There is a God given rich meaning in the Engagement and Marriage as typified through the Jewish Ceremonies on the same. These ceremonies are a TYPE of what Jesus Christ has accomplished for His Disciples / Believers / Followers. Read through to understand the rich treasure that the Lord has in store for us. Realize that the Bible is not for making doctrinal statements, but for personal transformation. Nirmal Nathan, Trichy, Tamil Nadu, India

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3. HEBREW LANGUAGE – ‘VERBS’ ARE EMPHASIZED
HUSBANDS – ‘LOVE’ YOUR WIVES
‘GAVE’ HIMSELF UP FOR HER TO
‘MAKE’ HER HOLY
‘CLEANSE’ HER
‘WASH’ WITH WATER –
THRO’ THE BAPTISM, THRO’ WORD OF GOD
‘PRESENT’ HER TO HIMSELF RADIANT
WITHOUT STAIN / WRINKLE /BLEMISH,
HOLY AND BLEMISH-LESS

4. JESUS DOES ALL THESE TO
‘PRESENT’ HIS BRIDE TO HIMSELF
.
-THROUGH THE “WASHING” – WITH SCRIPTURES”
HENCE, THE PURPOSE OF THE WORD OF GOD IS:
 TO PREPARE THE BRIDE
 TO GET HER MARRIED TO JESUS CHRIST

7. FIRST WEDDING
FINAL WEDDING

8. 12 MONTHS GAP AFTER ARUSA TO CHECK THE
PURITY OF THE BRIDE TO BE.
+ 3 MONTHS GAP BEFORE NISSUIN / FINAL WEDDING

9. IS AS GOOD AS WEDDING.
ARUSA IS FINAL ONLY AFTER THE GROOM
WRITES THE ‘KETUBAH’ AGREEMENT
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10. •MARRIAGE IS THE IDEAL HUMAN STATE.
•JUDAISM VIEWS MARRIAGE AS HOLY,
AS A SANCTIFICATION OF LIFE.
•KIDDUSHIN, WHICH MEANS "SANCTIFICATION“
WHEN REFERRING TO MARRIAGE- KADOSH-
SANCTIFIED
•FUSION OF THE SOULS, A PARTNERSHIP FOR LIFE
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11. •FIRST GOD CREATES ADAM IN HIS OWN IMAGE AS
ONE COMPOSITE BEING.
•THEN HE TAKES OUT FROM ADAM
THE FEMININE ASPECTS.
•FORMS THE FEMALE (EVE) WITH THESE.
•GIVES HER BACK TO ADAM.
•NOW THEY ARE ‘ONE’ FLESH & SOUL.
•THEY COMPLETE EACH OTHER.
•THEY BOTH HAVE THE IMAGE OF GOD IN EACH.

12. •MARRIAGE RETURNS US TO ONENESS.
•MEN AND WOMEN BECOME COMPLETE
THROUGH MARRIAGE.

13. •RABBINIC TRADITION TEACHES THAT A MARRIAGE
WILL ONLY BE PEACEFUL
IF GOD IS A PART OF THE UNION.
•THE HEBREW WORD FOR MAN IS
EISH, WHICH IS SPELLED <ALEPH - YUD - SHIN>.
•THE HEBREW WORD FOR WOMAN IS
EISHA, WHICH IS SPELLED <ALEPH - SHIN- HAY>.
•THE LETTERS YODH & HAY COMBINE TO FORM
THE HEBREW NAME FOR GOD.

14. •REMOVING THE LETTERS YODH & HAY (GOD)
FROM THE WORDS EISH & EISHA,
LEAVES THE LETTERS <ALEPH & SHIN>.
•ALEPH AND SHIN SPELL ESH,
WHICH IS THE WORD FOR ‘FIRE’.
•THUS, JUDAISM TEACHES THAT IF GOD IS NOT
MADE A PART OF THE UNION BETWEEN
A MAN & A WOMAN,
THEN THE COUPLE WILL BE LEFT WITH FIRE.

15. ‘that which is written’
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21. THERE IS A TRADITION FOLLOWED BY SOME WHEREBY THE
BRIDE WALKS AROUND THE GROOM UNDER THE
BEFORE THE RABBI BEGINS THE WEDDING
CEREMONY.
THIS TRADITION HAS TIES TO JEREMIAH 31:22, WHERE THE
PROPHET SAYS THAT A WOMAN ENCOMPASSES AND
PROTECTS A MAN.

22. OTHER BRIDES CIRCLE SEVEN TIMES.
AS JOSHUA CIRCLED THE WALL OF JERICHO
SEVEN TIMES, AND THEN THE WALLS FELL
DOWN.
SO, TOO, AFTER THE BRIDE WALKS AROUND
THE GROOM SEVEN TIMES, THE WALLS
BETWEEN THEM WILL FALL AND THEIR SOULS
WILL BE UNITED. THEY SHALL BE ONE!

