|05|cognitive reframing and EXTERNALIZING
the PROBLEM
“The most common way people
give up their power is by
thinking they don’t have any.”
Alice Walker
EXTERNALIZING THE PROBLEM | 79
Where We Have Been
In Chapter 4, you learned to identify, acknowledge, and accept how your feelings and emotions can affect your
personal narratives. More importantly, you learned that you are someone who experiences feelings and emotions, but
you are separate from them—they do not define you. You were also introduced to insights and strategies that allow
feelings to move through you, rather than overtake you, so that you can minimize the chance of feelings and emotions
becoming problematic and taking your personal narrative hostage. Finally, you learned breathing exercises and were
introduced to guided mindfulness and meditation as a route to quiet your thoughts and connect you to the calming
influence of the present moment.
Where We Are Going
In this chapter, we will introduce you to the concept of neuroplasticity, the brain’s ability to be “plastic” or
“changeable” in nature by actually growing new neural pathways when tasked with creating new thinking patterns, at
any age (Figure 1). Understanding and embracing neuroplasticity is important as you begin to update your thinking
patterns and form more helpful ways of responding to difficult feelings, emotions, and stressors.
Gearing Up
» To begin to understand the concept of neuroplasticity and recognize that with it
comes an invitation to shift your relationship to your mindset problems
» To begin to maximize your brain’s neuroplasticity as you form new thinking
patterns
» To begin to learn about the important role of cognitive reframing as you foster
new ways of responding to feelings, thoughts, and beliefs
» To begin to understand the concept and practice of externalizing your problems
» To begin to identify your main problem and learn the scope of its current
influence in your life
» To begin to develop a new relationship to your problem(s)
Figure 1. Our brains are capable of
growing new neural pathways at any
age.
You will also discover that you cannot always trust your thoughts as they are often stuck in the cycle of delivering
faulty information based on self-limiting and even self-sabotaging beliefs (see the discussion on self-talk in Chapter 2).
Because this is so common for many, you will be taught how to “prime yourself” to maximize your brain’s potential for
neuroplasticity when self-limiting beliefs do in fact surface; you’ll do this by following a process that starts with simply
pausing and noticing.
Next, you will be introduced to cognitive reframing, a concept that allows you to view the same information or
experience, but through a different and more productive frame.
Lastly, you will be introduced to the narrative concept of externalizing problems. This concept holds the potential to
liberate you from problems that previously you may ha.
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Maya Angelou
YOUR GAME PLAN | 135
Where Have We Been
In the previous chapter, we focused on the importance of cultivating courage as a necessary component in creating a
life that is aligned with your greatest gifts, values, and, of course, engaging in the exploratory process of uncovering
your personal “why.” You were encouraged to discover your “courage compass” and to use it as often as is helpful
and enjoyable, but particularly when fear comes knocking. You were also taught about the astonishing power of your
imagination and its ability to activate your unconscious mind’s internal GPS in helping you to move in the direction of
your desired future. Lastly, you learned how neuroscience relates to visualization, feeling and experiencing yourself
embody real or imagined moments in a sequence of events that aids the brain in believing them.
Where We Are Going
Well, you’ve made it to the end. This final chapter of the re:MIND methodology culminates into a process of
synthesizing all that you have learned in the previous chapters into very personalized “game plan” (Figure 1). We say
personalized because as we lead you through this process of creating a trustworthy game plan that can weather all the
storms of your life, we will focus on proactively anticipating and forecasting any challenges that might arise, so that they
do not derail your progress. You see, you will want to be at-the-ready and prepared when problems surface because, as
you learned in Chapter 7, your life and your legacy are too important to leave in the hands of self-doubt, or problems
like fear, guilt, or anxiety. But first, we’re going to look back on your journey. Without further ado, let’s get started.
Gearing Up
» To review all that you’ve learned in order to prepare you for the final step
» To re-visit the structure of positive self-talk
» To create your personal game plan
» To help you plan against multiple mindset problems
» To prepare you for future mindset problems outside your plan
Figure 1. Your game plan will prepare
you for what is to come.
