This document discusses the concept of trust as the foundational value in relationships. It defines trust as having the clarity that the other wants to make you happy and prosperous.
The document outlines 9 feelings that can exist in relationships: trust, respect, affection, care, guidance, reverence, glory, gratitude, and love. It argues that trust is the foundational feeling because it means being assured of the other's intention to make you happy.
It then discusses how to evaluate trust between individuals by looking at natural acceptance of intentions and competence. It argues that problems arise when people doubt others' intentions rather than seeing a lack of competence. Overall, the document emphasizes that trust based on understanding others' intentions is key to
1) The document discusses the importance of trust in relationships. It states that trust is having clarity that the other person wants to make you happy and prosperous.
2) It explores how to differentiate between intention and competence in relationships. Having trust in the other's intention means understanding that mistakes are due to lack of competence, not lack of caring.
3) With trust in intentions, one can help the other improve their competence without anger. Lacking this trust can lead to opposition, irritation and preventing mutual growth.
The document discusses harmony in the family and relationship. It states that family is the basic unit of human organization and provides a base for living in relationship and harmony. It explores the key aspects of relationship as being between two selves, with feelings and values like trust, respect, care etc. It emphasizes the importance of understanding relationship and ensuring these feelings within ourselves in order to fulfill relationships and achieve mutual happiness. It distinguishes between intention and competence in relationships and highlights how seeing them distinctly helps establish trust and respect between individuals.
The document discusses harmony in the family and relationships. It explains that family is the basic unit of human organization and provides a base for living in relationship and harmony. It identifies nine feelings (values) that are important for relationships: trust, respect, affection, care, guidance, reverence, glory, gratitude, and love. It states that understanding these feelings and ensuring they are present within ourselves and shared with others can lead to mutual fulfillment and happiness in relationships and harmony in the family.
This document discusses the importance of trust in relationships. It defines trust as having clarity that the other person wants to make you happy and prosperous. It states that trust is the foundation of relationships. When there is trust in a relationship, both people feel related to each other and can make programs to mutually improve their competence. But when there is doubt about the other's intentions, people tend to evaluate themselves based on intentions but others based on competence, leading to opposition, irritation and anger that harms the relationship. Maintaining trust and intention is key to harmony within families and between all people.
The document discusses harmony in relationships and families. It explains that relationships involve feelings between individuals, and that feelings like trust, respect, affection, care, guidance, reverence, glory, gratitude and love are natural to relationships when understood correctly. It argues that understanding intentions and evaluating others based on shared humanity, rather than differences, helps develop these feelings and create harmonious relationships and families. The ultimate aim is expanding harmonious relationships to create an undivided, harmonious society and world family.
1) The document discusses the importance of trust in relationships. It states that trust is having clarity that the other person wants to make you happy and prosperous.
2) It explores how to differentiate between intention and competence in relationships. Having trust in the other's intention means understanding that mistakes are due to lack of competence, not lack of caring.
3) With trust in intentions, one can help the other improve their competence without anger. Lacking this trust can lead to opposition, irritation and preventing mutual growth.
The document discusses harmony in the family and relationship. It states that family is the basic unit of human organization and provides a base for living in relationship and harmony. It explores the key aspects of relationship as being between two selves, with feelings and values like trust, respect, care etc. It emphasizes the importance of understanding relationship and ensuring these feelings within ourselves in order to fulfill relationships and achieve mutual happiness. It distinguishes between intention and competence in relationships and highlights how seeing them distinctly helps establish trust and respect between individuals.
The document discusses harmony in the family and relationships. It explains that family is the basic unit of human organization and provides a base for living in relationship and harmony. It identifies nine feelings (values) that are important for relationships: trust, respect, affection, care, guidance, reverence, glory, gratitude, and love. It states that understanding these feelings and ensuring they are present within ourselves and shared with others can lead to mutual fulfillment and happiness in relationships and harmony in the family.
This document discusses the importance of trust in relationships. It defines trust as having clarity that the other person wants to make you happy and prosperous. It states that trust is the foundation of relationships. When there is trust in a relationship, both people feel related to each other and can make programs to mutually improve their competence. But when there is doubt about the other's intentions, people tend to evaluate themselves based on intentions but others based on competence, leading to opposition, irritation and anger that harms the relationship. Maintaining trust and intention is key to harmony within families and between all people.
