This is a book excerpt from the book entitled, "Making the Most of Your Life: Eight Motivational Stories & Essays" and the one selected for the Choose Respect curriculum is "Raising the Blinds" by Peggy Kern.
This book excerpt clearly explains how a relationship could start out healthy, show warning signs (that are ignored), and wind up becoming an unhealthy relationship.
This is an abridged, mini version of the Social Health curriculum, focusing on the key issues within the Healthy Relationships unit. Could be downloaded, double sided and made into booklets for the class to be used individually or shared and completed as a group project.
Choose Respect: Healthy Relationship Mini Unit includes the National Health Standards for Social Health for the Middle School Grades with lesson plans that include lots of information and questions to respond to this information, as well as, questionnaires to complete to identify the differences between healthy, unhealthy, and abusive relationships.
This is an amended, mini version of the Social Health curriculum, focusing on the key issues within the Healthy Relationships unit. Could be downloaded, double sided and made into booklets for the class to be used individually or shared and completed as a group project.
This is an amended, mini version of the Social Health curriculum, focusing on establishing Healthy Relationships which I compiled and adapted for middle school students at 337X.
This book excerpt clearly explains how a relationship could start out healthy, show warning signs (that are ignored), and wind up becoming an unhealthy relationship.
This is an abridged, mini version of the Social Health curriculum, focusing on the key issues within the Healthy Relationships unit. Could be downloaded, double sided and made into booklets for the class to be used individually or shared and completed as a group project.
Choose Respect: Healthy Relationship Mini Unit includes the National Health Standards for Social Health for the Middle School Grades with lesson plans that include lots of information and questions to respond to this information, as well as, questionnaires to complete to identify the differences between healthy, unhealthy, and abusive relationships.
This is an amended, mini version of the Social Health curriculum, focusing on the key issues within the Healthy Relationships unit. Could be downloaded, double sided and made into booklets for the class to be used individually or shared and completed as a group project.
This is an amended, mini version of the Social Health curriculum, focusing on establishing Healthy Relationships which I compiled and adapted for middle school students at 337X.
Complimentary version: Life journey of Brendon Naicker - under a mango treeBrendon Naicker
A deep look into the fascinating and inspirational story of Brendon Naicker’s life journey. Brendon’s accolades and achievements throughout his colourful life, which took him from his seaside home in South Africa to a new democracy in the UK, include human rights advocate, Reverend, political activist, author and entrepreneur. A man who faced mountainous challenges, consistent racism, brutality and adversity. He was once told, by his own teacher, that he would never amount to anything. He became a man who left his country in pursuit of success, to pick potatoes in Lincolnshire and from there proceed to make his way into the lives, hearts and minds of all he met. A determined entrepreneur, born with the courage of a salmon swimming upstream, against the tide, yet certain of reaching his destination.
You Can Do This! is part of a series of workshops conducted by Health Coach, Camille LoParrino, at Our Town Rocks, Dundee, NY to guide participants in what they can eat, how much they can eat, and how many times a day they can eat.
This is one the most important pieces in the Choose Respect unit on Health Relationships -- Young adults must be made aware of these warning signs in their relationships to insure their safety.
This will help teenagers to identify the early warning signs of abuse in their relationships. It includes information on types of violence, what it means, and how it works. Also questions to ask themselves to discover whether they are in an abusive relationship. Bottom line here is: "If there's no respect -- there's no love."
Complimentary version: Life journey of Brendon Naicker - under a mango treeBrendon Naicker
A deep look into the fascinating and inspirational story of Brendon Naicker’s life journey. Brendon’s accolades and achievements throughout his colourful life, which took him from his seaside home in South Africa to a new democracy in the UK, include human rights advocate, Reverend, political activist, author and entrepreneur. A man who faced mountainous challenges, consistent racism, brutality and adversity. He was once told, by his own teacher, that he would never amount to anything. He became a man who left his country in pursuit of success, to pick potatoes in Lincolnshire and from there proceed to make his way into the lives, hearts and minds of all he met. A determined entrepreneur, born with the courage of a salmon swimming upstream, against the tide, yet certain of reaching his destination.
You Can Do This! is part of a series of workshops conducted by Health Coach, Camille LoParrino, at Our Town Rocks, Dundee, NY to guide participants in what they can eat, how much they can eat, and how many times a day they can eat.
This is one the most important pieces in the Choose Respect unit on Health Relationships -- Young adults must be made aware of these warning signs in their relationships to insure their safety.
This will help teenagers to identify the early warning signs of abuse in their relationships. It includes information on types of violence, what it means, and how it works. Also questions to ask themselves to discover whether they are in an abusive relationship. Bottom line here is: "If there's no respect -- there's no love."