YOUR GAME PLAN | 136
Remembering Your Journey
Every step of this process has been leading you to this final outcome. The opportunity here lies in combining the
material in a way that makes the most sense for you given the challenges that you currently face, or that you anticipate
facing in the near future. By having a game plan, you will be armed with a coping strategy that is comprehensive,
reliable, and fully committed to your success. Before we dive into the game plan, let’s take a brief journey and review
what you’ve learned as a way of refreshing your mind and preparing you for this final step.
Self-Talk, Self-Doubt, and Your Personal Narrative
When you first started, you may not have had a clear sense as to where this journey was taking you. The process
started with three students tripping over both a l.
08creating YOUR GAME PLANNothing will work unle.docxcroftsshanon
|08|creating
YOUR GAME PLAN
“Nothing will work
unless you do.”
Maya Angelou
YOUR GAME PLAN | 135
Where Have We Been
In the previous chapter, we focused on the importance of cultivating courage as a necessary component in creating a
life that is aligned with your greatest gifts, values, and, of course, engaging in the exploratory process of uncovering
your personal “why.” You were encouraged to discover your “courage compass” and to use it as often as is helpful
and enjoyable, but particularly when fear comes knocking. You were also taught about the astonishing power of your
imagination and its ability to activate your unconscious mind’s internal GPS in helping you to move in the direction of
your desired future. Lastly, you learned how neuroscience relates to visualization, feeling and experiencing yourself
embody real or imagined moments in a sequence of events that aids the brain in believing them.
Where We Are Going
Well, you’ve made it to the end. This final chapter of the re:MIND methodology culminates into a process of
synthesizing all that you have learned in the previous chapters into very personalized “game plan” (Figure 1). We say
personalized because as we lead you through this process of creating a trustworthy game plan that can weather all the
storms of your life, we will focus on proactively anticipating and forecasting any challenges that might arise, so that they
do not derail your progress. You see, you will want to be at-the-ready and prepared when problems surface because, as
you learned in Chapter 7, your life and your legacy are too important to leave in the hands of self-doubt, or problems
like fear, guilt, or anxiety. But first, we’re going to look back on your journey. Without further ado, let’s get started.
Gearing Up
» To review all that you’ve learned in order to prepare you for the final step
» To re-visit the structure of positive self-talk
» To create your personal game plan
» To help you plan against multiple mindset problems
» To prepare you for future mindset problems outside your plan
Figure 1. Your game plan will prepare
you for what is to come.
YOUR GAME PLAN | 136
Remembering Your Journey
Every step of this process has been leading you to this final outcome. The opportunity here lies in combining the
material in a way that makes the most sense for you given the challenges that you currently face, or that you anticipate
facing in the near future. By having a game plan, you will be armed with a coping strategy that is comprehensive,
reliable, and fully committed to your success. Before we dive into the game plan, let’s take a brief journey and review
what you’ve learned as a way of refreshing your mind and preparing you for this final step.
Self-Talk, Self-Doubt, and Your Personal Narrative
When you first started, you may not have had a clear sense as to where this journey was taking you. The process
started with three students tripping over both a l.
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|06|identifying exceptions and
RECOGNIZING WINS
“We can always choose to
perceive things differently.
We can focus on what’s
wrong in our life, or we can
focus on what’s right.”
Marianne Williamson
RECOGNIZING WINS | 98
Where We Have Been
In the previous chapter, you learned the concept of neuroplasticity, the brain’s ability to be “plastic” or “changeable”
in nature by actually growing new neural pathways when tasked with creating new thinking patterns. You also
discovered that you cannot always trust your thoughts as they can get stuck in the habit of delivering faulty
information based on self-limiting and self-sabotaging beliefs. You were also introduced to the concept of cognitive
reframing, which highlights your ability to view the same information or experience through a different and more
productive frame of reference. And finally, we shared the narrative concept of externalizing problems; the concept
invited you to examine whether your self-concept was too closely defined by common problems like procrastination,
anxiety, or overwhelm. We further examined what steps to take to start to have a constructive relationship with
externalized problems by dialoguing with them as a way of escaping their impact.
