Many guys have trouble setting boundaries in relationships because they want affection. However, it is important to communicate boundaries so others understand what is and isn't okay. One should listen to their gut feelings and mention politely but firmly when something makes them uncomfortable. This establishes boundaries and allows one to find a partner who genuinely respects them.

1. Set Strong
Boundaries

2. Many guys have problems setting
boundaries with girls.

3. Partly because most guys aren't
getting nearly as much affection as
they want, when they start getting it,
they'll put up with a lot of junk to keep
it.

4. The trouble with this is when she's
violating you're boundaries, and you
don't say anything, she correctly
assumes that it's OK.

5. One of the big myths about
boundaries is that people somehow
"know" what they are without you
saying so.

6. Like there's some kind of social
contract that everybody has read and
agreed to that regulates what's OK and
what's not OK.

7. But the harsh truth is that people will
do whatever they think is appropriate,
based on what they want, and what
they imagine the repercussions will be.

8. And when it comes to male-female
interactions, what people think are
appropriate are largely based on how
they were raised, parenting issues,
early childhood experiences, and tons
of other stuff that you simply will
never know about.

9. Which means if you're making
assumptions about how she "should"
act, you're setting yourself up for a
letdown.

10. So, what do you do?

11. First, you need to know what your
boundaries are.

12. You can't define them if you don't
know them.

13. Now, this can be hard to do if you
don't have much experience.

14. A good system is to simply listen to
your gut.

15. If she does something and it doesn't
feel "right" say something.

16. Of course, it can get confusing when
you don't know whether it's a "test" or
a "boundary violation."

17. Usually a test is based on what she
says, and a boundary violation is based
on what she does.

18. And once she does something that
makes you feel uncomfortable, it's
YOUR responsibility to mention it.

19. How do you mention it?

20. Don't tell her what she should or
shouldn't do.

21. That will only make things worse.

22. Nobody likes to be told what they
should or shouldn't do, in any
circumstance.

23. Instead, just say something like, "I
don't like it when you do that." And let
her respond.

24. This is pretty powerful.

25. Why?

26. Because if she acts like she doesn't
care how her actions affect you, she's
not worth your time.

27. She's effectively disqualified herself.

28. On the other hand, if she genuinely
makes a honest effort to not do that
again, if only because it bothers you,
that means she's REALLY into you.

29. Sadly, this won't happen very often.

30. Girls will ALWAYS push the boundaries
to see what they can get away with.

31. Which is why you should ALWAYS be
willing to simply walk away from her if
she repeatedly violates your stated
boundaries.

32. Because the ones that DO make an
effort to respect your boundaries are
the girls you're looking for.

33. THESE are the girls that will create
heaven on Earth for you.

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