The document discusses the challenges faced by teachers in managing student behavior, highlighting various case studies of difficult students over the years. It reflects on changing behavioral issues in schools from minor breaches in the past to serious problems like bullying and disruption. The author describes their experiences with specific students, emphasizing the importance of understanding their backgrounds and the necessity of adapting teaching methods to address behavioral challenges.

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2. CONTENTS 内容
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I. Difficult Ones, Defiant Ones
困难者、反抗者
II. WhatsApp Messages to Reflect On Again &
Again
值得反复反思的 WhatsApp 消息
III. Two Thought-Provoking Tales ~ Reflections
两个发人深省的故事〜反思
37
IV Emails, Facebook, WhatsApp and the Dhamma
电子邮件、 Facebook 、 WhatsApp 和佛法
50
V These Teachers … ‘Why Like That One?’
这些老师…… 他们为什么会这样？
60
VI A Trip to a Mental
Hospital
精 神 病 院 之 旅

3. 1
困难者、反抗者

4. 2
In all my schooling years from standard one to form six in the
1950s and 1960s, as far as I could remember there wasn’t any
serious case of discipline problems. Of course, there were
some minor breaches of discipline like coming to school
late, forgetting to wear the school badge, passing up
homework late, talking during lessons, forgetting to bring
required books, quarreling and at worst a few not so serious
cases of fighting. Today things have changed drastically.
We hear of big discipline cases in school like bullying,
extortion, drug abuse, pornography, aggression and violence
and so on.
I could recall that from the 1990s onwards there had been an
increasing number of discipline problems among my students
and also those of my teacher friends. I shall write about some
of the difficult ones, the defiant ones using fictitious names to
protect their identity.
在我的所有学年中，从标准一年级到 20 世纪 50 年代
和
1960 年代的大学预科，据我所知，没有发生过任何严重
的纪律问题。 当然，也有一些轻微的违纪行为，比如迟
到、忘记佩戴校徽、迟交作业、上课说话、忘记带书
本、争吵，最严重的是一些不太严重的打架斗殴。 今
天，情况发生了巨大变化。 我们听说学校发生了欺凌、
勒索、吸毒、色情、侵略和暴力等重大违纪案件。
我记得从 20 世纪 90 年代开始，我的学生和我的老师朋
友中的纪律问题越来越多。 我将讲述一些困难的人，那
些使用虚构名字来保护自己身份的挑衅者。

5. 3
I once had an Indian student in my remove class who posed a
great challenge to me in my teaching. Chandran was not only
talkative in class but he also was creating a lot of disturbance
to others. He would walk around the lab, disturbing others
and playing with some lab apparatus. I tried to counsel him
but it did not work. A few times I called him to the front and
caned him on his outstretched hand. But each time after one
or two strokes of the cane, he would stretch out his hand
again and say, “Cikgu, lagi, lagi!” (“Sir, more, more!”). I
gave up using the cane. I decided to probe Chandran’s
family background. He came from the estate and there were
nine children with both his parents struggling to eke out a
living. I realized that the root of the problem was that
Chandran was crying out for attention, care and love which he
lacked at home.
我的班上曾经有一位印度学生，他给我的教学带来了很大
的挑战。 钱德兰不仅在课堂上喋喋不休，而且还给别人
制造了很多麻烦。 他会在实验室里走来走去，打扰其他
人并摆弄一些实验室仪器。 我试图劝告他，但没有效
果。 有几次我把他叫到前面，用棍子打他伸出的手。 但
每次杖打一两下后，他就会再次伸出手，说：“ Cikgu 、
lagi 、 lagi ！” （“先生，更多，更多！”）。 我放弃了使
用拐杖。 我决定调查一下钱德兰的家庭背景。 他来自庄
园，有九个孩子，他的父母都在勉强维持生计。 我意识
到问题的根源在于钱德兰迫切需要关注、关心和爱，而这
是他在家里所缺乏的。

6. 4
I changed my strategy of dealing with him in class. I spoke to
him, gave him more attention, made him an assistant monitor in
my class with specific duties and responsibilities. I would
praise him and reward him for his good work and good
example to others. From that day on, I had no problem with
Chandran.
Mr. Ang was a good teacher friend of mine. He was a most
dedicated and conscientious teacher. He was strict and took
steps to check any breach of discipline among his students.
One thing he viewed seriously was any cheating in
examinations. On one occasion he caught right under his
nose two students cheating in an examination in his Form 4
class. He immediately gave the culprits zero mark for their
paper. A few days later, Mr. Ang had his house gate locked up
and some paint splashed on to his house porch area.
我改变了在课堂上对付他的策略。 我和他交谈，给予他更
多的关注，让他成为我班上的助理班长，承担具体的职责
和责任。 我会赞扬他并奖励他的出色工作和为他人树立的
榜样。 从那天起，我对钱德兰就不再有任何问题了。
洪先生是我的一位好师友。 他是一位最敬业、最尽责的老
师。 他很严厉，并采取措施检查学生中任何违反纪律的行
为。 他认真对待的一件事是考试作弊。 有一次，他在他
的中四班考试中发现了两名学生作弊。 他立即给罪犯的论
文打了零分。 几天后，洪先生的家门被锁上了，一些油漆
溅到了他家的门廊上。

7. 5
The night before, fire crackers were thrown into his house
compound causing a terrible fright to his baby. Of course,
suspicion fell upon the 2 culprits he had punished. A police
report was made but I cannot remember the final outcome.
It is unbelievable that illicit sex can happen among students
right in a school classroom. One of my friends teaching in a
neighboring school told me of one such case. Two of her
Form 5 students in her co-ed school were caught having
sex in a classroom one Sunday afternoon. There was a
tip off by someone to the headmaster who immediately
went to the school to investigate. He must have got the
shock of his life at what he saw. Disciplinary action was
taken. I am not sure whether the students were expelled or
one of them transferred out to another school subsequently.
前一天晚上，有人将鞭炮扔进他的家中，把他的孩子吓
坏了。 当然，嫌疑人落在了他所惩罚的两名罪犯身上。
已向警方报案，但我不记得最后的结果。
令人难以置信的是，非法性行为竟然发生在学校教室
里。 我的一位在邻近学校任教的朋友向我讲述了这样一
个案例。 一个周日下午，她所在的男女混合学校的两名
中五学生被发现在教室里发生性关系。 有人向校长举
报，校长立即前往学校调查。 他一定对他所看到的感到
震惊。 已采取纪律处分。 我不确定这些学生是否被开
除， 或者其中一名学生随后被转学到另一所学校。

8. 6
For many years I used to be the supervisor for the MCE and HSC
external Cambridge practical examinations in Chemistry. I was
very particular and careful when it came to matters like
preparation, set-up of the lab places, safety and security in order to
maintain the integrity of the examination. Prior to the day of the
examination, I would ensure that all windows and doors were
properly closed and locked up, all open wire mashing areas
covered up and so on. The whole surrounding area of the labs
was made out of bounds to students and unauthorized
persons. Despite all the security measures taken, there was
one year when the chemistry lab was nearly broken into. I had
already prepared all the things and set up the places on the lab
benches. I ensured that no student could have a prior look at the
apparatus and chemicals to be used for the examination the
following morning.
多年来，我一直担任 MCE 和 HSC 外部剑桥化学实践考
试的导师。 在准备、实验室场所的设置、安全和安保等
问题上，我都非常谨慎和谨慎，以保持考试的完整性。
在考试当天之前，我会确保所有门窗都正确关闭和锁好，
所有裸露的电线捣碎区域都被覆盖等等。 实验室的整个
周边区域禁止学生和未经授权的人员进入。 尽管采取了
所有的安全措施，但还是有一年化学实验室几乎被闯
入。我已经准备好了所有的东西，并在实验台上布置好
了位置。 我确保没有学生可以提前查看第二天早上考试
所用的仪器和化学品。

9. 7
The night before the exam, some ‘desperate’ and dishonest
ones cut the wire meshing above the windows and made holes
through the black cloth in an attempt to get into the lab or
have a peep inside. They ran off when the school security
guards saw them and shouted. Unfortunately, they were not
caught. The next morning, when I learnt about this
despicable act, I lodged a report with the authorities. I did not
think the culprits could see the inside of the lab in the
darkness of the night.
考试前一天晚上，一些“绝望”和不诚实的人剪断了窗户上
方的铁丝网，并在黑布上打了洞，试图进入实验室或窥视
里面。 当学校保安看到他们并大喊大叫时，他们逃跑
了。 不幸的是，他们没有被抓住。 第二天早上，当我得
知这一卑鄙行为后，我向有关部门报案。 我没想到凶手
能在漆黑的夜色中看到实验室的内部。
I first knew Kwai Giat when he was 5 years old and attending
our pre-school community class at our Buddhist Association. I
used to go in the morning (I had by then gone on optional
retirement) to the Association to help in some administrative
matters and do some cleaning and housekeeping work.
我第一次认识 Kwai Giat 是在他 5 岁的时候，当时他正
在我们佛教协会参加学前社区课程。 我过去常常早上去
协会（那时我已经选择退休）帮助处理一些行政事务并
做一些清洁和家政工作。

10. 8
Whenever I met Kwai Giat at the Association he would
sometimes pinch me in the stomach or give me one of the
martial arts’ kicks left and right. He would also do this to other
people. Over the years Kwai Giat was associated with us
through the community classes and camps, he proved to be a
difficult student to handle. He was restless, easily bored, lacked
motivation and would from time to time, breach class rules and
regulations. On one occasion Kwai Giat even broke his leg
through fooling around with other boys and trying ‘martial
arts’ tricks. However, I never gave up on him. I kept on
advising and counseling him and this paid off eventually.
Today Kwai Giat is a more matured and sober young man and
I believe he would be successful in his career.
每当我在协会遇到桂吉时，他有时会捏我的肚子，或者左
右踢我一脚。 他也会对其他人这样做。 多年来， Kwai
Giat 通过社区课程和夏令营与我们交往，事实证明他是一
个很难对付的学生。 他焦躁不安，容易感到无聊，缺乏动
力，时不时地违反班规。 有一次，桂吉亚甚至因为和其他
男孩鬼混、尝试“武术”而摔断了腿。 然而，我从未放弃过
他。 我不断地给他提供建议和辅导，最终得到了回报。如
今的桂甲已经是一个更加成熟、清醒的年轻人，我相信他
会在事业上取得成功。

