Learn some parenting skills

1. A Journey towards Effective Parenting
Parenting from the Heart
ထိရ ောက်ရ ော မိဘအုပ်ထိန််းမှု ခ ်းစဉ်
နှလု်း ော်း ဖြစ် မိဘအုပ်ထိန််းဖခင််း

2. Parenting is a gift of ______

3. Parenting is Gardening
The Universe blossoms in face of child. By
bringing out the best in your child, you bring
out the best in this universe.

4. Parenting is Trust
The biggest trust is being entrusted with a life. The
biggest responsibility is to live that trust through
out your life.
အကြြီးမှာြီးဆုံြီးယုံကြည်မှုမှာ ဘဝတစ်ခုံြုံ အပ်နင်ြီးခခင်ြီးပင်ခြစ်သည်။
အကြြီးမှာြီးဆုံြီးတှာဝန်မှာ ထုံယုံကြည်မှုြုံ သင်ဘဝတစ်လလ ှာြ်လုံြီး
အသြ်ရင်လနထုံင်ရန်ခြစ်သည်။

5. Parenting is Labor of Love
The sleepless nights, the career sacrifices, the
postponing of your so many activities. The prize of
parenting comes at a price.

6. Parenting is Enjoying
Smiling together, singing songs, playing together
with your child…..are most enjoyable
moments of life.

7. Overview
• Practical Meaning of Parenting
• Myths and Facts related to Parenting
• Different Parenting Styles and their outcomes
• 12 Strategies for Nurturing a Child’s
Developing Mind

8. Overview
• The best approaches of parenting to
teenagers
• Parental Involvement in Your Child’s
Education
• SEL (Social Emotional Learning)

9. 1. Open Communication: Encourage open and honest
communication with your teenager. Create a safe and
non-judgmental environment where they feel
comfortable expressing their thoughts, feelings, and
concerns. Listen actively and validate their experiences,
even if you don't always agree.
2. Set Clear Expectations: Establish clear and
reasonable expectations for behavior, responsibilities,
and consequences. Involve your teenager in the process of
setting rules and boundaries, and ensure they understand
the reasons behind them.

10. 3. Respect Their Independence: Recognize and
respect your teenager's need for autonomy and
independence. Allow them to make their own
decisions whenever possible, while providing
guidance and support as needed.
4. Lead by Example: Be a positive role model for
your teenager by demonstrating the values,
behaviors, and communication skills you want
to instill in them. Show them how to handle
challenges, conflict, and stress in a healthy and
constructive manner.

11. 5. Provide Guidance, Not Control: Instead of
trying to control every aspect of your teenager's life,
focus on providing guidance and support. Offer
advice, share your own experiences, and help them
navigate difficult situations, but ultimately empower
them to make their own choices.
6. Build Trust: Foster a trusting relationship with
your teenager by being reliable, consistent, and
supportive. Keep your promises, respect their
privacy, and avoid betraying their trust.

12. 7. Encourage Independence: Encourage your
teenager to take on responsibilities, pursue their
interests, and develop their own identity. Support
their goals and aspirations, and give them
opportunities to learn and grow through new
experiences.
8. Stay Calm and Patient: Adolescence can be a
tumultuous time filled with mood swings, rebellion,
and conflict. Stay calm and patient, even when faced
with challenging behavior or disagreements. Choose
your battles wisely and focus on maintaining a
positive connection with your teenager.

13. 9. Celebrate Their Achievements: Acknowledge
and celebrate your teenager's achievements, no
matter how big or small. Offer praise and
encouragement to boost their self-esteem and
confidence, and show them that you're proud of
their accomplishments.
10. Stay Involved: Stay involved in your teenager's
life by showing interest in their activities, friends,
and experiences. Attend their events, ask about
their day, and stay informed about their interests and
concerns. Show them that you're there to support and
guide them, no matter what.

14. Practically, Parenting is……
• Meeting the child’s needs to age of 18 or sometimes
longer.
• Guiding the child toward the goal of becoming a
competent adult.

