals
on the one hand and the
way to the goal on the other
hand.
21. Conscious Goal Setting
Mindfulness does not mean you no longer set goals, or that you just live
in the moment. It does mean that you set goals consciously
Dynamic goals however, are not unique circumstances but rather a
process that requires constant attention, intention and commitment.
Examples are playing the piano, sports, leading a project, etc. Here, doing
in and of itself is also a goal.
Such goals lead rather to longer lasting happiness. This is especially true
when these goals increase your relatedness to other people.
Mindfulness teaches us to reflect on intention to be aware of why we
strive for a goal. Do you want to be a writer because you will be a famous
and important person (static goal: circumstance), or because you like
writing and because you can inspire people and yourself with writing
(dynamic goal)?
22. Effectiveness
Planning and goal setting are often required to effectively
reach our goals.
By consciously setting a goal, you can then choose to come
back to the here and now.
You use your mind to just jump into the future and then
return to the moment.
By reminding yourself of a goal and then returning to the moment, it is
more likely that you will achieve that goal. The attention can now be fully
focused on the act in that moment instead of on the thoughts about the
gap between now and the goal
23. Less Anxiety
By living less in your mind and by focusing on the here and now, the fear of not
achieving goals is reduced. If you notice that there is anxiety, let the anxiety be.
Accept that it is there and therefore ensure that you do not lose extra energy to the
need to control the anxiety or the achievement of an anxiety-free state.
Anxiety is always an illusion. It is a thought that something might happen.
Anxiety is never a thought about something that is happening now. Because if
something you are afraid of is happening right now, you usually know how to deal
with it.
From your anxious thoughts however you can ultimately never win. This is because
these thoughts are about something that is not yet certain and therefore can always
be countered with “yes, but what if”.
Even though you comforted yourself with ten arguments that the presentation you
have to give tomorrow is going to work, your anxiety is always able to come up with
something that might not succeed.
For instance, anxious thoughts might still convince you that the audience will be
bored by your presentation or that there will be questions you can’t answer. Your
anxiety can adopt any possible future, however likely it is to occur.
24. Less Anxiety
Anxiety controls your thoughts and therefore your actions.
Mindfulness teaches you to recognize that the anxiety is there,
without wanting to get rid of it. You can repeatedly choose to go
back to the moment and to step out of the train of anxious
thoughts.
By seeing that the anxiety is there and accepting it, you become an
observer of your anxiety (observing self).
You accept the feeling of anxiety that you experience right now (it
is there anyway) and you remain there with your attention.
Instead of spending energy to control the anxiety or the
achievement of an anxiety-free state, let the anxiety simply be. It’s
okay that you are experiencing anxiety.
See what happens when you remain there. If you experience
anxious thoughts, you can tell yourself that it’s just a thought; it’s
not the truth.
26. The Dalai-Lama discusses what can be a great cause of
suffering: greed.
Greed is in sharp contrast with the practice of gratitude, that
is at the heart of this session
27. Gratitude
Instead of always looking ahead at what is still to come, mindfulness teaches us to reflect on
what is. In this space for the moment, one can learn to apply so-called intentional activities
such as being grateful for what is or to focus on the positive. This allows a change in the
relationship to things and circumstances. The focus is not primarily directed on what still needs
to be done and what we are still missing, but on what there is here and now.
If more attention is paid to the path to the goal, it is also easier to see what this moment
has to offer. The moment contributes much more than just a building block for your
specific goal. By being less busy with the result but being more in the moment, it is easier
to be aware of the sub goals/self-development that you have achieved on the way to your
ultimate goal
28. Mindful attention for the present moment broadens the focus and restores the
balance between the goal and the way to the goal.
29. Practice: Gratitude
Goals put the emphasis on what is still to come. When we are very
busy with goals we can be very aware of what we do not have yet or
the person we have not yet become. It is then easy to be dissatisfied.
Dissatisfaction is the opposite of happiness, which is often defined as
life satisfaction.
Instead of being busy with everything that is not here yet, attention to
the positive aspects of the here and now can help us experience more
satisfaction and happiness. Gratitude is to reflect on what is, in a
positive manner, as things are in the here and now.
A simple, but very powerful exercise, before going to sleep, is to reflect
on the positive events of the day. What has been positive today? It
does not have to be a big event. Examples may include a short walk, a
good conversation and a nice meal. This can create more gratitude and
a more positive perspective on life (Emmons & McCullough, 2003).
30. Sonja Lyubomirsky explains how researchers
define happiness, and how different cultures
define it differently
32. Homework
Do the exercise “Three-minute Breathing Space” about three times
a day (see session 4).
Do the exercise “Gratitude” on daily basis.
See if you can become aware of the goals you strived for this week.
Are you more often busy thinking about your goal rather than what
you are doing to achieve the goal (the path to the goal)? Ask
yourself, is it advantageous to focus on my goals, or is it better for
me to focus on what I’m doing right now?
Try to do the breathing meditation as often as possible this week.
When you are doing the seated meditation, pay attention to how
pre-occupied with goals. Does the meditation have a purpose for
you? Notice how many thoughts you have about goals (things you
still need/want to do). Note if you have those thoughts and gently
return your attention to the here and now. Can you make the
meditation itself, the exercise itself the main goal?
33. Log Book
Exercise Times performed
Observations or perceptions
during the exercise
Seated Meditation
3-minute Breathing space
Gratitude
Editor's Notes
Invite participants to think of something important they have achieved. Preferably something that they anticipated would increase their happiness (for example finding a job, buying a house, or getting a diploma). Next, ask the following questions:
- How often do you think about the fact that you achieved this goal?
- To what extent do you still dwell on this accomplishment?
- To what extent have you taken this accomplishment for granted?
- To what extent did you work towards this goal because you believed that accomplishing it would boost your happiness?
- Do you currently have any goals that you are aiming to reach that hold a similar promise of happiness?
EXPLAINING THE GOAL OF THE EXERCISE
Concerning happiness, research has found that many people fall prey to what is known as impact bias, or the tendency for people to overestimate the initial impact and/or duration of an emotional event. Simply put, this means that many people believe that certain future events, like buying a new car or house, getting married, or passing an exam, will make them happier than it actually does. These events may enhance their happiness but the duration and intensity is often far less than expected. A possible reason for this is that we quickly adapt to new situations. In the literature, this is called “hedonic adaptation”. The goal of the exercise is to make participants aware of the impact bias and the implications for well-being that emerge from faulty affective forecasting. It can help make participants aware that it is important to enjoy the present moment, rather than (continuously) believing that happiness will be found in the future if certain goals are achieved.
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Mindfulness does not mean you no longer set goals, or that you just live in the moment. It does mean that you set goals consciously. Research has shown that the achievement of static goals (unique circumstances) such as getting a house, a car, a million Euros, does not make a lasting contribution to your happiness (Sheldon & Lyubomirsky, 2006). Often such goals are set to strengthen a certain identity (more about this in week 7).
Dynamic goals however, are not unique circumstances but rather a process that requires constant attention, intention and commitment. Examples are playing the piano, sports, leading a project, etc. Here, doing in and of itself is also a goal. Such goals lead rather to longer lasting happiness. This is especially true when these goals increase your relatedness to other people. Mindfulness teaches us to reflect on intention to be aware of why we strive for a goal. Do you want to be a writer because you will be a famous and important person (static goal: circumstance), or because you like writing and because you can inspire people and yourself with writing (dynamic goal)?