11. 9
One of the most difficult cases I have ever encountered in my
teaching career involved a student whom I shall call Kwee
Kia. He was in Secondary 2 when he was sent by his parents
to our community motivation and self-development class
in our Association. Right from the beginning, Kwee Kia
behaved in a most unruly and gangster-like manner. He was
rude, used foul language, noisy in class and caused chaos in
the class by disturbing others. My lessons were disrupted by
Kwee Kia; he had no interest or motivation to learn at all.
Many teachers who also had similar problems with him had
counseled him but to no avail. I too on my part failed in the
counseling sessions. Sometimes a teacher has to ignore a
problematic student for the sake of teaching the others keen
to learn. For me this did not work because Kwee Kia refused
to remain quiet; he would move around the class trying to
disrupt the lessons.
我在教学生涯中遇到的最困难的案例之一涉及一位我称
之为 Kwee Kia 的学生。 当他读中二时，他的父母将他
送到我们协会的社区激励和自我发展课程。 从一开
始， Kwee Kia 就表现得非常不守规矩，像流氓一样。
他在课堂上粗鲁、粗言秽语、吵闹、扰乱他人， 造成
课堂混乱。 我的课程被 Kwee Kia 打乱了； 他根本没有
学习的兴趣或动力。 很多也有类似问题的老师都曾对他
进行过辅导，但都没有效果。 我自己在咨询过程中也失
败了。 有时，老师为了教其他热衷于学习的学生而不得
不忽略有问题的学生。 对我来说这不起作用，因为 Kwee
Kia 拒绝保持沉默； 他会在班级里走来走去，试图扰
乱课堂秩序。

12. 10
I remember one occasion when I lost my cool…I had not lost
my temper for the last 30 years of teaching. That morning as
usual, before starting the lesson in my community class, I
started to lead the class in the usual Buddhist prayers done at
our Buddhist Association. The students were children of the
Association members. Before I began, I reminded the class to
be respectful. If any student did not wish to pray I told them
that it was alright. I did not believe in force. He or she just had
to remain silent while the prayer session was on. I turned to
face the shrine, with my back facing the students. I had hardly
recited the prayers for 5 minutes when I heard the disturbing
noise from Kwee Kia. He was speaking loudly to a girl
standing a distance away. The disturbance was unbelievable.
我记得有一次我失去了冷静……在过去 30 年的教学生涯
中，我没有发过脾气。 那天早上，像往常一样，在社区课
程开始上课之前，我开始带领全班同学进行我们佛教协会
通常进行的佛教祈祷。 这些学生都是协会成员的孩子。
在开始之前，我提醒全班同学要尊重。 如果有学生不想祈
祷，我告诉他们没关系。 我不相信武力。 在祈祷会进行
时，他或她必须保持沉默。 我转身面向神社，背对着学生
们。 我刚背诵完祈祷文 5 分钟，就听到了 Kwee Kia 发
出的令人不安的噪音。 他正对着远处站着的一个女孩大声
说话。 骚乱令人难以置信。

13. 11
For the first time ever, I stopped in the midst of the prayers and
turned to face Kwee Kia. I explained clearly to him the
disrespectful wrong he had committed and asked him not to
repeat this offence. I then resumed with the prayers, this time
facing the class so that I could keep an eye on Kwee Kia. To
my shock, Kwee Kia did not heed my advice. He continued
with his unruly behavior and talking. This was when I lost my
temper. I stopped the prayer again and asked Kwee Kia to
come in front. He answered rudely in Chinese, “I will not”
and he continued sitting in his place in a most unbecoming
way. The class was shocked when I shouted at Kwee Kia in
the loudest voice one could imagine. I demanded that he got
up to come in front. I think Kwee Kia was for once shocked
at my reaction. Quietly he came forward and sat on the chair
near the teacher’s desk.
我有史以来第一次在祈祷中停下来， 转身面对 Kwee
Kia 。 我向他清楚地解释了他所犯下的不尊重的错误，并
要求他不要再犯同样的罪行。 然后我继续祈祷，这次面
向全班同学，这样我就可以留意 Kwee Kia 。 令我震惊
的是， Kwee Kia 没有听从我的建议。 他继续他不守规矩
的行为和说话。 这时候我就发脾气了。 我再次停止祈
祷，并请 Kwee Kia 到前面来。 他用中文粗鲁地回答：
“我不会。” 然后他继续以最不恰当的方式坐在自己的位
置上。 当我用人们能想象到的最大声音对 Kwee Kia 喊
叫时，全班同学都震惊了。 我要求他起身到前面来。 我
想 Kwee Kia 第一次对我的反应感到震惊。 他静静地
走上前，坐在老师讲台旁边的椅子上。

14. 12
After finishing the prayer, I conducted the lesson with Kwee Kia
isolated from the rest.
Teaching Kwee Kia’s class that year was really trying. Even talking
with
his parents had no effect. Well, I had to do the best I could. A difficult
and defiant student posed a tremendous challenge to the teachers. The
following year Kwee Kia dropped out of the community class. Many
teachers heaved a great sigh of relief. Not many can be miracle
workers. I have since then lost touch with Kwee Kia.
Reflections
*In life we meet with ‘saints’ and we meet with ‘devils’. Being a
teacher can be most challenging.
* Being caring, patient, compassionate and understanding the true
nature of things will help one greatly in any social work or reaching out
to people with problems.
*Having great expectations or thinking that success will come
always is a wrong view or attitude. One needs just to do the best one
can and accept with wisdom any failure that will sometimes come upon
us.
* Remember: “Winners never quit; quitters never win.”
祈祷结束后，我和 Kwee Kia 一起上课，与其他人隔离。
那年教 Kwee Kia 的课真的很辛苦。 即使与父母交谈也没有效
果。嗯，我必须尽力而为。 一个难相处、挑衅的学生给老师带来
了巨
大的挑战。 第二年， Kwee Kia 退出了社区课程。 不少老师都长
舒了一口气。 能够成为奇迹创造者的人并不多。 从那时起我就
和 Kwee Kia 失去了联系。
反思
*在生活中，我们会遇到“圣人”，也会遇到“魔鬼”。 成为一名教师可能是最
具挑战性的。
*关怀、耐心、富有同情心和理解事物的真实本质将极大地帮助一个人从事
任何社会工作或帮助有问题的人。
*抱有很大的期望或认为成功总会到来是错误的观点或态度。 一个人只需要
尽力而为，并以智慧接受有时会发生在我们身上的任何失败。
* 记住 :“ 成功者永不放弃； 放弃者永远不会获胜。”

15. 13
值得反复反思的 WhatsApp 消
息

16. 14
Dear Ah Heng,
Hope you’re coping well, getting along
peacefully.
The more Dhamma you SEE, the more
joyful you’ll be.
Here is some Dhamma food to digest mindfully:
“Inherent in Anicca is uncertainty.
Of the future why then speculate or worry?”
“If the mind is in the NOW, it’ll be more stress-free.
There are times we must let things go or let them be.”
“Cultivate a good heart, a clear mind constantly.
For this, Walk the Eight-Fold Path most diligently.”
“With good Dhamma practice, may you lessen Dukkha.
May you attain the peace and bliss of Nibbana.”
亲爱的阿恒：
希望你能顺利应对，和平相处。
你看到的法越多，你就会越快乐。
以下是一些需要正念消化的法食：
“无常的本质就是不确定性。
那么为什么还要猜测或担心未来
呢？”
“ 如果头脑处于当下，就会更加没有压力。
有时我们必须放手，或者顺其自然。”
“ 培养一颗善良的心，时刻保持清醒的头脑。
为此，要最精进地走八正道。”
“ 通过良好的佛法修行，愿你减少苦。
愿你获得涅槃的快乐与平静。”

17. 15
Dear Sujata,
I hope this message finds you
in the very best of health,
May you strive on ardently
to increase
your ‘Dhamma Wealth’.
“All sorts of thoughts in the mind pop up all the time.
With Right Effort, train ardently the ‘monkey mind’.”
“Dispel all thoughts within of the unwholesome kind.
Bar unskillful thoughts entering the mind that’s thine.”
“You’ve good thoughts in the mind of the Dhamma
Sublime.
Keep nurturing them, they are a true ‘Treasure
Mine’.”
亲爱的苏嘉塔，
我希望这条消息能让您身体健康，
愿你热心努力，增加你的‘法财富’。 “脑
子里时时刻刻都会冒出各种各
样的想法。
以正精进，热心训练‘猴心’。” “消
除内心一切不善念头。
禁止不善巧的念头进入你的心。”
“你在圣法的心中有善念。
继续培育他们，他们是真正的‘宝
矿’。”

18. 16
“Invite more Dhamma matters that’re so good and
fine.
Before long you’ll realize a Peace and Bliss that
shine.”
“ 邀请更多如此美好的法事。
不久你就会体会到闪耀的和平与幸福。”
Dear Friends in the Dhamma,
Hope all is great for you in life’s test
after test.
“Whether it is in the East or the
West,
many crave for worldly wealth and
success.”
“Contemplate well this sort of mundane quest.
It can bring one DIS-EASE and undue stress.”
“Unwise ones overwork to beat the rest.
Beware, such fools get into a real mess!”
亲爱的佛法朋友们：
希望你在一次又一次的人生考验中一切顺利。
“无论是在东方还是西方，
许多人渴望世俗的财富和成功。”
“好好考虑一下这种平凡的追求。
它会给人带来悲伤、痛苦和过度的压力。”
“不明智的人会过度劳累来击败其他人。
当心，这样的傻瓜会陷入真正的混乱！”

19. 17
“It’s not worth it, Noble Ones will attest.
Expect little, want less, just try your best.”
“ To wrong ways, say ‘NO’, to wise ways
say ‘YES’.
In Dhamma matters wise ones will
invest.”
“When stressed, abide in your REAL
HOME, your nest.
Then you’ll be happy, peaceful, full
of
zest!’”
“ 这不值得，贵族们会证明。
期望少一点，欲望少一点，尽力而为。”
“ 对错误的方式说‘不’，对明智的方式说
‘是’。
明智的人会投资于法事。”
“ 当有压力时，呆在你真正的家，你的巢穴里。
然后你就会快乐、平静、充满热情！’”

