The document narrates the story of an ordinary man in his mid-thirties and a widowed woman in her early thirties, both facing societal challenges and personal struggles while seeking companionship. Despite their circumstances, including financial limitations and societal taboos around remarriage in India, they find courage to explore a relationship that could lead to a meaningful partnership. The narrative highlights their emotional resilience and the complex nature of accepting each other's pasts while aspiring for a happier future together.

1. Accepting the Unacceptable, Story of Ordinary People Taking Extraordinary Decisions with unmatched courage
My Far-off Cousin, Middle-aged, past mid thirties, unmarried. A perfect ordinary person, normal, does unrecognized job for a
living. Living with his widowed mother in a rented home for time immemorial now, very ordinary looks, mediocre salary, just
one day off in a week, responsible performer but under rewarded by his employer but hugely trusted. He spent fifteen years
looking for a suitable bride but who will accept this mediocre, average looking person who still does not own a house. One
two wheeler vehicle and that too pre owned. An aging, relatively ill keeping widowed mother who herself sustained the
family by doing odd jobs all her life, but a happy small family.
He was getting desperate to settle down since last three four years. My mother tried to broker many proposals but a piece of
charcoal always is unattractive to the now fast moving, mall going weekenders dames of today who only want a diamond viz.
an owned house, freshly owned four wheeler, fat salary getting companion who is smart, dark is ok but without a paunch and
without an ailing mother in law. But they say marriages are made in heaven. And as the famous Bollywood liner
goes…”Someone is made for everyone waiting somewhere… meeting some day or the other… you just have to trust GOD and
keep looking”.
One middle aged widowed women, in her early thirties, smart educated and attractive, with a cute little daughter of around
eight years. The reason she is a widow is because her husband killed himself for an unknown mysterious reason. She left her
in-laws within a year of losing her husband and started leaving with her parents in a small village. One can only imagine about
her emotional hardships as she had to face questions as to why the ex husband killed himself? Was it an extramarital affair?
Who exactly was the father of her only lovely daughter? If she loved her ex husband why is she living so bravely and standing
on her own feet, supporting her child with such a stride? Facing all this, she was teaching and upbringing not only her
daughter in a fantastic way, she also helped the kids around in the village to pick up their studies and fly with rainbow colors
in their school exams. She stitched ornamental clothes for the GOD’s in the temple for free and to such perfection that
demand for her stitched clothes for the “False God’s” was only increasing day by day.
And the day came when both of them crossed each other’s lane, met and started knowing each other. I could not say they
compromised but still the need for a partner, a companion was pertinent to both of them. To be a step father is difficult. To
be a second husband is difficult. To accept a widowed daughter in law and that too with her eight year old kid is difficult. To
accept an average looking, mid aged mediocre man who neither owns a house or four-wheeler is difficult. To accept
responsibility to take care of an ailing mother in law is difficult. To live with a person without getting officially married (as
remarriage is still a taboo in India, yes even after 68 years of gaining political independence) is difficult. Knowing that both of
them will have to work shoulder to shoulder may be for rest of their lives without taking brakes is difficult. To accept women
whose character was being questioned by the world is difficult. Moreover, loving, caring, sharing, trusting and living happily
ever after with each other is difficult or near to impossible. But to have courage to make a happy ending starting from where
they are is definitely a possibility, a tough but an achievable goal. Quote a one liner from another Bollywood movie “थोड़ा है
थोड़े क ज़ रत है… िज़ दगी फरभी यहाँ खूबसूरत है…” meaning… we have something…we still need many things…but life is
beautiful and we are happy. Stay blessed three of you!!!