This newsletter from Families & Friends of Murder Victims (FFMV) thanks various donors and provides information about upcoming support group meetings. It also lists birthdays and anniversaries of loved ones who were murdered in February and provides contact information for additional grief support resources.

1. FFAMILIES & FRIENDS OF
MURDER VICTIMS, Inc.
(FFMV)
Newsletter Febuary 2016
Thank-you:
*Carol Anderson – Website
*Kaiser – Oakland
*Avaxat Elementary School- Murrieta
*St. Anthony’s Catholic Church-Upland
*Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church
Grand Terrace
*First United Methodist Church of La Puente
* United Methodist Church of Sepulveda
*San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office of
Victim Services/Victim Advocates
*Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of Victim
Services/Victim Advocates
* Linda Rodriguez – Mother of Angel - Memory Cards
*Janet Garcia & Barbara Christian
Facebook administrators
* CVU – Crime Victims United
* Ellie Rossi – Mother of David and Lisa
* San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office for
sponsoring newsletter for 2016*
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Continued Thoughts & Prayers to all
Victims and Surviving Victims of the
Inland Regional Center Shooting
In San Bernardino
December 2, 2015
Need Someone to Talk To?
* Bertha Flores - Parent - Spanish speaking
(909) 200-5499 (after 3pm) Rialto CA
*Rose Madsen – Parent (909) 798-4803 (after 4pm)
Redlands CA
*Dawn Hall – Parent (951) 757-4419 –
Murrieta CA
*Mary Stewart -Parent (951 698-5317) Emergency
Consult for Suicidal or
Homicidal Participants
*Linda Atencio -Parent – 760-662-4373 –
High Dessert
*Donna Lozano - Parent – 760-660-9054
* Palm Springs/Coachella Valley 10am-9pm
*Linda Rodriguez -Parent – 951-369-0010-Home –
951-732-3255 - Riverside
* Ellie Rossi - Parent - 909-810-8133 Redlands CA
* Delores Maloy- Parent – High Desert
Contact – 760-530-7027
* Shayla Adams – 760-475-3774
* Richard McVoy – Adult Sibling –
909-503-5456 – Grand Terrace CA
* Tanya Powell - Parent – 760-596-2292-
Upland CA
Families & Friends of Murder Victims:
A non-profit organization
Dedicated to providing information, support, and
friendship to persons who have experienced the
death of a loved one through the violent act of
murder
Share Sorrow…..
Share Strength
Mission: To restore a sense of hope and to
provide a pathway to well-being to those who
have lost a loved one to murder and to those who
are victims of attempted murder.
Love Gifts
Love gifts are a specific tax deductible donation made
to the memory of a loved one’s birthday, anniversary
of a death, holiday, or just because which are posted
in newsletter. They are also made by caring
professionals, organizations to help in the work that
FFMV does with victims/survivors. These gifts help
with the expenses incurred in reaching out to others
and operating expenses. When making out a check,
please make payable to FFMV and note Love Gift on
check or envelope.
Love Gifts can be mailed to FFMV-
P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. - 92423-1222
Join Families & Friends of Murder Victims on
Thank-you
Janet Garcia
Mother of Jesse Garcia – 6/10/78 – 6/27/94
Barbara Christian
Mother of Terri Lynn Winchell–
4/10/63 – 1/8/81

