Our ontological analysis in the Being in the World series shows that authentic Being is ontologically possible within our default mode of being in the world. But merely to theorize the possibility of such a state of complete integrity and mature individuality is insufficient.
Call of the Friend shows how to actualize the possibility of being integrity in our everyday life, despite the fact that in being in the world, our individuality is always already lost in the Other. Here we identify the ontological roots of the ontic possibility of integrity as wholeness. We also identify existential evidence for practically realizing our possibility for authenticity.
Death can be ontologically characterized as the own-most, non-relational and inevitable possibility. It is an omnipresent, inescapable but non-actualizable possibility of our Being. Thus it is an ungraspable but undeniable aspect of every moment of our existence. It follows that we can only relate to death in and through its relation to what is graspable in our existence—namely, the genuine existential possibilities that constitute our daily life. Death thus remains beyond any direct existential or phenomenological grasp. But it is graspable indirectly, as an omnipresent condition of every moment of our directly graspable existence. Death is not a specific feature of the existential landscape, but a light or shadow emanating evenly and implacably from every such feature. It is the context within which the existential features configure themselves, a self-concealing condition for our capacity to authentically disclose our own existence to ourselves.
Graspable = ready-to-hand.
Ungraspable = present-to-hand.
Death is graspable only as a possibility.
It can help us choose our authentic possibilities.
By relating to it through the other possibilities that are similarly our own.
Death is also graspable as a condition.
Self-concealing because it is non-existential.
It increases the significance of every choice we make.
Death as a context adds meaning, distinguishes authentic being.
This talk presents Dr. Tobin’s view that human relationships, especially intimate romantic bonds, revolve around a central dynamic in which one’s internal representation of relational trauma previously experienced in one’s life (metaphorically called a “parasite”) gets “injected” into the other (or in one’s partner). All human relationships are constituted by a “sender” of parasitic material and a “recipient" who is unconsciously recruited to host the parasite. Once the parasitic material nests and proliferates in the identity of the recipient, the recipient is gradually but inevitably transformed into a perpetrator who then inflicts relational trauma back onto the sender. In this way, the sender’s previous relational trauma is re-experienced in the contemporary relationship, confirming the sender’s rigid construction of the world, of others, and of human relatedness. According to Dr. Tobin, this dynamic of parasitic love explains the patterns of self-sabotage and self-destruction so common in people’s romantic lives. However, it also suggests a paradigm for understanding all forms of aggression including envy, racism, and overt acts of violence: not only are we consistently injecting our parasitic material into others, but we are constantly inundated with parasitic injections into us and ultimately altered in insidious ways that perpetuate cycles of injustice and self-hatred.
Slideshows about nonviolence and nonviolent resolution of conflicts, economic alternatives, ecology, social change, spirituality : www.irnc.org , Slideshows in english
The desire of revenge; characteristics of forgiveness; examples of forgiveness and reconciliation between people and between groups;
Death can be ontologically characterized as the own-most, non-relational and inevitable possibility. It is an omnipresent, inescapable but non-actualizable possibility of our Being. Thus it is an ungraspable but undeniable aspect of every moment of our existence. It follows that we can only relate to death in and through its relation to what is graspable in our existence—namely, the genuine existential possibilities that constitute our daily life. Death thus remains beyond any direct existential or phenomenological grasp. But it is graspable indirectly, as an omnipresent condition of every moment of our directly graspable existence. Death is not a specific feature of the existential landscape, but a light or shadow emanating evenly and implacably from every such feature. It is the context within which the existential features configure themselves, a self-concealing condition for our capacity to authentically disclose our own existence to ourselves.
Graspable = ready-to-hand.
Ungraspable = present-to-hand.
Death is graspable only as a possibility.
It can help us choose our authentic possibilities.
By relating to it through the other possibilities that are similarly our own.
Death is also graspable as a condition.
Self-concealing because it is non-existential.
It increases the significance of every choice we make.
Death as a context adds meaning, distinguishes authentic being.
This talk presents Dr. Tobin’s view that human relationships, especially intimate romantic bonds, revolve around a central dynamic in which one’s internal representation of relational trauma previously experienced in one’s life (metaphorically called a “parasite”) gets “injected” into the other (or in one’s partner). All human relationships are constituted by a “sender” of parasitic material and a “recipient" who is unconsciously recruited to host the parasite. Once the parasitic material nests and proliferates in the identity of the recipient, the recipient is gradually but inevitably transformed into a perpetrator who then inflicts relational trauma back onto the sender. In this way, the sender’s previous relational trauma is re-experienced in the contemporary relationship, confirming the sender’s rigid construction of the world, of others, and of human relatedness. According to Dr. Tobin, this dynamic of parasitic love explains the patterns of self-sabotage and self-destruction so common in people’s romantic lives. However, it also suggests a paradigm for understanding all forms of aggression including envy, racism, and overt acts of violence: not only are we consistently injecting our parasitic material into others, but we are constantly inundated with parasitic injections into us and ultimately altered in insidious ways that perpetuate cycles of injustice and self-hatred.