The document discusses harmony in relationships and families. It explains that relationships involve feelings between individuals, and that feelings like trust, respect, affection, care, guidance, reverence, glory, gratitude and love are natural to relationships when understood correctly. It argues that understanding intentions and evaluating others based on shared humanity, rather than differences, helps develop these feelings and create harmonious relationships and families. The ultimate aim is expanding harmonious relationships to create an undivided, harmonious society and world family.
Harmony in the family is achieved through developing the right feelings in relationships, such as trust, respect, affection, care, guidance, reverence, glory, gratitude and love. These feelings lead to mutual happiness when one feels them within themselves and expresses them to others. The document discusses how to establish trust through understanding that all people want happiness and have the same natural acceptance and potential. It emphasizes evaluating others based on their intentions and abilities, not other attributes. Developing these right feelings results in harmony first in the family and ultimately in a harmonious world family or undivided society.
The document discusses creating harmony in relationships through trust and respect. It states that trust is having no doubt that each person wants themselves and others to be happy and prosperous. Respect means evaluating others based on their inherent self, not external attributes. When there is trust and respect between individuals, it leads to mutual happiness and healthy relationships at all levels from family to society.
Harmony in the Family- Understanding the Relationship.pptxRaviKiranVarma4
This document discusses the importance of understanding relationships and the feelings that form the basis of healthy relationships. It notes that unhappiness in families is often due to a lack of fulfillment in relationships rather than a lack of physical resources. Relationships are between two selves (I1 and I2) and involve definite feelings like trust, respect, affection, care, guidance, reverence, glory, gratitude and love. Understanding these feelings, having them for oneself and expressing them to others can lead to mutual happiness. The document provides exercises to help readers evaluate their own relationships and feelings of trust.
The document discusses the concept of respect, which it defines as "right evaluation". It states that over, under or otherwise evaluating someone is a form of disrespect. The document advocates evaluating others based on their self - their inherent purpose, program and potential - rather than their body or physical attributes. This recognizes our shared humanity and that we are fundamentally similar. It also notes we may differ in our level of understanding, and discusses how to interact respectfully with those of varying understanding levels through fulfilling relationships. Self-reflection questions are provided to help determine if one's evaluations of self and others are "right" or constitute disrespect.
Uhv 3 d d2 s3 und relationship - respectHarshit Sinha
The document discusses the concept of respect as it relates to evaluating oneself and others. It argues that respect comes from right evaluation, while over, under or otherwise evaluation constitutes disrespect. Right evaluation means evaluating oneself and others based on their inherent self or soul, seeing beyond surface differences and viewing others as similar to oneself. This leads to recognizing complementarity between people. Wrong evaluation stems from differentiation and comparison based on superficial attributes like body, age or wealth. It breeds disharmony. For right evaluation, one should see if the other has more or less self-realization and fulfill the relationship accordingly.
The document describes the cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) concept of the cognitive triangle, which explains the interconnected relationship between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. It provides an example of how negative thoughts about a presentation can lead to increased anxiety and poor performance during the presentation, reinforcing the initial negative thoughts. The cycle of negative thoughts influencing negative feelings and behaviors that then influence more negative thoughts can repeat continuously without intervention. CBT aims to break this cycle by challenging distorted thoughts and developing more balanced perspectives.
Our beliefs drive our behavior and eventually our identity. If you want to change how you parent, you must be willing to look at what you really believe & be willing to change those beliefs. So what do you believe about relating to others?
Top five skills which everyone should have in their emotional toolbox are
1.Resilience
2.Creativity
3.Assertiveness
4.Mental Flexibility
5.Self Awareness
Here are some responses to the questions raised:
1. If only one person understands relationship while the other does not, communication and patience are key. Continue expressing the 9 feelings respectfully and also explain your understanding to help the other learn. With time and effort, understanding can grow.
2. Anger and negative feelings also need to be understood, not suppressed. They arise due to unfulfilled positive feelings and can be transformed by fulfilling the underlying positive needs.