2. FFMV - Riverside Chapter
Meets on the 3rd
Wednesday of every
month at 7pm
Avaxat Elementary School, 24300 La
Brisas Road in Murrieta, CA
Contact Dawn (951) 757-4419
For directions ask for PJ at-
951-696-1600 x2177 –
M-F 9am-4pm (1-2pm lunch)
FFMV - Colton Chapter
1st
Tuesday of every month
Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church
Robinson Hall – Room 6
12745 Oriole Ave Grand Terrace, CA
92313
Time: 6:00pm - 8:00pm
Contact person for directions or
information Rose – 909-754-6969
mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
Oakland Chapter
1st
Tuesday of every month
Kaiser in Oakland, Howe St. at
Broadway,
12th floor Room 1200 East
Contact: Robin – 510-653-8069
Sandra – 510-691-7089
Grief Support Group
ALL are welcome at our monthly meetings.
Whether you are a parishioner or not. If you
are suffering the loss of a loved one and in
need to talk to someone, we are here to listen
and share emotions.
Together and with the help of the Lord, we
can help each other heal.
Meetings are held every 2nd
Wednesday of the
month 7 to 9 P.M. ~ Room 8
St. Anthony’s Church 1640 Western Ave. San
Bernardino (909)887-3810
Contacts: Hope Morfin (909)820-6163
Ralph & Arlene Payan (909)887-4387
(FFMV Participants)
Danny & Rose Equihua (909) 887-3744
FFMV
West End Chapter -Bi-lingual
Meets every 2nd
Thursday of every month at
7:00pm-8:30pm
St. Anthony’s Catholic Church
Conference Room
2210 North San Antonio Upland, CA 91786
Participants have the option of the
English & Spanish Meeting
Local Grupo Bilingue
Los participantes pueden escoger en Inglés
o en Español
Se reunen cada Segundo Jueves del mes a
las 7:00 p.m.
Contact persons/ Personas de contacto:
Rita Marin (909) 215-7063
rittaatffmv@aol.com
Please contact Rita by January 10th
if you will
be attending meeting on January 11, 2016
FFMV – SGV Chapter
Meetings are on the 2nd Tuesday of each month
7pm-9pm in a classroom at the First United
Methodist Church of La Puente, located at. 15701
Hill Street, La Puente, CA 91744
Contact information:
* Luz Ruiz (626) 388-6403
*Tracy Ponce (626) 533-3121
Bridge to Our Angels
Grieving Parents of Adult & Young Children
Mondays @ 4pm
Christ the Servant Lutheran Church Fellowship
Hall 2 South Pecos RD. Henderson NV 89074
Facilitated by Grieving parents
Sharon 702-238-8722 & Donna 702-688-1367
Healing is embracing what is most feared;
healing is opening what has been closed,
softening what has hardened into
obstruction, healing is learning to trust life.
~ Dr. Jeanne Achterberg
In Loving Memory
Elmer & Gladys
Benson
Murdered Together
2/11/96

3. FFMV Fundraisers
Office Depot - Staples – Office Max
If you shop at Office Depot or Staples please
use FFMV’s Rewards Number for Office Depot
which is 1139461170 Office Max – 650756207,
Staples- or use just give them 909-798-4803
for all three. We get reward points that help
defray the cost of printing, ink cartridges and
office supplies.
PLEASE….Don‘t throw away your old ink
cartridges! Continue to bring them to us, or
take them to Office Max, Staples or Office
Depot and give them 909-798-4803
It’s an easy way to help
FFMV purchase office supplies.
FFMV SGV Chapter News
Announcements
Luz shared that she would like to sell
bracelets as a fundraiser for our
chapter. These bracelets would be
personalized with our loved one’s names on
it and Luz Ruiz will make them
herself. Each bracelet will cost $15. She
will be posting pictures of the bracelets on
her Facebook Page soon. She is taking
orders now.
After They Are Gone
When someone we love passes away,
We ache, but we go on;
Our dear departed would want us to heal,
After they are gone.
Grief is a normal way to mend
The anguish and pain in our hearts.
We need time to remember and time to
mourn,
Before the recovery starts.
Let's draw together to recuperate,
As we go through this period of sorrow;
Let's help each other, with tender care
To find a brighter tomorrow
By Joanna Fuchs
Mark Shaw Mortuary, offers online
affirmations for grief support free for 365
days. Check out this website and click on
Grief Support
http://www.markbshawmortuary.com/
Resources and Additional Support Services
San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office
of Victim Witness Centers: San Bernardino
(909) 382-3846
Rancho Cucamonga: (909) 945-4241*
Victorville/Desert area: (760)552-6947
Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of
Victim Witness Centers:
Riverside: (951) 955-5450
Murrieta: (951) 304-5680 * Banning: (951) 922-7130
* Indio: (760) 863-8408
*Los Angeles County District Attorney's Victim
Witness Assistance Program offices:
Pomona: 909) 620-3381
*Life.After.Uncivil.Ruthless.Acts.
323-816-9651 www.laurala.org
* WINGS OF JUSTICE – Website
www.murdermislabeledsuicide.com/WingsofJustice
*Women Against Gun Violence – 310-204-2348
www.wagv.org
* Crime Victims United of California –
530-885-9544 www.crimevictimsunited.com or
mail@crimevictimsunited.com
* North American Victim Assistance (NOVA)
www.trynova.org
* Victims of Crime Resources Center (800)
VICTIMS
* POMC - (888) 818-POMC www.pomc.org
* Greater Orange County POMC –
Marie – 714-999-7132 – 562-508-2397
* Citizens Against Homicide - (415) 455-5944
* Justice for Murdered Children - (310) 547-1367
* Memory of Victims Everywhere - (949) 248-5470
MOVE@cox.net
* Resource for the Grieving and
* Crime Survivors – 949-872-7895
www.crimesurvivors.com
*JUSTICE FOR HOMICIDE VICTIMS –
(310) 457-0030 -
jhvinfo@justiceforhomicidevictims.com
* Striving Towards Eradicating Violence In Ennercities
-S.T.E.V.I.E. stevieisunityandpeace@yahoo.com
oneunikadvocate2@aol.com
* Survivors of Murdered Children SGV Chapter –
Tina-626-298-9054 -tinayyama@att.net
*Homicide Survivors Support Group
Meets every 2nd
Tuesday at 7pm
Solono Family Justice Center
604 Empire St. Fairfield CA
Contacts: Valerie Dodini v.dodin.law@sbcglobal.net
Rita Edmonds-Norris at 707631-281

