A psychologist's guide to EQ (emotional intelligence). Why it is important and how to hack it. Presenting 7 psychological hacks for EQ

1. Hacking Emotional Intelligence:
Psychologist’s guide to EQ
Patrycja Slawuta, M.A., PhD(c) Psych
SelfHackathon
@Patrycja_NYC

2. Hello Human
Human = social animal
(Aronson)
Brain = wired to connect
(Lieberman)
Body = wired to connect
(Levine)

3. Fundamental human need
TO BE:
• Seen
• Accepted/Belong
• Felt
• Heard

4. When soul hurts

5. Human Connection
• Fear Most
• Desire Most

6. • Shame
• Humiliation
• Loneliness
• Disconnect
• Depression
My research:
When fear > connection

7. • 7 MindHacks
How do we connect?

8. Emotional Intelligence
• Recognize emotions in self & other
• Regulate
• Motivate

9. MindHack #1
Name it to tame it

10. MindHack #2

11. MindHack #3
Never eat alone

12. MindHack #4
Circle of Safety

13. MindHack #5
Get curious

14. 36 Questions

15. MindHack #6
Emotions are contagious
Show up in:
Your Dark
Your Light

16. “wonderful people are
made, ….not born”

17. Practice
MindHack #7

18. The trust equity
“Attention is the rarest and
purest form of generosity.”
Simone Weil

19. World Happiness Report
2014
Two biggest factors of happiness &
wellbeing:
*Social Support
*Generosity

20. Thank you!
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