This was a training that I did with new members who were coming onboard with our Ministry Team. The first section uses a Family Systems approach to leadership. At our church we desire that leaders model the culture by three characteristics: (1) Affirmation - which is each member of the Leadership Team is for the success of others. (2) Expectation - Each member of the team has the courage to be realistic concerning the facts of a particular situation but they engage it with Hope. (3) Honor - Each member of the team are committed to treating others with dignity, grace, respect, and truth.

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We Are A Community of Honor
"Let me give you a new command: Love
one another. In the same way I loved you,
you love one another. This is how
everyone will recognize that you are my
disciples—when they see the love you
have for each other." (John 13:34-35, The
Message)

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The Results of Honor:
• God's Response to Honoring Him
“Therefore, the LORD, the God of Israel,
says: I promised that your branch of
the tribe of Levi would always be my
priests. But I will honor those who
honor me, and I will despise those who
think lightly of me." (I Samuel 2:30,
NLT)

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The Fruit of Living with Honor
“By humility and the fear of the LORD
Are riches (wealth) and honor and
life." (Proverbs 22:4, NKJV)

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The encouragement to Honor
one another
• "Love each other as brothers and
sisters and honor others more than you
do yourself."
(Romans 12:10, CEV)

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The Bond we share flourishes in
an atmosphere of Honor
"If one part suffers, all the parts suffer
with it, and if one part is honored, all the
parts are glad." (I Corinthians 12:26, NLT)

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Functional Definitions of Honor
In the New Testament carries the idea of
something so valuable that is held as
precious, prized, cherished, treasured,
valuable, and very dear. It is to respond
to someone with great esteem and
respect and to treat them like valued
treasure.

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Contemporary Cultural
Perspective:
“Almost all of our relationships begin
and most of them continue as forms of
mutual exploitation, a mental or physical
barter, to be terminated when one or
both parties run out of goods.”
-Wiston Auden.

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Two Spheres of Life that our Relationships
would be Transformed by Living with Honor

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God Creates Man and then woman out of
man "one flesh" Union (Genesis 2:24)
This bond is a system of Health, Loyalty,
and Stability

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White blood cells determine mine/not mine.
"Honor your father and your mother, as the
LORD your God has commanded you, so that
you may live long and that it may go well with
you in the land the LORD your God is giving
you" (Duet. 5:16, NIV)
The blessing of a child honoring their father and
mother:
1.Long-Life
2. Healthy and whole
3. Stability

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"If you insult your father or mother,
your light will be snuffed out in total darkness."
(Proverbs 20:20, NLT)
1. This child will have no purpose.
2. This child will have no spirit or wind. He/she will
just hang out.
C. Parents as Gatekeepers
The father strengthens the moral immune system of the
child "maintaining the internal structure" of the child.
Father as Gatekeeper "Husbands give honor to your
wives" (I Peter 3:7)
Violations of the bonds become the greatest source of
feeding rebellion.

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"Fathers, do not embitter your
children, or they will become
discouraged."
(Colossians 3:20-22, NIV)
Acceptance is not approval.

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Honor Does Three Things
Honor Keeps Commitments:
•"And may you treat me with the faithful love
of the Lord as long as I live. But if I die, treat
my family with this faithful love, even when
the Lord destroys all your enemies from the
face of the earth.”
(I Samuel 20:14-15, NLT)

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Second Dynamic Honor Creates
“Honor Creates a Place in which people who
walk with a limp receive Love, Acceptance
and Forgiveness..!””

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“”Forgiveness is the name of love practiced among
people who love poorly. The hard truth is that all
people love poorly. We need to forgive and be
forgiven every day, every hour increasingly. That is
the great work of love among the fellowship of the
weak that is the human family.”
― Henri J.M. Nouwen

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Third Dynamic Honor Creates
• Honor Lovingly Restores People to their Destiny &
Purpose!
• "All that my master the king has ordered his servant,"
answered Ziba, "your servant will surely do." And
Mephibosheth ate at David's table, just like one of the
royal family. Mephibosheth also had a small son named
Mica. All who were part of Ziba's household were now
the servants of Mephibosheth. Mephibosheth lived in
Jerusalem, taking all his meals at the king's table. He
was lame in both feet."
(2 Samuel 9:11-13, The Message)

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 Grasp your Significance
 Act with honor intentionally
 Honor all relationships both Biological and Relational
 Make Your Home a Place of Honor
 Honor all those in authority.

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