Where We Are Going
In this chapter, we will dive deeply into the concept of finding exceptions to problem-saturated stories. Returning
again to Angela, we will use her story as a teaching tool as we bring into focus exactly how the narrative process is
engineered to discover these exceptions to problems. Highlighting her process will set the stage for you to highlight
your own as you begin inquiring into your own personal narrative in a way that draws on actual evidence from your
own life story thus far.
In this chapter, you will come to find that you, like us all, have unexamined exceptions to the problem-laden beliefs
that may be hard to abandon. Because of this, you will be taught how to explore the creative process of finding
exceptions—those times when despite all odds and the many neural pathways that have already been carved so
deeply to support the dominance of problems, something exceptional still occurred (Figure 1).
Gearing Up
» To develop a new relationship to your problem(s), now that you have learned to
externalize them
» To expand your non-cognitive vernacular (generate more words to convey the Big 7)
» To take cognitive reframing to the next level by learning how to find exceptions to your
problems (times the problem wasn’t in control)
» To understand the neuroscience behind asking the right questions and visualizing
yourself as successful in combating the effects of your problem(s)
» To see the importance of recognizing wins in your life
» To recognize that your wins are not context dependent, but “you” dependent
Figure 1. Exceptions can be found
anywhere, even in something as
simple as paying a bill on time
rather than letting the problem of
procrastination t.
In life, how to transform your limiting beliefs is a necessity because they are just assumptions you make about reality. They are not true but only interpretations of past events and experiences. These sour ideas do not help or serve you. Instead, they hinder you, blocking you from reaching your goals.
7 Ways Anxiety Might Be Slowly Eating Away Your LifeKarthik Karthi
There’s a good chance that we’ve all experienced feelings of
anxiety in response to real or perceived threats at one time or
another. For most people, these feelings are normal as the brain
is hard-wired to caution you at times of danger, change and the
unknown.
In fact, in many situations, experiencing a certain level of anxiety and stress can help boost your performance in specific tasks. For instance, a person might experience a heightened level of anxiety
the days leading up to a public event and that’s a completely
normal reaction.
Psychologists believe that anxiety is your body’s natural response to
stress and that this stress triggers a system in the brain that accentuates your performance. So, a little anxiety now and then is okay and might be your body’s way of preparing for an impending change.
08creating YOUR GAME PLANNothing will work unle.docxpoulterbarbara
|08|creating
YOUR GAME PLAN
“Nothing will work
unless you do.”
Maya Angelou
YOUR GAME PLAN | 135
Where Have We Been
In the previous chapter, we focused on the importance of cultivating courage as a necessary component in creating a
life that is aligned with your greatest gifts, values, and, of course, engaging in the exploratory process of uncovering
your personal “why.” You were encouraged to discover your “courage compass” and to use it as often as is helpful
and enjoyable, but particularly when fear comes knocking. You were also taught about the astonishing power of your
imagination and its ability to activate your unconscious mind’s internal GPS in helping you to move in the direction of
your desired future. Lastly, you learned how neuroscience relates to visualization, feeling and experiencing yourself
embody real or imagined moments in a sequence of events that aids the brain in believing them.
Where We Are Going
Well, you’ve made it to the end. This final chapter of the re:MIND methodology culminates into a process of
synthesizing all that you have learned in the previous chapters into very personalized “game plan” (Figure 1). We say
personalized because as we lead you through this process of creating a trustworthy game plan that can weather all the
storms of your life, we will focus on proactively anticipating and forecasting any challenges that might arise, so that they
do not derail your progress. You see, you will want to be at-the-ready and prepared when problems surface because, as
you learned in Chapter 7, your life and your legacy are too important to leave in the hands of self-doubt, or problems
like fear, guilt, or anxiety. But first, we’re going to look back on your journey. Without further ado, let’s get started.
Gearing Up
» To review all that you’ve learned in order to prepare you for the final step
» To re-visit the structure of positive self-talk
» To create your personal game plan
» To help you plan against multiple mindset problems
» To prepare you for future mindset problems outside your plan
Figure 1. Your game plan will prepare
you for what is to come.