3. Feelings refer to the more fundamental experience of one self towards another. Emotions are expressions of feelings through the body.
4. Living independently may avoid relationship problems temporarily but does not fulfill the deep human need for connection. With understanding, relationship
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Emotional intelligence by Dr. BalasubramanianAmalaDaisy2
This document discusses emotional intelligence and its importance for managers. It defines emotional intelligence as the ability to successfully deal with people, manage oneself and one's emotions, motivate others, and understand one's own and others' feelings. It notes that emotional intelligence is important for relationship management, motivation, retention, self-management, and managing others. It also outlines components of emotional intelligence like self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills.
This document outlines a workshop on resiliency. It includes an introduction, understanding resilience, resilient qualities, obstacles to resilience like trauma, stress, adversity and explanatory styles. It discusses 10 resilient qualities like emotional regulation, impulse control, attachment and belonging. It also covers the physiological and psychological impacts of trauma and how it can affect families and communities. The overall goal is to promote resilience in individuals, families and communities.
6 Ways to Improve Emotional Intelligence According to ScienceShanna Sloan
Looking for ways to improve emotional intelligence?
Raising your emotional intelligence is something that can be done at any stage in life, and it’s a skill that can benefit you for the rest of your days.
This document discusses effective listening and behavioral adjustments for positive outcomes. It defines listening as more than just hearing and outlines the listening process which includes receiving a message, understanding it, evaluating it, and responding. There are different types of listening described such as passive, marginal, projective, sensitive/empathetic, and active listening. Good listening provides benefits like gaining a wider perspective, increased competence and self-confidence. Behavioral adjustments through assertive communication can help manage conflicts and build better relationships for positive results.
The document discusses how to forgive through taking a forgiveness test, understanding what forgiveness is, avoiding the dangers of apologies, and using four tools for forgiveness including apologizing, writing, visualizing, and confiding. It explains that forgiveness requires understanding another's perspective rather than weakness, and that it allows one to enter future relationships without carrying grudges or fear.
Introduction to a proposed model for Unification psychologySteve Stacey
The document discusses healthy and unhealthy mental states, with unhealthy states tending towards crimes or evil due to mental dis-ease. It then discusses the concept of hidden trauma from past events, which can lead people to take on victim attitudes and store painful emotions. This stored trauma and emotions can later be triggered, influencing present behaviors and causing people to act as victims, rescuers, or persecutors. The document advocates for principles of co-creation to help people grow and heal from hidden trauma by improving relationship skills and regulating emotions.
13 Signs of High Emotional Intelligence.pdfDanielDieck1
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Harmony in the family is achieved through developing the right feelings in relationships, such as trust, respect, affection, care, guidance, reverence, glory, gratitude and love. These feelings lead to mutual happiness when one feels them within themselves and expresses them to others. The document discusses how to establish trust through understanding that all people want happiness and have the same natural acceptance and potential. It emphasizes evaluating others based on their intentions and abilities, not other attributes. Developing these right feelings results in harmony first in the family and ultimately in a harmonious world family or undivided society.
The document discusses creating harmony in relationships through trust and respect. It states that trust is having no doubt that each person wants themselves and others to be happy and prosperous. Respect means evaluating others based on their inherent self, not external attributes. When there is trust and respect between individuals, it leads to mutual happiness and healthy relationships at all levels from family to society.
Harmony in the Family- Understanding the Relationship.pptxRaviKiranVarma4
This document discusses the importance of understanding relationships and the feelings that form the basis of healthy relationships. It notes that unhappiness in families is often due to a lack of fulfillment in relationships rather than a lack of physical resources. Relationships are between two selves (I1 and I2) and involve definite feelings like trust, respect, affection, care, guidance, reverence, glory, gratitude and love. Understanding these feelings, having them for oneself and expressing them to others can lead to mutual happiness. The document provides exercises to help readers evaluate their own relationships and feelings of trust.
