1) The document discusses the importance of trust in relationships. It states that trust is having clarity that the other person wants to make you happy and prosperous.
2) It explores how to differentiate between intention and competence in relationships. Having trust in the other's intention means understanding that mistakes are due to lack of competence, not lack of caring.
3) With trust in intentions, one can help the other improve their competence without anger. Lacking this trust can lead to opposition, irritation and preventing mutual growth.
This document discusses the concept of trust as the foundational value in relationships. It defines trust as having the clarity that the other wants to make you happy and prosperous.
The document outlines 9 feelings that can exist in relationships: trust, respect, affection, care, guidance, reverence, glory, gratitude, and love. It argues that trust is the foundational feeling because it means being assured of the other's intention to make you happy.
It then discusses how to evaluate trust between individuals by looking at natural acceptance of intentions and competence. It argues that problems arise when people doubt others' intentions rather than seeing a lack of competence. Overall, the document emphasizes that trust based on understanding others' intentions is key to
The document discusses harmony in relationships and families. It explains that relationships involve feelings between individuals, and that feelings like trust, respect, affection, care, guidance, reverence, glory, gratitude and love are natural to relationships when understood correctly. It argues that understanding intentions and evaluating others based on shared humanity, rather than differences, helps develop these feelings and create harmonious relationships and families. The ultimate aim is expanding harmonious relationships to create an undivided, harmonious society and world family.
Harmony in the family is achieved through developing the right feelings in relationships, such as trust, respect, affection, care, guidance, reverence, glory, gratitude and love. These feelings lead to mutual happiness when one feels them within themselves and expresses them to others. The document discusses how to establish trust through understanding that all people want happiness and have the same natural acceptance and potential. It emphasizes evaluating others based on their intentions and abilities, not other attributes. Developing these right feelings results in harmony first in the family and ultimately in a harmonious world family or undivided society.
The document discusses harmony in the family and relationship. It states that family is the basic unit of human organization and provides a base for living in relationship and harmony. It explores the key aspects of relationship as being between two selves, with feelings and values like trust, respect, care etc. It emphasizes the importance of understanding relationship and ensuring these feelings within ourselves in order to fulfill relationships and achieve mutual happiness. It distinguishes between intention and competence in relationships and highlights how seeing them distinctly helps establish trust and respect between individuals.
The document discusses harmony in the family and relationships. It explains that family is the basic unit of human organization and provides a base for living in relationship and harmony. It identifies nine feelings (values) that are important for relationships: trust, respect, affection, care, guidance, reverence, glory, gratitude, and love. It states that understanding these feelings and ensuring they are present within ourselves and shared with others can lead to mutual fulfillment and happiness in relationships and harmony in the family.
This document discusses the importance of trust in relationships. It defines trust as having clarity that the other person wants to make you happy and prosperous. It states that trust is the foundation of relationships. When there is trust in a relationship, both people feel related to each other and can make programs to mutually improve their competence. But when there is doubt about the other's intentions, people tend to evaluate themselves based on intentions but others based on competence, leading to opposition, irritation and anger that harms the relationship. Maintaining trust and intention is key to harmony within families and between all people.
This document discusses the concept of trust as the foundational value in relationships. It defines trust as having the clarity that the other wants to make you happy and prosperous.
The document outlines 9 feelings that can exist in relationships: trust, respect, affection, care, guidance, reverence, glory, gratitude, and love. It argues that trust is the foundational feeling because it means being assured of the other's intention to make you happy.
It then discusses how to evaluate trust between individuals by looking at natural acceptance of intentions and competence. It argues that problems arise when people doubt others' intentions rather than seeing a lack of competence. Overall, the document emphasizes that trust based on understanding others' intentions is key to
The document discusses harmony in relationships and families. It explains that relationships involve feelings between individuals, and that feelings like trust, respect, affection, care, guidance, reverence, glory, gratitude and love are natural to relationships when understood correctly. It argues that understanding intentions and evaluating others based on shared humanity, rather than differences, helps develop these feelings and create harmonious relationships and families. The ultimate aim is expanding harmonious relationships to create an undivided, harmonious society and world family.
Harmony in the family is achieved through developing the right feelings in relationships, such as trust, respect, affection, care, guidance, reverence, glory, gratitude and love. These feelings lead to mutual happiness when one feels them within themselves and expresses them to others. The document discusses how to establish trust through understanding that all people want happiness and have the same natural acceptance and potential. It emphasizes evaluating others based on their intentions and abilities, not other attributes. Developing these right feelings results in harmony first in the family and ultimately in a harmonious world family or undivided society.