15. Parenting Myths and Realities
မိဘအုပ်ထိန််းဖခင််းဒဏ္ဍော မ ော်းနှင်ဖြစ် ပ်မှန်မ ော

16. Myth 1: All parenting skills are instinctive
မဘအုံပ်ထန်ြီးခခင်ြီးဆုံင်ရှာ ြျွမ်ြီးြျင်မှုအှာြီးလုံြီးသည်
အလုံလုံသနုံင်သည်

17. Facts:
 No one is born with all the preparation needed to
be an effective parent
 Many parenting skills must be learned through
gaining knowledge and experience

18. Myth 2: A mature adult can be a perfect parent
adult can be a perfect parent
A mature adult can be a perfect parent
A mature adult can be a perfect parent

19. Facts:
 Humans are not perfect, so no one can be a perfect
parent
 Mature adults should strive to become competent
parents, not perfect parents

20. Myth 3: Good parenting guarantees good children

21. Facts:
 Influences outside the family, such as peers,
adults other than parents, and media affect
children in healthy or unhealthy ways

22. Myth 4:Parenting is always fun

23. Facts:
 Like any other job, parenting can be fun, sad,
exciting, boring, satisfying, and frustrating
 Adults should have realistic expectations about
parenting

24. Parenting Styles and Outcomes

25. Types of Parenting Styles
1. Authoritarian Parenting Style
2. Authoritative Parenting Style
3. Permissive Parenting Style
4. Uninvolved Parenting Style
5. Attachment Parenting Style
6. Helicopter Parenting Style
7. Tiger Parenting Style
8. Positive Parenting Style
9. Responsive Parenting Style
10. Coercive Parenting Style
11. Distracted Parenting Style

26. Our parenting styles can influence how our
child thinks about and interacts with the outside
world, which can include:
•How they make friends and choose romantic
partners
•How they view themselves (self-esteem)
•How they perform academically
•Their mental health and well-being

28. Parenting Styles and Outcomes

29. Parenting Styles and Outcomes
Authoritarian Parenting
Authoritarian parents are strict and demanding. They have high expectations for their
children and often use punishment as a means of control. They value obedience and
discipline but may lack warmth and emotional support.
Authoritative Parenting
In the Authoritative parenting style, parents set clear rules and boundaries for their
children, but they also provide warmth, support, and open communication. They
encourage independence and allow for a balanced mix of discipline and nurturing.
Permissive Parenting
Parents with a Permissive parenting style are lenient and indulgent. They are less
likely to enforce strict rules and may prioritize their child’s happiness and desires.
Discipline is usually minimal, and there is often a lack of structure.
Uninvolved/ Neglectful Parenting
Uninvolved or neglectful parents are disengaged and provide minimal emotional
support or guidance to their children. They may meet basic physical needs but are
generally detached from their child’s life and development.

30. 1. Authoritarian: Limits without Freedom
These parents are
extremely strict and
are often cold. They
communicate
through lectures,
yelling,
punishment, and
one-sided
discussions.
အှာဏှာရင်- လွတ်လပ်မှုမရဘဲ ြန်သတ်ချြ်မျှာြီး

31. OUTCOME
Positives:
 Discipline and Order
 Safety and Protection
 High Academic
Achievement
 Resilience and Self-
Control
 Respect for Authority

32. OUTCOME
Negatives:
 Limited Emotional
Expression
 Low Self-Esteem
 Social and Communication
Problems
 Rebellion and Resentment
 Fear and Anxiety
 Limited Problem-Solving
Skills

33. 2.Permissive: Freedom without limits
On the other extreme of
the parenting spectrum is
permissive parenting. As
the name suggests,
permissive parenting is
more of an "anything
goes" attitude. These
parents do not attempt to
exert any sort of control
over their children.
ခွင်ခပြုချြ်- အြန်အသတ်မရ လွတ်လပ်မှု

34. OUTCOME
Positives:
 Warm and Supportive
Relationships
 High Self-Esteem
 Creativity and
Independence
 Open Communication
 Flexibility and
Adaptability
 Emotional Expression

35. OUTCOME
Negatives:
 Lack of Structure and
Boundaries
 Behavioral Problems
 Poor Academic
Performance
 Dependency
 Risk of Entitlement
 Difficulty with Authority

36. 3.Authoritative/ positive Parenting: Freedom
with Limits
Democratic parenting is
the middle ground
approach and is often
considered the
parenting ideal.
Democratic parenting
is based on warmth,
love, guidance, and
positive discipline.
အခပြုသလဘှာလဆှာင်လသှာ မဘအုံပ်ထန်ြီးမှု