YOUR GAME PLAN | 136
Remembering Your Journey
Every step of this process has been leading you to this final outcome. The opportunity here lies in combining the
material in a way that makes the most sense for you given the challenges that you currently face, or that you anticipate
facing in the near future. By having a game plan, you will be armed with a coping strategy that is comprehensive,
reliable, and fully committed to your success. Before we dive into the game plan, let’s take a brief journey and review
what you’ve learned as a way of refreshing your mind and preparing you for this final step.
Self-Talk, Self-Doubt, and Your Personal Narrative
When you first started, you may not have had a clear sense as to where this journey was taking you. The process
started with three students tripping over both a l.
08creating YOUR GAME PLANNothing will work unle.docxcroftsshanon
|08|creating
YOUR GAME PLAN
“Nothing will work
unless you do.”
Maya Angelou
YOUR GAME PLAN | 135
Where Have We Been
In the previous chapter, we focused on the importance of cultivating courage as a necessary component in creating a
life that is aligned with your greatest gifts, values, and, of course, engaging in the exploratory process of uncovering
your personal “why.” You were encouraged to discover your “courage compass” and to use it as often as is helpful
and enjoyable, but particularly when fear comes knocking. You were also taught about the astonishing power of your
imagination and its ability to activate your unconscious mind’s internal GPS in helping you to move in the direction of
your desired future. Lastly, you learned how neuroscience relates to visualization, feeling and experiencing yourself
embody real or imagined moments in a sequence of events that aids the brain in believing them.
Where We Are Going
Well, you’ve made it to the end. This final chapter of the re:MIND methodology culminates into a process of
synthesizing all that you have learned in the previous chapters into very personalized “game plan” (Figure 1). We say
personalized because as we lead you through this process of creating a trustworthy game plan that can weather all the
storms of your life, we will focus on proactively anticipating and forecasting any challenges that might arise, so that they
do not derail your progress. You see, you will want to be at-the-ready and prepared when problems surface because, as
you learned in Chapter 7, your life and your legacy are too important to leave in the hands of self-doubt, or problems
like fear, guilt, or anxiety. But first, we’re going to look back on your journey. Without further ado, let’s get started.
Gearing Up
» To review all that you’ve learned in order to prepare you for the final step
» To re-visit the structure of positive self-talk
» To create your personal game plan
» To help you plan against multiple mindset problems
» To prepare you for future mindset problems outside your plan
Figure 1. Your game plan will prepare
you for what is to come.
YOUR GAME PLAN | 136
Remembering Your Journey
Every step of this process has been leading you to this final outcome. The opportunity here lies in combining the
material in a way that makes the most sense for you given the challenges that you currently face, or that you anticipate
facing in the near future. By having a game plan, you will be armed with a coping strategy that is comprehensive,
reliable, and fully committed to your success. Before we dive into the game plan, let’s take a brief journey and review
what you’ve learned as a way of refreshing your mind and preparing you for this final step.
Self-Talk, Self-Doubt, and Your Personal Narrative
When you first started, you may not have had a clear sense as to where this journey was taking you. The process
started with three students tripping over both a l.
06identifying exceptions and RECOGNIZING WINSWe can .docxpoulterbarbara
|06|identifying exceptions and
RECOGNIZING WINS
“We can always choose to
perceive things differently.
We can focus on what’s
wrong in our life, or we can
focus on what’s right.”
Marianne Williamson
RECOGNIZING WINS | 98
Where We Have Been
In the previous chapter, you learned the concept of neuroplasticity, the brain’s ability to be “plastic” or “changeable”
in nature by actually growing new neural pathways when tasked with creating new thinking patterns. You also
discovered that you cannot always trust your thoughts as they can get stuck in the habit of delivering faulty
information based on self-limiting and self-sabotaging beliefs. You were also introduced to the concept of cognitive
reframing, which highlights your ability to view the same information or experience through a different and more
productive frame of reference. And finally, we shared the narrative concept of externalizing problems; the concept
invited you to examine whether your self-concept was too closely defined by common problems like procrastination,
anxiety, or overwhelm. We further examined what steps to take to start to have a constructive relationship with
externalized problems by dialoguing with them as a way of escaping their impact.