20. 18
Dear Friends in The Sublime Dhamma,
Here’s hoping your mind is happy
and clear.
Sublime Dhamma matters may you
hold dear.
“All conditioned things arise and fall away.
Anicca’s a fact, all come under its sway.”
“ ‘Do not crave, attach and cling’, the Wise Ones say.
Be with the NOW to keep suffering at bay.”
“Watch the mind moment to moment of the day.
Wait not to learn Dhamma coz you’ll soon turn gray.”
亲爱的圣法朋友们：
希望您的头脑快乐且清晰。
愿你珍惜圣法。
“ 一切有为法生起又灭去。
无常是事实，一切都受它的影响。” “‘不
要贪爱、执着和执着’，智者说。活在当
下，远离痛苦。”
“ 时刻注意心灵。
不要等待，不要学习佛法，因为你很快就
会变白。

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“Reflect on this: No ‘I’, “Me’, ‘Mine’, ‘You’ or
‘They’.
For true peace, the EGO or SELF you must slay.”
“Your speech, acts and thoughts …attention you
must pay.
Walk The Middle Way and you will be OK.”
When Dhamma messages are actualized
mindfully,
we will realize that life can be lived more
peacefully.
“Joy, Peace, Bliss and Wisdom will then
come
your way.
Before long, you’ll attain Nibbana, Yeah
Yeah!"
“ 反思一下：没有‘我’、‘我’、‘我的’、‘你’或‘他们’。
为了真正的和平，你必须消灭自我或自我。”
“你的言语、行为和想法……你必须注意。 走
中道，你就会没事的。”
当正念地实践佛法讯息时，
我们会意识到生活可以更加平静。
“ 然后喜悦、和平、幸福和智慧就会来到你身边。
不久之后，你就会证得涅槃，耶耶！”

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Dear Melvin,
I hope you’re coping well when there’s Dukkha.
Dukkha … no worldling can escape this lah!
To check Dukkha, Dhamma’s the best by far.
May we all cross soon the Sea of Samsara.
1 “The life you live is what you create in your mind. It
pays to be moral, compassionate and kind.”
2 “Gratitude is a noble quality. Forgiveness
strengthens spirituality.”
3 “You cannot please everybody every time. Realizing
this brings mental peace to your mind.”
4 “There will be some kind of failure before success. What
is important is to keep trying your best.”
亲爱的 Melvin ，
我希望当有苦时你能很好地应对。
苦……凡夫都不能逃脱这个啊！
为了检验苦，法是迄今为止最好
的。 愿我们早日渡过轮回海。
1 “ 你的生活是你在头脑中创造的。 保持道德、富有同情心和
善良是值得的。”
2 、感恩是一种崇高的品质。 宽恕可以增强灵性。”
3 “ 你不可能每次都取悦所有人。 意识到这一点会给你带来精
神上的平静。”
4 、在成功之前，总会有一些失败。 重要的是继续尽力
而为。”

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5Everything you experience will come to
pass. Peacefulness you’ll get realizing things don’t
last.
6Life is uncertain truly. Death visits
everybody. Live righteously and wisely.
7What matters truly is Compassion and Wisdom
in the mind.
These two noble qualities will lead to Peace and Truth
Sublime.
8The Past cannot be altered or brought back.
The Future is uncertain – it’s a fact.
LIVE in the NOW – Profound Peace you will get.
9Avoid Evil, Do Good And Purify The Mind.
This will lead to Peace and Bliss of the highest kind.
10你所经历的一切都会发生。 你会意识到事情不会持
久，感到平静。
11生活确实是不确定的。 死亡降临到每个人身上。 正义
而明智地生活。
12真正重要的是心中的慈悲与智慧。
这两种崇高的品质将带来和平与崇高的真理。
8过去无法改变，也无法重现。 未来是不确定的——这
是事实。
活在当下——你将获得深刻的平静。
9 、诸恶莫作，众善奉行，净化心
灵。这将带来最高的和平与幸福。

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Cheng Sim! How are you doing living at
your home base?
I hope that you are quite peaceful in
your living space.
It is wise not to be caught up in the mad
rat race.
Watch your mind… of every unwise thought you must
erase.
Make your Buddha mind your true refuge, a peaceful
place. With a strong, tranquil, wise mind, all problems
you can face.
Inevitable things, wise ones peacefully embrace.
This will happen to you, if Dhamma teachings you
chase.
The time spent learning the good Dhamma is not
a
waste!
郑心！ 您在家乡的生活怎么样？
我希望您的生活空间非常平静。
明智的做法是不要卷入疯狂的老
鼠赛跑。
注意你的思想……你必须消除每一个不明智的想法。
让你的佛心成为你真正的皈依处，一个宁静的地方。
拥有一颗坚强、平静、智慧的心，你就能面对所有的问题。
不可避免的事情，智者平静地拥抱。
如果佛法教导你去追逐，这就会发生在你身上。
花时间学习善法并不是浪费！

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I would like to pen my Dhamma thoughts on
“Impermanence”.
“Things arise and then die, at times slow at times fast.
It is Nature, wise ones know it’s not theirs to ask.
Knowing transiency, worldly things - do not amass.
The foolish ones crave, cling, grasp and so strongly lust.
Soon they’ll suffer much, this for sure one can forecast.
It means nothing, your possessions, status, or class.
Even your body, into dust it will be cast.
When your WISDOM SEES that nothing can truly last,
you’d strive to gain qualities that remain steadfast.
‘What is it that’ll go on, not lost or away pass?’
It is your Kamma and the Dhamma unsurpassed.”
我想写下我对“无常”的佛法想法。 “事
物生起又灭去，时慢时快。
这是自然，明智的人知道这不是他们的要求。
知道无常、世俗之事——不要积聚。
愚痴者贪爱、执取、执取，以及如此强烈的贪欲。 很
快他们就会遭受很大的痛苦，这是可以预见的。 你的
财产、地位或阶层都毫无意义。
就连你的身体，也会化为尘土。
当你的智慧看到没有什么可以真正持久时，你就会努
力获得保持坚定的品质。 “什么会继续下去，而不是迷
失或客场传球？”

26. 24
The Art of Success
Success is discovering your best talents,
skills, and abilities
and applying them where they will
make the most
effective contribution to your fellow
men and to yourself.
Longfellow once said, "Success is doing
what you do well and doing well
whatever you do."
Success is mostly a mental attitude. It
calls for
love, excitement, optimism, confidence, humbleness, poise,
faith, courage, cheerfulness, imagination, initiative,
tolerance, honesty, self-control and enthusiasm.
My Reflection
In our life the greatest success is when we make Dhamma our
quest and when we walk the Middle Way to SEE Nibbana's Endless
Day.
成功的艺术
成功就是发现自己最好的才能，
技巧和能力
并将它们应用到能为你的同胞和你自己做出最有效贡献的地方。
朗费罗曾经说过：“成功就是做
你擅长什么，无论做什么都做得很好。”
成功主要是一种心态。 它要求
爱、兴奋、乐观、自信、谦虚、冷静、信念、勇气、快乐、想象力、主
动性、宽容、诚实、自制和热情。
我的反思
在我们的一生中，最大的成功
就是当我们以法为我们的追
求，并走中道以见涅槃的无尽
日时。
With Metta,
Bro. Oh Teik Bin
FOR
YOU
R
REFL
ECTI
ON
供您
反思

27. 25
两个发人深省的故事〜反思

28. 26
Our body is subjected to age, sickness, decay and ultimately
death. This fact of impermanence many do not see or realize.
They spend so much time, money and energy ‘pampering’ the
body at eating places, beauty salons, physical fitness centers,
entertainment outlets, shopping complexes and so on. I do not
mean to imply that we should not take care of the body – we
must of course look after our physical health, but the point is
that many seem to go beyond the limit and are not spending
enough time to develop the mind, something that will follow
us upon death.
We find many people who are in a way ‘obsessed’ with
multiplying their material possessions and wealth and chasing
for power and status. Little do they realize that all these things
are truly transient – they will be separated from their ‘owners’
at any time with no bargaining option.
我们的身体会遭受衰老、疾病、腐烂并最终死亡。 许多
人没有看到或意识到这个无常的事实。 他们花费大量的
时间、金钱和精力去餐饮场所、美容院、健身中心、娱
乐场所、购物中心等“呵护”身体。 我并不是说我们不应该
照顾身体——我们当然必须照顾我们的身体健康，但问
题是，许多人似乎超出了限度，没有花足够的时间来发
展心灵，某些东西。 它将在我们死后跟随我们。
我们发现许多人在某种程度上“沉迷于”增加自己的物质
财产和财富，并追逐权力和地位。 他们几乎没有意识
到，所有这些东西都是短暂的——他们随时都会与“主人
” 分 离 ， 没 有 讨 价 还 价 的 选 择 。
Transient 无常

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The wise realize that more important than all these things are
our true wealth and inheritance – our Kamma and Dhamma.
These follow us from life to life until we are enlightened.
The greater our attachment to our family, relatives and friends,
the greater the dukkha (suffering, pain) we will experience
when the time comes for us to leave everything behind. The
first two verses of the Metta Sutta (Discourse on Loving-
Kindness) have important points for reflection:
He who is skilled in good, and wishes to attain that state of
Peace, should act thus: he should be able, upright, perfectly
upright, amenable to corrections, gentle and humble.
He should be contented, easy to support, not busy, simple in
livelihood, with senses controlled, discreet, not impudent, and
not greedily attached to families.
智者认识到，比所有这些事情更重要的是我们真正的财富
和遗产——我们的业和法。 它们一生一世地跟随我
们，直到我们开悟。
我们对家人、亲戚和朋友的依恋越深，当我们把一切抛在
脑后的时候，我们所经历的苦（ dukkha ）就会越大。
《慈经》的前两偈有值得反思的要点：
善巧者，欲得寂静者，应如是行：能正，正正，能正，
温顺，谦卑。
应当知足、容易供养、不忙碌、生活简单、控制感官、
谨慎、不放肆、不贪恋家庭。

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I remember a Dhamma friend who was a little perturbed by the
words ‘not greedily attached to families’ during our reading of
the English translation after chanting the Metta Sutta. He
asked, “Isn’t it natural that we should love and be attached
to our family? Wouldn’t one be highly irresponsible not to
take care of the family?” I think this friend failed to see the
suffering that will come when there is ‘greedy attachment.’
Of course, one loves the family – but it should be love that is
unconditional, love that has understanding and wisdom. Such
a person takes care of the family with responsibility but at the
same time he still gives time and puts in effort to practice the
Dhamma and develop his mind spiritually for he knows that
ultimately only this will count.
There is a good Dhammapada story with points for reflection
on the foolishness and danger of attachment to possessions and
people.
我记得一位法友在念诵《慈经》后阅读英文译本时，对“不
贪恋家庭”这句话感到有点不安。 他问道：“我们应该爱护我
们的家人，这不是很自然的事吗？ 不照顾家庭不是一种极不
负责任的行为吗？” 我想这位朋友没有看到“贪爱”所带来的痛
苦。当然，一个人爱家庭，但应该是无条件的爱，有理解和
智慧的爱。 这样的人以责任照顾家庭，但同时他仍然投入时
间和精力修习佛法，并在灵性上发展自己的心，因为他知道
最终只有这样才是最重要的。
有一个很好的《法句经》故事，其中的要点让我们反思对财
产和人的执着是愚蠢和危险的。
The root of
Suffering is
Craving and
Attachment.
痛苦的根源是
贪爱和执着。
法句经