Slideshows about nonviolence and nonviolent resolution of conflicts, economic alternatives, ecology, social change, spirituality : www.irnc.org , Slideshows in english
The desire of revenge; characteristics of forgiveness; examples of forgiveness and reconciliation between people and between groups;
We can now join the components of our analysis of being in the world into a coherent whole. Our characterizations of default human beingness as thrown projection, care, being towards death and being guilty are complementary views of the same ontological structure from different angles. But one of our goals remains unfulfilled: we still require existential proof that a person stuck in inauthentic being is capable of attaining integrity. If our analysis is accurate, the Voice of Conscience articulates the Call. The Call is a hint within our everyday existential inauthenticity that we are anxious about our potential for authentic existence. It is the voice of our repressed but still existing capacity for genuine selfhood. But if that capacity is genuinely repressed, how can it speak out? If we can hear the Call, its repression must already have been lifted. We must have already discovered our possibility of authentic being, no matter how minutely.
Finding the Door: Falling away from our authentic self is thus experienced as a general phenomenon in life, to which every facet of human culture is vulnerable. Its convenience, generality, and particularly its effects in the philosophical traditions, are structural. For if this falling is a consequence of our absorption in the Other, it must be just as much a part of our ontological structure as the fact that we generally fail to find ourselves. Thus the tendency towards falling is an existential characteristic of default human beingness.
Our ontological analysis of anxiety in the previous section also sheds much light on skepticism and nihilism. Philosophers again and again attempt disproofs of skepticism about the reality of the external world; nevertheless all such attempts to invalidate the skeptical attitude ultimately fail. This is because any proper conception of our worldliness makes the skeptic’s doubts self-defeating, impossible and devoid of significance. We cannot disprove an unprovable philosophy. Nevertheless, skepticism as a mode of being persists.
Our ontological analysis of our default being in the world has been static—without considering its relation to time. Continuing our analysis of the underlying ontological structure of Being, we will connect the concepts of care and temporality. As before, we will forge that connection through a methodical process of phenomenological self-reflection. Our analysis of being in the world so far has been restricted to the negative. First, we focused upon inauthentic modes of being by concentrating on our average everydayness. Second, we downplayed the general structure of life as a unified whole by concentrating on the ontological structure of specific moods such as anxiety. We now reconsider these topics to demonstrate the fundamental relation of Being in time. The triple ontological structure of this section and those immediately following is authenticity, totality and temporality.
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Uses of the Erotic:
The Erotic as Power*
THERE ARE MANY kinds of power, used and unused, acknowl-
edged or otherwise. The erotic is a resource within each of us
that lies in a deeply female and spiritual plane, firmly rooted in
the power of our unexpressed or unrecognized feeling. In order
to perpetuate itself, every oppression must corrupt or distort
those various sources of power within the culture of the op-
pressed that can provide energy for change. For women, this has
meant a suppression of the erotic as a considered source of
power and information within our lives.
We have been taught to suspect this resource, vilified, abused,
and devalued within western society. On the one hand, the
superficially erotic has been encouraged as a sign of female in-
feriority; on the other hand, women have been made to suffer
and to feel both contemptible and suspect by virtue of its ex-
istence.
It is a short step from there to the false belief that only by the
suppression of the erotic within our lives and consciousness can
women be truly strong. But that strength is illusory, for it is
fashioned within the context of male models of power.
As women, we have come to distrust that power which rises
from our deepest and nontational knowledge. We have been
warned against it all our lives by the male world, which values
• Paper delivered at the Fourth Berkshire Conference on the History of Women, Mount
Holyoke College. August 25, 1978. Published as a pamphlet by Out & Out Books
(available from The Crossing Press).
53
54 SISTER OUTSIDER
this depth of feeling enough to keep women around in order to
exercise it in the service of men, but which fears this same depth
too much to examine the possibilities of it within themselves. So
women are maintained at a distantlinferior position to be
psychically milked, much the same way ants maintain colonies
of aphids to provide a life-giving substance for their masters.
But the erotic offers a well of replenishing and provocative
force to the woman who does not fear its revelation, nor suc-
cumb to the belief that sensation is enough.
The erotic has often been misnamed by men and used against
women. It has been made into the confused, the trivial, the
psychotic, the plasticized sensation. For this reason, we have
often turned away from the exploration and consideration of
the erotic as a source of power and information, confusing it
with its opposite, the pornographic. But pornography is a direct
denial of the power of the erotic, for it represents the suppres-
sion of true feeling. Pornography emphasizes sensation without
feeling.
The erotic is a measure between the beginnings of our sense of
self and the chaos of ou.