37. Democratic: Freedom within limits (or)
Authoritative/ Positive Parenting

38. Outcome
Positives:
 Healthy Development
 High Self-Esteem
 Good Behavior and
Self-Regulation
 Positive Relationships
 Academic Success
 Independence and
Autonomy

39. Outcome
Negatives:
Potential for
Overwhelm
Parent-Child
Conflict
Challenges with
Consistency
Cultural Differences

40. 4. Uninvolved/Neglectful Parenting
Uninvolved/neglectful
parenting is a caregiving
style in which the
parent is not physically
or emotionally involved
in their child’s day-to-
day care, supervision, or
activities.
မပါဝင်/လျစ်လျျူရှုလသှာ မဘအုံပ်ထန်ြီးမှု

41. Outcome
Negatives:
 Emotional and
Psychological Issues
 Behavioral Problems
 Poor Academic
Performance
 Social Difficulties
 Physical Health Issues
 Interpersonal
Attachment Issues

42. Scenario Analysis
Scenario 1:
Age: 11 years old
Behavior: The daughter/son brings home a
report card with 2Bs, 1C, and 3D’s
Scenario 2:
Your 11-year old daughter/son wants to know
why you won't let her wear makeup, expensive
branded clothes, and earrings. She says all her
friends do.

43. 5.Attachment Parenting
Attachment parenting
emphasizes the importance of
forming a strong emotional
bond with the child, often
through practices such as baby-
wearing, co-sleeping, and
responsive feeding. Parents
practicing attachment
parenting aim to be highly
attuned to their child's needs
and emotions.
တွယ်တှာ မဘအုံပ်ထန်ြီးခခင်ြီး

44. Outcome
Positives:
 Secure Attachment
 Emotional Regulation
 Improved Mental
Health
 Enhanced Brain
Development
 Positive Self-Concept
 Strong Parent-Child
Bond

45. Outcome
Negatives:
 Exhaustion for Parents
 Limited Independence
 Social Stigma
 Challenges with
Boundaries
 Difficulty with
Transitions
 Potential for Over-
Reliance

46. 6. Helicopter Parenting
Helicopter parents are highly
involved in their child's life
and tend to hover over them,
monitoring their activities
closely and often intervening to
prevent failure or discomfort.
While their intentions may be
good, helicopter parents may
inadvertently hinder their
child's independence and
problem-solving skills.

47. Outcomes
Positives:
 Safety and Security
 Academic Success
 Emotional Support
 Structured Environment
 Close Parent-Child
Relationship

48. Outcomes
Negatives:
 Lack of Independence
 Anxiety and Stress
 Low Self-Esteem
 Risk Aversion
 Difficulty with
Transition
 Strained Relationships

49. 7. Tiger Parenting
Tiger parenting is
characterized by high levels
of demandingness and
expectations for academic
or extracurricular
achievement. Tiger parents
push their children to excel
academically and may have
strict rules and
consequences for
underperformance.

50. Outcomes
Positives:
 High Academic
Achievement
 Resilience and
Perseverance
 Goal Orientation
 Cultural Pride and
Identity
 Preparation for Success

51. Outcomes
Negatives:
 High Levels of Stress
 Limited Creativity and
Exploration
 Negative Impact on Mental
Health
 Strained Parent-Child
Relationships
 Lack of Autonomy and
Independence
 Risk of Burnout

52. 8. Positive Parenting
Positive parenting focuses on
building a strong, positive
relationship with the child
while promoting their
emotional and social
development. This approach
involves using positive
reinforcement, empathy,
and non-punitive discipline
techniques to guide
children's behavior.
အခပြုသလဘှာလဆှာင်လသှာ မဘအုံပ်ထန်ြီးမှု

53. Outcomes
Positives:
 Healthy Relationships
 Emotional Well-being
 Behavioral Regulation
 Academic Success
 Independence and
Autonomy
 Healthy Development

54. Outcomes
Negatives:
 Overindulgence
 Permissiveness
 Avoidance of Conflict
 Unrealistic Expectations
 Dependency
 Social Skills Deficit

56. သင်ြလလြီးသည်
သူတုံ၏လ ါသအခုံြ်အတန်တွင်
သင်အှာြီး လလြီးစှာြီးမှုရလစလုံလ င်
သင်လ ါသအခုံြ်အတန်တွင်
သူတုံြုံ လလြီးစှာြီးမှုခပပါ။

57. Each parenting style has its
strengths and weaknesses, and what
works well for one family may not
work for another. It's essential to
recognize that no single parenting
style is universally superior, and a
balanced approach that
incorporates elements of different
styles may be most effective.