The document discusses harmony in the family and relationship. It states that family is the basic unit of human organization and provides a base for living in relationship and harmony. It explores the key aspects of relationship as being between two selves, with feelings and values like trust, respect, care etc. It emphasizes the importance of understanding relationship and ensuring these feelings within ourselves in order to fulfill relationships and achieve mutual happiness. It distinguishes between intention and competence in relationships and highlights how seeing them distinctly helps establish trust and respect between individuals.
The document discusses harmony in the family and relationships. It explains that family is the basic unit of human organization and provides a base for living in relationship and harmony. It identifies nine feelings (values) that are important for relationships: trust, respect, affection, care, guidance, reverence, glory, gratitude, and love. It states that understanding these feelings and ensuring they are present within ourselves and shared with others can lead to mutual fulfillment and happiness in relationships and harmony in the family.
This document discusses the importance of trust in relationships. It defines trust as having clarity that the other person wants to make you happy and prosperous. It states that trust is the foundation of relationships. When there is trust in a relationship, both people feel related to each other and can make programs to mutually improve their competence. But when there is doubt about the other's intentions, people tend to evaluate themselves based on intentions but others based on competence, leading to opposition, irritation and anger that harms the relationship. Maintaining trust and intention is key to harmony within families and between all people.
The document discusses creating harmony in relationships through trust and respect. It states that trust is having no doubt that each person wants themselves and others to be happy and prosperous. Respect means evaluating others based on their inherent self, not external attributes. When there is trust and respect between individuals, it leads to mutual happiness and healthy relationships at all levels from family to society.
The document discusses the concept of respect, which it defines as "right evaluation". It states that over, under or otherwise evaluating someone is a form of disrespect. The document advocates evaluating others based on their self - their inherent purpose, program and potential - rather than their body or physical attributes. This recognizes our shared humanity and that we are fundamentally similar. It also notes we may differ in our level of understanding, and discusses how to interact respectfully with those of varying understanding levels through fulfilling relationships. Self-reflection questions are provided to help determine if one's evaluations of self and others are "right" or constitute disrespect.
Harmony in the Family- Understanding the Relationship.pptxRaviKiranVarma4
This document discusses the importance of understanding relationships and the feelings that form the basis of healthy relationships. It notes that unhappiness in families is often due to a lack of fulfillment in relationships rather than a lack of physical resources. Relationships are between two selves (I1 and I2) and involve definite feelings like trust, respect, affection, care, guidance, reverence, glory, gratitude and love. Understanding these feelings, having them for oneself and expressing them to others can lead to mutual happiness. The document provides exercises to help readers evaluate their own relationships and feelings of trust.
Uhv 3 d d2 s3 und relationship - respectHarshit Sinha
The document discusses the concept of respect as it relates to evaluating oneself and others. It argues that respect comes from right evaluation, while over, under or otherwise evaluation constitutes disrespect. Right evaluation means evaluating oneself and others based on their inherent self or soul, seeing beyond surface differences and viewing others as similar to oneself. This leads to recognizing complementarity between people. Wrong evaluation stems from differentiation and comparison based on superficial attributes like body, age or wealth. It breeds disharmony. For right evaluation, one should see if the other has more or less self-realization and fulfill the relationship accordingly.
A Course in Empathy, Finding Wisdom: Verbalizing Your Inner Dialogue, Creative Solution Development, Assessment Self-Healing Life Story, Counseling Questionnaire, Your Spirituality Score, Counseling for Depression, Identity Awareness, and much more.
Here are some responses to the questions raised:
1. If only one person understands relationship while the other does not, communication and patience are key. Continue expressing the 9 feelings respectfully and also explain your understanding to help the other learn. With time and effort, understanding can grow.
2. Anger and negative feelings also need to be understood, not suppressed. They arise due to unfulfilled positive feelings and can be transformed by fulfilling the underlying positive needs.
3. Feelings refer to the more fundamental experience of one self towards another. Emotions are expressions of feelings through the body.