4. 2016
Birthdays
And
Memories

5. February 2016 Birthdays
Adam Atencio Andrian Rivas
Anne Marie Harrison Antonio Martinez
Armando Gabriel Calvary Benny Rodriguez
Buddy Guitron “Bug’s” Randy Perchez
Colleen Kennedy Cornell L. Wells III
David Charles Nystrom Enrique Bermudez
Frank W. Wellman John Martin
Kyle T. Stutson
Nancy O’Hara/Jessee O’Hara
Ozzy Conde Raul “Ralphee” Payan
Robert Austin Buckey Roghie Ebrahimpour
Ryan Villapando Sandra Rosas
Scott Fisher Steven Lance Bowser
Timothy Hatch Timothy John Morgan
Toni Percell

6. February 2016 Memories
Anthony A. Turdot Arthur “Tudy Boy” Ruiz
Baby Elizabeth Fay Mariani Brian Kischell
Buddy Guitron Randy Perchez
Christian Jesus Hernandez Cornell L. Wells III
Darrell Davis Eilleen Nicole Ponce
Elmer & Gladys Benson
Fields Family: Jonathan, Dwayne, & Lindel
Herbert Seymour Jr.
Jacqueline McVoy (Matzke) & Gilbert Guiterrez
Juanita Martinez Kyle T. Stutson
Lorrain Lopez Mario Maurice Smith
Mark Adam Rodriguez Melissa Sandor
Michael Ray McCoy II Randy Olivas
Rosario & Ruben Mojarro
Sabrina Baldwin Salvador Olivas Jr.
Villapando Family: Ryan, Veronica, Mateo & Bella

7. LOVE GIFTS
In Loving Memory In Loving Memory
Raul “Ralphee” Payan Eileen Ponce
2/14/75 – 1/16/05 11/5/85 – 2/15/08
In Loving Memory David Charles Nystrom – 2/2/64 - 7/27/98 & Lisa Cummings – 11/13/66 – 3/12/11
Brother and Sister in Heaven ….. now together watching over their Mom (Ellie Rossi)
--------------------------------------------------------------Love Gift-----------------------------------------------------------------
Donation $_______________
Name (please print):_________________________________________________________________
Address____________________________________City/St.________________________Zip__________
Email address: __________________________________________________________
Your Phone # ( ) ____________________Relationship to Victim: _____________________________
Name of Victim: _________________________________________________________________
Date of Birth: Date of Death: ______________________
Please post my loved ones message and/or picture(s) for the month of: ___________
# of pictures enclosed/attached ____________ Use picture on file__________