58. မဘအုံပ်ထန်ြီးမှုပုံစတစ်ခုံစတွင် ၎င်ြီး၏ အှာြီးသှာချြ်မျှာြီးနင်
အှာြီးနည်ြီးချြ်မျှာြီး ရကြပပြီး မသှာြီးစုံတစ်ခုံအတွြ်
လြှာင်ြီးမွန်သည်အရှာသည် အခခှာြီးတစ်ခုံအတွြ်
အလုံပ်မခြစ်နုံင်ပါ။ တစ်ခုံတည်ြီးလသှာ
မဘအုံပ်ထန်ြီးမှုပုံစသည် ြမဘှာလုံြီးဆုံင်ရှာ
သှာလွန်လြှာင်ြီးမွန်လကြှာင်ြီး အသအမတ်ခပြုရန် အလရြီးကြြီးပပြီး
မတူညလသှာပုံစမျှာြီး၏ အစတ်အပုံင်ြီးမျှာြီးြုံ
လပါင်ြီးစပ်ထှာြီးသည် မ တလသှာချဉြီးြပ်မှုသည်
အထလရှာြ်ဆုံြီးခြစ်နုံင်ပါသည်။

59. Mindful Parenting: Mindful parenting is
about being present enough in the moment
that you’re aware of the context in which
these feelings and behavior are happening.

60. How can we be mindful as much as we can ?
• Notice Your Surroundings
• Focus on One Thing at a Time
• Be Grateful For What You Have Now
• Show Acceptance
• Practice Mindfulness Meditation
• Find Positive Social Support
• Be Mindful of Everything You Do
• Practice Deep Breathing Exercises
• Take a Break From Social Media and Technology
• Get Regular Exercise or Do Some Yoga

61. Scenario Analysis
1. Setting Boundaries
2. Dealing with Tantrums
3. Addressing Sibling Rivalry
4. Managing Screen Time
5. Encouraging Responsibility
6. Supporting Academic Success

62. 1.Set Clear Limits: Establish clear rules regarding screen time usage. This
includes specifying the amount of time allowed for screen use each day and
which activities are permitted.
2.Lead by Example: Children often mimic their parents' behavior. Be a
positive role model by managing your own screen time and engaging in
alternative activities.
3.Create Tech-Free Zones: Designate certain areas of the house, such as the
dining room or bedrooms, as screen-free zones. This helps in reducing the
temptation to use screens during family time or before bed.
4.Encourage Outdoor Activities: Promote outdoor play and physical
activities as alternatives to screen time. Encourage sports, bike rides, hikes, or
simply playing in the backyard to keep them engaged and active.
5.Provide Engaging Alternatives: Offer a variety of non-screen activities that
capture their interest, such as board games, puzzles, arts and crafts, reading
books, or playing musical instruments.

63. 1.Involve Them in Setting Rules: Include your child in the process of
setting screen time limits. This fosters a sense of responsibility and
ownership over their own behavior.
2.Use Screen Time as a Reward: Allow screen time as a reward for
completing chores, homework, or engaging in other constructive activities.
3.Limit Access to Screens: Utilize parental controls and screen time
management features available on devices to limit access during certain
hours or to specific apps.
4.Provide Education on Screen Time: Help your child understand the
importance of balancing screen time with other activities. Teach them
about the potential negative effects of excessive screen use on physical
health, mental well-being, and social skills.
5.Foster Family Bonding: Spend quality time together as a family without
screens, such as having meals together, playing games, or going on outings.
This strengthens family bonds and reduces reliance on screens for
entertainment.

64. 1.Assign Age-Appropriate Chores: Give your child specific chores that
are suitable for their age and capabilities. These can include tasks like
setting the table, tidying their room, feeding pets, or helping with meal
preparation.
2.Provide Clear Expectations: Clearly communicate what you expect
from your child in terms of responsibilities. Explain why each task is
important and how it contributes to the functioning of the household.
3.Offer Positive Reinforcement: Praise and acknowledge your child's
efforts when they fulfill their responsibilities. Positive reinforcement
motivates them to continue behaving responsibly and reinforces good
habits.
4.Set a Routine: Establish a daily or weekly routine that includes time for
completing chores and responsibilities. Consistency helps children develop
a sense of structure and accountability.
5.Lead by Example: Be a role model for responsible behavior by fulfilling
your own duties and commitments. Children learn best by observing their
parents, so demonstrate responsible habits in your own actions.