The document discusses the concept of respect, which it defines as "right evaluation". It states that over, under or otherwise evaluating someone is a form of disrespect. The document advocates evaluating others based on their self - their inherent purpose, program and potential - rather than their body or physical attributes. This recognizes our shared humanity and that we are fundamentally similar. It also notes we may differ in our level of understanding, and discusses how to interact respectfully with those of varying understanding levels through fulfilling relationships. Self-reflection questions are provided to help determine if one's evaluations of self and others are "right" or constitute disrespect.
Uhv 3 d d2 s3 und relationship - respectHarshit Sinha
The document discusses the concept of respect as it relates to evaluating oneself and others. It argues that respect comes from right evaluation, while over, under or otherwise evaluation constitutes disrespect. Right evaluation means evaluating oneself and others based on their inherent self or soul, seeing beyond surface differences and viewing others as similar to oneself. This leads to recognizing complementarity between people. Wrong evaluation stems from differentiation and comparison based on superficial attributes like body, age or wealth. It breeds disharmony. For right evaluation, one should see if the other has more or less self-realization and fulfill the relationship accordingly.
The document describes the cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) concept of the cognitive triangle, which explains the interconnected relationship between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. It provides an example of how negative thoughts about a presentation can lead to increased anxiety and poor performance during the presentation, reinforcing the initial negative thoughts. The cycle of negative thoughts influencing negative feelings and behaviors that then influence more negative thoughts can repeat continuously without intervention. CBT aims to break this cycle by challenging distorted thoughts and developing more balanced perspectives.
Our beliefs drive our behavior and eventually our identity. If you want to change how you parent, you must be willing to look at what you really believe & be willing to change those beliefs. So what do you believe about relating to others?
Top five skills which everyone should have in their emotional toolbox are
1.Resilience
2.Creativity
3.Assertiveness
4.Mental Flexibility
5.Self Awareness
Here are some responses to the questions raised:
1. If only one person understands relationship while the other does not, communication and patience are key. Continue expressing the 9 feelings respectfully and also explain your understanding to help the other learn. With time and effort, understanding can grow.
2. Anger and negative feelings also need to be understood, not suppressed. They arise due to unfulfilled positive feelings and can be transformed by fulfilling the underlying positive needs.
3. Feelings refer to the more fundamental experience of one self towards another. Emotions are expressions of feelings through the body.
4. Living independently may avoid relationship problems temporarily but does not fulfill the deep human need for connection. With understanding, relationship
A Course in Empathy, Finding Wisdom: Verbalizing Your Inner Dialogue, Creative Solution Development, Assessment Self-Healing Life Story, Counseling Questionnaire, Your Spirituality Score, Counseling for Depression, Identity Awareness, and much more.
Emotional intelligence by Dr. BalasubramanianAmalaDaisy2
This document discusses emotional intelligence and its importance for managers. It defines emotional intelligence as the ability to successfully deal with people, manage oneself and one's emotions, motivate others, and understand one's own and others' feelings. It notes that emotional intelligence is important for relationship management, motivation, retention, self-management, and managing others. It also outlines components of emotional intelligence like self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills.
This document outlines a workshop on resiliency. It includes an introduction, understanding resilience, resilient qualities, obstacles to resilience like trauma, stress, adversity and explanatory styles. It discusses 10 resilient qualities like emotional regulation, impulse control, attachment and belonging. It also covers the physiological and psychological impacts of trauma and how it can affect families and communities. The overall goal is to promote resilience in individuals, families and communities.
6 Ways to Improve Emotional Intelligence According to ScienceShanna Sloan
Looking for ways to improve emotional intelligence?
Raising your emotional intelligence is something that can be done at any stage in life, and it’s a skill that can benefit you for the rest of your days.
This document discusses effective listening and behavioral adjustments for positive outcomes. It defines listening as more than just hearing and outlines the listening process which includes receiving a message, understanding it, evaluating it, and responding. There are different types of listening described such as passive, marginal, projective, sensitive/empathetic, and active listening. Good listening provides benefits like gaining a wider perspective, increased competence and self-confidence. Behavioral adjustments through assertive communication can help manage conflicts and build better relationships for positive results.