8. CAMP GOOD GRIEF (SVP)
Camp Good Grief-Special Victims Program (SVP) is a joint effort between the San Bernardino County
District Attorney's Office Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Medical Center Children's
Hospital. The 3-day grief camp is geared toward homicide/suicide and is for children ages 10-16 who
have experienced a violent death in their family. Campers board a bus at the Ronald McDonald House in
Loma Linda and head to Camp Cedar Falls in the San Bernardino Mountains for a three-day camp and
grief therapy experience.
At camp the children participate in game and team building activities and therapeutic group activities
designed to help them learn and understand how to cope with the grief over the violent death of their
loved one. This camp has been so successful that it has been expanded to include Camp Good Grief -
Special Victims Program Teen Retreat. It will be held annually and provides grief services for teens ages
14-18 who previously participated in Camp Good Grief - SVP and whose lives have been positively
impacted by camp. It will be a combination of learning advanced grief management skills as well as a
training camp for future Camp Good Grief Peer Counselors.
Camp is free of charge to all campers and camperships are funded by unclaimed victim restitution.
Therapists and interns from Loma Linda Marriage and Family Therapy Clinic, Loma Linda Child Life
Specialists and District Attorney's Office Victim Advocates donate their time to the camp.
The Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Children's Hospital have pledged to continue
fundraising activities, presentations to service groups, and outreach events so they may continue
hosting future Camp Good Grief-SVP programs. Contact: Dorothy Brooks 909-558-4073
Each April, OVC helps lead communities throughout the country in their annual observances of National
Crime Victim' Rights Week (NCVRW) which will be observed April 10–16, 2016. This year's theme—
Serving Victims … Building Trust …Building Hope—emphasizes the role of the entire community,
individually and collectively, as we support victims of crime and empower them to direct their own
recovery. Promoting victims’ rights and honoring crime victims and those who advocate on their behalf.
Victims’ Rights Week 2016 is quickly approaching, I will have more details on events in the
March 2016 newsletter. If you have an event please email details/flyers to me so I can include
your event.
Save the Dates
* Sunday April 10, 2016 JHV Annual Memorial – Rose Hills
* Monday April 11, 2016 - San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office Annual Memorial
* Tuesday April 12, 2016 San Bernardino Police Department Annual Memorial
* Thursday April 14, 2016 Families & Friends of Murder Victims Annual Memorial
RC Civic Center
* Sunday April 17, 2016 – OC POMC Victim Dedication Memorial - Brea

9. Septemb
I have been fortunate to have attended two different training sessions that Connie Saindon
has taught. Thank you Sister Terry and her Community for the funding on this last
training. I have now facilitated and co facilitated two 10week Journey Classes
Thank you Connie for this opportunity … Rose Madsen

10. From Rose Madsen, Editor/Chair/co-founder of the
Colton & Coachella Chapter of FFMV
In Memory of my daughter Jennifer LeAnne Balber
12/02/73 – 11/10/94
A 20yr. old SoCal Gas Co. Meter Reader,
Fatally Shot in the Line of Service in Rialto, CA
We've barely made it through the holidays of December and January, and now the stores are filled with
hearts and flowers and candy, all of it in celebration of the gift of love. But February 14th can be a
difficult day for those of us who are grieving, and for some it will be the first Valentine's Day, the
birthday or anniversary since our precious Valentine died. For us there is no celebration; there is only
grief. Here are a few suggestions that helped me. Select a Valentine card that you wish your beloved
would have picked for you, and mail it to yourself … buy a very special candle, decorate it and light it in
honor of your loved one on these occasions.
My beautiful Jen…..I can no longer…See you with my eyes…Touch you with my hands…
But I will feel you in my heart….Forever…Love, Mom
E-mail me your outcome of your court process, status of your case or upcoming events, and I will post
on our newsletter.
Thoughtfully,
Rose .
FFMV Executive Board
Rose Madsen – Chair, Mother of Jennifer LeAnne Balber
Dawn Hall– Vice Chair, Mother of Joshua Rexford
Rita Marin – Secretary, Aunt of Jennifer LeAnne Balber
Bertha Flores – Treasurer, Mother of Kristopher Flores
Remembering Love
The quotation includes the statement that “love leaves a memory no one can steal.” An epitaph off an
old headstone, I can honestly say no truer words have ever been etched in stone!
The love you’ve known in your life, and that which you continue to feel for others, is like a soothing
balm for your aching heart. And the memories you have of the times you shared can remind you just
how wonderful it was to have that time together.
~From a headstone in Ireland
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal. ~
FFMV is a non-profit organization dedicated to serving survivors of murder victims & victims of attempted murder. Our main purpose is to offer
grief support for those victim/survivors. All assistance provided to victims is given free of charge by volunteers. Contributions and/or questions
regarding the policies of FFMV may be addressed to: FFMV Executive Board at P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. 92423-1222, e-mailed to
mail4fffmv@yahoo.com or phoned to 909-754-6969
FFMV is a tax-exempt organization under the Section 501 (c) (3) of the Internal Revenue Service.
Our Organization depends largely upon private donations which will cover operational expenses, Our Annual Family Christmas
Memorial Luncheon, and Our Annual Victims’ Rights Week Memorial. We are seeking a sponsor (s) for our events. Please contact
FFMV at the above e-mail or phone if you are interested. Tax ID #68-0299211 All Contributions Are Tax Deductible

