This document provides information on anger management. It discusses how anger management is about using anger positively rather than eliminating it completely. The positive aspects of anger are increased energy, ability to communicate feelings, and problem solving, while the negatives are disrupted thinking, unnecessary defensiveness, and aggression. The document offers tips for expressing anger in healthy ways rather than aggressive behaviors and outlines steps for managing anger, including identifying triggers, calming down techniques, and resolving conflicts respectfully.

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ANGER
MANAGEMENT

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ANGER MANAGEMENT
Anger management does not
involve getting rid of all anger,
but using anger to enhance your
life. We can look at the purposes
of anger in both a positive and
negative light.

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The positive aspects of anger
are you have increased energy,
are able to communicate your
feelings, able to problem solve
and can take charge of the
situation.

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The negative aspects of anger
are you can have disruption of
your thinking, unnecessarily
defend yourself, become
aggressive and become known
as an angry person.

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Anger management is a way to
increase the positive aspects of
anger and decrease the negative
aspects of anger.

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Know the difference between ANGER
and AGGRESSION.
1. Anger is an emotion. It is ok to be
angry. It is part of being human.
2. Aggression is acting out
inappropriately and is not ok. Learn
to check your aggression and express
your anger appropriately.

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Taking off the masks
Sometimes
anger really is …
• Embarrassment
• Shame
• Disappointment
• Jealousy
• Fear
• Helplessness
• Sadness
• Feeling left-out

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You are in charge
of your own
feelings:
1. You own your feelings.
2. It is okay to feel angry.
3. Anger is part of being
human.
4. Learn how to express your
anger in helpful ways.

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Do you show
anger in
aggressive ways?
Do you…..
• Throw things
• Kick people or things
• Get in someone’s face
• Shove, grab or hit
• Break things
• Call people names
• Give someone a dirty
look
• Give people the silent
treatment
• Get others to “gang up”
• Spread rumors

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Choose to feel
good about
yourself by
expressing your
feelings.
Express your feelings in ways that
are fair to others and yourself.
Use fair words…such as “I feel…”

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The more you learn to
take care of your anger
the more powerful you
become.
1. You need to control what
you do with your anger.
2. You control how you let
your anger out.
3. Practice cooling off.
4. Watch your thoughts.

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• Identify possible
consequences of
your anger to others
and yourself.
What can that mean
for you?
• Physical harm to
someone or self
• Destruction of property
• Loss of friends
• Loss of social
privileges
• Getting a bad
reputation
• Going to juvenile hall

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• Identify self-
destructive
behavior.
• Negative self-talk
• Blaming everyone else
• Taking everything
personally
• Assuming
• Looking for fights
• Feeling outraged
• Self-injury
• Overeating, drinking
• Taking drugs

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Stop blaming
others and
yourself.
1. Blaming only keeps
people upset.
2. Blaming is a way of
not respecting people.
3. Express your feelings
and then try to work
things out.

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What do you think
before your angry
actions?
Do you think …
• You did that on purpose…
• You wanted to hurt me…
• You deserve this…
• You never even asked me…
• You’re being unreasonable…
• You think you’re so good…
• I’ll show you…
• You started it…
• It’s not fair…

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Identify how you
physically feel
when you are
angry
• Stomach gets
tight/upset
• Heart beats faster
• Clench fists
• Feel yourself getting
flushed
• Pressure on your
temples
• Sweaty palms
• Clenched jaw

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You don’t have to
hold on to your
anger.
1. Find ways to let it go.
2. Talk about hurt and
angry feelings.
3. Look for someone to
discuss your anger.

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Take control of your anger
1. Stand up for yourself
and others being hurt.
2. Learn to defeat
negative self-talk.
3. Feel good about
learning about
yourself.
4. You are strong when
you use fair and firm
words instead of fists.

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Steps to taming anger
1. Know what pushes
your buttons.
2. Know your body’s
anger signs.
3. Stop and think!
4. Decide what to do.

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Ways to Calm Down:
1. Exercise.
2. Eat right.
3. Get enough sleep.
4. Learn to relax.
5. Know your feelings.
6. Write about those feelings.

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7. Find a quiet place.
8. Take a time out.
9. Find fun distractions.
10. Make good decisions
about what you see
and hear.
11. Choose friends who
make you feel good.
12. Learn to forgive and
forget.

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Conflict resolution steps:
1. Calm down
2. Identify the
problem
3. Find solutions
4. Pick the best
solution
5. Evaluate the
solution
6. Make changes if
necessary

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Remember people are precious.
1. Watch your thoughts,
words, and actions.
2. Stop hurting people
with your words and
actions.
3. Take ownership of the
hurtful things you do
and say.
4. “Bullying” hurts
everyone.

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