The Equality Wheel is a model used to explain the dynamics of a healthy relationship. (Adapted from the Domestic Abuse Interventin Project, Duluth, MN).
Spread the word. Foodlink Nutritionist, Gretchen Adams, will return to Our Town Rocks in November and December to share her expertise in cooking healthy fruits and veggies. Woo hoo!
Our Town Rocks will be presenting an interactive mystery dinner theatre event performed by Acme Mystery Company called "The Y Files: Where are the Cows?" at the Veraisons Restaurant of Glenora on November 14th, 6 p.m. Call Linda @ (607) 678-4142 and reserve your spot to this hilarious show and enjoy a 3-course tasty meal for only $25. Note: Seating by reservation only. No walk ins as dinner is planned.
Gretchen Adams from Foodlink in Rochester will be here next week to teach us how to select, store, and prepare all kinds of fruits and veggies! Free gift for all. Woo hoo!
"Diabetes is not a life sentence to a rigid meal plan that deprives you of all the foods you love...The concept of a 'diabetes diet' is mostl myth. The best diet for aperson with diaetes is the same healthy diet that's best for everyone." dLife
“Friendly Foods for Diabetics” is part of a series of discussions presented at Our Town Rocks in Dundee, NY by Health Coach, Author, and resident of the Finger Lakes, Camille LoParrino. With successful personal experience, Camille specializes in the prevention and control of pre-diabetes and Type 2. LoParrino holds two Masters in Education and she is a graduate of the Institute for Integrative Nutrition. Her recent book, “Dancing in the Street: A Journey into Wellness” is toolkit of information on how she personally found the motivation and information needed to prevent diabetic complications. This guidebook is available from Our Little Books, Amazon, and Smashwords and also found in book stores and gift shops in Penn Yan and Dundee.
Choose Respect Relationship Spectrum With Sample StoryCamille LoParrino
Here are the dfferences between healthy, unhealthy, and abusive relationships with a sample scenario utilizing all six components of a healthy relatinship.
Relationships can range from healthy to abusive, and some relationships may be unhealthy, but not abusive. Here’s a breakdown of the relationship spectrum...
The Choose Respect Healthy Relationships Final Assessment includes Notes on the Materials used in the Choose Respect unit. The goal of the final task is to demonstrate understanding by answering five questions about healthy vs. unhealthy relationships. Students have a choice of presenting this information in any of the following formats:
1. A booklet ("Choose Respect")
2. An advice column ("Dear Teens"), or
3. An essay ("Healthy Relationships").
Equality is the foundation of every healthy relationship. The Equality Wheel is a model used to explain the dynamics of a healthy relationship. Each component of the wheel supports and reinforces the others. There are also certain tips for all persons involved in relationships. And finally, the Center for Injury and Prevention recommends a safety plan for relationships that indicate any warning signs of potential abuse.
1. RAISING THE BLINDS
by Peggy Kern
An excerpt from the book
“Making the Most of Your Life:
Eight Motivational Stories & Essays”
I will never forget my first day at college. I was 18 years old, and my mother had driven
me four hours to the small liberal arts school on the outskirts of Philadelphia where I
would spend the next four years. The campus was beautiful…
For the first time in my life, I felt like an adult; I was on my own, finally in charge of my
destiny, away from the chaos of my home. But still a part of me was sad. I missed my
old friends from high school. I even missed my parents. But most of all, I missed
feeling important, really important, to someone…
Then I met Tommy, a tall, handsome boy in my American History class. Tommy and I
connected instantly. He was extremely smart and witty, and he seemed to hang on every
word I said, as if I was genuinely interesting. But there was also something very sad
about Tommy, a loneliness that I strongly identified with, as if he too knew what it felt
like to be invisible. It didn’t take long for us to begin dating, and soon. Tommy and I
were together all the time. We couldn’t get enough of each other. We would spend
hours together, talking about our families and secret worries, or saying nothing at all.
We would also talk about the future. Tommy wanted to become a history teacher; I
planned to be a writer. We would help each other study and graduate from college
together. Maybe someday we would get married and have a family. Tommy was a
dream come true for me: he seemed to understand as no one else ever had. He needed
me, he said. And that made me feel wonderful.
At first, Tommy and I would go to parties together and hang out with friends. But soon
we were spending most of our time sequestered in his dorm room with the shades
drawn. Tommy didn’t like to socialize much. All I want is you, he would say whenever I
suggested a night out. Gradually, almost without my even noticing, I stopped hanging
out with my friends and began to skip classes so I could spend more time with him. We
slept all day and neglected our coursework. We ate every meal together. I worried
about my grades suffering, but nothing else felt as good as being with Tommy. So what
if I skipped class today? I’d just make up the work later on. If I failed, well, there was
always next semester. Cocooned in Tommy’s dorm room, it was easy to forget about
student loans or grade point averages. All that mattered was right now, this moment.