4. Living independently may avoid relationship problems temporarily but does not fulfill the deep human need for connection. With understanding, relationship
UHV II Lecture 13 - Harmony in the Family v4.pptRohitSen63
The document summarizes key points from Lecture 13 of Module 3 on harmony in the family. It discusses that (1) the family is the basic unit of human interaction and the major issue is fulfilling relationships, (2) relationships are between two selves (individuals) and involve definite feelings between them, and (3) when these 9 identified feelings like trust, respect and love are understood, felt, expressed and evaluated, it leads to mutual happiness in relationships and harmony in the family. The lecture explores each of these aspects and establishes the importance of understanding feelings over physical or monetary factors for fulfilling relationships. It also addresses common questions and prompts self-reflection.
Mental distress may be at least partly remedied by verbalizing, understanding, and perhaps modifying the internal dialogue. A simple core exercise described here can utilize the strengths of the individual to transform unconscious self-defeating thoughts. The content of this volume addresses depression, communication, listening, empathy, and many other mental aspects of our lives as human beings.
1. The document discusses the concept of respect as it relates to evaluating oneself and others. It states that respect means right evaluation, while over, under, or otherwise evaluation constitutes disrespect.
2. Right evaluation is defined as evaluating based on the self - seeing that oneself and others have the same purpose, program, and potential. The differences between people are in their level of understanding.
3. Fulfilling relationships through right evaluation leads to harmony. If the other has more understanding, one should learn from them. If one has more understanding, one should live responsibly and facilitate understanding in the other.
The document discusses the importance of harmony in human relationships and proposes ways to verify harmony in the family. It explains that family is the basic unit of interaction and relationships are formed beginning with immediate family and extending to the wider community. It then presents nine key values - trust, respect, affection, care, guidance, reverence, glory, gratitude, and love - that are important for maintaining harmonious relationships. The document differentiates between intention and competence in relationships and discusses how distinguishing the two is important for developing trust. It also highlights problems that arise from differentiation and lack of respect in relationships based on attributes like gender, race, wealth, beliefs etc.
The document describes the cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) concept of the cognitive triangle, which explains the interconnected relationship between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. It provides an example of how negative thoughts about a presentation can lead to increased anxiety and poor performance during the presentation, reinforcing the initial negative thoughts. The cycle of negative thoughts influencing negative feelings and behaviors that then influence more negative thoughts can repeat continuously without intervention. CBT aims to break this cycle by challenging distorted thoughts and developing more balanced perspectives.
This document discusses the importance of trust in relationships and harmony in the family. It proposes that trust on the intention of others, based on the understanding that all human beings naturally want to be happy, is the foundation of relationships. Such trust can be unconditional and continuous, whereas trust on competence depends on events and may change. Self-reflection questions are provided to examine one's own level of trust on the intentions of family and friends. Developing trust on others' intentions based on a shared natural acceptance, rather than doubts based on events, is important for addressing problems in relationships.
Emotional intelligence by Dr. BalasubramanianAmalaDaisy2
This document discusses emotional intelligence and its importance for managers. It defines emotional intelligence as the ability to successfully deal with people, manage oneself and one's emotions, motivate others, and understand one's own and others' feelings. It notes that emotional intelligence is important for relationship management, motivation, retention, self-management, and managing others. It also outlines components of emotional intelligence like self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills.
This document discusses effective listening and behavioral adjustments for positive outcomes. It defines listening as more than just hearing and outlines the listening process which includes receiving a message, understanding it, evaluating it, and responding. There are different types of listening described such as passive, marginal, projective, sensitive/empathetic, and active listening. Good listening provides benefits like gaining a wider perspective, increased competence and self-confidence. Behavioral adjustments through assertive communication can help manage conflicts and build better relationships for positive results.
This document provides an overview of a course on developing empathy through cognitive therapy approaches and exercises. The course aims to teach empathy so that it becomes a way of relating to others. It includes 10 practical exercises to enable the development of empathy and aid self and community transformation. Upon completing assignments for each chapter, students can earn a Certificate of Empathy Development from The College of Mental Health Counseling. The exercises focus on building emotion vocabulary, distinguishing emotions from thoughts, and making empathetic statements. Developing empathy requires awareness of one's own emotions in order to recognize and connect with the emotions of others.
This document describes exercises from a course on developing empathy. It includes four empathy training exercises: 1) building an emotion vocabulary, 2) distinguishing emotions and thoughts, 3) making sentences to communicate empathy, and 4) role reversal to experience another person's perspective. The goal is to help people understand and share the emotions of others through practicing empathy skills.