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Village of Beggars
It is the story of Ananda, The Rich Man (Verse 62 of Dhammapada):
While residing at the Jetavana monastery, the Buddha uttered Verse
(62) of this book, with reference to a miserly rich man, named
Ananda. There was once a very wealthy man named Ananda in
Savatthi. Although he possessed eighty crores, he was very
reluctant to give anything in charity. To his son, Mulasiri, he used to
say, "Don't think the wealth we have now is very much. Do not give
away anything from what you have, for you must make it grow.
Otherwise, your wealth will dwindle away."
This rich man had five pots of gold buried in his house and he died
without revealing their location to his son.
Ananda, the rich man, was reborn in a village of beggars, not far
from Savatthi. From the time his mother was pregnant, the income
of the beggars decreased; the villagers thought there must be a
wicked and unlucky one amongst them.
这是财主阿难的故事（第 62 节）：
佛陀住在只园寺时，说了此书的偈（ 62 ），提到一位名叫阿难
的吝啬富翁。
从前，舍卫城有一位非常富有的人，名叫阿难。 尽管他拥有八亿
卢比，但他却非常不愿意捐出任何东西用于慈善事业。 他常常对
他的儿子穆拉西里说：“不要认为我们现在拥有的财富很多。不要
放弃你所拥有的任何东西，因为你必须让它增长。否则，你的财
富将会减少。” ”
这位富翁在他的房子里埋了五罐金子，他去世时没有向他的儿子
透露这些金子的位置。
富翁阿难陀转生到离舍卫城不远的一个乞丐村。 自从他母亲怀孕
后，乞丐的收入就减少了； 村民们认为他们当中一定有一个邪恶
而不幸的人。

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By dividing themselves up into groups and by the process of
elimination, they came to the conclusion that the pregnant beggar
woman must be the unfortunate one. Thus, she was driven out of
the village. When her son was born, the son proved to be extremely
ugly and repulsive. If she went out begging by herself, she would
get as before, but if she went out with her son, she would get
nothing. So, when the boy could go out by himself, his mother
placed a small plate in his hand and left him. As he wandered
about in Savatthi, he remembered his old house and his past
existence. So, he went into the house. When the sons of his son
Mulasiri saw him, they were frightened by his ugly looks and
began to cry. The servants then beat him and threw him out of the
house.
The Buddha who was on his alms-round, saw the incident and
asked the Venerable Ananda to fetch Mulasiri.
通过分组和淘汰的过程，他们得出结论：怀孕的乞丐一定是
不幸的人。 就这样，她被赶出了村子。 当她的儿子出生时，
发现这个儿子极其丑陋且令人厌恶。 如果她一个人出去乞
讨，她还能得到像以前一样的东西，但如果她和儿子出去乞
讨，她就什么也得不到了。 所以，当男孩可以自己出去的时
候，他的妈妈就放了一个小
盘子在他手里，就离开了他。 当他在沙瓦提城闲逛时，他想
起了他的老房子和他的前世。 于是，他进了屋。 当他的儿子
穆拉西里的儿子们看到他时，他们被他丑陋的外表吓坏了，
开始哭泣。 仆人们随后殴打了他，并将他赶出了家门。
正在托钵的佛陀看到了这一幕，就请阿难尊者去接穆拉西
里。

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When Mulasiri came, the Buddha told him that the young
beggar was his own father in his previous existence. But
Mulasiri could not believe it. So, the Buddha directed the
beggar boy to show where he had buried his five pots of gold.
Then only, Mulasiri accepted the truth and from that time he
became a devoted lay disciple of the Buddha.
Then the Buddha spoke in verse as follows:
"I have sons, I have wealth"; with this (feeling of
attachment) the fool is afflicted.
Indeed, he himself is not his own, how can sons and wealth
be his? (Verse 62)
当穆拉西里到来时，佛陀告诉他，这个年轻的乞丐是他
前世的亲生父亲。 但穆拉西里无法相信。 于是，佛陀指
示乞丐把他的五罐金子埋在哪里。 直到那时，穆拉西里
接受了真理，从那时起他就成为了佛陀的虔诚在家弟
子。
尔时，佛陀以偈颂说如下：
“ 我有儿子，我有财富”； 愚人因有此（执着感）而受
苦。确实，他自己都不是他自己的，儿子和财富怎么可
能是他的呢？ （第 62 节）
Some years ago, there was a very good story circulated over
the Internet. It contained very good Dhamma points for
reflection. It was the story of The Four Wives:
几年前，网络上流传着一个非常精彩的故事。 它包含了
非常好的佛法要点供反思。 这是《四个妻子》的故事：

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There was a rich merchant who had four wives. He loved the 4th
wife the most. He adorned her with rich robes and treated her to
delicacies. He took great care of her and gave her nothing but the
best.
He also loved the 3rd wife very much. He was very proud of her
and always wanted to show her off to his many friends.
However, the merchant was always in great fear that she might
run
away with some other men.
He too, loved his 2nd wife. She was a very considerate person,
always patient and in fact was the merchant's confidante.
Whenever the merchant faced some problems, he always turned to
his 2nd wife, and she would always help him out and tide him
through difficult times.
Now, the merchant's 1st wife was a very loyal partner and had
made great contributions in maintaining his wealth and business
as well as taking care of the household.
从前有一个富商，他有四个妻子。 他最爱的是第四任妻子。 他给
她穿上华丽的衣袍，并用美味佳肴招待她。 他无微不至地照顾
她，给了她最好的一切。
他也非常爱第三任妻子。 他为她感到非常自豪，总是想向他的许
多朋友炫耀她。
然而，商人总是很担心她会和其他男人私奔。
他也爱他的第二任妻子。 她是一个非常体贴的人，总是很有耐
心，实际上是商人的红颜知己。 每当商人遇到困难时，他总是向
他的第二任妻子寻求帮助，她总是帮助他度过难关。
现在，商人的第一任妻子是一位非常忠诚的合作伙伴，为维持他
的 财 富 和 生 意 以 及 照 顾 家 庭 做 出 了 巨 大 的 贡 献 。

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However, the merchant did not love the first wife and
although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of her.
One day the merchant fell ill. Before long, he knew that he
was
going to die soon. He thought of his luxurious life, and he
thought to himself, “Now, I have 4 wives with me, but when I
die, I’ll be alone. How lonely I’ll be.” Thus, he asked the 4th
wife, "I loved you most, endowed you with the finest clothing
and showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will
you follow me and keep me company?" "No way!" replied the
4th wife and she walked away without another word. The
answer cut like a sharp knife right into the merchant's heart.
The sad merchant then asked the 3rd wife, "I have loved you
so much for all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you follow
me and keep me company?" "No!" replied the 3rd wife. "Life
is so
good over here! I'm going to remarry when you die!"
然而，商人并不爱第一任妻子，尽管她深爱着他，但他却很
少注意到她。有一天，商人病倒了。 不久之后，他就知道自
己快要死了。 他想起自己奢华的生活，心想：“现在，我身边
有四个妻子，但当我死后，
我会一个人。 我会多么孤独啊。” 于是，他问第四任妻子：
“我最爱你，给你最好的衣服，对你无微不至的照顾。现在我
快要死了，你愿意跟随我，陪伴我吗？” “决不！” 第四
任妻子回答道，然后二话不说就走开了。 这个答案就像一把
锋利的刀子，直刺商人的心。
悲伤的商人问第三个妻子：“我一生都爱你，现在我快要死
了，你会跟随我，陪伴我吗？” “不！” 第三任妻子回答道
。 “ 这 里 的 生 活 真 好 ！ 你 死 后 我 就 再 婚 ！ ”

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The merchant's heart sank and turned cold.
He then asked the 2nd wife, "I always turned to you for help
and you've always helped me out. Now I need your help
again. When I die, will you follow me and keep me
company?" "I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!" replied
the 2nd wife. "At the very most, I can only send you to your
grave." The answer came like a bolt of thunder and the
merchant was devastated. Then a voice called out: "I'll leave
with you. I'll follow you no matter where you go." The
merchant looked up and there was his 1st wife. She was so
skinny, almost like she suffered from malnutrition. Greatly
grieved, the merchant said, "I should have taken much
better care of you while I could have!"
商人的心一沉，变冷了。
然后他问第二个妻子：“我一直向你求助，你也一直帮
助我。现在我又需要你的帮助。当我死的时候，你会跟
随我，陪伴我吗？” “抱歉，这次我帮不了你了！” 第二位
妻子回答道。 “我顶多只能送你进坟墓。” 答案犹如晴天霹
雳，商人彻底崩溃了。
然后一个声音喊道：“我和你一起走，无论你去哪里，我
都会跟着你。” 商人抬头一看，是他的第一任妻子。她瘦
得像营养不良一样。 商人非常伤心地说：“如果我
可以的话，我应该更好地照顾你！”
Husband,
I’ll leave
with you.
老公，我陪
你一起走。

37. 35
Actually, we all have 4 wives in our lives…
The 4th wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we
lavish in making it look good, it’ll leave us when we die.
Our 3rd
wife is our possessions, status and wealth.
When we die, they all go to others.
The 2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how close
they had been there for us when we’re alive, the furthest they can
stay by us is up to the grave.
The 1st
wife – It is something intangible, something you can’t see
- our mind.
The 1st
wife is often neglected in our pursuit of material wealth
and sensual pleasure. It is actually the only thing that follows us
wherever we go.
Perhaps it is a good idea to cultivate and strengthen it now rather
than to wait until we’re on our deathbed when it is too late; we
will then regret, cry and lament.
事实上，我们一生中都有 4 个妻子……
第四个妻子是我们的身体。 无论我们花费多少时间和精力让它看
起来漂亮，当我们死时它都会离开我们。
我们的第三任妻子是我们的财产、地位和财富。
当我们死后，它们都会归于他人。
第二任妻子是我们的家人和朋友。 无论我们活着的时候他们离我
们有多近，他们能陪伴我们最远的距离就是到坟墓为止。
第一个妻子——它是无形的、你看不到的东西——我们的心灵。
在我们追求物质财富和感官享受的过程中，第一任妻子常常被忽
视。 事实上，无论我们走到哪里，它都是唯一跟随我们的东西。
也许现在就培养和加强它是个好主意，而不是等到我们临终时才
为时已晚； 到时候我们就会后悔、哭泣、哀叹。