23. SOME BRIDES WILL CIRCLE THREE TIMES.
TRADITION FROM HOSEA 2:21-22 ,
: "I BETROTH YOU TO MYSELF FOREVER;
I BETROTH YOU TO MYSELF IN RIGHTEOUSNESS
AND IN JUSTICE, IN LOVE AND IN MERCY;
I BETROTH YOU TO MYSELF IN FAITHFULNESS..."

27. I. FATHER-
WRITES HIS FAMILY’S GENEALOGY DETAILS
FOR THE BRIDE TO LEARN ABOUT THE FAMILY
THE BRIDE COMES INTO

28. II. MOTHER WRITES ABOUT HER
 SON’S BIRTH,
 UPBRINGING,
 CHARACTER,
 TEMPERAMENT,
 LIKES AND DISLIKES.
FOR THE BRIDE TO LEARN ABOUT HOW TO WIN
OVER THE HUSBAND BY PLEASING HIM

29. III. BRIDE GROOM-
 WHAT HE FEELS ABOUT THE BRIDE
 WHAT GIFTS HE HAS IN STORE FOR HER
 HOW HE WOULD TREAT HER
 WHAT HE PROMISES HER

31. THE ‘BRIDE TO BE’ LEARNS FROM KETUBAH
•THAT HER GROOM HAS COMPLETED HIS
‘BAR-MITZWAH’ AT AGE 12 ‘PASSING OF AGE’
AND COMMITTING TO BE LED BY THE
TORAH – THE SCRIPTURES.
•HENCE, AS A MAN OF SCRIPTURES, HER HUSBAND
KNOWS THE MARITAL OBLIGATIONS, RIGHTS &
DUTIES. SHE CAN THEREFORE, TRUST HIM!

32. TECHNICALLY BRIDE IS UNDER HER HUSBAND
BRIDE – TREASURES KETUBAH,
READS, REREADS, REREADS..
REALIZES THAT
MY HUSBAND IS RICH,
HE IS A MAN OF SCRIPTURES-
ABLE TO DISCERN THE WILL OF GOD
ABLE TO HEAD & LEAD THE FAMILY

33. •REVEAL THE HEAVENLY FAMILY INTO WHICH
I AM GOING TO BE PART OF.
•FATHER GOD IS THE AWESOME CREATOR &
KING OF UNIVERSE.
•HOLY SPIRIT REVEALS WHO JESUS IS.
•JESUS REVEALS HOW MUCH HE LOVES ME &
WHAT TREASURES HE HAS READY FOR ME.

34. TECHNICALLY WE ARE UNDER ‘OUR’ HUSBAND
CHURCH– THE BRIDE TREASURES THE BIBLE,
READ, REREADS, REREADS..
MY HUSBAND IS KING OF KINGS – RICH, MAJESTIC..
MY HUSBAND IS HOLY & RIGHTEOUS
MY HUSBAND IS STRONG & WISE
MY HUSBAND IS FAITHFUL & TRUSTWORTHY
MY HUSBAND LOVES ME SO MUCH…..
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36. IT IS NOT OLD TESTAMENT.
IT IS THE WORD OF GOD THROUGH AND THROUGH.
WORD OF GOD SHOULD REVEAL MY BRIDEGROOM.
oBIBLE IS NOT A BOOK OF ‘LAW’ FOR LEGALISM.
oBIBLE IS NOT FOR DOCTRINE STANDS.
oBIBLE IS NOT A RELIGIOUS BOOK.
oBIBLE REVEALS WHAT PLEASES MY HUSBAND.
oBIBLE IS INSTRUCTIONS TO THE BRIDE TO BE.
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37. IF YOU ACCEPT MY OFFER THEN YOU
WILL BE MY TREASURED POSSESSION……

38. EXODUS 19:5 “IF YOU AGREE….
THEN THESE WILL BE YOURS:
•STATUS AS MY PRIZED POSSESSION
•OCCUPATION AS MY PRIESTLY NATION
•STANDING AS MY HOLY PEOPLE

39. ‘KNOW’ = ‘YADA’ - MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP &
IT DOES NOT MEAN MERE INTELLECTUAL
IDENTIFICATION.
‘SHEMA’ = ‘HEAR & OBEY’ – A COMPOUND WORD.
‘YADA’ – ROOT WORD FOR ‘JUDAH’ = WORSHIP.
KNOWING HIM MAKES ME WORSHIP HIM.