This document describes exercises to help people learn and practice empathy. It includes 10 exercises that provide scenarios for participants to practice distinguishing emotions from thoughts, writing empathetic responses, role playing as other people, and imagining the emotions of historical figures. The goal is to help people understand empathy, build their emotion vocabulary, and learn to sincerely reflect the feelings of others.
6 Ways to Improve Emotional Intelligence According to ScienceShanna Sloan
Looking for ways to improve emotional intelligence?
Raising your emotional intelligence is something that can be done at any stage in life, and it’s a skill that can benefit you for the rest of your days.
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The document discusses creating harmony in relationships through trust and respect. It states that trust is having no doubt that each person wants themselves and others to be happy and prosperous. Respect means evaluating others based on their inherent self, not external attributes. When there is trust and respect between individuals, it leads to mutual happiness and healthy relationships at all levels from family to society.
The document discusses the concept of respect, which it defines as "right evaluation". It states that over, under or otherwise evaluating someone is a form of disrespect. The document advocates evaluating others based on their self - their inherent purpose, program and potential - rather than their body or physical attributes. This recognizes our shared humanity and that we are fundamentally similar. It also notes we may differ in our level of understanding, and discusses how to interact respectfully with those of varying understanding levels through fulfilling relationships. Self-reflection questions are provided to help determine if one's evaluations of self and others are "right" or constitute disrespect.
Harmony in the Family- Understanding the Relationship.pptxRaviKiranVarma4
This document discusses the importance of understanding relationships and the feelings that form the basis of healthy relationships. It notes that unhappiness in families is often due to a lack of fulfillment in relationships rather than a lack of physical resources. Relationships are between two selves (I1 and I2) and involve definite feelings like trust, respect, affection, care, guidance, reverence, glory, gratitude and love. Understanding these feelings, having them for oneself and expressing them to others can lead to mutual happiness. The document provides exercises to help readers evaluate their own relationships and feelings of trust.
Uhv 3 d d2 s3 und relationship - respectHarshit Sinha
The document discusses the concept of respect as it relates to evaluating oneself and others. It argues that respect comes from right evaluation, while over, under or otherwise evaluation constitutes disrespect. Right evaluation means evaluating oneself and others based on their inherent self or soul, seeing beyond surface differences and viewing others as similar to oneself. This leads to recognizing complementarity between people. Wrong evaluation stems from differentiation and comparison based on superficial attributes like body, age or wealth. It breeds disharmony. For right evaluation, one should see if the other has more or less self-realization and fulfill the relationship accordingly.
A Course in Empathy, Finding Wisdom: Verbalizing Your Inner Dialogue, Creative Solution Development, Assessment Self-Healing Life Story, Counseling Questionnaire, Your Spirituality Score, Counseling for Depression, Identity Awareness, and much more.
Here are some responses to the questions raised:
1. If only one person understands relationship while the other does not, communication and patience are key. Continue expressing the 9 feelings respectfully and also explain your understanding to help the other learn. With time and effort, understanding can grow.
2. Anger and negative feelings also need to be understood, not suppressed. They arise due to unfulfilled positive feelings and can be transformed by fulfilling the underlying positive needs.
3. Feelings refer to the more fundamental experience of one self towards another. Emotions are expressions of feelings through the body.
4. Living independently may avoid relationship problems temporarily but does not fulfill the deep human need for connection. With understanding, relationship
UHV II Lecture 13 - Harmony in the Family v4.pptRohitSen63
The document summarizes key points from Lecture 13 of Module 3 on harmony in the family. It discusses that (1) the family is the basic unit of human interaction and the major issue is fulfilling relationships, (2) relationships are between two selves (individuals) and involve definite feelings between them, and (3) when these 9 identified feelings like trust, respect and love are understood, felt, expressed and evaluated, it leads to mutual happiness in relationships and harmony in the family. The lecture explores each of these aspects and establishes the importance of understanding feelings over physical or monetary factors for fulfilling relationships. It also addresses common questions and prompts self-reflection.
Mental distress may be at least partly remedied by verbalizing, understanding, and perhaps modifying the internal dialogue. A simple core exercise described here can utilize the strengths of the individual to transform unconscious self-defeating thoughts. The content of this volume addresses depression, communication, listening, empathy, and many other mental aspects of our lives as human beings.
1. The document discusses the concept of respect as it relates to evaluating oneself and others. It states that respect means right evaluation, while over, under, or otherwise evaluation constitutes disrespect.