38. 36
“Even the king’s chariots, so
splendidly adorned, decay.
Alas the body too decays.
But the Dhamma of the good
does not age.”
“ 即使是国王的战车，装饰
得如此华丽，也会腐烂。
唉，身体也腐烂了。 但善法
不会老化。”
The best of paths is The Noble Eightfold Path.
Strive on diligently, walk The Path with heart.
最好的道是八圣道。
努力前行，用心走路。
May you be well, happy
and peaceful.
愿你一切安好，
幸福快乐
With Metta,
Bro. Oh Teik Bin

39. 37
电子邮件、 Facebook 、 WhatsApp 和佛
法

40. 38
Adapted, Updated and Edited from a Chapter I wrote in 2014 for one of my Dhamma
books for free distribution.
改编、更新和编辑自我在 2014 年为免费分发的一本佛法书籍撰写的章节。
In a high-tech society like ours today, a large proportion of
people, both the young and not so young use Emails,
Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Blogger, WordPress, WhatsApp
and many other networking sites.
As I do a lot of postings, mostly educational and Dhamma
material, on various websites and some social media platforms,
I maintain a few Emails, am on Facebook and WhatsApp
mainly for communication and feedback purposes. I receive a
lot of forwarded emails, messages, tags, links and sharing on
Facebook and WhatsApp. The volume can be tremendous. On
Facebook, I have more than 2000 ‘Friends’. I added them
upon request with the hope that a few may view some
of the Dhamma and educational things I post.
在当今像我们这样的高科技社会中，很大一部分人，无论是年轻
人 还 是 不 太 年 轻 的 人 ， 都 使 用 电 子 邮
件、 Facebook 、 Twitter 、 LinkedIn 、 Blogger 、 WordPress 、
WhatsApp 和许多其他社交网站。由于我在各种网站和一些社交
媒体平台上发布了很多帖子，主要是教育和佛法材料，因此我在
Facebook 和 WhatsApp 上保留了一些电子邮件，主要用于沟通
和反馈目的。 我在 Facebook 和 WhatsApp 上收到了大量转发
的电子邮件、消息、标签、链接和分享。 数量可能是巨大的。 在
Facebook 上，我有超过 2000 个“朋友”。 我根据要求添加了它
们，希望一些人可以看到我发布的一些佛法和教育性的东
西。

41. 39
I remember a monk once, more than 20 years ago telling me that most
of the stuff posted on Facebook (and I should now add ‘YouTube’,
‘WhatsApp’ and ‘Tik Tok’) are ‘thrash’ and waste a lot of the users’
time. However, rather than complaining, why not ‘put’ some ‘precious
stones’ (the Dhamma) among the ‘rubbish’ that one finds on the
Facebook (WhatsApp, YouTube and Tik Tok). I thought that makes
sense. Since then, I have been posting educational and Dhamma
material on Facebook, my various Websites, WhatsApp and YouTube
on quite a regular basis for some years already.
Most of the forwarded Emails (and now also WhatsApp Messages) to
me and the things posted on my Facebook page pertain to
* personal photos (one just can’t find time to view so many)
* entertainment - links, video clips of singing, movies, sport
* sensational news * political issues
* business and the commercial world
* travel and tours
* fashion and food * gossip matters
我记得 20 多年前，一位和尚曾经告诉我， Facebook 上发布的
大部 分 内 容 （ 我现在应该添加“ YouTube” 、“ WhatsApp” 和
“ Tik Tok” ）都是“垃圾”，浪费了很多时间。 用户的时间。然
而 ， 与 其 抱 怨 ， 不 如 将 一 些 “ 宝 石 ” （ 佛 法 ） “ 放入”
Facebook （ WhatsApp 、 YouTube 和 Tik Tok ）上发现的“垃圾”
中。 我认为这是有道理的。 从那时起，多年来我一直定期在
Facebook 、我的各个网站、 WhatsApp 和 YouTube 上发布教育
和佛法材料。大多数转发给我的电子邮件（现在还有 WhatsApp
消息）以及我的 Facebook 页面上发布的内容都与
* 个人照片（实在没时间看这么多）
* 娱乐 - 链接、歌曲视频剪辑、电影、体育
* 轰动的新闻 * 政治问题 * 商业和商业世界 * 旅行和游览
* 时尚与美食 * 八卦很重要

42. 40
As one’s time is limited, I have to prioritize what I read, see or
do. To me what matters most is the Dhamma; I skim and scan
the lots of stuff in my emails, Facebook and WhatsApp. Now
and then I do come across some good and beneficial things that
can help the mind to grow in loving-kindness, compassion and
wisdom. I reflect on such posts and sometimes I do power
points and videos based on the material and then post them on
web sites and some social media platforms for easier and a
more appealing reading.
I reproduce here two pieces of very good and thought-
provoking stuff that I received through forwarded emails more
than 10 years ago:
由于时间有限，我必须优先考虑我读到的、看到的或做的
事情。 对我来说最重要的是法； 我浏览并浏览电子邮
件、 Facebook 和 WhatsApp 中的大量内容。 时不时地，
我确实会遇到一些好的、有益的事情，可以帮助心在
慈、悲、智上成长。 我会反思这些帖子，有时我会根据这
些材料制作幻灯片和视频，然后将它们发布到网站和一些
社交媒体平台上，以便更容易、更有吸引力的阅读。
我在这里转载两篇十多年前我通过转发电子邮件收到的非
常好的、发人深省的东西：

43. 41
Interview With the Buddha
I dreamt I had an interview with the Buddha.
"Come in," He said. "So, you would like to interview Me?"
"If You have the time," I said.
The Buddha smiled and said: "For Me, there is no time…
it doesn't exist. What questions do you have in mind to ask
Me?”
"What surprises You most about mankind?" I asked.
The Buddha answered: "That they get bored at being
children, are in a rush to grow up, and then long to be
children again.
That they lose their health to make money and then lose their
money to restore their health.
That by thinking anxiously about the future, they forget the
present, such that they live neither for the present nor the
future.
采访佛陀
我梦见我采访了佛陀。
“ 进来吧，”他说。“那么，你想采访我吗？” “如果
你有时间的话，”我说。
佛陀微笑着说道：“对我来说，没有时间……
它不存在。 你有什么问题想问我？
“ 人类最让你惊讶的是什么？” 我问。
佛陀回答说：“他们厌倦了
孩子们，都急于长大，然后渴望再次成为孩
子。
他们为了赚钱而失去健康，然后又为了恢复
健康而失去金钱。
由于焦虑地思考未来，他们忘记了现在，这样他们既不为现在也
不为未来而活。

44. 42
真理的教训
That they live as if they will never die, and they die as if they
had never lived...”
The Buddha's hands took mine and we were silent for a while
and then I asked ...
“As a Bodhisattva, what are some of life's lessons You want
humans to learn?”
The Buddha replied with a smile: "To learn that they cannot
make anyone love them.
What they can do is to let themselves be loved.
To learn that what is most valuable is not what they have in
their lives, but the lessons in Truth they have in their lives…
To learn that it is not good to compare themselves to others.
All suffer and receive rewards individually on their own
merits, not as a group on a comparison basis!
他们活着就好像他们永远不会死一样，而他们死了就好像
他们从未活过一样……”
佛陀握住我的手，我们沉默了一会儿，然后我问……
“作为菩萨，您希望人类学习哪些人生功课？”
佛陀微笑着回答说：“要知道他们不能让任何人爱他们。他
们能做的就是让自己被爱。
要知道最有价值的不是他们生活中拥有的东西，而是他们
生活中的真理教训……
要知道将自己与他人进行比较是不好的。
所有人都根据自己的优点单独受苦并获得奖励，而不是
作为一个群体在比较的基础上！

45. 43
To learn that a rich person is not the one who has the most,
but is one who needs the least…
To learn that it only takes a few seconds to open profound
wounds in persons we love, and that it takes many years to
heal them…
To learn to forgive by practicing forgiveness…
To learn that there are persons who love them dearly…
but simply do not know how to express or show their
feelings… To learn that money can buy almost anything
thing but happiness…
To learn that two people can look at the same thing and see it
totally differently…
To learn that a true friend is someone who knows everything
about them...and likes them anyway.
要知道富人并不是拥有最多的人，
但他是最不需要的人……
要知道只需要几秒钟就能在我们所爱的人身上留下深刻的伤
口，却需要很多年才能治愈……
通过实践宽恕来学会宽恕……
才知道有人深爱着自己……
但就是不知道如何表达或表达
自己的感受……
要知道金钱几乎可以买到任何
东西，除了幸福……
要知道两个人可以看待同一件事并以完全不同的方式看待
它 ......
要知道真正的朋友是了解他们的一切……并且无论如何都喜
欢他们的人。
生活的满足
原谅
幸福

46. 44
To learn that it is not always enough that they be forgiven by
others, but that they have to forgive themselves…
I sat there for a while enjoying the moment.
I thanked the great Bodhisattva for His time (which was
nonexistent) and for all the wisdom that He left here for me, for
my family and for my friends.
He replied, "Anytime. I'm available, if you'll pardon the
expression, 24 hours a day.
All you have to do is look for Me inside yourself.
That's where I live. I'll answer every time.
People will forget what you say. People will forget what you
do. But people will never forget how you made them feel.”
(This is a fictitious account but there are many good Dhamma teachings
for your reflection.)
要知道仅仅获得他人的原谅并不总是足够的， 还必须原谅自
己……
我坐在那里享受了一会儿。
我感谢伟大的菩萨赐予我时间（那是不存在的），感谢他为我、
我的家人和我的朋友留下的所有智慧。
他回答说：“任何时候。请原谅我这样说，我一天 24 小时都有
空。”
你所要做的就是在你内心寻找我。
那就是我住的地方。 我每次都会回答。
人们会忘记你所说的话。 人们会忘记你所做的事情。
但人们永远不会忘记你给他们带来的感受。”
（这是一个虚构的叙述，但有许多好的佛法教义供
您思考。）
善哉！善哉！善哉！