Where We Are Going
In this chapter, we will dive deeply into the concept of finding exceptions to problem-saturated stories. Returning
again to Angela, we will use her story as a teaching tool as we bring into focus exactly how the narrative process is
engineered to discover these exceptions to problems. Highlighting her process will set the stage for you to highlight
your own as you begin inquiring into your own personal narrative in a way that draws on actual evidence from your
own life story thus far.
In this chapter, you will come to find that you, like us all, have unexamined exceptions to the problem-laden beliefs
that may be hard to abandon. Because of this, you will be taught how to explore the creative process of finding
exceptions—those times when despite all odds and the many neural pathways that have already been carved so
deeply to support the dominance of problems, something exceptional still occurred (Figure 1).
Gearing Up
» To develop a new relationship to your problem(s), now that you have learned to
externalize them
» To expand your non-cognitive vernacular (generate more words to convey the Big 7)
» To take cognitive reframing to the next level by learning how to find exceptions to your
problems (times the problem wasn’t in control)
» To understand the neuroscience behind asking the right questions and visualizing
yourself as successful in combating the effects of your problem(s)
» To see the importance of recognizing wins in your life
» To recognize that your wins are not context dependent, but “you” dependent
Figure 1. Exceptions can be found
anywhere, even in something as
simple as paying a bill on time
rather than letting the problem of
procrastination t.
In life, how to transform your limiting beliefs is a necessity because they are just assumptions you make about reality. They are not true but only interpretations of past events and experiences. These sour ideas do not help or serve you. Instead, they hinder you, blocking you from reaching your goals.
7 Ways Anxiety Might Be Slowly Eating Away Your LifeKarthik Karthi
There’s a good chance that we’ve all experienced feelings of
anxiety in response to real or perceived threats at one time or
another. For most people, these feelings are normal as the brain
is hard-wired to caution you at times of danger, change and the
unknown.
In fact, in many situations, experiencing a certain level of anxiety and stress can help boost your performance in specific tasks. For instance, a person might experience a heightened level of anxiety
the days leading up to a public event and that’s a completely
normal reaction.
Psychologists believe that anxiety is your body’s natural response to
stress and that this stress triggers a system in the brain that accentuates your performance. So, a little anxiety now and then is okay and might be your body’s way of preparing for an impending change.
7 Ways Anxiety Might Be Slowly Eating Away Your Life.pdfKrista A. Davis
Introducing 7 Ways Anxiety Might Be Slowly Eating Away Your Life. Inside this eBook, you will discover the topics about it is natural to feel anxious, overthinking and obsessive thoughts, how our brains respond to anxiety, negative and unwanted thoughts, lack of self-esteem and fear of rejection, self-esteem and the fear of rejection, phobias and traumas, anxiety doesn't exist in isolation, workplace anxiety, the workplace is no exception, coping with anxiety at work, work at creating a work-life balance, social anxiety, eating disorder and so much more!
Remember that there’s always a way out of any anxiety-driven
thought and feeling that you might be experiencing. Most
importantly, remember that you are not alone. The whole world
is waiting to discover and befriend you. All you need to do is meet them half-way.
MIND IS LIKE A RESTLESS MONKEY WHICH WANDERS WITHOUT BEING STABLE AND AS STRONG AS AN INTOXICATED ELEPHANT.
- esay way to control mind and attain EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
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You’re taught about history, science, and math when you’re growing up. Most of us, however, aren’t taught how to identify or deal with our own emotions, or the emotions of others. These skills can be valuable, but you’ll never get them in a classroom.
Emotional intelligence is a shorthand that psychological researchers use to describe how well individuals can manage their own emotions and react to the emotions of others. People who exhibit emotional intelligence have the less obvious skills necessary to get ahead in life, such as managing conflict resolution, reading and responding to the needs of others, and keeping their own emotions from overflowing and disrupting their lives. In this guide, we’ll look at what emotional intelligence is, and how to develop your own.
What Is Emotional Intelligence?
Measuring emotional intelligence is relatively new in the field of psychology, only first being explored in the mid-80s. Several models are currently being developed, but for our purposes, we’ll examine what’s known as the “mixed model,” developed by psychologist Daniel Goleman. The mixed model has five key areas:
· Self-awareness: Self-awareness involves knowing your own feelings. This includes having an accurate assessment of what you’re capable of, when you need help, and what your emotional triggers are.