And besides, didn’t I deserve this type of love and attention.
When my grades finally arrived over Christmas break, I was stunned: I had failed three
of my five classes. I would have to take them over – and pay for them again as well. I
was embarrassed and angry at myself. My mom had been so proud of me when I was
2. accepted into college. This is your time to shine, baby… She had spent so much time
applying for student loans and financial aid so I could have the chance to attend a
university…. Now I had wasted my entire first semester.
I questioned my relationship with Tommy. He didn’t seem to care at all if he flunked
out of school. He would even get annoyed if I suggested that we study more or spend a
few evenings apart. Maybe we should just break up if you’re that unhappy, he would
say, his voice a mixture of sadness and pride. I loved Tommy. I did not want to break
up with him. But I did not want to flunk out of college either…
I swore to myself that I would do better next semester, but nothing changed at all.
Tommy and I fell back into our old routine: skipping class, hiding out, lost in our own
little world. My friends had officially given up on me, which meant that Tommy was
now my only companion. I was hopelessly behind on my schoolwork. I tried to catch
up, but this made Tommy insecure. If I spent an afternoon alone in the library, Tommy
would be cold towards me, as if I was choosing schoolwork over him. I wanted him to
believe that I loved him, but it seemed like the only way I could convince him of that was
by giving him all of my time and energy. I just want to be with you. Is that so bad, he
would say, his voice sounding hurt if I argued. ..
I loved Tommy, but I also understood – finally, tragically, and a bit too late – that for
the past year, I had pretended that everything was okay when in reality, my life was out
of control. I did not blame him for the choices I had made. He did not force me to skip
class I chose to neglect my schoolwork and give up my friends. However, I also
understood that Tommy loved me best when I was helpless and isolated. Tommy was
depressed, and he wanted me to sit in the dark with him.
It was time for me to put myself first. I needed to choose my own future. I was tired of
keeping the blinds drawn. I was sick of feeling small and unsure. I was tired of feeling
like I had to choose between my own success, and Tommy’s approval. I wanted to be in
college. I wanted to achieve my dream of being a writer someday. ..
I decided to move back home for a while, and tell my mother the truth about my grades.
I felt like a failure, but I also felt tremendous relief. No more hiding, no more
depression. I had to take hold of my life. It was time to break up with Tommy, and
make a real commitment to myself.
When I look back at my first year of college, I have mixed emotions. I wish I could have
stayed in Philadelphia and graduated with my friends, but I am grateful for the lessons I
learned during my freshman year. After I moved back home, I took a part-time job and
began attending a local community college. I committed myself to my studies, and
eventually I earned a scholarship to a four year university. I went on to earn a degree in
English. But most importantly, I enjoyed every single day of my college career. Each
class felt like a gift; each exam, a privilege to take. I had come so close to missing this
opportunity. I savored each day as a result.
I do not blame Tommy for the mistakes I made. Ultimately, I am the one who must
steer my own life. The choices I make have very real consequences, not just for today,
but for years to come. Cocooned in Tommy’s dorm room with the blinds closed, I had
managed to forget that for a while. It is a lesson I will not forget again.
3. Instructions on the Raising the Blinds excerpt…
Read the excerpt of the story “Raising the Blinds” about a failed
relationship. In the beginning the relationship looked good, but as this
couple got further into the relationship, there began to appear warning
signs that it would fail. And finally, Peggy realized the relationship had to
end because it turned into an unhealthy relationship, especially for her.
Examine the Green Light, Yellow Light, and Red Light Warning signs
below. Then write down (on the other side of this sheet) each of the signs
shown in Peggy and Tommy’s relationship in the beginning, the middle,
and the end. Add any others you picked up on your own from reading this
excerpt for extra credit.
GREEN LIGHT, YELLOW LIGHT, AND RED LIGHT SIGNS IN A RELATIONSHIP:
GREEN LIGHT YELLOW LIGHT RED LIGHT
(Healthy) (Warning Signs) (Unhealthy)
Talk to each other Embarrasses you Is clingy
Trust each other Is annoying at times Is jealous
Support each other Shows off Feel unsafe
Feel happy around the Calls you on the phone Feel like they are a pain
person often or nuisance
Share feelings Is competitive Have limited trust
Have freedom within the Makes plans and then Tries to control and
relationship breaks them manipulate
Have more good times Tries to make you more Makes you feel bad about
than bad like them yourself
Have fun together Uses sarcasm Does not make time for
you
Do things together Disagrees from time to Discourages you from
time being close to anyone else
Encourage other Have unequal power Criticizes you
friendships