47. 45
People in Heaven, People in Hell
“I have seen people in heaven, I have seen people in hell.”
The Buddha once made this statement. But how can this be
possible? Isn't heaven a place only for gods, angels and
radiant beings, and hell a place where tormented beings
dwell in constant torture of unimaginable magnitude?
Once, the lord of after-life summoned four people in order to
pass judgment on them and determine their future destiny
according to their individual deeds.
To the first guy, the lord said, "Your records are not bad,
but...... you'll be reborn as a human again for 30 years."
The first guy begged for a few years more, but the lord
refused.
To the second guy, the lord said, "You have been lazy all your
life....... you'll be reborn as a cow for 50 years!"
天堂里的人，地狱里的人
“ 我见过天堂里的人，也见过地狱里的人。”
佛陀曾经说过这样的说法。 但这怎么可能呢？ 难道天堂不是只有
诸神、天使和光明众生居住的地方，而地狱不是一个受苦众生居
住在难以想象的持续折磨中的地方吗？
一次，来世之主召唤了四个人，对他们进行审判，并根据他们
各自的行为决定他们未来的命运。
领主对第一个人说道：“你的记录还不错，但是……三十年后你
会再次投生为人。”
第一个人请求再多几年，但领主拒绝了。
老爷子对第二个人说：“你这辈子都懒了……五十年了，你会投
生为牛！”

48. 46
The second guy became so upset that he broke down and
begged, "Please, please lord, I cannot take it. 50 years is too
long. I promise to be a hard-working cow, but please lessen
my sentence to 25 years."
"All right, all right," the lord said.
On hearing that, the first guy said, "Please, please lord, give
me the extra 25 years that the cow rejected."
"All right then," the lord agreed.
The lord then turned to the third guy and said, "You have
been unfaithful and irresponsible all your life...... you'll be
reborn as a dog for 20 years!"
The third guy broke down and said, "Please, please, I cannot
bear it; 20 years is too long. I'll be a great dog and I'll look
after my master's house faithfully but lessen my sentence to 10
years."
第二个人非常沮丧，他崩溃了，恳求道：“主啊，求求你，我受不
了了。 50 年太长了。我保证会成为一头勤劳的牛，但请把我的
刑期减到 25 年。”
“好吧，好吧，”主说。
第一个人听到这句话后
说道：“主啊，求求你，
再给我那头牛所
拒绝的 25 年。”
“ 那就好吧。”领主同意
了。
领主又对第三个人说道：“你这一生不忠不负责任……二十年你会
投生为一条狗！”
第三个人崩溃了，说道：“拜托，拜托，我受不了了， 20 年太长
了。我会成为一只好狗，忠实地看管我主人的家，但把我的刑
期减到 10 年。”

49. 47
"All right, all right," the lord agreed.
The first guy again came forward and begged. "Please,
please lord, give me the extra 10 years from the dog to me."
The lord gave in again.
Turning to the fourth guy, the lord shook his head and said, "I
am sorry, you had been wicked all your life...... you'll be
reborn in hell for a million years!"
The fourth guy begged for forgiveness, but the lord refused.
But after much persistence, the lord finally decided to lessen
the sentence by a mere 10 years.
The first guy quickly begged, "Please, please lord, give me
that 10 years too."
"All right, all right, you greedy fellow!"
“ 好吧，好吧。”领主同意了。
为首的家伙再次上前哀求。 “求求你，主啊，请给我从狗
到我的额外十年。”
王爷再次屈服。
转向第四个人，领主摇了摇头，道：“对不起，你一生作
恶……你将在地狱中重生一百万年！”
第四个人请求宽恕，但领主拒绝了。 但经过一番坚持，
领主最终决定将刑期仅仅减轻 10 年。
第一个人连忙恳求道：“求求你了，主啊，也给我这十年
吧。”
“ 好 吧 好 吧 ， 你 这 个 贪 心 的 家 伙 ！ ”

50. 48
Hence, the first guy was reborn as a man for 75 years instead
of 30. After taking birth as a human being, he had a
wonderful first 30 years. His life was full of vigor, joy and he
even got married. Then, he had lots of children and had to
spend the next 25 years working extremely hard every day to
put food on the table for his family and pay for his children's
education. His life was no different from that of a cow. His
children grew up and after finishing higher education, they all
got married and worked in faraway places. They were so busy
with work and their own families that they hardly returned
home to visit their poor lonely father.
Therefore, after 25 years of hard work and retiring at 55, the
man became so disillusioned and lonely. He looked after the
empty house with his ageing wife, each day longing for his
children to come home.
因此，第一个人投生为人是 75 年，而不是 30 年。投生为
人后，他度过了美好的前 30 年。 他的生活充满活力、欢
乐，甚至还结婚了。 然后，他有了很多孩子，在接下来的 25
年里，他必须每天极其努力地工作，才能养家糊口并支付孩子
的教育费用。 他的生活与牛没有什么不同。 孩子们长大了，
完成高等教育后，都结婚了，到很远的地方工作了。 他们忙
于工作和家庭，几乎没有回家看望可怜的孤独的父亲。
于是，奋斗了 25 年， 55 岁退休，男人变得如此幻灭和孤
独。他和年迈的妻子一起看守着空荡荡的房子，每天都盼望
着孩子们回家。

51. 49
His next 10 years were no different from that of a dog. When he
was 65, he spent the remaining 10 years of his life angry and
sad. He was suffering from many painful diseases and none of his
children wanted to be near him. Life was hell to him, and he died in
sadness, anger and loneliness.
(Although this is a fictitious story, there are many good Dhamma
Lessons for reflection so that we can learn how to live meaningfully
and die joyfully.
You might want to check out a post I did on an article “Living
Meaningfully, Dying Joyfully” by Ajahn Brahmavamso.
The URL Link:
https://www.slideshare.net/ohteikbin/living-meaningfull
y-dying-
joyfully-by-ajahn-brahmpdf )
接下来的十年，他和一条狗没有什么区别。 当他 65 岁时，他在愤
怒和悲伤中度过了余生的 10 年。 他患有许多痛苦的疾病，他的孩
子们都不想靠近他。 生活对他来说就是地狱，他在悲伤、愤怒和
孤独中死去。
（虽然这是一个虚构的故事，但其中有很多很好的佛法教训可供
反思，让我们能够学习如何有意义地生活和快乐地死去。
您可能想查看我在阿贾恩 · 布拉马瓦姆索 (Ajahn Brahmavamso) 撰
写的《有意义地生活，快乐地死去》一文中发表的文章。
网址链接：
https://www.slideshare.net/ohteikbin/living-meaningously-dying-
joyously-by-ajahn-brahmpdf）
May you practice the Dhamma ardently.
You can then put an end to misery.
愿你精进修习佛法。
然后你就可以结束痛苦。
With Metta,
Bro. Oh Teik Bin

52. 50
这些老师…… 他们为什么会这样？

53. 51
Students talk among themselves and also complain to their
parents about teachers who do not live up to the good name of
their profession. Today we even read in the papers news of
teachers who are guilty of immoral conduct and criminal
action – teachers on drugs, those who have affairs with their
students, involve themselves in gambling and drinking,
commit assaults or homicide and so on. Such teachers tarnish
the image of the teaching profession.
Sometimes I wonder why it is difficult to come upon students
who do not go for any form of private tuition outside their
school hours. Are parents and students losing faith in our
school system as far as teaching-learning is concerned. Are
good teachers getting to be a rare commodity? Undoubtedly
there are still dedicated and competent teachers today but are
they decreasing in number?
学生们互相议论，并向家长抱怨老师不辜负他们职业的
良好声誉。 今天，我们甚至在报纸上看到教师有不道德
行为和犯罪行为的新闻——教师吸毒、与学生发生关
系、参与赌博和酗酒、殴打或杀人等等。 这样的教师有
损教师职业的形象。
有时我想知道为什么很难找到不在课余时间参加任何形
式的私人补习的学生。 就教学而言，家长和学生是否对
我们的学校系统失去信心？ 好老师会成为稀有商品吗？
毫无疑问，今天仍有敬业且有能力的教师，但数量是否
在减少？

54. 52
In the 1950s and 60s when I was a student, most of my
teachers were very responsible and dedicated ones, truly a
credit to their profession. During my teaching career in the
70s, 80s and early 90s, I found that the majority of my
colleagues in the schools I taught in carried out their duties in
quite professional ways. Of course, there were a few cases of
teachers who were a little ‘odd’ and had other teachers and
students asking ‘Why Like That One?’ I remember a few
such teachers.
Mr. Ho Hum Chye (not his real name) was teaching
Mathematics in one of the schools I used to teach in. In his
early thirties, Mr. Ho was thin, of medium height, bespectacled
and of average looks. To be honest, he was quite a
hardworking teacher who knew his Mathematics ‘stuff’
very well. Unfortunately, he had this terrible weakness:
‘an eye’ for pretty girls in any of his classes.
在 20 世纪 50 年代和 60 年代，当我还是一名学生
时，我的大多数老师都是非常负责任和敬业的人，这确实
是他
们职业的荣誉。 在我 70 、 80 、 90 年代初的教学生涯
中，我发现我所任教学校的大多数同事都以相当专业的方
式
履行了自己的职责。 当然， 也有一些老师有点“ 奇
怪”，让其他老师和学生问“为什么喜欢那个？”我记得有几
个这样的老师。
何谦才先生（化名）在我曾经任教的一所学校教数学。
何先生三十出头，身材瘦削，中等身高，戴着眼镜，相
貌一般。 说实话，他是一位非常勤奋的老师，对数学
“ 东西”了如指掌。 不幸的是，他有一个可怕的弱点：对
他 的 任 何 班 级 里 的 漂 亮 女 孩 都 有 “ 慧 眼 ” 。

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This favoritism and soft spot for pretty girl students earned him
quite a reputation. The boys in his class did not like him
because of his paying attention more to the girls. Quite often,
especially when it was time for the students to do their
exercises on their own in class, Mr. Ho would be near the desk
of the prettiest girl in the class giving her ‘personal coaching.’
After I left the school, I lost touch with Mr. Ho and heard no
news about him.
There were these two lady teachers in a rural school I once
taught in. Both were in their early forties and teaching the
same subject in the school. Somehow, they could not get along
with each other; in fact, they quarreled openly a couple of
times in the school compound. Unbecoming words were used
and rather shameful body language was displayed.
这种对漂亮女生的偏爱和情有独钟，为他赢得了不小的名
声。 他班上的男生不喜欢他，因为他更关注女生。 很多
时候，尤其是当学生在课堂上自己做练习的时候，何先生
会在班上最漂亮的女孩的桌子旁给她“私人辅导”。
离开学校后，我就与何老师失去了联系，也没有了他的消
息。
我曾经任教的一所乡村学校里有两位女老师，她们都是四
十岁出头，在学校教同一门课。 不知何故，他们无法和睦
相处； 事实上，他们在学校大院里公开争吵过几次。 使
用了不恰当的言语，并表现出了相当可耻的肢体语言。

