Avoid the negative when possible, but know best how to handle it when there is no choice

1. Pick a Negative Friend
July 6, 2020
Life wants to be as positive as possible, however it’s not very
likely for anyone to avoid the negative. Avoid the negative when
possible, but know how to handle the ‘negative’ when given
little choice. How to handle negative people has one practical
solution - avoid them and stay in a positive space. However, be
prepared to best handle any negative exchange.
Pick a negative friend or person who’s really capable of being verbally negative, but short of
very abusive. Let that person be a teacher on how to skillfully learn to keep positive under
difficult mental challenges. Do not make that person your main connection of a friend, but
position yourself no closer than you would to a bonfire. Keep a safe distance, but not one so
far removed so as to have no challenge from the negative verbal heat. See it as developing
reasonable tolerance and the skillful means to not lose yourself in the fray. Everyone has assets
to offer that are good for you. If they resonate enough to keep the contact, be a student of how
to focus on their positive side while on alert for their negativity.
The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude about the
problem. Why live as a pin cushion, and let everything painful stick in
the memory, when the mind healed and strong in self love, will detach
from the lingering memories that negatively affect the fresh moments
at hand? Are we the only animal who dwells on the past? Do all
animals live in the moment? If we are so evolved and able to choose
our thoughts, why not choose to live in the moment?
Live in the moment and always dip into the well of positive
mindfulness. See and accept your thoughts yet realize that deep,
within you are more than them. Neither let them be the enemy within or
push them away to be left unresolved. Empathize with those who are stuck in
negativity or are on a carnival ride of up and down without knowing how to use the mental/
emotional brakes when negativity bounces out. Seek techniques that make you stronger within.
Mentally doing that will help, but using methods of meditation will open the heart’s vibration to
attract the best of the options awaiting your recognition. Your best friend is the one you cultivate
within, and not the one that’s a friend and at any moment is an enemy. The secret to bliss and
joy in life is to see and use the many secrets hidden in plain site for the new man and
woman of the NOW! You are love, even if you can’t see it. Know that you really are. If
you don’t take good care of your mind, someone else will.
Arhata~