2. Right evaluation is defined as evaluating based on the self - seeing that oneself and others have the same purpose, program, and potential. The differences between people are in their level of understanding.
3. Fulfilling relationships through right evaluation leads to harmony. If the other has more understanding, one should learn from them. If one has more understanding, one should live responsibly and facilitate understanding in the other.
The document discusses the importance of harmony in human relationships and proposes ways to verify harmony in the family. It explains that family is the basic unit of interaction and relationships are formed beginning with immediate family and extending to the wider community. It then presents nine key values - trust, respect, affection, care, guidance, reverence, glory, gratitude, and love - that are important for maintaining harmonious relationships. The document differentiates between intention and competence in relationships and discusses how distinguishing the two is important for developing trust. It also highlights problems that arise from differentiation and lack of respect in relationships based on attributes like gender, race, wealth, beliefs etc.
The document describes the cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) concept of the cognitive triangle, which explains the interconnected relationship between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. It provides an example of how negative thoughts about a presentation can lead to increased anxiety and poor performance during the presentation, reinforcing the initial negative thoughts. The cycle of negative thoughts influencing negative feelings and behaviors that then influence more negative thoughts can repeat continuously without intervention. CBT aims to break this cycle by challenging distorted thoughts and developing more balanced perspectives.
This document discusses the importance of trust in relationships and harmony in the family. It proposes that trust on the intention of others, based on the understanding that all human beings naturally want to be happy, is the foundation of relationships. Such trust can be unconditional and continuous, whereas trust on competence depends on events and may change. Self-reflection questions are provided to examine one's own level of trust on the intentions of family and friends. Developing trust on others' intentions based on a shared natural acceptance, rather than doubts based on events, is important for addressing problems in relationships.
Emotional intelligence by Dr. BalasubramanianAmalaDaisy2
This document discusses emotional intelligence and its importance for managers. It defines emotional intelligence as the ability to successfully deal with people, manage oneself and one's emotions, motivate others, and understand one's own and others' feelings. It notes that emotional intelligence is important for relationship management, motivation, retention, self-management, and managing others. It also outlines components of emotional intelligence like self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills.
This document discusses effective listening and behavioral adjustments for positive outcomes. It defines listening as more than just hearing and outlines the listening process which includes receiving a message, understanding it, evaluating it, and responding. There are different types of listening described such as passive, marginal, projective, sensitive/empathetic, and active listening. Good listening provides benefits like gaining a wider perspective, increased competence and self-confidence. Behavioral adjustments through assertive communication can help manage conflicts and build better relationships for positive results.
This document provides an overview of a course on developing empathy through cognitive therapy approaches and exercises. The course aims to teach empathy so that it becomes a way of relating to others. It includes 10 practical exercises to enable the development of empathy and aid self and community transformation. Upon completing assignments for each chapter, students can earn a Certificate of Empathy Development from The College of Mental Health Counseling. The exercises focus on building emotion vocabulary, distinguishing emotions from thoughts, and making empathetic statements. Developing empathy requires awareness of one's own emotions in order to recognize and connect with the emotions of others.
This document describes exercises from a course on developing empathy. It includes four empathy training exercises: 1) building an emotion vocabulary, 2) distinguishing emotions and thoughts, 3) making sentences to communicate empathy, and 4) role reversal to experience another person's perspective. The goal is to help people understand and share the emotions of others through practicing empathy skills.
This document describes exercises to help people learn and practice empathy. It includes 10 exercises that provide scenarios for participants to practice distinguishing emotions from thoughts, writing empathetic responses, role playing as other people, and imagining the emotions of historical figures. The goal is to help people understand empathy, build their emotion vocabulary, and learn to sincerely reflect the feelings of others.
6 Ways to Improve Emotional Intelligence According to ScienceShanna Sloan
Looking for ways to improve emotional intelligence?
Raising your emotional intelligence is something that can be done at any stage in life, and it’s a skill that can benefit you for the rest of your days.
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Ind 8 Relationship -Trust.ppt
1. UHV-I
Session 8
The Foundation of Relationship
– Trust
Document prepared by UHV Team (uhv.or.in) and adopted by AICTE NCC-IP Sub-
committee for Mentor Manual and related Materials for UHV-I
Suggestions for improvement are welcome
All Rights Reserved
2. 2
Introduction
Just to recall, in previous sessions we had explored:
For human being, physical facility is necessary but relationship is also
necessary
To live with fulfillment in relationship, right understanding of
relationship is also necessary
Human Being is co-existence of Self and Body
The need of the Self is continuous happiness which is fulfilled by right
understanding and right feeling.