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The other teachers and students of course noticed all this. I
heard that the things they quarreled about were rather petty,
born out of jealousy of each other. Sometimes I would hear
them ‘boasting’ about their families and their wealth. They
would also talk bad about each other. Things got from bad to
worse and one day the principal called both of them to his
office to try to sort matters out but he failed to make any
headway. Eventually one of the two teachers had to be
transferred to another school.
I once had a young trainee teacher taking over my Form 4
Chemistry classes for a period of 3 months. This lady teacher
whom I shall refer to as Miss Nora, was from one of the local
universities and was doing her practical teaching in my
school.
其他老师和学生当然也注意到了这一切。 听说他们吵架
的事都很小，都是出于互相嫉妒。 有时我会听到他们
“吹嘘”他们的家庭和财富。 他们还会互相说对方的坏
话。 事情变得越来越糟，有一天，校长把他们俩叫到他
的办公室，试图解决问题，但没有取得任何进展。 最
终，两名教师中的一名不得不调到另一所学校。
我曾经有一位年轻的见习老师接手我的中四化学课，为
期三个月。 这位我称之为诺拉小姐的女老师来自当地一
所 大 学 ， 正 在 我 的 学 校 进 行 实 践 教 学 。

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Just in her early twenties, Miss Nora was what many would regard
as a ‘sweet young thing.’ She had a pleasant personality. She was
polite, friendly and quite hardworking I would say. Unfortunately,
her greatest weakness as a teacher was her lack of competence to
teach the subject. She was very poor in content and many a time,
she had to ask for my help to explain fundamental chemistry
concepts. I tried my best to offer whatever help I could. She was
appreciative.
In the course of her 3-month practical teaching, Miss Nora taught
wrong subject matter from time to time and had even set faulty
questions in tests and examinations that could not be answered.
She had to subsequently cancel those questions. (I learnt all about
this from the top students who approached me to clarify some of
their lessons.)
After Miss Nora left, I had to do some un-learning with the
students in my chemistry classes.
诺拉小姐才二十岁出头， 被许多人视为“ 可爱的年轻
人”。她性格开朗。 我想说，她很有礼貌、友善，而且
非常勤奋。 不幸的是，她作为一名教师最大的弱点是缺
乏教授该科目的能力。 她的内容非常贫乏，很多时候，
她不得不请求我帮助解释基本的化学概念。 我尽力提供
力所能及的帮助。 她很感激。
在三个月的实践教学过程中，诺拉老师时不时会讲授错误
的科目，甚至在测试和考试中提出错误的问题而无法回
答。 她随后不得不取消这些问题。 （我从那些来找我澄
清他们的一些课程的顶尖学生那里了解到了这一切。）
诺拉小姐离开后，我不得不和化学课上的学生一起进行一
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It is unbelievable that some teachers cannot just control their
classes at all and their classes are more like circuses. I had one
such colleague when I was teaching in the eighties. Mr. Suppa
(not his true name) was a 6-footer and his body size was quite
big (compared to mine!). An easy-going type of person, he
was sociable and quite friendly with everybody. I remember a
year when both of us were handling a few remove classes.
There were periods when my class was adjacent to his and I
really dreaded those periods because the noise coming from
his class was unbearable. I used to think to myself: ‘His class
is like a circus with the animals and audience members
roaring.’ I just could not understand how Mr. Suppa could
teach his lessons in such a situation. Many a time I would
hear his voice in an attempt to warn the students to quiet
down.
令人难以置信的是，有些老师根本无法控制自己的课
堂，他们的课堂更像是马戏团。 我在八十年代教书时就
有一位这样的同事。 Suppa 先生（化名）身高 6 英尺，
体型相当大（与我相比！）。 他是一个随和的人，很善
于交际，对每个人都很友好。 我记得有一年我们俩都在
处理一些移除课程。 有时候我的班级和他的班级相邻，
我真的很害怕那些时候，因为他班级传来的噪音令人难以
忍受。 我曾经心想：“他的课就像一个马戏团，动物和观
众在咆哮。”我只是无法理解苏帕先生如何在这种情况下
上课。 很多时候，我会听到他的声音，试图警告学生们
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He would always say in a loud voice, “When I count 1, 2, 3…you’d
better be quiet or else…” Mr. Suppa would then start his counting
‘One…Two…Three …’ But his ‘1, 2, 3 ..’ would be repeated on and on
to no avail. The class just did not heed his warning. Mr. Suppa could
not control his class at all. And I, next door had to ‘suffer’.
It was quite a relief for me when the following year, Mr. Suppa did
not have teaching periods next to my class.
Reflection
To have respect from the students and to uphold the dignity of the teaching
profession, teachers must always
*be careful and mindful not to show any favoritism towards certain students.
They must be fair and non-discriminating.
*maintain an honorable code of conduct. Unbecoming ways of behavior must
be done away with.
*show competence in terms of methodology and subject matter. Otherwise, they
lose the respect from their students.
*be able to have good class control and management. Otherwise, no
effective teaching and learning can take place.
他总是大声地说：“当我数一、二、三时……你最好保持安静，否
则……”然后苏帕先生就会开始数“一……二……三……”但是他的 “ 1 ，
2, 3 ..' 会不断地重复，但无济于事。 全班同学没有理会他的警告。
Suppa 先生根本无法控制他的班级。 而我，隔壁的我，不得不 “受
苦”。
第二年， Suppa 先生不再在我的班级旁授课，这让我松了口气。
反射
为了得到学生的尊重，维护教师职业的尊严，教师必须始终
*小心谨慎，不要对某些学生表现出任何偏袒。 它们必须公平且非歧
视。
* 保持光荣的行为准则。 必须废除不恰当的行为方式。
*显示出在方法论和主题方面的能力。否则，他们就会失去学生的
尊重。
*能够有良好的班级控制和管理能力。 否则，就不可能进行有效的教学
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1.Knowledgeable: A good teacher possesses a deep understanding of
the subject matter they are teaching. They are experts in their field and can
convey information accurately.
2.Effective Communication Skills: They can explain complex ideas in a
way that is easy for students to understand. They listen actively and encourage
questions and discussions.
3.Patience: Teaching can be challenging, and students learn at
different paces. Patience allows a teacher to support each student's individual
learning
journey.
4.Adaptability: Good teachers are flexible and can adjust their teaching
methods to meet the needs of different students and situations. They recognize
that one size does not fit all.
5.Passion: A passion for teaching and for the subject matter itself is
infectious. It can inspire students to become more engaged and interested in the
topic.
好老师的 10 项重要品质
“ 来自 AI Chat GPT （微软开放 AI ）的响应”
6.知识渊博：一个好的老师对他们所教授的科目有深刻的理解。 他
们是各自领域的专家，能够准确传达信息。
7.有效的沟通技巧：他们能够以学生易于理解的方式解释复杂的
想法。 他们积极倾听并鼓励提问和讨论。
8. 耐心：教学可能具有挑战性，学生的学习进度也不同。 耐心可以
让
老师支持每个学生的个人学习之旅。
4 、适应性：好的老师是灵活的，能够调整自己的教学方法，以满足
不同学生和情况的需要。 他们认识到一种方法并不适合所有人。
5. 热情：对教学和学科本身的热情是具有感染力的。 它可以激发学生
对这个主题更加投入和感兴趣。
Great Teachers in History
Confucius Socrates
10 Important Qualtites of A Good Teacher
“Response From the AI Chat GPT (A Microsoft
Open AI)”
Plato

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6.Empathy: Teachers understand their students' challenges and
emotions. They are compassionate and supportive, creating a safe and caring
learning environment.
7.Organization: Effective teachers plan their lessons and manage
their classrooms efficiently. They have a clear structure and goals for each
class.
8.Creativity: They bring creativity into their teaching methods,
finding innovative ways to make learning enjoyable and memorable.
9.Adaptability: Teaching often requires adjusting to unexpected
circumstances. Good teachers can adapt to new technologies, teaching formats, and
student needs.
10.High Expectations: They set high standards for their students and
provide the support and guidance needed to help them reach those standards.
They believe in their students' potential.
These qualities collectively contribute to a positive and effective learning
experience for students and help shape them into lifelong learners.
11.同理心：教师了解学生的挑战和情绪。 他们富有同情心和支持性，创
造了一个安全和关爱的学习环境。
12.组织：高效的教师有效地计划课程并管理课堂。 他们每个班级都有明
确的结构和目标。
13.创造力：他们将创造力融入到教学方法中，寻找创新的方法让学习变
得有趣和难忘。
14.适应性：教学常常需要根据意外情况进行调整。 好的教师能够适应
新技术、教学形式和学生的需求。
15.高期望：他们为学生设定高标准，并提供帮助他们达到这些标准所
需的支持和指导。 他们相信学生的潜力。
这些品质共同为学生带来积极有效的学习体验，并帮助他们成为终身学习
者。
Great Teachers in History
Aristotle Anne Sullivan John Dewey

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精 神 病 院 之
旅
Hospital Bahagia
Ulu Kinta

