Intro. to the Equally Yoked Couple.

1. ““Help Meets”Help Meets”
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2. “Hook Up”
Cultural/Casual
1. A specific time when two people meet to join
in – together- for a mutual event, or,
2. Two individuals from diverse backgrounds
form a cheap/easy intimate relationship, or...
3. An epiphany moment-a time- when a certain
couple are shaking hands and discover that
they are ‘equallyoked.’
- Slang Dictionary/Urban Words- Slang Dictionary/Urban Words
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3. Morality
• ..is a valuable ‘personal’ code, based on..
• …a set of spiritual values, that…
• ....affects attitudes, motives, and there
for..
• ..effecting an individual’s trademan’s skills,
appropriateness of behavioral patterns,
and the upholding ethical and legal societal
standards.
- Word Meanings / Philosophy- Word Meanings / Philosophy
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4. “Positive Regard”
• Also, “unconditional positive regard”
• Means: …a complete acceptance, love,
favor towards of an individual – especially
those who are ‘equallyoked’, also...
• …parents who devotedly and deliberately
indoctrinate their children with a ‘clear’
sense of ‘civil identity’ in a multicultural
society with respect for the child’s future.
- Word Meanings / Psychology- Word Meanings / Psychology
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5. “Soul-mates”
• A couple who experience their very first
sexual encounter together and their baby is born
out of that union are “Soul-mates”1
for life and,..
• ..a couple who bond with each other, falls
deeply in love and is the happiest they
have ever been with each other are “Soul-
mates”2
and,…
• ..a couple who are ‘married’ and truly
“equallyoked” are “Soul-mates.”, i.e., of the
‘same’ or ‘very similar’ “civil-identities.” 3
- Marriage, Family, & Child Psychology- Marriage, Family, & Child Psychology
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6. “Intimacy”
• Latin: Intimus, “innermost”
• The process of “..stating or making known”
one’s innermost thoughts, moral values, and
feelings.
• …sharing something from the inside…
• Genuine intimacy in human relationships
requires dialogue, honesty/transparency,
vulnerability, and mutual reciprocity.
- Dictionary / Philosophy- Dictionary / Philosophy
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7. “Equallyoked”
• Equally Yoked, (is pronounced, Eek quel ee yoak‘d) and is
when a couple-who believe in, bonds with, and marries
one other purposefully of the same (or nearly the same)
‘Civil identity’* thus are multi-cultural society,
‘equallyoked’1
.
• * ‘Civil identity’ is a Social Psychology term -describing
a collective of features concerning an individual’s
present ethnicity, political party membership, race and
color, religious membership, disability/handicap, age
group/ generation, sexual orientation and marital
status.2
- Intro. to Social Psychology
- Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology
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8. “Civil Identity”
• Ethnicity: Scandinavian-American
• Political Party: Registered Green Party
• Race: Anglo Color: Light complexion
• Religion: Fundamental Bible Christian
• Disability: None Known
• Gender: Female Sexual Orientation: Heterosexual
• Marital Status: Single/No previous marriages
Couples who share: the ‘same’ (or very similar) ‘civil
identity’, identify with each other, share beliefs,
bond with one another, commit to marriage - living in a
multicultural society are considered to be
‘equallyoked’.1
- Intro. to Social Psychology- Intro. to Social Psychology
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9. “Equallyoked”
• The term 'Equallyoked' (also, equally yoked) …
an adverb:
• “Equally” - means “alike” 1
, in a “balanced” manner, “the
same” or to “the same” degree of, etc.
an verb:
• “Yoked” - means (Latin; jungere ‘to join‘) 2
, something
fastened around the neck to joined together, burdened with.
in history:
• Evolved from synonyms, with similar meanings, such as:
Equitably, Fairly, Justly3
Sentence: “They were an ‘equally yoked’ couple from
families of just ordinary means.”