65. 1.Encourage Problem-Solving Skills: Encourage your child to find solutions
to challenges they encounter while completing their responsibilities. This helps
them develop problem-solving skills and boosts their confidence in handling
tasks independently.
2.Give Them Ownership: Allow your child to take ownership of certain
responsibilities, such as caring for a pet or maintaining their belongings. This
instills a sense of pride and accountability in their actions.
3.Teach Time Management: Help your child learn how to prioritize tasks and
manage their time effectively. Teach them to break down larger tasks into
smaller, manageable steps to prevent feeling overwhelmed.
4.Provide Constructive Feedback: Offer constructive feedback when
necessary to help your child improve their performance. Focus on praising their
efforts while also providing guidance on areas where they can do better.
5.Encourage Independence: Gradually empower your child to take on more
responsibilities and make decisions on their own. Offer support and guidance as
needed, but allow them to learn from their mistakes and take ownership of their
actions.

67. HAPPY PARENTING

68. The Whole-Brain Child
By
Daniel J.Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson
12 Strategies for Nurturing a Child’s
Developing Mind
ြလလြီးတစ်ဦြီး၏ ြွွံ့ ပြြုြီးဆဲဉှာဏ်ြုံ ခပြုစုံပျြုြီးလထှာင်ရန်
နည်ြီးဗျျူဟှာ 12 ခုံ

69. The Whole-Brain Child

70. The Whole-Brain Child

71. 12 Strategies for Nurturing a Child’s Developing Mind
1. Connect and Redirect: Surfing Emotional Waves
2. Name It to Tame It: Telling Stories to Calm Big Emotions
3. Engage, Don’t Enrage: Appealing to the Upstairs Brain
4. Use It or Lose It: Exercising the Upstairs Brain
5. Move It or Lose It: Moving the Body to Avoid Losing the Mind
6. Use the Remote of the Mind: Replaying Memories
7. Remember to Remember: Making Recollection a Part of Your
Family’s Daily Life
8. Let the Clouds of Emotions Roll by: Teaching That Feelings Come
and Go
9. SIFT: Paying Attention to What’s Going on Inside
10. Exercise ‘Mindsight’: Getting Back to the Hub
11. Increase the Family Fun Factor: Making a Point to Enjoy Each
Other
12. Connect Through Conflict: Teach Kids to Argue with a ‘We’ in Mind

72. 12 Strategies for Nurturing a Child’s Developing Mind
1.Connect and Redirect: စတ်လှုပ်ရှာြီးမှုလှုင်ြီးမျှာြီး လှုင်ြီးစြီးခခင်ြီး။
2.Name It to Tame It: ကြြီးမှာြီးလသှာ စတ်ခစှာြီးမှုမျှာြီးြုံ ပငမ်သြ်လစရန်
ပုံခပင်မျှာြီးလခပှာခခင်ြီး။
3.Engage, Don't Enrage - အလပေါ်ထပ် ဦြီးလနှာြ်ြုံ ဆွဲလဆှာင်ခခင်ြီး။ 4. It or
Lose It - အလပေါ်ထပ် ဦြီးလနှာြ်ြုံ လလြျင်ပါ။
5. Move It or Lose It: စတ်မပျြ်လစရန် ခနဓှာြုံယ်ြုံ လရွံ့ပါ။
6.Remote of the Mind ြုံသုံြီးပါ- အမတ်တရမျှာြီးြုံ ခပန်လည်ခပသခခင်ြီး။
7. မတ်သှာြီးရန်- အမတ်ရမှုသည် သင်မသှာြီးစုံ၏လနစဉဘဝ၏
အစတ်အပုံင်ြီးတစ်ခုံခြစ်သည်။
8. စတ်ခစှာြီးမှု တမ်တုံြ်မျှာြီး လမ်ပါလစ- ခစှာြီးချြ်မျှာြီး ကြလှာလစရန်
သင်ကြှာြီးလပြီးခခင်ြီး။
9.SIFT- အတွင်ြီးတွင်ခြစ်ပျြ်လနသည်အရှာမျှာြီးြုံ ဂရုံခပြုပါ။
10. 'Mindsight' ြုံ လလြျင်ပါ- အချြ်အချှာသုံ ခပန်သွှာြီးရန်
11. မသှာြီးစုံလပျှာ်စရှာအချြ်ြုံ တုံြီးခမြှင်ပါ- အချင်ြီးချင်ြီး လပျှာ်ရင်လစရန် အချြ်တစ်ခုံ
ြန်တြီးပါ။
12. ပဋပြခမျှာြီးမတဆင် ချတ်ဆြ်ပါ- ြလလြီးမျှာြီးြုံ 'ြျွန်ုံပ်တုံ' ခြင် ခငင်ြီးခုံရန်
သင်လပြီးပါ။

