CATERPILLAR TO BUTTERFLY
Part 1 – Self-awareness
Presentation by I M CONFIDENT Niagara Canada
Re-Created 2018 by Brenda Silveira
ABOUT THIS PROGRAM
This is a self-led coaching session that is based on actual confidence coaching sessions
and information contained in The Caterpillar to Butterfly Self-Esteem Workbook. Use
them together build your knowledge base and give you the tools that are needed to
build your confidence and increase your self-esteem. They will help keep you
motivated and encourage you to move forward in life.
Please note that our visual presentations and printed information are not intended to
replace any professional help you may be receiving. Use them in conjunction with
your current services and/or programs.
If you are feeling overwhelmed by life situations or feel that this information is not
helping you properly, please contact your health professional for assistance. YOUR
LIFE IS VALUABLE!
People want instant gratification today. We want things to change
quickly and we want everything to happen NOW! However, even
though some changes are quick, most take time, especially if they are
going to be of any benefit to us.
If we want good changes to happen, it requires that we open our mind
and heart. Change is a process that is ongoing and it requires a
commitment and taking action.
We all need to make changes in our lives and everyone can change if
they really want to.
So lets get started on making some awesome changes!
ROME WASN’T BUILT IN A DAY
READ PAGES 2 - 8
Many people don’t really know who they are.
• Do you know who you are or are you living your life
according to other people’s expectations?
• Are you hiding behind a mask so others can’t see the real
• Have you put up walls to protect yourself?
• Do you see your abilities, skills and strengths or do you only
see flaws, imperfections, failures?
It is time to become more self-aware of who you really are.
STAGE OF OUR LIVES
TURN TO PAGE 9
The stages in our lives are similar to those of a caterpillar.
Answer the questions on this page to determine what stage you
are at now and what stage you want to reach.
CONFIDENCE AND SELF-ESTEEM
Do you know the difference between confidence and self-
esteem? Simply stated – confidence is something that other
people see and self-esteem is something that only we can see.
The picture of the dog shows confidence – we can see he is
happy running. The picture of the cat shows self-esteem. We
can see the cat but the cat can see the strong lion inside.
HOW DO WE GAIN THE CONFIDENCE TO
We can do this through:
1. Doing a honest self-evaluation
2. Learning to accept ourselves
3. Changing our self-image
Read page 10 and do the self-
What do you say when you wake up
in the morning?
Think about the first words that
come out of your mouth. Are they
positive words that lift you up and
make you feel good or are they
negative words that drag you down
and make you feel bad?
Read page 11 and do the exercise. Then do
the exercise on page 12. Did you learn
something new about yourself?
Read page 13 and do the
exercise – accepting
yourself. Then list your
strengths and weaknesses
and do the exercise on
It is important that we focus on our abilities and
work hard to reach our potential.
We ALL have unique worth and value.
We show others how we feel about ourselves
through our appearance and actions.
Our inner beauty tells others that we value
ourselves and it can make a huge impact on
the way they see us.
It is important that we try to look our best but
outer beauty fades and isn’t consistent.
Read page 15 and do the
exercise about your self-
There’s a difference between pretty
When someone is pretty, they have
a good appearance.
But when someone is beautiful,
they shine on both the inside and
When we feel good about ourselves
and can accept our strengths and
weaknesses, we will build confidence
and our self-esteem will grow.
Read pages 16 - 17 and do the
WHY IS IT SO HARD TO BECOME
CONFIDENT IN TODAY’S WORLD?
Society continually pressures us
to become perfect in a world
that is imperfect.
Think of ways that you are
pressured daily to become
someone you are not. Write
down your thoughts on the
notes pages at the end of the
DO YOU PLAY THE COMPARISON
Most of us play the comparison game in one way or another.
However, it is a game we can never win. There will always be
someone who is smarter, richer, more popular and better looking.
We all want to fit in and be accepted by others but we are looking
externally instead of making changes within ourselves. However,
our value doesn’t come from what we look like , what we know or
what we have. Our value comes from who we are.
Look at the next slide and see if you are one of these game players.
THE COMPARISON GAME
I wish I looked like
Barb. She is so
IT’S TIME TO STOP
BEATING OURSELVES UP!
Life is NOT perfect
People are NOT perfect
The grass is NOT really greener on the
other side of the fence
Happiness does NOT come from
outside, it comes from inside
Make positive changes in our lives
Start believing in ourselves
Start being a good example to others
Start helping others believe in
SO WHAT CAN WE DO?
Are you experiencing high levels of stress in
Stress is accepted as a normal part of life but
too much stress is very damaging to our
How can we control the stress in our lives?
Read pages 18 – 19 and do the
Find a mirror and look directly into it. Who
do you see?
NOW LET’S FIND THE BEAUTIFUL
Read pages 20 – 21 and do the
…is the ONLY ONE who can make you
THE PERSON YOU SAW IN THE
*You don’t have to let the world stress you out
YOU ARE THE BEAUTIFUL
*You don’t have to be like anyone else
*You are one of a kind
*You are unique
*YOU ARE SPECIAL!
Read page 22 and do the exercise.
Then take a few minutes and do the
Positive Shapes Activity. This will
help remind you daily what an
awesome person you really are!!!
BEING POSITIVE DOESN’T COME
Read page 23 to
that will help you
…it takes a lot of hard
work and patience.
Here is a list of some things that will help you become more
positive. Decide what you are willing and able to do and
write them done.
□ Change what I watch on TV
□ Read books that inspire me
□ Listen to music that uplifts me
□ Start exercising regularly
□ Eat healthy foods
□ Join an interest group
□ Volunteer for a local organization
□ Visit a local church
□ Start a hobby
□ Your idea…….
BEING POSITIVE HELPS ALL OF US
Turn to page 24 and circle all the
qualities that pertain to you. There
should be lots!!
WE CAN ALL BE BUTTERFLIES!
Turn to page 25 and draw or paste
your picture in the space.