In life, there will always be a clash that what you want from yourself and what people around want from you. So you really have to understand the reality of meeting expectation.

1. Are you the victim of
“Meeting expectation”?
By: Anshu
E-Mail: dreampinch@gmail.com
Blog: www.dreampinch.com

2. “I failed to meet the expectation.”
This sentence is the most horrible one, which is given by almost each one
who goes through the emotional breakdown after failure.
In fact, some people try to end up their life because they feel that they
failed to meet their parent’s expectation, they failed to meet their family’s
expectation, or they failed to meet their own expectation.
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3. So what does it mean “failed to meet the expectation.”? Is
this the ultimate goal for which god send us on this
earth – to meet someone’s expectation, so when we
become unable to do so, we decide to quit the life.
Doesn’t we overestimates meeting the expectation.
We took it as life and death issue.
Kids generally overburdened with the emotion that their
parents did so much for them so it’s their duty to fulfil
parent’s expectation.
I know these are unseen expectations which exist in our
mind without our consent but isn’t it insensible to end
the life just because one failed to meet the expectation.
So what’s wrong with the meaning of meeting
expectation?

4. We, the parents, want to provide each and every resource to our kids and in
return want them always be on the top. Sometimes it’s said expectation
or sometimes it’s unsaid, but it has become a kind of norm of each
parent. Grade less than A+ is unacceptable. We do not concentrate that
what our kid is learning, but we want to see their report card full of
marks and grades rather than the real learning.
In reality, marks never make a good person but knowledge makes great
personalities. So somewhere this misconception “marks define the
success” is killing our kid’s confidence.

5. It’s an unsaid truth of society that if kids are doing what their parents want that
means they are fulfilling expectations, Even if children want to do something else.
Few months ago a girl chooses to suicide even if she got great rank in IIT entrance
exam. She must be happy that she fulfilled her parent’s expectations then why
she took such horrible decision? The reason was she never wanted to choose
engineering stream. She loved studying geography but her parents wanted her to
be an IIT tagged engineer. So she succeed to meet the so called expectation of
her parents but failed to meet the expectation of her heart’s choice, her real
expectation.
Is there any person in this world who never failed? So how can think that you
could break the expectation if failed? In fact, if you are failing means you are
moving ahead. You are not living with the fear that you may fail.
Also when you fail, you come to know about your shortcomings. So how you can
misinterpret it that you failed in one task so you failed in meeting your parents’
expectations.

6. Few days before one student attempted suicide because he failed to get
more marks than his neighbourhood friend. His parents would get
ashamed because of his lesser mark. Isn’t it a stupidity? Are these marks
precious than life? It’s not about whose fault. Point is that Fault is in
our thinking. We think that we are getting good mark so we will be able
to survive life in a better way. We will be able to earn good money. This
is really a wrong conception.
Education is just not to earn money after studying 19-20 years but it is a
way to help us to choose the way what we want, where we want to go,
what we want to make ourself. You can find many stories of IITiens who
quit their job and choose to do what they want so isn’t it better to take
the efforts to know the life’s target in early stage and work on that
rather than spending so many years on getting into IITs.
It’s just an example but it interprets the real scenario of the world.

7. Do you really want to know that what does it mean by meeting the
expectation of oneself, parents, family and ultimately of the god?
Our first and foremost duty is giving hundred percent to the things what
we are doing and what we love to do.
Our concern should be to give full efforts without thinking about the end
result.
Without thinking does not mean without pouring your mind into your
work. It means you have to give full efforts from your heart, mind and
body.
At the end, you should have the feeling, “I gave 100% with my honesty.
Now whatever would be the result, I am ready to accept that.”
If you are doing this, you are meeting the expectation.

8. You cannot give your 100% to the work, which you do not like. You cannot
realise someone else’s dream with full proficiency but you can give your
each and every effort to the thing which you love by heart.
So knowing your heart, what it wants, is meeting the expectation.
Initially, it feels like crazy or unrealistic what your heart says but if your
heart denies to give up on that then it’s time to listen to it and work on
it.
Why am I talking about this point? Answer is, in life there will always be a
clash that what you want from yourself and what people around (can
include your parents, family, neighbours etc) want of you.
So you have to sit and be clam to think about all the circumstances
because you have one life and you can’t do justice with it unless you are
not doing what your heart want.

9. Being honest to oneself, being honest to the work, being honest to the life
is meeting expectation.
Because you can cheat your parents, you can cheat to the world in disguise
that you are working very hard for your work but you are the only one
who can do truthful self assessment.
So, if you are truthful to yourself then you are meeting the expectations.
You are listening to your heart. You are honest to yourself. You know your
in and out. And you are doing what you want, so why to worry about the
result.
Success will surely be yours, sooner or later.
Go ahead you are meeting God’s expectation too.

10. Beyond dreams, beyond the goal, beyond hard work, beyond passion the
most important thing in life is being happy.
Without if, else, but you know how to be happy and above that you know
to keep people happy, you are meeting expectations of oneself as well as
humanity.
Being happy is the god’s greatest gift but alas every one of us does not
have the capacity to hold it.
Every one of us in this world is for some purpose. Maybe it is small or a
big.
So do you know what your life dream is? What you want from life.
If you know and you are working on it, congrats you are meeting life’s
expectation.

11. It’s any parent’s hidden wish that their children should be one the top of
the world and the happiest one in this world.
But sometimes they bound the results with their way.
Example: you will be happy in your life if you will become a doctor. It’s
totally a wrong way.
A bird cannot be happy when he is swimming or a fish cannot be happy
when she is climbing.
Can’t imagine my statement. Right, I too cannot, so how our kids can
realise the things for which they do not have talent. They have talent
but may not be of what you wanted.
So it’s a mutual responsibility of children and parents that they should
open their heart to let know the other one, what they wanted.

12. It’s really tough to let the children do what they want when we our self
spent our whole life according to someone else’s choice.
But at the same time, we are the only one who can understand what it
meant to live life own way because we too wanted to live the life our way.
So It’s the time to meet your child’s expectation and to be a real friend of
your child.
Good - bad, happy - sad, gain - loss, success - failure. It is nature’s cycle. So
don’t worry if you got a failure.
It’s just an indication that you have to work hard or you have to take some
other way-plan B. But just because you failed, you can’t quit life. You
can’t end life.
In life, there are enormous opportunities. Losing in one doesn’t mean you
will lose all the opportunities. You just have to sit, work again and have
to have the patience to see that success in life.

13. Each person in this world is different. Evaluation between two person’s
work is fine but comparing two personalities on one aspect is a sin because
maybe one is good in communication and the another one is good in
painting so you cannot compare both on communication skill and can
define the second one as useless.
Note : Parents don’t compare your kid with other kids and rather spent
time in recognising your kid’s talent and growing and improving that.
It’s very hard to accept the word “I Cannot”. We always have a fear that
what people would say if they will know that “I cannot ....” But knowing
own reality and showing same to the world is the biggest courage so if
you have that guts, you are meeting the expectation.
Because rather than following hard race you took courage to deny and
choose a different way. Not everyone had that courage. Congratulations
you are few of those personalities who are brave enough.

14. Are you also living with the wrong interpretation of meeting the
expectations? If you have any story about “meeting the expectation”, Share
it with me. Maybe it can change someone’s life.
Send me your mail at: dreampinch@gmail.com

15. Thank You
By: Anshu
E-Mail: dreampinch@gmail.com
Blog: www.dreampinch.com