Physical facility is required only for the nurturing, protection and right
utilisation of the body
We will start our exploration on relationship (right understanding of
feelings in relationship) in this session
3. 3
Relationship
The family is the basic unit or building block of human organisation. It extends
beyond the blood relationships – to friends, classmates and teachers in
school, and now batch mates and faculty in college.
How do we want to live with them? With mutual fulfilment, mutual happiness or
some other way?
The harmony in the family has primarily to do with the fulfilment of relationship
between one human being and the other human being.
In order to fulfil relationship, it is necessary to understand relationship
These are the four aspects to understand about relationship:
1. Relationship is
– Relationship is already there (whether we recognise it or not)
– Relationship is between one self (I1) and another self (I2)
– The Body is used for expression
2. There are feelings in relationship
– in one self (I1) for the other self (I2)
3. These feelings can be recognized
– they are definite
4. Their fulfilment leads to mutual happiness
4. 4
Feelings in Relationship
What is naturally acceptable to us?
Feeling of trust or mistrust?
Feeling of respect or disrespect?
Feeling of affection or jealousy?
Feeling of gratitude or ingratitude?
Feeling of love or hatred?
When we have(own) these feelings in us, does it lead to our
happiness?
When we express them to the other, does it lead to happiness of the
other?
Can we see that our complaints in relationship are due to the absence
of one or more of these feelings?
&
We try to compensate with physical facility… Does it work?
5. 5
Analysis of Current State
Today we are unhappy because we have not understood these feelings
and we assume that they are not in us
We only expect the other to express these feelings to us. If the other
expresses these feelings to us, we feel happy. If the other does not
express these feelings to us, we feel unhappy
In this situation, to get respect, we try many things
e.g. we relate respect(feeling) with physical facility
e.g. we copy appearance, language, lifestyle, etc. opted by others
Today, people are not able to express feeling of respect to others
(because they don’t have it), but they are trying hard to get it from
others
It is like everyone is begging for respect and everybody’s bowl is
empty
6. 6
The Way Forward
The most fundamental thing is to understand these feelings.
In this way, understanding the feeling, ensuring the feeling, expressing
the feeling and the right evaluation of the feeling leads to mutual
happiness
We will try to understand the feeling of TRUST first (as foundational
feeling)
8. 8
Trust (fo”okl)
Trust = to be assured (vk”oLr gksuk)
= to have the clarity that the other wants to make me
happy & prosperous
= nwljk esjs lq[k] le`f) ds vFkZ esa gS] ,slk Li’V gksuk
9. 9
About our Natural Acceptance
1a. I want to make myself always
happy always
2a. I want to make the other
always happy always
3a. The other wants to make
herself/himself always happy
always
4a. The other wants to make me
always happy always
About our Ability
1b. I am able to make myself
always happy
2b. I am able to make the other
always happy
3b. The other is able to make
herself/himself always happy
4b. The other is able to make me
always happy
Exploring Trust – Between 2 Individuals
Intention – Natural Acceptance
What is Naturally Acceptable to You
Competence
What You Are (Imagination)
√
?
?
?
??
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√
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10. 10
About our Natural Acceptance
1a. I want to make myself always
happy always
2a. I want to make the other
always happy always
3a. The other wants to make
herself/himself always happy
always
4a. The other wants to make me
always happy always
About our Ability
1b. I am able to make myself
always happy
2b. I am able to make the other
always happy
3b. The other is able to make
herself/himself always happy
4b. The other is able to make me
always happy
Doubt on Intention: Mistrust
Intention – Natural Acceptance
What is Naturally Acceptable to You
Competence
What You Are (Imagination)
√
?
?
?
??
?