73. 1) “Connect and Redirect: Surfing Emotional
Waves” When your child is upset it is important to
first connect using both of your right brains in order
to make the emotional connection and to let them
know that you ‘get’ that they are upset even if your
don’t fully understand the ‘why’ behind it. Then,
once your child is more in control and receptive, you
are able to bring the left brain into this conversation
to talk about any lessons and/or discipline that need
to be spoken about.

74. 2) “Name It to Tame It: Telling Stories to Calm
Big Emotions”: Talking about experiences can be
helpful. The telling and re-telling of experiences can
actually help to calm big right brain emotions,
because the left brain can help make sense of the
experiences and it helps to make your child feel
more in control.

75. 3) “Engage, Don’t Enrage: Appealing to the
Upstairs Brain”: In situations where emotions run
high helping your child to access the parts of their
“Upstairs Brain” that are available to them rather
than triggering the more primitive “Downstairs
Brain” can help to engage your child in the
solution-making process. Be curious by asking
questions providing options/alternatives as well as
using this as an opportunity to practice negotiating
skills.

76. 4) “Use It or Lose It: Exercising the Upstairs
Brain”: Helping your child develop their “Upstairs
Brain” while it is under construction can help build
neural pathways and the process of accessing these
pathways time and time again helps to build stronger
connections in the future. Making a game out of “What
would you do?” and letting your child brainstorm and
talk about a variety of solutions to different issues can
be a wonderful exercise. While it may be tempting for
us to share our own ideas/thoughts, try to avoid rescuing
kids from difficult decisions, since it does not provide
the same experience as when they are exercising their
“Upstairs Brain”.

77. 5)“Move It or Lose It: Moving the Body to Avoid
Losing the Mind”: One of the best things that we
can do when a child has lost connection with their
“Upstairs Brain” is to help them regain balance
through movement of their body. Research has
demonstrated that our emotional state (i.e. our
mood) can be altered through our physical state via
movement (e.g. going for a run) or relaxation (e.g.
deep breathing).

78. 6) “Use the Remote of the Mind: Replaying
Memories: Children rarely have the opportunity
to be in control of a lot of what goes on in their
worlds and so when they have this opportunity to
do so it can be a great learning experience for
them. Often times children can be reluctant to
talk about painful events/ memories. Using a
figurative remote which allows them to ‘pause’,
‘rewind’ and ‘fast-forward’ parts of the story can
help them feel more in control of what they wish
to share at that point in time and can help them
work up to talking about the more difficult
details.

79. 7) “Remember to Remember: Making
Recollection a Part of Your Family’s Daily
Life”:Another important way to help exercise your
child’s brain is to help them use the power of
recall. Talking about past important events helps to
integrate implicit and explicit memories. The simple
act giving children the opportunity to tell their
stories helps them to improve an understanding of
their past and present experiences.

80. 8) “Let the Clouds of Emotions Roll by: Teaching
That Feelings Come and Go”: Teaching children
that emotions are like clouds they come and they go
and letting them roll on by helps to ensure that
children understand that these are temporary states
rather than enduring traits. Making the distinction
between “feel” and “am” is an important one to
make (e.g. “I feel sad right now” versus “I am sad”)
since the latter may be seen as a defining trait of
who they are rather than a temporary state of being
of how they are feeling in this moment in time.

81. 9)“SIFT: Paying Attention to What’s Going on
Inside: Helping your children pay attention to the
“Sensations, Images, Feelings and Thoughts” that
resides within them is a helpful way of getting them
to be aware of what they are actually
experiencing. This is the first important piece in
helping your children to develop “Mindsight” which
is the understanding of our own minds as well as the
minds of others.