The document discusses how to forgive through taking a forgiveness test, understanding what forgiveness is, avoiding the dangers of apologies, and using four tools for forgiveness including apologizing, writing, visualizing, and confiding. It explains that forgiveness requires understanding another's perspective rather than weakness, and that it allows one to enter future relationships without carrying grudges or fear.
Introduction to a proposed model for Unification psychologySteve Stacey
The document discusses healthy and unhealthy mental states, with unhealthy states tending towards crimes or evil due to mental dis-ease. It then discusses the concept of hidden trauma from past events, which can lead people to take on victim attitudes and store painful emotions. This stored trauma and emotions can later be triggered, influencing present behaviors and causing people to act as victims, rescuers, or persecutors. The document advocates for principles of co-creation to help people grow and heal from hidden trauma by improving relationship skills and regulating emotions.
13 Signs of High Emotional Intelligence.pdfDanielDieck1
Emotional intelligence manifests itself in everyday behaviors and actions. Some signs of high emotional intelligence include regularly reflecting on one's feelings, pausing before speaking or acting, controlling one's thoughts in response to emotions, benefiting from criticism by focusing on self-improvement, showing authenticity, demonstrating empathy, praising others, providing helpful feedback, apologizing, forgiving others, keeping commitments, helping others, and protecting oneself from emotional manipulation.
3. 3
Recap
We had explored “can we live in relationship without understanding
relationship?”
Having right understanding about relationship is necessary for fulfillment in
relationship
We had also explored "the unhappiness in our families is more due to lack of
physical facility or more due to lack of fulfillment in relationship?”
The major issue in family is that of relationship; physical facility (and body) is
used as a means
As long as we consider human being to be body, it is not possible to understand
relationship; and without understanding relationship, it is not possible to fulfill
relationship, even though we do want to fulfill relationship. We are trying to
assume relationship on the basis of body and trying to fulfill relationship on
the basis of body, and it does not work, inspite of all good intentions
Now we can explore relationship with the clarity of human being, as co-
existence of self and body
4. 4
Relationship
1. Relationship is – between one self (I1) and other self (I2)
2. There are feelings in relationship – in one self (I1) for other self (I2)
3. These feelings can be recognized – they are definite (9 Feelings)
4. Their fulfilment, evaluation leads to mutual happiness
Feelings in relationship:
1- Trust fo”okl FOUNDATION VALUE
2- Respect lEeku
3- Affection Lusg
4- Care eerk
5- Guidance okRlY;
6- Reverence J)k
7- Glory xkSjo
8- Gratitude —rKrk
9- Love izse COMPLETE VALUE
5. 5
These feelings can be recognized – they are definite (9 Feelings)
Each of us can investigate if these feelings are naturally acceptable to
us or not
What is naturally acceptable to you?
Feeling of trust or mistrust?
Feeling of respect or disrespect?
Feeling of affection or jealousy?
Feeling of care or exploitation?
Feeling of guidance or misguidance, confusion?
Feeling of reverence or irreverence?
Feeling of glory or inglorious feelings?
Feeling of gratitude or ingratitude?
Feeling of love or hatred?
6. 6
Trust (fo”okl)
Trust = to be assured (vk”oLr gksuk)
= to have the clarity that the other wants to make me
happy & prosperous
= nwljk esjs lq[k] le`f) ds vFkZ esa gS] ,slk Li’V gksuk
7. 7
About your Natural Acceptance
1a. I want to make myself happy
always
2a. I want to make the other happy
always
3a. The other wants to make
herself/himself happy always
4a. The other wants to make me
happy always
About your Ability
1b. I am able to make myself
always happy
2b. I am able to make the other
always happy
3b. The other is able to make
herself/himself always happy
4b. The other is able to make me
always happy
Evaluating Trust – Between 2 Individuals
Intention – Natural Acceptance
What is Naturally Acceptable to You
Competence
What You Are (∑ D, T, E)
√
?
?
?
??
?
√
√
8. 8
About your Natural Acceptance
1a. I want to make myself happy
always
2a. I want to make the other happy
always
3a. The other wants to make
herself/himself happy always
4a. The other wants to make me
happy always
About your Ability
1b. I am able to make myself
always happy
2b. I am able to make the other
always happy
3b. The other is able to make
herself/himself always happy
4b. The other is able to make me
always happy
Doubt on Intention: Mistrust
Intention – Natural Acceptance
What is Naturally Acceptable to You
Competence
What You Are (∑ D, T, E)
√
?