· Self-management: This involves being able to keep your emotions in check when they become disruptive. Self-management involves being able to control outbursts, calmly discussing disagreements, and avoiding activities that undermine you like extended self-pity or panic.
· Motivation: Everyone is motivated to action by rewards like money or status. Goleman’s model, however, refers to motivation for the sake of personal joy, curiosity, or the satisfaction of being productive.
· Empathy: While the three previous categories refer to a person’s internal emotions, this one deals with the emotions of others. Empathy is the skill and practice of reading the emotions of others and responding appropriately.
· Social skills: This category involves the application of empathy as well as negotiating the needs of others with your own. This can include finding common ground with others, managing others in a work environment, and being persuasive.
You can read a bit more about these different categories here. The order of these emotional competencies isn’t all that relevant, as we all learn many of these skills simultaneously as we grow. It’s also important to note that, for our purposes, we’ll only be using this as a guide. Emotional intelligence isn’t an area that most people receive formal training in. We’ll let psychologists argue over the jargon and models, but for now let’s explore what each of these me.
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1. 1250 Words (min) - 1450 Words (max), Bibliography and Titles not counted.
2. It is a comparison essay.
3. 3+ outside academic sources (blogs, wikis, pop websites are permitted, but do not count for these 3 scholarly sources). Sources should be good journal articles or academic books.
4. Avoid Google. For academic articles, search https://onesearch.library.utoronto.ca/research/articles-databases Links to an external site.
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Begin each paragraph with a topic sentence and address that topic. The topic sentence tells readers what the topic is. For example: “Historically, ads were outdoors...” OR you can use a question “How did we move from a needs society to a wants society?...”
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Topic:
DIGITAL MEDIA. Select 1 Historical or Current Example of Social Media being blamed for a social problem (ex: the cyber bullying of Amanda Todd), and 1 Example of Social Media being credited with improving life (ex: social movements). (See Chapter 2). Many people who examine ‘social media’ (such as Facebook and Twitter) say that these tools distract us from the important things in life. Similar things were said about television, and telephones, and the radio, and even of writing. Any communication technology can be used in a variety of ways, depending on who has access to them, and how creative they are. In your Compare and Contrast Essay, discuss one case or way in which social media get blamed for negative events or outcomes (loneliness, competitiveness, bullying, boasting, narcissism). Compare this side with the positive things people accomplish with social media (MeToo, BLM, organizing events, socializing, reading the day’s news). Give specific examples, and support your claims with research. You may also mention your own experiences, if relevant. For the negative side, a case study may be wise: the Grossman cyber bullying case, for example, or the BC politician who lost an election due to an old Facebook photo. Or you could identify a common criticism of social media, and explore it. For example: Are social media affecting news and political views based on this news today negatively? Examples.
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Emotional Intelligence: The Social Skills You Weren't Taught in School
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You’re taught about history, science, and math when you’re growing up. Most of us, however, aren’t taught how to identify or deal with our own emotions, or the emotions of others. These skills can be valuable, but you’ll never get them in a classroom.
Emotional intelligence is a shorthand that psychological researchers use to describe how well individuals can manage their own emotions and react to the emotions of others. People who exhibit emotional intelligence have the less obvious skills necessary to get ahead in life, such as managing conflict resolution, reading and responding to the needs of others, and keeping their own emotions from overflowing and disrupting their lives. In this guide, we’ll look at what emotional intelligence is, and how to develop your own.
What Is Emotional Intelligence?
Measuring emotional intelligence is relatively new in the field of psychology, only first being explored in the mid-80s. Several models are currently being developed, but for our purposes, we’ll examine what’s known as the “mixed model,” developed by psychologist Daniel Goleman. The mixed model has five key areas:
· Self-awareness: Self-awareness involves knowing your own feelings. This includes having an accurate assessment of what you’re capable of, when you need help, and what your emotional triggers are.
· Self-management: This involves being able to keep your emotions in check when they become disruptive. Self-management involves being able to control outbursts, calmly discussing disagreements, and avoiding activities that undermine you like extended self-pity or panic.