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Uses of the Erotic:
The Erotic as Power*
THERE ARE MANY kinds of power, used and unused, acknowl-
edged or otherwise. The erotic is a resource within each of us
that lies in a deeply female and spiritual plane, firmly rooted in
the power of our unexpressed or unrecognized feeling. In order
to perpetuate itself, every oppression must corrupt or distort
those various sources of power within the culture of the op-
pressed that can provide energy for change. For women, this has
meant a suppression of the erotic as a considered source of
power and information within our lives.
We have been taught to suspect this resource, vilified, abused,
and devalued within western society. On the one hand, the
superficially erotic has been encouraged as a sign of female in-
feriority; on the other hand, women have been made to suffer
and to feel both contemptible and suspect by virtue of its ex-
istence.
It is a short step from there to the false belief that only by the
suppression of the erotic within our lives and consciousness can
women be truly strong. But that strength is illusory, for it is
fashioned within the context of male models of power.
As women, we have come to distrust that power which rises
from our deepest and nontational knowledge. We have been
warned against it all our lives by the male world, which values
• Paper delivered at the Fourth Berkshire Conference on the History of Women, Mount
Holyoke College. August 25, 1978. Published as a pamphlet by Out & Out Books
(available from The Crossing Press).
53
54 SISTER OUTSIDER
this depth of feeling enough to keep women around in order to
exercise it in the service of men, but which fears this same depth
too much to examine the possibilities of it within themselves. So
women are maintained at a distantlinferior position to be
psychically milked, much the same way ants maintain colonies
of aphids to provide a life-giving substance for their masters.
But the erotic offers a well of replenishing and provocative
force to the woman who does not fear its revelation, nor suc-
cumb to the belief that sensation is enough.
The erotic has often been misnamed by men and used against
women. It has been made into the confused, the trivial, the
psychotic, the plasticized sensation. For this reason, we have
often turned away from the exploration and consideration of
the erotic as a source of power and information, confusing it
with its opposite, the pornographic. But pornography is a direct
denial of the power of the erotic, for it represents the suppres-
sion of true feeling. Pornography emphasizes sensation without
feeling.
The erotic is a measure between the beginnings of our sense of
self and the chaos of ou ...
Psychology is the study of human behaviour. It seeks to look at the motivational drives within an individual
and offer an explanation to the behaviour that is demonstrated
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Becoming is the process of changing your Being.
The dictionary defines Becoming as follows:
Be•come v. Begin to be; grow to be; turn into; (of a person) qualify or be accepted as; acquire the status of: ‘she wanted to become a doctor’.
For applications like Ontological Education, Integrity and Leadership, we are especially interested in this part of the process.
We can call this The Process of Becoming.
The Buddha defines Becoming as follows:
“Kamma is the field, consciousness the seed, craving the moisture. The consciousness of living beings… is tuned to a lower property… to a middling property… to a refined property. Thus there is the production of renewed becoming in the future. This is how there is becoming.” — Bhava Sutta (AN 3.76)
Becoming is the process of changing your Being.
The dictionary defines Becoming as follows:
Be•come v. Begin to be; grow to be; turn into; (of a person) qualify or be accepted as; acquire the status of: ‘she wanted to become a doctor’.
The Buddha defines Becoming as follows:
“Kamma is the field, consciousness the seed, craving the moisture. The consciousness of living beings… is tuned to a lower quality… to a middling property… to a refined property. Thus there is the production of renewed becoming in the future. This is how there is becoming.” — Bhava Sutta (AN 3.76)
We can now join the components of our analysis of being in the world into a coherent whole. Our characterizations of default human beingness as thrown projection, care, being towards death and being guilty are complementary views of the same ontological structure from different angles. But one of our goals remains unfulfilled: we still require existential proof that a person stuck in inauthentic being is capable of attaining integrity. If our analysis is accurate, the Voice of Conscience articulates the Call. The Call is a hint within our everyday existential inauthenticity that we are anxious about our potential for authentic existence. It is the voice of our repressed but still existing capacity for genuine selfhood. But if that capacity is genuinely repressed, how can it speak out? If we can hear the Call, its repression must already have been lifted. We must have already discovered our possibility of authentic being, no matter how minutely.
Finding the Door: Falling away from our authentic self is thus experienced as a general phenomenon in life, to which every facet of human culture is vulnerable. Its convenience, generality, and particularly its effects in the philosophical traditions, are structural. For if this falling is a consequence of our absorption in the Other, it must be just as much a part of our ontological structure as the fact that we generally fail to find ourselves. Thus the tendency towards falling is an existential characteristic of default human beingness.
Our ontological analysis of anxiety in the previous section also sheds much light on skepticism and nihilism. Philosophers again and again attempt disproofs of skepticism about the reality of the external world; nevertheless all such attempts to invalidate the skeptical attitude ultimately fail. This is because any proper conception of our worldliness makes the skeptic’s doubts self-defeating, impossible and devoid of significance. We cannot disprove an unprovable philosophy. Nevertheless, skepticism as a mode of being persists.