√
√
11. 11
The other broke a glass
If the other makes a mistake even
once…
– I doubt his intention
– He makes mistakes intentionally
– I have a feeling of opposition, get
irritated, angry…
– I reinforce “The other is bad”, can
not improve
The glass broke by accident
Even if I make the same mistake
100 times…
– I never doubt my intention
– I make mistakes by accident
– I have a feeling “I am special”
– I reinforce “I am good”. I do not
make effort to improve my own
competence
About the Other About Myself
Doubt on intention is a major reason for problems in relationships
I may not speak to the other for days… or even breakup the
relationship… One may have lost many good friends like this…
12. 12
Self Reflection
If you have unconditional, continuous trust on intention (natural
acceptance) of the other and if the other is lacking competence, what
will you do:
a) Try to improve his competence
(and also improve my competence)
b) Get irritated
c) Get angry
d) Have a feeling of opposition
How many persons do you have trust on intention (natural acceptance)
– unconditional, continuous?
This is fundamental. Trust on intention is the foundation of
relationship
You can get an idea of the state of your understanding about
relationship from this exploration…
Feeling born out of understanding can be definite, unconditional, continuous…
If Trust on Intention Response
If Doubt on Intention Reaction
13. 13
About our Natural Acceptance
1a. I want to make myself always
happy always
2a. I want to make the other
always happy always
3a. The other wants to make
herself/himself always happy
always
4a. The other wants to make me
always happy always
About our Ability
1b. I am able to make myself
always happy
2b. I am able to make the other
always happy
3b. The other is able to make
herself/himself always happy
4b. The other is able to make me
always happy
Trust: To have the clarity that the other intends to make me happy
Intention – Natural Acceptance
What is Naturally Acceptable to You
Competence
What You are (Imagination)
√
?
?
?
??
√
√
√
14. 14
The glass broke by accident
Even if the other makes the same
mistake 100 times…
– I am clear about his intention
– I know the mistake is due to lack
of competence, not a lack of
intention
– I make effort to help improve his
competence with a feeling of
affection
I know they have difficulty in
understanding… and also, I may
have difficulty in explaining…”
The glass broke by accident
When I make a mistake even
once…
– I am clear about my intention
– I know the mistake is due to lack
of competence, not a lack of
intention
– I make effort to improve my own
competence (I am willing to learn)
If the other is lacking in
competence, I am committed to
help the other to improve his
competence, without becoming
irritated…
About the Other About Myself
Trust on intention is the starting point for mutual development
15. 15
Anger arises, when we are not
able to differentiate between the
intention and competence of the
other. Based on lack of
competence of the other, we doubt
over their intention
Once, we have a doubt on the
intention of the other, then instead
of relating to the other, we feel in
opposition to the other
Thus, any small unfavourable
incidence may lead to irritation or
even anger
If I understand the human being
correctly, then am able to see-
“The other is a human being like
me (self and body)”
The other self has the intention,
i.e. natural acceptance (to be
happy and make other happy) just
like me
The other may be lacking in
competence to fulfil their intention,
just like I am lacking in
competence
Anger – Reason Anger – Solution
16. 16
When our desire does not get
fulfilled and we perceive that it is
due to the other, then we get
irritated or angry
If I can see that the other has the
right intention, but lacks
competence, then instead of
getting angry, I re-examine my
desire/expectation and action:
– Is my expectation right or not?
– Is the program to fulfill the desire
correct or not?
– Have I developed the necessary
competence in myself ?
– What effort have I made to help
the other in improving his/her
competence?
Anger – Reason Anger – Solution
17. 17
Trust
Trust is to have the clarity that the other wants to make me happy & prosperous
If I have trust on intention, I accept the other (I am assured of the other) and we
are able to make effort for mutual development
I make a program with the other based on right evaluation of our mutual
competence
In case the other is lacking in competence
I make effort to assure the other
I make effort to improve his competence once he is assured in
relationship (and not before that)
If I lack competence, I become ready to take help from the other to improve
my competence
If I have doubt on intention
I evaluate myself on the basis of my intention and others on the basis of their
competence
I have a feeling of opposition with the other which shows up as irritation or
anger (and it further leads to fighting, struggle and war)
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Home Assignments
8.1. How many persons, in your family and friends, do you have trust on
intention (natural acceptance) – unconditional, continuous?
You always make effort to improve mutual competence
(your own competence as well as the competence of the other)
rather than getting irritated, angry or having a feeling of opposition
(even for a moment)
8.2. In case you get angry/irritated:
- Do you feel happy when you get angry? And when you express your
anger?
- What is the outcome when you express your anger? Is it mutual
happiness?
- What is the reason for your anger? Is it the other or you?
8.3. Talk to 2 close friends you may have lost, due to lack of trust. Tell
them you have realised the difference between intention and
competence… and that you want to reconnect. What is their response
or reaction?