· Motivation: Everyone is motivated to action by rewards like money or status. Goleman’s model, however, refers to motivation for the sake of personal joy, curiosity, or the satisfaction of being productive.
· Empathy: While the three previous categories refer to a person’s internal emotions, this one deals with the emotions of others. Empathy is the skill and practice of reading the emotions of others and responding appropriately.
· Social skills: This category involves the application of empathy as well as negotiating the needs of others with your own. This can include finding common ground with others, managing others in a work environment, and being persuasive.
You can read a bit more about these different categories here. The order of these emotional competencies isn’t all that relevant, as we all learn many of these skills simultaneously as we grow. It’s also important to note that, for our purposes, we’ll only be using this as a guide. Emotional intelligence isn’t an area that most people receive formal training in. We’ll let psychologists argue over the jargon and models, but for now let’s explore what each of these me.
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1. 1250 Words (min) - 1450 Words (max), Bibliography and Titles not counted.
2. It is a comparison essay.
3. 3+ outside academic sources (blogs, wikis, pop websites are permitted, but do not count for these 3 scholarly sources). Sources should be good journal articles or academic books.
4. Avoid Google. For academic articles, search https://onesearch.library.utoronto.ca/research/articles-databases Links to an external site.
Writing Tips:
—MLA or APA format required: quotes and paraphrasing need page numbers APA: (Smith, 2000, p. 235). MLA (Smith 235). Quotes are best. Avoid footnotes in any form, or the Chicago style of citation.
—State your thesis at the end of Paragraph 1 -- what will you claim?--Include a copy of small image as an Appendix after your Works Cited, if you analyze an ad or other visual item you want me to see (if I haven't likely seen it).
"Quote" if you can. Paraphrase secondarily. Introduce/integrate quotes. As Smith suggests, “Ads are a system...” that can “educate us...” (Smith, 2005, p. 5)
Quotes cannot stand alone.
Begin each paragraph with a topic sentence and address that topic. The topic sentence tells readers what the topic is. For example: “Historically, ads were outdoors...” OR you can use a question “How did we move from a needs society to a wants society?...”
Use transitions between paragraphs. “But Farnsworth was not only the creator of TV, he also…”
Block quotes (more than 3 full lines) should NOT be used, or only in rare cases when you cannot summarize the gist, and almost never in short papers.
Topic:
DIGITAL MEDIA. Select 1 Historical or Current Example of Social Media being blamed for a social problem (ex: the cyber bullying of Amanda Todd), and 1 Example of Social Media being credited with improving life (ex: social movements). (See Chapter 2). Many people who examine ‘social media’ (such as Facebook and Twitter) say that these tools distract us from the important things in life. Similar things were said about television, and telephones, and the radio, and even of writing. Any communication technology can be used in a variety of ways, depending on who has access to them, and how creative they are. In your Compare and Contrast Essay, discuss one case or way in which social media get blamed for negative events or outcomes (loneliness, competitiveness, bullying, boasting, narcissism). Compare this side with the positive things people accomplish with social media (MeToo, BLM, organizing events, socializing, reading the day’s news). Give specific examples, and support your claims with research. You may also mention your own experiences, if relevant. For the negative side, a case study may be wise: the Grossman cyber bullying case, for example, or the BC politician who lost an election due to an old Facebook photo. Or you could identify a common criticism of social media, and explore it. For example: Are social media affecting news and political views based on this news today negatively? Examples.
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1-Why is it the case that single men are prominently represented in the homeless? Is there a primary prevention program that could be a part of a public health initiative that would address this cohort specifically?
2- APA Style
3- 3 paragraphs 3 sentences each
4- 2 references
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1-Think for a while about cultural practices and how they affect health or illness in your own family. They may be difficult to identify as such at first, but they do exist. What ideas about illness prevention does your family adhere to? What do you do when someone gets sick? What rituals does your family practice when someone dies?
2- APA style
3- 3 paragraphs 3 sentences each
4- 2 references
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1-Holding everything else constant, an increase in the growth rate of the money supply will cause the AD curve to
not shift at all.
shift outward.
shift randomly.
shift inward.
2-In the AD-AS model, which curve would be irrelevant if prices and wages were perfectly flexible?