Our ontological analysis of our default being in the world has been static—without considering its relation to time. Continuing our analysis of the underlying ontological structure of Being, we will connect the concepts of care and temporality. As before, we will forge that connection through a methodical process of phenomenological self-reflection. Our analysis of being in the world so far has been restricted to the negative. First, we focused upon inauthentic modes of being by concentrating on our average everydayness. Second, we downplayed the general structure of life as a unified whole by concentrating on the ontological structure of specific moods such as anxiety. We now reconsider these topics to demonstrate the fundamental relation of Being in time. The triple ontological structure of this section and those immediately following is authenticity, totality and temporality.
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Essays and Speeches
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Uses of the Erotic:
The Erotic as Power*
THERE ARE MANY kinds of power, used and unused, acknowl-
edged or otherwise. The erotic is a resource within each of us
that lies in a deeply female and spiritual plane, firmly rooted in
the power of our unexpressed or unrecognized feeling. In order
to perpetuate itself, every oppression must corrupt or distort
those various sources of power within the culture of the op-
pressed that can provide energy for change. For women, this has
meant a suppression of the erotic as a considered source of
power and information within our lives.
We have been taught to suspect this resource, vilified, abused,
and devalued within western society. On the one hand, the
superficially erotic has been encouraged as a sign of female in-
feriority; on the other hand, women have been made to suffer
and to feel both contemptible and suspect by virtue of its ex-
istence.
It is a short step from there to the false belief that only by the
suppression of the erotic within our lives and consciousness can
women be truly strong. But that strength is illusory, for it is
fashioned within the context of male models of power.
As women, we have come to distrust that power which rises
from our deepest and nontational knowledge. We have been
warned against it all our lives by the male world, which values
• Paper delivered at the Fourth Berkshire Conference on the History of Women, Mount
Holyoke College. August 25, 1978. Published as a pamphlet by Out & Out Books
(available from The Crossing Press).
53
54 SISTER OUTSIDER
this depth of feeling enough to keep women around in order to
exercise it in the service of men, but which fears this same depth
too much to examine the possibilities of it within themselves. So
women are maintained at a distantlinferior position to be
psychically milked, much the same way ants maintain colonies
of aphids to provide a life-giving substance for their masters.
But the erotic offers a well of replenishing and provocative
force to the woman who does not fear its revelation, nor suc-
cumb to the belief that sensation is enough.
The erotic has often been misnamed by men and used against
women. It has been made into the confused, the trivial, the
psychotic, the plasticized sensation. For this reason, we have
often turned away from the exploration and consideration of
the erotic as a source of power and information, confusing it
with its opposite, the pornographic. But pornography is a direct
denial of the power of the erotic, for it represents the suppres-
sion of true feeling. Pornography emphasizes sensation without
feeling.
The erotic is a measure between the beginnings of our sense of
self and the chaos of ou.
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Audre Lorde
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Uses of the Erotic:
The Erotic as Power*
THERE ARE MANY kinds of power, used and unused, acknowl-
edged or otherwise. The erotic is a resource within each of us
that lies in a deeply female and spiritual plane, firmly rooted in
the power of our unexpressed or unrecognized feeling. In order
to perpetuate itself, every oppression must corrupt or distort
those various sources of power within the culture of the op-
pressed that can provide energy for change. For women, this has
meant a suppression of the erotic as a considered source of
power and information within our lives.
We have been taught to suspect this resource, vilified, abused,
and devalued within western society. On the one hand, the
superficially erotic has been encouraged as a sign of female in-
feriority; on the other hand, women have been made to suffer
and to feel both contemptible and suspect by virtue of its ex-
istence.
It is a short step from there to the false belief that only by the
suppression of the erotic within our lives and consciousness can
women be truly strong. But that strength is illusory, for it is
fashioned within the context of male models of power.
As women, we have come to distrust that power which rises
from our deepest and nontational knowledge. We have been
warned against it all our lives by the male world, which values
• Paper delivered at the Fourth Berkshire Conference on the History of Women, Mount
Holyoke College. August 25, 1978. Published as a pamphlet by Out & Out Books
(available from The Crossing Press).
53
54 SISTER OUTSIDER
this depth of feeling enough to keep women around in order to
exercise it in the service of men, but which fears this same depth
too much to examine the possibilities of it within themselves. So
women are maintained at a distantlinferior position to be
psychically milked, much the same way ants maintain colonies
of aphids to provide a life-giving substance for their masters.
But the erotic offers a well of replenishing and provocative
force to the woman who does not fear its revelation, nor suc-
cumb to the belief that sensation is enough.
The erotic has often been misnamed by men and used against
women. It has been made into the confused, the trivial, the
psychotic, the plasticized sensation. For this reason, we have
often turned away from the exploration and consideration of
the erotic as a source of power and information, confusing it
with its opposite, the pornographic. But pornography is a direct
denial of the power of the erotic, for it represents the suppres-
sion of true feeling. Pornography emphasizes sensation without
feeling.
The erotic is a measure between the beginnings of our sense of
self and the chaos of ou ...