?
?
??
?
√
√
9. 9
The other broke a glass
If the other makes a mistake even
once…
– I doubt his intention
– He makes mistakes intentionally
– I have a feeling of opposition, get
irritated, angry…
– I reinforce “The other is bad”, can
not improve
The glass broke by accident
Even if I make the same mistake
100 times…
– I never doubt my intention
– I make mistakes by accident
– I have a feeling “I am special”
– I reinforce “I am good”. I do not
make effort to improve my own
competence
About the Other About Myself
Doubt on intention is a major reason for problems in relationships
10. 10
Common Mistake in Relationship
I evaluate myself on the basis of my
intention
I evaluate the other on the basis of
their competence
I doubt their intention. I assume
their lack of competence to be
their lack of intention I feel
opposed to the other, I get
irritated, angry…
I may not speak to the other for
days… or even breakup the
relationship… One may have lost
many good friends like this…
?
Doubt on intention is a major
reason for problems in
relationships
11. 11
Self Reflection
If you have unconditional, continuous trust on intention (natural
acceptance) of the other and if the other is lacking competence, what
will you do:
a) Try to improve his competence
(and also improve your competence)
b) Get irritated
c) Get angry
d) Have a feeling of opposition
How many persons, in your family and friends, do you have trust on
intention (natural acceptance) – unconditional, continuous?
This is fundamental. Trust on intention is the foundation of relationship
You can get an idea of the state of your understanding about
relationship from this exploration…
Trust on Intention Response
Doubt on Intention Reaction
12. 12
About your Natural Acceptance
1a. I want to make myself happy
always
2a. I want to make the other happy
always
3a. The other wants to make
herself/himself happy always
4a. The other wants to make me
happy always
About your Ability
1b. I am able to make myself
always happy
2b. I am able to make the other
always happy
3b. The other is able to make
herself/himself always happy
4b. The other is able to make me
always happy
Trust: To have the clarity that the other intends to make me happy
Intention – Natural Acceptance
What is Naturally Acceptable to You
Competence
What You Are (∑ D, T, E)
√
?
?
?
??
√
√
√
13. 13
The glass broke by accident
Even if the other makes the same
mistake 100 times…
– I am clear about his intention
– I know the mistake is due to lack
of competence, not a lack of
intention
– I make effort to help improve his
competence with a feeling of
affection
I know that “he may have difficulty
understanding… and also, I may
have difficulty in explaining…”
The glass broke by accident
When I make a mistake even
once…
– I am clear about my intention
– I know the mistake is due to lack
of competence, not a lack of
intention
– I make effort to improve my own
competence (I am willing to learn)
About the Other About Myself
Trust on intention is the starting point for mutual development
14. 14
Trust: The Foundation of Relationship
With trust on intention, I feel
related to the other
When I make a program with the
other
I evaluate his competence as
well as my competence and
I make the program in
accordance with our current
mutual competence
I am consistently making effort to
learn, to improve my competence
If the other is lacking in
competence, I am committed to
help the other to improve his
competence, without becoming
irritated…
Trust on intention is the starting
point for mutual development
15. 15
Being able to see that all human
beings have the same natural
acceptance (intention) as me
Trust on intention is founded on
understanding (not based on
events)
It does not keep changing with
time or person. So it can be
unconditional and continuous
Of course, the competence may or
may not be there – in me or in the
other
“Trust” on competence is based
on events – can keep changing
The last 5 times I lent her money,
she returned it on time… so I can
trust her
He said he will reach at 11, but
look it is after 12 now… he always
comes late… so how can I trust
him to be on time?
