1. To be heroes to our children, we must choose to love them unconditionally through good times and bad, prioritizing our relationships over petty conflicts. 2. It is important to be self-aware of our weaknesses and imperfections so we can better understand our children and avoid unfairly projecting our own issues onto them. 3. By living purposeful lives of faith and choosing role models to emulate, both parents and children can overcome their shortcomings and become the kind of heroes that positively impact others.

1. How To Be A Hero toHow To Be A Hero to
Your KidsYour Kids My Hero IFO

2. How we can be heroes to our kids?How we can be heroes to our kids?
imperfect, questioabe, unrealistic, real-
life2, doable

3. ““The family is theThe family is the Heart and theHeart and the
CenterCenter of the Filipinos. It is whereof the Filipinos. It is where
faith, the Christian doctrine and thefaith, the Christian doctrine and the
Gospel values are learned andGospel values are learned and
lived… where love, justice, fraternitylived… where love, justice, fraternity
and equality are experienced,and equality are experienced,
nourished and cultivated.”nourished and cultivated.”
(ECMI, “Organizing The Migrants’ Families,” The Pastoral and Social(ECMI, “Organizing The Migrants’ Families,” The Pastoral and Social
Care of Migrants and their Families, (Manila: CBCP-ECMI, 1995) p. 6)Care of Migrants and their Families, (Manila: CBCP-ECMI, 1995) p. 6)
Heart and CenterHeart and Center
conciousness

4. ““According to a recent surveyAccording to a recent survey
conducted by theconducted by the NSCBNSCB, both Filipino, both Filipino
men and women rankedmen and women ranked families asfamilies as
their primary source of happinesstheir primary source of happiness..
Health ranked second and religionHealth ranked second and religion
ranked third. Income or financialranked third. Income or financial
security only ranked 9th and politics…”security only ranked 9th and politics…”
(http://thelivingrice.blogspot.com/2010/11/survey-says-family-is-no-1-(http://thelivingrice.blogspot.com/2010/11/survey-says-family-is-no-1-
source-of.html)source-of.html)
Source of HappinessSource of Happiness
Happiness and pain, important but…

5. Our Internal FlameOur Internal Flame
Each of us hasEach of us has
an internalan internal
flame thatflame that
represents therepresents the
condition of ourcondition of our
hearts andhearts and
soulssouls
Examine, external, choice,, roar,, low, not
cared for, we look outside

6. Why are we attractedWhy are we attracted
to super heroes?to super heroes?
They are extra-They are extra-
ordinary people doingordinary people doing
extra-ordinary thingsextra-ordinary things

7. Children are in need of parentsChildren are in need of parents
who will do ordinary things,who will do ordinary things,
extraordinarily.extraordinarily.
Not confined, even in the ordinary or
difficult, Max’s

8. We can be heroes to ourWe can be heroes to our
children resulting to anchildren resulting to an
incredible familyincredible family
Imperfect, indi talents and powers,
suppressed…, shine…

9. Gideon (Judges 6)Gideon (Judges 6)
 When the angel of the LORD appeared to Gideon,When the angel of the LORD appeared to Gideon,
he said, “he said, “The LORD is with you, mighty warriorThe LORD is with you, mighty warrior.”.”
 The LORD turned to him and said, “The LORD turned to him and said, “Go in theGo in the
strength you havestrength you have and save Israel out of Midian’sand save Israel out of Midian’s
hand. Am I not sending you?”hand. Am I not sending you?”
 Pardon me, my lord,” Gideon replied, “but how can IPardon me, my lord,” Gideon replied, “but how can I
save Israel? My clan is thesave Israel? My clan is the weakestweakest in Manasseh,in Manasseh,
and I am theand I am the leastleast in my family.”in my family.”
 The LORD answered, “The LORD answered, “I will be with youI will be with you, and you will, and you will
strike down all the Midianites, leaving none alive.”strike down all the Midianites, leaving none alive.”
hightlight

10. 1. Dare to1. Dare to lloveove uunconditionallynconditionally
CChoosing to love, period!hoosing to love, period!
Understand,

11. What True Love is (1 Cor. 13)What True Love is (1 Cor. 13)
Love never gives up.Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn't want what it doesn't have.Love doesn't want what it doesn't have.
Love doesn't strut,Love doesn't strut,
Doesn't have a swelled head,Doesn't have a swelled head,
Doesn't force itself on others,Doesn't force itself on others,
Isn't always "me first,"Isn't always "me first,"
Doesn't fly off the handle,Doesn't fly off the handle,

12. ContinuationContinuation
Doesn't keep score of the sins of others,Doesn't keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn't revel when others grovel,Doesn't revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,Never looks back,
But keeps going to the endBut keeps going to the end
No ifs or buts, safe, nurturing, amnesia,
not emotions, a CHOICE!

13. The incredible love of a FatherThe incredible love of a Father
Who do you want to be?

14. 2. Choose2. Choose your battlesyour battles
Do not fight for your right, fight for theDo not fight for your right, fight for the
relationship.relationship. Do not fight every battle

15. Balance is the naBalance is the name of the gameme of the game
Firm, let go, balancleneint-protectiveed
parenting,

16. Bringing BalanceBringing Balance
Which one to tolerate, and whichWhich one to tolerate, and which
one will need special attentionone will need special attention
Which is safe to let go, and whichWhich is safe to let go, and which
one is definite no.one is definite no.
Establish your priorities (H.E.S.)Establish your priorities (H.E.S.)
Know where to loosen upKnow where to loosen up
Have wisdomHave wisdom

17. 3. B3. Be aware of our Dark Sidee aware of our Dark Side
There are both gooThere are both good and bad in us and it will bed and bad in us and it will be
reflected in how we parent our childrenreflected in how we parent our childrenNo perfect f. , we project what we do not
like

18. We can all step-up into greatnessWe can all step-up into greatness
Issues power play, rejection. Intimacy,
hurts

19. RUACHRUACH
RR-ealizing-ealizing
UU-nderstanding-nderstanding
AA-ccepting-ccepting
CC-hanging-hanging
HH-ealing-ealing
Spill over, next generation

20. 4. Have your4. Have your own Super Heroesown Super Heroes
Choosing our own version of heroes andChoosing our own version of heroes and
making God our ultimate heromaking God our ultimate heroNo manual, , how we learn, hit and miss

21. Heroes will need heroesHeroes will need heroes
themselvesthemselves
Learn from othersLearn from others
Have a rabbit to followHave a rabbit to follow
Calibrate accordinglyCalibrate accordingly
Seek help if neededSeek help if needed

22. 5. L5. Live an empowered lifeive an empowered life
Live and model the kiLive and model the kind of life you wantnd of life you want
your children to live.your children to live.

23. ClosingClosing
When we become heroes toWhen we become heroes to
our children, they becomeour children, they become
heroes to others as well.heroes to others as well.
.

24. John 10:10 (The Message)John 10:10 (The Message)
““I came so they canI came so they can
have real and eternalhave real and eternal
life, more and betterlife, more and better
life than they everlife than they ever
dreamed of.”dreamed of.”