Psychology is the study of human behaviour. It seeks to look at the motivational drives within an individual
and offer an explanation to the behaviour that is demonstrated
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Becoming is the process of changing your Being.
The dictionary defines Becoming as follows:
Be•come v. Begin to be; grow to be; turn into; (of a person) qualify or be accepted as; acquire the status of: ‘she wanted to become a doctor’.
For applications like Ontological Education, Integrity and Leadership, we are especially interested in this part of the process.
We can call this The Process of Becoming.
The Buddha defines Becoming as follows:
“Kamma is the field, consciousness the seed, craving the moisture. The consciousness of living beings… is tuned to a lower property… to a middling property… to a refined property. Thus there is the production of renewed becoming in the future. This is how there is becoming.” — Bhava Sutta (AN 3.76)
Becoming is the process of changing your Being.
The dictionary defines Becoming as follows:
Be•come v. Begin to be; grow to be; turn into; (of a person) qualify or be accepted as; acquire the status of: ‘she wanted to become a doctor’.
The Buddha defines Becoming as follows:
“Kamma is the field, consciousness the seed, craving the moisture. The consciousness of living beings… is tuned to a lower quality… to a middling property… to a refined property. Thus there is the production of renewed becoming in the future. This is how there is becoming.” — Bhava Sutta (AN 3.76)
“And how is a person of integrity endowed with qualities of integrity? There is the case where a person of integrity is endowed with conviction, conscience, concern; he is learned, with aroused persistence, unmuddled mindfulness and good discernment. This is how a person of integrity is endowed with qualities of integrity.”
— Cūḷa-puṇṇama Sutta (MN 110)
We use a positive model of integrity. It provides powerful access to enhanced performance for individuals, groups, organizations, and societies.
In our model, we discern (recognize) four phenomena dealing with right and wrong:
• morality
• ethics
• legality
• integrity
What is the teaching of the Buddha?
Is it a religion, or is it really something else—something we don’t even have a word for?
Why does Buddhism have so many rules?
Is there a scientific basis for integrity, ethics, morality, right and wrong?
What are the benefits of precepts like truthfulness, mindfulness and renunciation?
Aren’t they just outmoded beliefs?
Unity or oneness is the goal.
Mindfulness misdefined as open, receptive, pre-verbal awareness.
The Buddha does not speak with final authority because of cultural differences.
Idealism or perfection is unrealistic, against human nature.
Suttas should not be read as literal descriptions but as poetic mythology.
The Suttas encourage meditative activism.
Unity or oneness is the goal.
Integrity is difficult because it is misunderstood.
We are conditioned to be out of integrity.
Without integrity we are less than fully human.
Difference between ordinary schooling and ontological education.
Be ready to examine your assumptions about life.
Show up fully present, participating with integrity and being yourself authentically.
Look up and clear your misunderstood terms, as discussed in Becoming Genius.
Be committed to something greater than yourself, as described in What is Skillful Living?
Be willing to be cause over changing your Being, as discussed in Being and Becoming.
Being Integrity uses a certain technical terminology. You may think—and even find that others agree—that our language is unnecessarily complex, and could be made much simpler and more understandable.
Do not make this mistake, because if you do you will block the full benefit that this series makes available to you. The semantics of this material is very carefully crafted to provide a specific result. Substituting other terminology will deprive it of much of its power and effectiveness.
Most people have become so alienated from themselves by being in the world that they do not hear the silent summons of the Court of Conscience within their hearts. Thus they are convicted by default, and live the rest of their lives in dread of death.
Karma does not require any external agency, an omniscient divine judge or mystical accounting system. We ourselves are the plaintiff, the judge and the bailiff. Knowing well what we have done and not done, we condemn and sentence ourselves to a just punishment. The vast majority of human beings go after death to lower embodiments: animal wombs or other hellish conditions. These are already conditioned by their activities in this life. The process of Dependent Origination reliably brings that name-&-form into manifestation in the next life. This can happen over an entire lifespan, or in a moment. This dukkha: suffering or displeasure. The Buddha taught dukkha as the First Noble Truth, because realizing how deeply we are caught in the web of suffering is precisely the motivation to getting out.
The Call of the Friend can happen to everyone. It is a potential that can occur at any moment, due to the inherent tension of Being in the World. The Call of the Friend leads us out of this tension towards a resolution based on achieving our authentic individuality. The Call of the Friend can be heard from within ourselves. It also can be echoed by someone outside of us—someone who is further along in the process of regaining their authentic Being. This is a special kind of friendship, not based on attachment or seeking reward, but on regaining and maintaining one’s individual integrity (wholeness).
We have presented a rationale for choice and values that retains the authenticity and integrity of an individual’s life. The advantage of this model is that it gives unity to a life as a whole without requiring submission to a more or less arbitrary external authority. To achieve this wholeness, we still require to relate our life to something transcendent, beyond or outside itself. But in this case it is related to something that is one’s very own—that is, to death.