11. 2016 Participant /Photo Release Form for slide show & picture boards
Families & Friends of Murder Victims, INC (FFMV)
Circle one: New Participant ~ Update my information ~ Agency/Non Victim
Please Print
Date________________ Relationship to Victim_______________________
Victim’s First Name______________________________________________
Victim’s Last Name______________________________________________
Date of Birth _____________ Date of Death__________ Solved: Yes ( ) No ( )
Permission to use photo(s): Yes ( ) No ( ) Just add me to e-mail/mailing list to
receive monthly newsletter and event information
I grant to Families & Friends of Murder Victims, Inc. (FFMV), the right to use
photograph(s) of the above-identified subject. I authorize FFMV to use and
publish the same in print and/or electronically.
I agree that FFMV may use such photographs with or without his/her name and for
any lawful purpose, including for example such purposes as publicity, illustration,
advertising, and Web content.
I have read and understand the above.
Signature_________________________________________________________
Print Full Name _____________________________________________________
Print Last Name ____________________________________________________
Address___________________________________________________________
City______________________________________________________________
Zip Code____________________
Phone(s) with area code ______________________________________________
E-mail ____________________________________________________________
Mail or e-mail participant/release form to: mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
FFMV ~ P.O.Box 11222 San Bernardino, CA ~ 92423-1222
I have included a picture ( ) Yes ( ) No use the one on file

12. FORMA DE PERMISO
2016 Participante / Formulario de Autorización para la presentación de
diapositivas de fotos y fotos juntas
Fecha: _____________ Relación con la víctima: ____________________________________
El Primer nombre de la victima: ____________________________________________
El Apellido de la victima: ________________________________________________
Fecha de nacimiento_________ Fecha de la muerte__________ Solucionado: Si ( ) No ( )
Permiso para usar la foto (s): Si ( ) No ( ) Sólo me agregar a la lista e-mail/mailing para
recibir el boletín mensual, información de eventos
Concedo a las FAMILIAS Y AMIGOS DE VICTIMAS DE HOMICIDIO, INC. (FFMV)
el derecho a usar la fotografía (s) del sujeto identificado anteriormente. Autorizo FFMV a
utilizar y publicar el mismo en forma impresa y / o electrónica.
Estoy de acuerdo en que FFMV podrá utilizar dichas fotografías con o sin su su / nombre y
para cualquier propósito legal, incluyendo, por ejemplo, con fines tales como la publicidad, la
ilustración, el contenido publicitario y web.
He leído y entendido lo anterior.
Firma: ______________________________________________________________
Nombre en letra imprenta: ________________________________________________
Direccion: ____________________________________________________________
Ciudad: ____________________________ Estado: __________ Codigo postal: ____________
Telefono: (_____) _____-________ Celular: (_____) _______________________
e-mail: ___________________________________________________________________
Envíe por correo o e-mail participante / formulario de divulgación para
FFMV ~ PO Box 11222 San Bernardino, CA 92423-1222 ~
He incluido una foto ( ) Sí ( ) No utilizar el que está en el archivo
He incluido una donación de $ _________ para 2016
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