40. A BEAUTY PARLOUR.
PASTOR IS THE BEAUTICIAN.
WORD OF GOD IS THE BEAUTY AID – TRANSFORMS.
BRIDE SUBMITS FOR BEAUTIFICATION TREATMENT.
INNER BEAUTY – FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT.
BRIDE GLOWS DUE TO DIGNITY RECEIVED BY GRACE.
COMMUNICATES WITH HER BETROTHED.
NO MEDIATOR CAN COME IN –
NOT EVEN PASTOR OR ANY SAINT OF GOD.

42. GROOM SHOULD PREPARE
A HOUSE / BEDROOM – “RABBOTH”
IN HIS FATHER’S HOUSE

43. •JEWISH FAMILY GENERALLY LIVES IN ONE FLOOR.
•THE SON GETS A ROOM READY UPSTAIRS FOR
BRIDE NEEDS PRIVACY.
•WHEN THE FATHER SEES HIS SON KEEPING THE
PLACE READY, HE SAYS TO THE SON
“OKAY SON, GO GET YOUR BRIDE”.
•FATHER KEEPS THE DOWRY READY FOR THE
DAUGHTER IN LAW.

44. 1 “DO NOT BE WORRIED AND UPSET,” JESUS TOLD
THEM.
“BELIEVE IN GOD, AND BELIEVE ALSO IN ME.
2 THERE ARE MANY ROOMS IN MY FATHER’S HOUSE,
AND I AM GOING TO PREPARE A PLACE FOR
YOU. I WOULD NOT TELL YOU THIS IF IT WERE
NOT SO.
3. AND AFTER I GO AND PREPARE A PLACE FOR YOU,
I WILL COME BACK AD TAKE YOU TO MYSELF,
SO THAT YOU WILL BE WHERE I AM.

45. FATHER GOD LOOKS AT SON’S PREPAREDNESS.
PREPARES A BIG DOWRY IN HEAVEN –
INHERITANCE OF THE SAINTS AS CO-HEIRS
WITH CHRIST.
“GO BRING YOUR BRIDE NOW”
JESUS WILL RETURN TO US THEN
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46. HENCE, MARRIAGE IS HOLY.
MARRIAGE IS GOD’S INSTRUMENT FOR
HOLY RACE & RELATIONSHIP.

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50. AFTER NISSUIN – GROOMS PRAYER SHAWL IS
SPREAD ON THE BED TO PROVE HER PURITY.
DEUTRONOMY 22:16.
AFTERWEDDINGTHECOUPLESLEEPONTHETALLITH
FOREVIDENCEOFGIRLSPURITY

51. • WORRIED & FRIGHTENED WIFE & HER PARENTS
WAIT NERVOUSLY AS SHE HAS TO BE PROVED AS
VIRTUOUS.
• FEAR GRIPS FOR FAILURE MAY RESULT IN
HUMILIATION & EVEN DEATH BY STONING.
• MORNING HUSBAND HAS TO DISPLAY THE STAINED
TALLITH ON NEAR BY TREE & DECLARE ‘TETELESTAI’.
• IF HE DOES NOT FIND EVIDENCE, HE MAY
MERCIFULLY CUT HIMSELF AND USE THE BLOOD TO
STAIN THE TALLITH, TO SAVE HIS WIFE.

52. • HUSBAND DISPLAYS &THENSHOUTS TETELESTAI
“IT IS OVER-SHE IS PURE”
• WIFE & FAMILY REJOICE THAT SHE HAS BEEN
ACCEPTED AS PURE BY HER HUSBAND.
• WIFE THEN GLOWS WITH DIGNITY RECEIVED.

53. • WEWEREIDOLATORS –ADULTERERS AFTEROTHER
GODS,SINNERS& SELFRIGHTEOUS.
• REPENTANT & TRUSTING BELIEVERS
TRANSFORMED BY HOLY SPIRIT.
• BRIDE ACCEPTED BY JESUS CHRIST AS A GIFT
FROM FATHER GOD.
• JESUS SPILLED ‘HIS’ BLOOD & DECLARES
TRUSTING CHURCH AS RIGHTEOUS -
‘TETELESTAI !”

54. •HE IS THE ONE WHO ENGAGED ME.
•HE IS THE ONE WHO TRANSFORMS ME.
•HE IS THE ONE WHO MAKES ME SUITABLE FOR
HIM.
•HE SINGS OVER ME & QUIETS ME WITH HIS
LOVE (ZEPHANIAH 3:17).
•SINCE HE IS THE ONE WHO HAS GIVEN HIS 100%
TO ME, HOW CAN I OFFER ANYTHING LESS?

55. IT IS ALL IN KETUBAH
I AM HIS – HE IN ME & I IN HIM – ‘IN CHRIST’
FACE TO FACE RELATIONSHIP.
HENCE, BRIDE CALLS OUT
“MARANATHA - COME LORD SOON”
I WANT TO BE WITH YOU FOREVER
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