The ontological model presented herein is firmly rooted in philosophical rigor yet fully compatible with postmodern sensibilities. However, it would be premature to conclude that we advocate nihilism or atheism. The purpose of the spiritual agnosticism of Being in the World is to create an experiential ontological platform free from theological complexities. Our phenomenological approach provides a new model for theism grounded in direct personal experience of the Supreme instead of authority. Succeeding Parts of Friend of the Heart will develop this model in detail.
We have been leading up to this topic.
Care for ‘the world’ is an inadequate basis for choice.
Awareness of impending death provides a basis for integrity.
It shows that choosing for ‘the world’ is completely inauthentic.
It robs us of our self-determinism, energy, attention and authenticity.
Integrity is required for authentic Being.
Integrity is the subject of one of our advanced courses.
We use a positive model of integrity, versus the typical normative virtue model.
We define integrity as “the state or condition of being whole, complete, unbroken, unimpaired, sound, in perfect condition.”
Our analysis of death is part of our search for a complete ontological description of being in the world. Mortality often seems to be an insuperable obstacle to grasping the ontological structure of human existence as a single, unified whole. But our analysis demonstrates that understanding our mortality is actually a precondition for any individual to attain existential integrity. Our existence can become genuinely individual and whole only by seeing death ontologically as an ever-present impossible possibility that makes the possible impossibility of our existence inevitable.
Time is the ultimate ontological constraint.
Time provides the ultimate object of care: death.
Phenomenological process discloses the relation of care with death.
Inauthenticity comes first.
Temporality means being in time.
Authenticity includes being authentic about our inauthenticity.
Totality includes all sides of our being: inauthentic and authentic.
Skepticism—Look it up!
Nihilism—Look it up!
Doubting the world is a non-issue.
Skepticism toward claims is a good idea.
The only reality for us is our experience.
The world is the context for ordinary being.
Skepticism toward the world is unprovable.
You can doubt anything!
Skepticism is logically self-defeating.
The skeptical attitude finds sufficient evidence to nourish it.
Everyone is fallen.
Inauthenticity is convenient.
Traditional philosophy is inauthentic.
The cause is the structure of being in the world.
Impersonalism = objectification.
Thrown = bias toward inauthenticity.
Absorption = looking for ourselves in other entities and phenomena.
Ontology—Look it up!
Omitted from school — JT Gatto.
Trained to be a slave for 12+ years.
Experience—not external authority.
Being—not knowing, thinking, doing or having.
Care = our default way of being in the world.
We sacrifice authentic Being, trapped in the world of the Other.
Success comes from Being—not knowing, thinking, doing or having.
Ontology, the science of beingness, reveals deep insights about the nature of human life and experience. An ontological analysis of the human condition—our way of being—shows that our everyday social relations give us a particular kind of preoccupation with the world. This care about the world involves us in a network of conditions and actions we do not choose, leading us away from our authentic self.
This video series presents an extended ontological analysis of a subject that concerns and involves us all: Being in the World. Each section of the analysis will be accompanied by a detailed Study Guide giving directions for further observation and study.
We will analyze the ontic qualities of being in the world according to the ontological criteria and phenomenological methods given in the previous series, Becoming Genius. Needless to say, a working knowledge and practical familiarity with the methods presented in our previous series will be necessary to follow the discussion in Being in the World.
me•ta•cog•ni•tion, n. Awareness and understanding of one’s own thought processes.
Metacognition is cognition about cognition, or knowing about knowing. It can take many forms; it includes knowledge about when and how to use particular strategies for learning or problem-solving.
There are generally two components of metacognition: knowledge about cognition, and regulation of cognition.
The Ontological Triple is the atomic unit of ontological structure—a triune entity usually consisting of subject, object and their relation. Generally the parts of a Triple correspond with the subject, object and predicate in the grammar of most ordinary languages.
Any relationship can be expressed in the form of a Triple. Any number of Triples can overlap in being-space to express complex structures and relations.
Four Stages of Becoming Genius For any given subject: Duplication: Making an exact copy of the source
Understanding: Systems thinking through logic
Analysis: Contemplation of abstract relationships
Metacognition: Realization of new state of being
For applications like Learning and Leadership, we are especially interested in this part of Dependent Origination. We can call this The Process of Becoming.
For the purpose of investigating Learning as a process of Becoming, we will divide the stages a little differently.
We invest so much effort in proper use and understanding of language and terminology because the feedback loop between Consciousness and Name-and-Form is the most sensitive point in the Process of Becoming.
Welcome to the Program Your Destiny course. In this course, we will be learning the technology of personal transformation, neuroassociative conditioning (NAC) as pioneered by Tony Robbins. NAC is used to deprogram negative neuroassociations that are causing approach avoidance and instead reprogram yourself with positive neuroassociations that lead to being approach automatic. In doing so, you change your destiny, moving towards unlocking the hypersocial self within, the true self free from fear and operating from a place of personal power and love.
