The document discusses relationships and human needs. Some key points: - Relationship statistics in the US show high rates of divorce and unmarried couples having children. Children from single parent homes face more behavioral and social problems. - Having a strong foundation and understanding human needs is important for relationships. The six main human needs are certainty, variety, significance, love, growth, and contribution. - These universal needs drive all human behaviors and choices. Understanding one's own and a partner's top needs helps build stronger relationships.

2. Relationships Today
• The Cold Hard Facts….
60% of married couples are divorced
The divorce rate has been stable since 1998
20% of first marriages end within 15 years
85% of couples that live together break up
* U.S. Census Bureau

3. Relationships Today
• The Cold Hard Facts….
The majority of first born children are born to
unmarried couples
Children who live in single parent homes have a
higher rate of:
• Behavioral problems
• Dropping out of school
• Drug/alcohol abuse
• Divorcing later in life

4. Relationships Today
• There is hope….
No one is born with the skills/tools on how to
have a great relationship
Education and knowledge will help you
We are influenced by the model of our
parents, our personality, our perceptions of love
Strong foundation is Key!

5. What are Human Needs?
Why we do the things that we do
Drives and shapes all of our decisions
All human beings have the same needs
Everybody values one or two needs

6. What are Human Needs?
Determines most of the choices made in life
The difference – how people meet these
needs
“Means” - anything you use as a tool to meet
your needs

7. What are the 6 Human Needs?
1) Certainty
2) Uncertainty/Variety
3) Significance
4) Love/Connection
5) Growth
6) Contribution

8. 6 Human Needs
1) Certainty
 The need to feel a sense of comfort and avoid pain
 Avoiding/eliminating stress
 Creating/increasing pleasure
 Security/survival

9. 6 Human Needs
• How can you meet the need for Certainty?
 Control
 Consistency
 Food
 Faith

10. 6 Human Needs
2) Uncertainty/Variety
 The need for excitement, surprise, challenge
 Physical activity
 Mood swings
 Entertainment

11. 6 Human Needs
• How do you meet the need for uncertainty?
 Alcohol
 Drugs
 New relationship
 Learning

12. 6 Human Needs
3) Significance
The need to feel special and important in some way
Sense of being needed
Sense of purpose
Uniqueness

13. 6 Human Needs
• How do you meet the need for significance?
Achievements
Academic degrees
Material possessions
Tearing others down

14. 6 Human Needs
4) Connection/Love
The need to feel connected with someone or
something
Bonding
Oneness
Intimacy

15. 6 Human Needs
• How do you meet the need for Connection/Love?
Intimate Relationships
Relationships with friends/family
Spirituality
Drugs/Smoking

16. 6 Human Needs
5) Growth
The need for the feeling that we are growing –
intellectually, spiritually, and physically
We all must grow
Growth = Life

17. 6 Human Needs
• How do you meet the need for growth?
Physical activity
Learning – continued knowledge

18. 6 Human Needs
6) Contribution
The need to contribute beyond yourself
Serving to a higher purpose

19. 6 Human Needs
• How do you meet the need for contribution?
Community service
Charitable donations
Giving to one’s children

20. 6 Human Needs
1) Certainty
2) Uncertainty/Variety Universal Needs of the
Personality
3) Significance
4) Love/Connection
5) Growth Primary Needs are Essential
To Human Fulfillment
6) Contribution
Experience sustainable joy vs. momentary pleasure

21. 6 Human Needs
• Now it’s your turn…
What are your Top 2 Needs?
What are your partner’s Top 2 Needs?
How do you relate to each other based on what
your top needs are?