- Word Meanings - Etymology- Word Meanings - Etymology
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10. “Life Partner”
• A “Life Partner” refers to a lifetime,
romantic and very close “mate”. A couple who are
truly ‘life partners’ are ‘equallyoked’.1
• It is true that ‘life partners’ usually
develop strong platonic relationships as a
mutual serious long term goal together.2
• ‘Life partners’ may based their relationship
on moral/or immoral grounds whether
married/ monogamously or can be
individuals such as divorcees/celibate.3
- Intro. to Social Psychology- Intro. to Social Psychology
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11. Sharing of…
• Vision & Mission in
life.1
• Activities of Daily
Living & Routine.2
• Reflection of
meaning of life &
Devotion to duty.3
• God, Religious Beliefs
& Spiritual Values.4
• Family life &
Friendships.5
• Good Health &
Preferred
Enjoyments.6
- Biblical, Moral, & Doctrinal Studies- Biblical, Moral, & Doctrinal Studies
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12. ..a Social Phenomena
– A couple (usually a heterosexual dyadic)
who are of very similar or the same ‘Civil
identity’ 1
– Any couples who are bonded together and
who are of the ‘same’ or ‘very similar’ Civil
identities…2
– A marital couple who marries-with their
backgrounds related to their ‘Civil
identities.’ 3
- Sociology 101:Social Phenomenology- Sociology 101:Social Phenomenology
- Intro. to Marriage, Family, & Child Psychology- Intro. to Marriage, Family, & Child Psychology
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13. “Equallyoked”
• The term 'Equallyoked' (also, equally yoked)
probable came about from the Bible – wherein
Jews marrying Jews, Muslims marrying
Muslims, Christians marrying Christians, etc,
etc, etc.1
• It is a phenomena that exists in all
multicultural societies-peoples of the same de facto
‘Civil identity' marrying one another for reasons of
self-esteem, religious beliefs, and preserving the
integrity of their family identity-for abiding in social
mores (contributing to) community health.2
-- Dictionary/PhilosophyDictionary/Philosophy
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- Sociology 101- Sociology 101
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14. Dyadic Psychology
• Equallyokedtarians are of interest to social
psychologists because they represent dyadic groups
of the same ‘Civil identity.’1
• Couples who primarily choose to bond and marry
together ‘because’ they are the ‘same’ or ‘very
similar’ ‘Civil identities’, among other reasons, may
contribute to marital longevity-staying together for
a lifetime as * evidenced.2
• The measured ‘self esteem’ of individuals of a marital
couple who marry with backgrounds related to their
own ‘Civil identities’ are worthy of marital
satisfaction studies as well.3
- Marriage, Family, & Child Psychology- Marriage, Family, & Child Psychology
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15. “Boundaries”
• I will not wait for
anyone.1
• I will halt unequal
relationships.2
• I will not idealize
others.3
• I will conduct my
life by inspired
truth.4
• I will assert
against any
disrespect.5
• I will abide in
social ethics and
laws. 6
-- Biblical, Moral, & Doctrinal StudiesBiblical, Moral, & Doctrinal Studies
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16. Social Perspectives
“Equallyokedtarians” are those people-who areare
‘equallyoked’ yet having varying points of
views* about marriage:1
* “Liberals”- a couple marrying one another while
sharing in vague beliefs, i.e., explained as the
same ‘spirit’ or attitude about some issue.
* “Moderates”- marrying one another r/t ‘very
similar’ civil identities-close enough for them.
* “Conservatives”- marriage between two people
who share the same or fairly ‘equal’ ‘Civil identities’. 2
- Intro. to Social Psychology
- Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology- Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology
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17. “Coupling up”….
• “Nonequallyoked”
– Couples who do recognize equallyokedtarianism as a
social mores and yet for their own ulterior motives
still choose to violate social mores as an rash option.1
• “Unequallyoked”
– Couples who are naïve, thus inadvertently
demonstrate opposition to equallyokedtarianism-as a
social mores.2
• “Anti-equallyoked”
– Couples who are a bit mentally/emotionally disturbed
and are deliberately active against proper
socialization, contrary to equallyokedtarianism and
social mores,3
- Intro. to Social Psychology- Intro. to Social Psychology
……in a ‘hook up’ culturein a ‘hook up’ culture
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18. Why “Equallyoked”?
• Motives - a couple who are ‘equallyoked’ may
do so for a variety of reasons-some of which
include:
– Beliefs about life, self-image, truth and God, death, etc.
– Bonding for long term love, romance, and sex.