2. Our ontological analysis in the Being in the World series shows
that authentic Being is ontologically possible within our
default mode of being in the world. But merely to theorize the
possibility of such a state of complete integrity and mature
individuality is insufficient.
Call of the Friend shows how to actualize the possibility
of being integrity in our everyday life, despite the fact that in
being in the world, our individuality is always already lost in the
Other. Here we identify the ontological roots of the ontic possibility
of integrity as wholeness.We also identify existential evidence
for practically realizing our possibility for authenticity.
The Voice of Conscience
3. In our average everyday state of inauthentic being we are
lost to ourselves.We must find ourselves to achieve
authenticity. But first we have to overcome our habitual
repression of our potential for authentic selfhood, and see
that we have an authentic self to find. Something must
break through our average everyday inauthenticity to reveal
our capacity for authentic being. Our phenomenological
analysis shows that the Voice of Conscience reveals
this possibility for us.
The Voice of Conscience
4. The existential phenomenon of conscience has many
interpretations: religious, psychoanalytical, socio-biological.We
neither endorse nor reject those. Our interest is exploring the
ontological and experiential qualities of theVoice of
Conscience.We want to examine the ontic possibility of the
experience those other interpretations reference: the
mysterious change in heart from inauthentic to authentic
being.We are most interested in how to approach the
existential realization of our capacity to disclose ourselves
as lost, and how to call ourselves to regain our personal
potentiality for complete, authentic selfhood.
The Voice of Conscience
5. The Call of conscience is a form of communication that
disrupts the idle talk of the Other to which we are
ordinarily attuned. It elicits us to oppose every aspect of
inauthentic discourse. It eschews novelty and ambiguity, and
provides no foothold for curiosity.
But we must be careful not to misidentify theVoice of
Conscience as endless self-analysis or fascinated narcissistic
soliloquies, or the authentic voice can become lost in the idle
talk of the Other.
The Voice of Conscience
6. TheVoice of Conscience calls us to authentic Being. It cares not how
we appear in the eyes of others, our public role and value, or what we may
have accepted as the ‘correct’ way to live our life. It addresses us purely as a
being for whom genuine individuality is a real possibility.
Thus, the Call is devoid of content: it asserts nothing, gives no information
about worldly events, no moral guidelines for living. It merely summons us
before itself, holding up every facet of our existence, each of our life
choices, for trial before our capacity to be truly ourselves. It calls us forth
to those possibilities that are most our own. It does not dictate what
those possibilities should be; that would only further repress our capacity
to take over our own life. Conscience discourses with us always and only in
the mode of authentic hearing.
The Voice of Conscience
7. Who addresses us with this strange voice, that pulls
instead of pushes, that listens instead of speaking? Whose
voice is theVoice of Conscience? This is the greatest
mystery of life, and this inquiry is the greatest adventure,
the highest cause to which a human being can be called.
Being in the World described the first step of this
adventure, and the second step is developed herein.
The Voice of Conscience
8. We cannot identify the Caller’s specific features, for at first he
seems to have no identity other than ‘the one who Calls’.
The summoner exists only as ‘He who summons us to
Himself’.
We all hear this voice within ourselves, so perhaps it is an
aspect of ourselves calling to us. However, conscience is more
phenomenologically complex.We agree that theVoice of
Conscience is not a voice of someone outside the person
whom the Call addresses. But neither are we and the Caller
identical.
The Voice of Conscience
9. The person to whom the Call is made is lost in the Other, but the Caller is
not lost or fallen. He could not be, if His silent voice can disrupt the
inauthentic discourse of the Other.The key feature of our lostness in the
inauthentic self is being unaware any conception of ourselves as lost. We do
not know that we possess the capacity for authentic individuality.
Our everyday experience of conscience is a voice that speaks against our
expectations, even against our will.We have no plans or desire to accept
His demands.Yet something about the Call is compelling.TheVoice of
Conscience is a paradox: it both is and is not our voice—it seemingly comes
from ourselves, and yet from beyond us. How can we understand our
relation to this Call? How is it possible for theVoice of Conscience to be
experienced as a Call made upon us, rather than by ourselves?
The Voice of Conscience
10. Our passivity toward theVoice of Conscience suggests that it exposes
the fact that we are completely absorbed in being in the world.We find
ourselves thrown into a situation that we did not choose, but in which
we must nevertheless decide how to go on with our life.This is the
fundamental uncanniness of being in the world.The state in which we
find ourselves is never all that we feel that we are or could be. Nor
can we be reduced to mere being in the world, so we can never fully
identify with our life the way it is.Thus we never regard ourselves as
fully at home in the life and world we find ourselves inhabiting.This
feeling of uncanniness gives rise to the objectless anxiety of being
in the world.
The Voice of Conscience
11. We do not want to acknowledge this thrownness into unchosen existential
responsibility. Indeed, we flee from it. But theVoice of Conscience recalls this
fact about ourselves, throwing us into an anxious confrontation with our
potential for genuine individuality.TheVoice of Conscience tries to make us
find ourselves, even in the depths of being in the world.