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Many years ago, a bus load of our local Buddhist association
members, librarians and Dhamma students made a one-day trip to
the Mental Hospital in Tanjung Rambutan and some places in Ipoh.
We gathered at our Buddhist association premises at 6.00 a.m. It was
very good to note that the students (Form 1 to Lower 6) were very
punctual.
(You know, these days, punctuality is getting to be a rare virtue …
more and more people seem to be getting into the habit of arriving
late for things …. meetings, wedding dinners, functions etc.)
We had a short Buddha Puja.
(We try to make this a practice for all trips and excursions organized
by our association. I think this is good …we pay Homage and make
positive aspirations and also pray for Blessings of The Triple Gem.)
The bus left at 6.30 am and we stopped at Kampar for breakfast. The
students were quite well-disciplined … another happy point to note.
很多年前，一辆载满我们当地佛教协会成员、图书管理员和佛法
学生的巴士，前往丹戎红毛丹的精神病院和怡保的一些地方，进
行了为期一天的旅行。
我们于早上 6 点聚集在我们佛教协会的场地。很高兴看到学生
们
（中一至六年级）都非常准时。
（你知道，如今，准时正成为一种罕见的美德……越来越多的人
似乎养成了迟到的习惯……会议、婚宴、活动等。）
我们举行了一次简短的佛法会。
（我们试图将此作为我们协会组织的所有旅行和游览的惯例。我
认为这很好……我们致敬并许下积极的愿望，并祈求三宝的祝
福。）
巴士于早上 6:30 出发，我们在 Kampar 停下来吃早餐。学生们
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(You know, at the present time, we hear so much about the
lack of discipline in schools …. defiance, rowdiness,
lack of manners, loose morals, gang fights, restlessness and
so on. It is my sincere conviction that some Dhamma
education for students right from the age of 4 or 5 would go
a long way to molding the character of a person.)
After breakfast, we continued our journey and reached
Tanjung Rambutan at about 9.00 a.m. The Hospital ground
area is very large, and we had to go by bus from one place to
the other. Two kind senior nursing Sisters were our guide.
What impressed me most was their dedication, kindness, and
compassion. One had already served for almost twenty
years …tending to and helping so many who are mentally ill.
（你知道， 现在我们听到太多关于学校缺乏纪律的报
道……叛逆、吵闹、缺乏礼貌、道德败坏、帮派斗殴、
焦躁不安等等。我坚信，从 4 岁或 5 岁开始对学生进行
一些佛法教育将对塑造一个人的性格大有裨益。）
早餐后，我们继续旅行，大约上午 9 点到达丹戎红毛
丹。医院占地面积很大，我们必须乘坐公共汽车从一个地
方到另一个地方。两位善良的高级护士姐妹是我们的向
导。最让我印象深刻的是她们的奉献精神、善良和同情
心。其中一位已经服务了近二十年……照顾和帮助了许多
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(In a materialistic society today, it is not easy to find
"Bodhisattas” … it is a ‘rat race’, ‘dog eat dog ‘and ‘No
Money, No Talk’ world. Small surprise that it is very difficult
nowadays to get volunteer workers for Dhammaduta work.
Our association is no exception … we struggle to recruit
volunteers for Dhamma and outreach work …. teachers for
Dhamma classes, tutors for Guidance classes, helpers to cook
for Camps and other functions, counsellors, people to help
upkeep the premises, librarians, people to help at
Buddhist funeral services, people to run Welfare projects,
Camps and so on.)
At the Hospital Bahagia, we were briefed on many informative
things and taken to visit some centers where some inmates are
occupied in useful work such as workshop work for men,
handicraft work for women and gardening/farming. Such work
and tasks have very good therapeutic value.
（在当今这个物质社会，要找到“菩萨”并不容易……这是一个 ‘老
鼠赛跑’、‘狗咬狗’和‘没有钱，没有话’的世界。如今很难找到志愿
者来从事 Dhammaduta 工作，这并不奇怪。我们的协会也不例外
……我们努力招募志愿者从事佛法和外展工作……佛法课程的老
师、指导课程的辅导员、营地和其他活动的厨师、辅导员、帮助
维护场所的人、图书管理员、帮助佛教葬礼的人、经营福利项目
的人、营地等等。）
在 Bahagia 医院，我们了解了很多有用的信息，并被带去参观一
些中心，那里的一些囚犯从事有用的工作，例如男性的车间工
作、女性的手工艺工作和园艺 / 农业。这些工作和任务具有很好的
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We were also taken to some male and female wards. The patients
maintain the cleanliness pretty well under supervision by staff
members.
There were many things we learnt at the Hospital Bahagia which
are very good for Dhamma Reflection:
•More than 90 % of the patients are Schizophrenic
cases. Some are more serious; the majority are not aggressive or
violent.
They suffer from spells of depression and withdrawal especially
if
they skip their medication.
•Schizophrenia is incurable, and it afflicts about 1 % of
the human population. It is really a strange and bizarre mental
illness. (I have long wondered about the link between Kamma and
mental illnesses. I remember a prominent local monk once told
me that there is a correlation between mental illnesses and heavy
breaking of the first and fifth Precepts namely, the Precept not
to kill and the Precept to abstain from intoxicants.
我们还被带到了一些男病房和女病房。在工作人员的监督下，病
人保持着相当好的清洁。
我们在巴哈吉亚医院学到了很多对佛法反思非常有益的东西：
• 超过 90% 的病人是精神分裂症患者。有些病人病情更严重；
大多数病人没有攻击性或暴力倾向。他们遭受抑郁和戒断的折
磨，尤其是当他们不吃药的时候。
• 精神分裂症是无法治愈的，它折磨着大约 1% 的人口。这确
实是一种奇怪而怪异的精神疾病。
（我一直想知道业力和精神疾病之间的联系。我记得一位著名的
当地僧人曾经告诉我，精神疾病与严重违反第一和第五条戒律之
间存在关联，即不杀生戒和戒酒戒。

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I find this makes sense …. just think about the people who “drown”
their minds with intoxicants and the mental states of people who, with
cruelty, anguish, hatred, anger, ill-will and jealousy, torture and kill
others. Sometimes the terrible effects of intoxicants and drugs on
the minds already start to take shape pretty soon or in the later years
of their lives. I think it is very important for us to inculcate the virtues
of kindness and compassion and the need to keep our minds clear,
heedful, and mindful.)
•People have a lot of taboos and misconceptions about
mental illnesses. We don’t realize that we unenlightened ones, are all
afflicted with mental “diseases” in a way - the “diseases” of Greed,
Hatred and
Delusion. It’s really a matter of degree.
(You know, when I was away for this “Tanjung Rambutan” trip, two of
my friends came to see me at my home. When one of my brothers told
them that I was in Tanjung Rambutan, they were so shocked and said
things like “What happened to him?” “When did this happen?”)
我觉得这很有道理……想想那些用麻醉品“淹没”自己思想的人，
想想那些用残忍、痛苦、仇恨、愤怒、恶意和嫉妒折磨和杀害他
人的人的精神状态。有时麻醉品和毒品对思想的可怕影响很快就
会开始形成，或者在他们生命的晚年。我认为，我们灌输善良和
同情的美德，以及保持头脑清醒、警觉和正念的必要性是非常重
要的。）
•
人们对精神疾病有很多禁忌和误解。我们没有意识到，我们这些
未开悟的人，在某种程度上都患有精神“疾病”——贪婪、仇恨和妄
想的“疾病”。这真的是一个程度的问题。
（你知道，当我外出进行这次“丹戎红毛丹”之旅时，我的两个朋
友来我家看我。当我的一个兄弟告诉他们我在丹戎红毛丹时，他
们非常震惊，说了这样的话：“他发生了什么事？”“这是什
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In Hospital Bahagia, we learnt that many of the inmates’ families
had already abandoned them. It’s really pitiful. Whom could they
turn to?
•The number of cases of mental illnesses is on the rise.
There is no doubt that STRESS is one precipitating factor. This
is the price we have to pay for so-called economic
progress, technological advancement and what-nots. The Sisters
told us that mental illnesses (schizophrenia, depression,
neuroticism, anxiety, manic obsession etc.) can affect just about
anyone …people of different race, culture, gender and
professions. At the Hospital, there were secondary and tertiary
students who scored many A’s. The years ahead are not going to
be easy ones in terms of mental health … and sanity.
(To my mind, Dhamma education and practice is our hope…and
salvation but it’s not easy to convince others. We feel they have
‘dust’ in their eyes but they think we are ‘Nuts’!)
在巴哈吉亚医院，我们得知许多病人的家人已经抛弃了他们。这
真是太可怜了。他们能向谁求助呢？
• 精神疾病病例数在上升。毫无疑问，压力是其中一个诱因。这
是我们为所谓的经济进步、技术进步和其他东西付出的代价。修
女们告诉我们，精神疾病（精神分裂症、抑郁症、神经质、焦
虑、狂躁症等）几乎可以影响任何人……不同种族、文化、性别
和职业的人。在医院里，有很多中学和大专学生获得了许多 A 的
成绩。未来的几年在心理健康……和理智方面不会是轻松的。
（在我看来，佛法教育和实践是我们的希望……和救赎，但要说
服别人并不容易。我们觉得他们眼里有“灰尘”，但他们认为我
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•It is always good to remind ourselves that
STRESS is related to one of the following:
1.We want to GET, ATTAIN, ACHIEVE,
ACQUIRE, BE ONE UP ON OTHERS.
2. We want to satisfy our EGO or SELF.
(In reality, there is no “self”.)
3. We are victims of “conditioning” ….
our upbringing, education, outside influences etc.
(We need to learn, understand, practice and realize the
Dhamma in order to “de-condition” the mind.)
• 最好总是提醒自己，压力与以下因素之一有关：
1. 我们想要获得、实现、成就、收获、超越他人。
2. 我们想要满足我们的自我或自我。
（实际上，没有“自我”。）
3. 我们是 “条件” 的受害者……我
们的成长、教育、外界影响等。
（我们需要学习、理解、实践和实现佛法，以便
“解除”心灵的条件。）
The Root Cause of
Dukkha or Suffering is
Craving and Attachment.

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4. We have no real understanding of the true nature of
things.
(Dhamma is the only remedy.)
5. We have the wrong attitude.
(Learn and practice the Dhamma to grow in wisdom)
All in all, we spent about three hours at the Mental
Hospital. The rest of the trip was spent visiting some
Buddhist caves in Ipoh, The Nalanda Buddhist Library, a
recreational park and Jaya Jusco Supermarket.
We arrived back in our association at about 10.00 p.m. It
was a good trip for me …in terms of Dhamma learning
and reflection.
4. 我们没有真正理解事物的本质。
（佛法是唯一的补救办法。）
5. 我们的态度是错误的。
（学习和实践佛法以增长智慧）
总的来说，我们在精神病院待了大约三个小时。其余
时间我们参观了怡保的一些佛教洞穴、那烂陀佛教图
书馆、一个休闲公园和 Jaya Jusco 超市。
我们大约晚上 10 点回到协会。对我来说，这是一次
很好的旅行……就佛法学习和反思而言。
The Gift of
Dhamma
Excels all
other gifts.

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供 你 反
思
Good health is the greatest gain.
Contentment is the greatest wealth.
Having a trustworthy relationship
is the best relative.
Nibbana is the highest bliss.
Dhammapada Verse 204
健康是最大的收获。知足是最大的财富。
拥有值得信赖的关系是最好的亲戚。
涅槃是至福。
法句经第 204 节
With
Metta
Bro. Oh
Teik Bin