– Marriage, family/children, and financial goals.1
• Self esteem – individuals with a clear sense of self-
marrying someone of a ‘like’ civil identity.2
• Family identity – to maintain the integrity and the
longevity of the extended family identity.3
• Social mores – a preserved cultural standard in a
multicultural society for the sake of community health.4
-- Marriage, Family, & Child PsychologyMarriage, Family, & Child Psychology

19. • Pronunciation: “Eek quel ee yoak‘d tar ee ins” 1
.
• Definition: - are any individuals who by choice, i.e.,
purposefully choose to bond with and marry another
of the same (or very nearly the same) ‘Civil
identity’*, within any culture are called,
‘Equallyokedtarians’ – i.e., couples ‘equallyoked’.2
• *Recall: a ‘Civil identity’ - describes a collective of
features about a person’s present: ethnicity, political
party membership, race and color, religious membership,
disability/ handicap, age group/ generation, proper sexual
orientation, and marital status.3
-- Intro. to Social PsychologyIntro. to Social Psychology
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“Equallyokedtarians”
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20. “Social Mores”
The term ‘Social Mores‘* refers to….
• “Social” meaning - to associate in a social way,
i.e., “folkways”, socializing, socialization 1
,
• “Mores” - concerns that of moral codes,
mental health values, standards, spiritual
ideologies 2
.
• *Also, positive customs, proper conduct/good
etiquette, health behaviours/norms, healthy
lifestyle. 3
• Use in a Sentence: “Their family abided in good
social mores that reflected their sense of
integrity.” 4
- Word Meanings - Etymology- Word Meanings - Etymology
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plural nounplural noun
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21. An “Unprefered”–Yoked…
Any variety of Couples:
• One very fat weight – one very skinny weight
• One very poor income – one very rich income
• One is very ‘sociable’ – one is very ‘homebody’
• One talks very fast – one talks very slow
• One very tall in height – one very short in height
• One highly educated – one lowly educated
• One ill mannered – one well mannered1
- The True Phenomenology of
“Opposites Attract”

22. “Love” is a…
• ..a conscious, meaningful, and focused
attention towards a ‘special’ mate1
and,
• ..a person toward whom love is shared; a
dearly beloved; an ‘equally yoked help
meet’, an ‘heterosexual’ love mate2
and,
• ..a ‘feeling’ of warm personal attachment
or deep affection for, as for a
sweetheart, or as for a spouse.3
- Dictionary / Philosophy- Dictionary / Philosophy
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23. “Unequally Yoked”
• Out of place
priorities.
• Misused gifts.
• Unconfessed sin.
• An unforgiving spirit.
• A wrong association.
• Killing God for
secularistic pleasure.1
- Biblical, Moral, & Doctrinal Studies
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24. …an “Art and Science”
• Couples-who are bonded together and who are
“equallyoked help meets”- amongst a class are worthy
of (scientific) study-not unlike those who aren’t.1
• …the study of theoretical equallyokedtarianism as an
‘social science’ and as a (humanities) ‘art’ - as an
inquiry into wholesomeness.” 2
• A marital couple who becomes engaged-with
(freedom of) intension of preserving the integrity of
their family identity related to their backgrounds
and related to their ‘civil identities.3
-The Humanities

25. “Equally-yoked”
Principles
• On the Same Page: Love Mapping.
• Nurturing: fondness and admiration.
• Face-to-face: in total sincerity.
• Sharing: in each other’s personal power.
• Co-solving: solvable-problems and
overcoming any gridlock/barriers.
• Creating: communication with shared
meanings as valuable moments.
-- Marriage & Family TherapyMarriage & Family Therapy
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26. P R E P A R E
P = Plan for an ‘equally yoked’ coupleship.
R = Research your family’s background and
their sociocultural related groups.
E = Explain your plan to your family and
friends.
P = Prioritize your plan over family and all
else.
A = Ask others for assistance with your plan.
R = Relax when you are pursuing your plan.
E = Execute your plan for an equally yoked
courtship with a sense of freedom.
- Marriage, Family, & Child Psychology- Marriage, Family, & Child Psychology
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27. It’s About “Choice”It’s About “Choice”
It’s About Freedom of Choice
…About taking Charge of
Choosing a Proper
Coupleship1,2
….
…Understanding Better
the Feelings of ‘Why’ to
Choose to Be “Equallyoked”3
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