Here we are not looking at the
natural acceptance (intention). We
are only seeing the competence
Understanding Trust Assuming Trust
16. 16
Sum Up
Trust is to have the clarity that the other wants to make me happy &
prosperous. It is the foundation of relationship
If I have trust on intention, I feel related to the other. I make a program with the
other based on right evaluation of our mutual competence
In case the other is lacking in competence
I make effort to assure the other
I make effort to improve his competence once he is assured in
relationship (and not before that)
If I lack competence, I become ready to take help from the other to improve
my competence
If I have doubt on intention
I evaluate the other on the basis of his competence and assume the lack
of competence to be the lack of intention; and thus feel opposed to him
(while I evaluate myself on intention)
The feeling of opposition shows up as irritation or anger (and it may
further lead to fighting, struggle and war)
18. 18
Self Reflection
1. How many persons, in your family and friends, do you have trust on
intention (natural acceptance) – unconditional, continuous?
You always make effort to improve mutual competence
(your own competence as well as the competence of the other)
rather than getting irritated, angry or having a feeling of opposition
(even for a moment)
2. Can you see that the problems in relationship have more to do with
lack of understanding relationship rather than with lack of physical
facility?
3. When you have a feeling of opposition, get irritated or angry,
observe your desire, thought, expectation – can you observe the
doubt you have on the intention of the other?
4. Can you see your own intention (natural acceptance) clearly?
[Then you can conclude about the intention of the other also]
5. What is the basis for trust on intention…
- Right understanding (of Human Being, Human Relationship…)
- Experience of events
20. 23
FAQ
1. Now I can see the problem with my spouse – he does hot trust my intention! So what
should be the next step to get my spouse to understand relationship?
2. What about thieves – is it a good idea to trust them also?
3. There should be a question mark for “I want to make the other happy” because I don’t
want to make the other happy – not always. So is that OK?
4. Yes, if I start trusting everyone, I will get cheated. I don’t think we should start trusting
right away. So my question is, for how long should we observe someone before trusting
them?
5. What do you mean by competence? I mean I can find out their skills – is that their
competence?
6. For how long should you help the other to improve their competence? 10 times? What if
the other does not really want to improve?
7. What is the main difference between reaction and response?
8. I am not clear about the difference between desire and intention. I thought they are the
same thing. So what exactly is the difference?
21. 24
About your Natural Acceptance
1a. I want to make myself happy
2a. I want to make the other happy
3a. The other wants to make
herself/himself happy
4a. The other wants to make me
happy
About your Ability
1b. I am able to make myself
always happy
2b. I am able to make the other
always happy
3b. The other is able to make
herself/himself always happy
4b. The other is able to make me
always happy
Trust: To have the clarity that the other intends to make me happy
√
?
?
?
??
√
√
√
Intention – Natural Acceptance
What is Naturally Acceptable to You
Competence
What You Are (∑ D, T, E)
22. 25
Deluded Self: Imagination on basis of Sensation & Preconditioning
Power
“kfDr
Dynamic Activity
xfr fØz;k
State Activity
fLFkfr fØz;k
1. Authentication
Áek.k
Realization
vuqHko
2. Determination
ladYi
Understanding
cks/k
3. Desire
bPNk
Imaging
fp=.k
Contemplation
fparu
4. Thought
fopkj
Analysing
fo'ys"k.k
Comparing
rqyu
Unguided Senses,
Health, Profit
5. Expectation
vk'kk
Selecting
p;u
Tasting
vkLoknu
Unguided
Sensation
Self
(I)
eSa
Body 'kjhj Behaviour O;ogkj
Human ekuo
Work dk;Z
Rest of Nature
euq";srj iz—fr
Other
nwljk
B1
B2
Sensation
Lakosnuk
2
Preconditioning
ekU;rk
1
Self
verification on
the basis of
Natural
Acceptance
3
23. 26
Pure Self: Imagination on basis of Realisation, Understanding & Contemplation
Power
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Dynamic Activity
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State Activity
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1. Authentication
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Realization
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Co-existence
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2. Determination
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Understanding
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Harmony in Nature
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3. Desire
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Imaging
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Contemplation
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Participation in Larger
Order, Relationship
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4. Thought
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Analysing
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Comparing
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Co-existence, Harmony,
Justice Guided Senses,
Health, Profit
5. Expectation
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Selecting
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Tasting
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Goal, Value
Guided Sensation
Self
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Rest of Nature
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Other
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