82. 10) “Exercise ‘Mindsight’: Getting Back to the
Hub”: The “Wheel of Awareness” is a tool that can help us
visualize our mind like the wheel of a bike complete with an
outer rim, spokes and an inner hub. Our thoughts, feelings,
dreams, memories, perceptions and bodily sensations are on
the outer rim of the wheel and the centre hub is the place in
which our awareness resides, this is the place from which
we are able to choose what point on the rim we wish to
focus on (the spokes, see below). Children, like adults, can
find themselves stuck on a particular thought and showing
them that they have the ability to shift their attention and
focus to another thought can help them gain more control
over how they feel. This “Mindsight” practice helps
children learn how to calm themselves and to focus their
attention to where they would like it to be.

83. 11) “Increase the Family Fun Factor: Making a
Point to Enjoy Each Other”: Many
parents/caregivers often find that they spend so
much of their time either disciplining their children
and/or getting from one activity to the next. “Playful
Parenting” (e.g. being silly, telling jokes or playing
games) is one way that you can build healthy
relationships with your children. It allows children to
have positive experiences with their
parents/caregivers and it also helps model future
relationships and connection.

84. 12) “Connect Through Conflict: Teach Kids to
Argue with a ‘We’ in Mind”: Conflict is often
thought of as something to be avoided at all costs;
however, that is neither practical nor is it
possible. Teaching our children how to use the
power of Mindsight to manage conflict in healthy
and productive ways can be an excellent learning
opportunity to build skills such as taking another
person’s perspective, reading non-verbal cues and
making amends.

85. What are some appropriate solutions to the
following situations?
• Your daughter/son is throwing a ball in the
living room and knocks over a lamp.
• Your daughter/son leaves dirty clothes on the
floor instead of putting them in the bucket
where they are supposed to go.
• Your child refuses to do homework and keeps
on watching television.
• Your son takes her brother’s money from his
piggy bank and spends it.

86. Roughhouses with children; plays louder
Encourage competition
Do not modify language for the child’s
sake
Talk is brief, direct, and to the point, with
subtle body language and facial
expressions
Help children prepare for harshness and
reality of the real world
Model traits of men and how to treat
women
Encourage children to take chances,
push limits
Stress justice, fairness, and duty
Encourages independence from family
Teaches a sense of right and wrong with
discipline
Gentle with children; plays quieter
Encourage equity
Simplifies words and talks on
child’s level
Talk is more descriptive, personal,
expressive of feelings, and verbally
encouraging
Help protect children from the
harshness and reality of real world
Model traits of women and how to
treat men
Encourages caution and protection
of self
Stress sympathy, care, and help
Encourages security in the family
Teaches a sense of hopefulness
Fathers: Mothers:

87. A-Z of Parenting

88. A-Accept your child for the wonderful
person he or she is

89. B-Be a good role model in all you
say and do.

90. C- Communicate respectfully and listen
attentively to your child.

91. D- Discipline fairly, firmly and with love

92. E- Encourage good eating habits

93. F- Find ways to get and stay fit
together

94. G- Give chores that built responsibility

95. H- Hug your child to build self-
worth

96. I- Instill respect for other people

97. J- Join PTMs and other school
activities to assess child’s progress

98. K- Keep your promise or do not
make them

99. L- Laugh together and enjoy each
other’s company

100. M- Make family rules and enforce
them consistently

101. N- Never Use physical force on your
child

102. O- Offer your help whenever it’s
needed

103. P- Praise your child for achievements as
well as for efforts

104. Q- Quickly stop your child from
harmful activities.

105. R- Read together often and make
reading fun

106. S- Show patience and remember
nobody is perfect

107. T- Teach health and safety rules.

108. U- Use every opportunity to
show your love

109. V- Value your child’s thoughts and
opinion

110. W- Wait until you cool down before
disciplining your child

111. X- Xerox and save records of your child’s
achievements

112. Y- You can make a difference in your
child’s life….so parent with pride.

113. Z- Zoom over this ABC again and again.

115. Parent’s Pledge

116. I Promise…I will
show my children I
LOVE them.

117. I will listen and
value what my
children say.

118. I will praise my
child’s efforts
towards
accomplishment.

119. I will respect my
children as
individuals.

120. And…..
I will enjoy with
my children
everyday.

121. HAPPY PARENTING