The document discusses how praise should be given to children. It notes that praising a child's intelligence over their effort can lead them to choose easier tasks. The researcher observed this trend in a study of nine elementary schools. The document concludes by recommending that praise be given for effort not ability, with specific examples, selectively as children age, and sincerely from parents.

1. Dr. Sohail Punjwani

2. Most people appreciate hearing “well done” following a
significant accomplishment. This desire is engrained in people
from early childhood. Parents get excited when the first word
and first step arrive. Dr. Sohail Punjwani reminds parents to
consider the types of praise offered and the frequency.
Fountains of praise for expected results will become empty
with most children. Honest praise is essential for achieving
superior results against significant challenges. Children will not
strive for excellence if the result is always the same.
In a recent study in nine elementary schools, the researcher
noticed a trend. Children who were praised for intelligence
chose the easier tasks than their peers who were praised for
effort. This important lesson presents a challenge to parents.
Words have meaning and should be selected with the result in
mind.

3. Praise should be offered with four considerations:
Praise effort over ability – Hard work is the best formula for achievement throughout
life. Children should be rewarded for investing effort that achieves results.
Offer specific examples – Generic praise, such as “nice job,” is simplistic. Each child
wants to know that he or she is noticed as an individual. Positive reinforcement
encourages the child to continue to act and live in acceptable ways.
Be selective with praise – Certain actions and attitudes must be expected for each
child as time passes. Praise offered to a toddler is not appropriate for older children.
Achievements should be marked with memorable praise and reminders that
encourage continued achievement.
Sincerity matters – A child recognizes genuine praise from the two most important
people in his life. Dad’s meaningful glance means must as much as a profusion of
verbal praise. Each child has different needs for praise that should be delivered in the
appropriate setting.