This is why the Caller who speaks through theVoice of Conscience is definable
only by the fact of His calling.The Call reminds us that we are not at home in the
world. It speaks from the nothingness that remains when we are wrenched from
our familiar absorption in being in the world. Nothing could be more alien to
our default being than confronting our potential for authentic existence.The Call
of Conscience summons us to confront our inescapably personal abandonment
of our own authentic Being.The Call of Conscience is ontologically possible only
because the very basis of our Being is care.
The Voice of Conscience
12. The Call of Conscience is often heard as accusing us, identifying us as being
guilty. Guilt is conceptually connected with indebtedness and responsibility.A
guilty person is responsible for making amends for some deprivation or loss.
This presupposes that we are responsible for our deficiency.This guilt is
for being responsible for a nullity: the absence of something valuable.
The ontic phenomenon of guilt reflects the fundamental ontological structure
of our existence as thrown projection.We can realize only one of the
existential possibilities the situation makes available.We choose on the basis
of the particular state of self and world in which we find ourselves.We never
have complete control over our situation or the restrictions it imposes; our
capacity for projective commitment must always originate from within a
particular context, so we can never fully determine its structure.
The Voice of Conscience
13. In existing as thrown, we constantly lag behind our possibilities.
We never have complete power over our own being in the
world.This is the existential meaning of thrownness.
However, nullity is integral to our capacity for projection. For by
projecting upon one particular possibility, we thereby negate all
other possibilities; choosing to realize any existential choice
determines the non-realization of all others.The nature of our
Being as care means being the cause of the destruction of the
possibilities we choose not to actualize.
The Voice of Conscience
14. The authenticity to which conscience Calls us is thus an existential mode
of being guilty:“Damned if we do and damned if we don’t.” Alibis, making
amends or reform might eradicate the ontic guilt of one specific action;
but ontological guilt, being an inescapable condition of existence, is the
primal and ineradicable ‘original sin’.
Authenticity, then, first reveals that being guilty is the ontological
condition that is most our own.The aim is not to overcome or
transcend guilt, since that would amount to transcending one’s
thrownness.The Call summons us to take responsibility for the
situation into which we are thrown, and the particular projections and
choices we make in it. It leads us to make our necessarily guilty existence
our own, rather than project responsibility on ‘them’.
The Voice of Conscience
15. Accepting the Call means readiness to take responsibility for our
existential choices, to be indebted to oneself.The Call of
Conscience demands making existential decisions in the light of one’s
authentic potential for being guilty. Our only authentic response to the
Call of Conscience is to choose whether to accept the Call or repress it.
TheVoice of Conscience is not seeking the adoption of some particular
standard of moral right and wrong, some karmic calculus of debt and
credit.The response the Call seeks is our desire to have a conscience.To
cultivate this desire is to engage oneself in the service of one’s capacity
for authentic individuality; it is the essence of choosing for oneself.
The Voice of Conscience
16. In the triple ontological structure of our Being
as care, as we discussed in Being in the
World, a particular state of mind and mode of
discourse belong to every mode of
understanding. For example, our feeling of
uncanniness in being in the world elicits
anxiety. Similarly, the mode of discourse
corresponding to anxiety is one of reticence:
keeping silent.The particular form of self-
disclosure that the Call of Conscience elicits in
us is a reticent self-projection upon our own
being guilty, in which we are ready for anxiety.
This ontic state is ‘resoluteness’.
The Voice of Conscience
Being Guilty
Reticence
Ready for
Anxiety
Resoluteness
17. Resoluteness does not isolate us or
detach us entirely from being in the world.
Rather, it returns us to our place and
specific caring relations with entities and
others, to discover our authentic
possibilities and grasp them in the way most
genuinely our own.
The Voice of Conscience
Being Guilty
Reticence
Ready for
Anxiety
Resoluteness
18. Resoluteness is inherently indefinite: no
existential blueprints for authenticity arise
from this ontology.The disclosures and
projections of our resoluteness must
respond to the particulars of our situation.
Our view of the situation into which we are
thrown by life is volatilized by the Other’s
ambiguity, curiosity and insatiable hunger for
novelty. It is only through the disclosure of a
concrete act of resolution that a particular
context is given existential definition at all.
The Voice of Conscience
Being Guilty
Reticence
Ready for
Anxiety
Resoluteness
19. Our place in the world as a locus of
authentic existential choice is thus not
something resoluteness presupposes, but
rather something it allows or creates.
Resoluteness means projecting upon our
existential possibilities from the range of
choices most authentically our own. It also
means projecting our context as a definite
range of existential possibilities: those
possibilities we own as ‘mine’.Thus when we
heed the Call of Conscience, resoluteness
becomes the context of our life.
The Voice of Conscience
Being Guilty
Reticence
Ready for
Anxiety
Resoluteness