A. Long-Run Aggregate Supply
B. Long-Run Aggregate Demand
C. Short-Run Aggregate Supply
D. Aggregate Demand
3-An increase in the expected inflation rate will cause the LRAS curve to:
A. do nothing.
B. shift right.
C. flatten out.
D. shift left.
4-When consumers suddenly become more pessimistic about the economy, the stock shifts the:
A. LRAS curve outward, reducing the real growth rate in the short run.
B. AD curve inward, reducing the real growth rate in the short run.
C. AD curve outward, reducing the real growth rate in the short run.
D. LRAS curve inward, reducing the real growth rate in the short run.
5-Which of the following would cause the AD curve to shift to the left?
A. lower growth rate of output
B. decreased government purchases
C. higher government budget deficits
D. lower taxes
6-A temporary decrease in consumer spending causes:
A. a decrease in the economy's long-run potential growth rate
B. a decrease in velocity growth
C. an upward shift of the SRAS curve.
D. a decrease in money growth
7-Which of the following best describes the conditions of the Great Depression?
A. Real GDP growth was negative while inflation was very high.
B. Both real GDP growth and inflation were historically high.
C. Real GDP was high while inflation was negative.
D. Both real GDP growth and inflation were negative.
8- Menu costs are the costs associated with changing:
A. jobs.
B. wages.
C. prices.
D. expected inflation.
9-A temporary positive shock to spending growth will lead to an increase in:
A. output and inflation in the short run, but no change in either in the long run.
B. output in both the short and long run.
C. both inflation and output in the short run, but only output in the long run.
D. both inflation and output in the short run, but only inflation in the long run.
10- Which of the following describes the process through which a major decline in the stock market leads to a change in Aggregate Demand?
A. Banking panics lead to a removal of deposit insurance and a negative AD shock.
B. A stock market bubble bursts, and this leads to a negative supply shock.
C. Reductions in consumer wealth produce a negative AD shock.
D. Increase in net exports produce a negative AD shock.
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A. 10%
B. 4%
C. 7%
D. 3%
12-
A. 3%
B. 7%
C. 4%
D. 10%
13-
A. -0.5%
B. 6.5%
C. 7%
D. 3%
14-
A. 6.5%
B. -0.5%
C. 0.5%
D. 2%
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A. Workers increase their inflationary expectations so that the economy moves to point A.
B. Workers decrease their inflationary expectations so that the economy moves to point C.
C. Workers increase their inflationary expectations so that the economy moves to point C.
D. Workers decrease their inflationary expectations so that the economy moves to point .
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1-Please write the difference and examples between coccus, bacillus, and vibrio. 2-What is a Nosocomial or a Healthcare-Associated Infections (HAI)? Please write three examples. 3-Why viruses are not considered living structures? 4-Who was Carolus Linnaeus? What was his best contribution to Microbiology? 5-What is a Microbiota? Why are they important in our body? 6-What is a Primary Infectious Disease? What is a Secondary Infectious Disease? Please write examples of both types of Primary and Secondary infectious diseases? 7-Why is still important the knowledge of Gram stain? Which dyes are used in this type of coloration? 8-Who was Dr. Edward Jenner? What was his best contribution to Medicine? 9-Acute Infection, Chronic Infection, and Latent Infection. Please define each of them, and please write examples of them. 10-What is Herd Immunity? How is it possible to increase it in our current Pandemic of coronavirus (SARS-CoV-2 infection)
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1-2 paragraphs for each person. There are 6 people.Everett.docxkarisariddell
1-2 paragraphs for each person. There are 6 people.
Everett
Overall what occurred in 2015 following the information of Volkswagen cheating the consumers, the market, and the EPA was fairly little in the grand scheme of things. The background surrounding Volkswagen essentially getting away with mass pollution and hoodwinking the industry for years is that a defeat device was installed within the vehicle’s engine that programmed it to run in a cleaner mode when hooked up to a test (Poeir, 2020). This obviously did not restrict the vehicle when performing on an open road. The device was eventually discovered and Volkswagen was billed for 25 billion dollars (Poier, 2020). However, the market share gained from this deception may have been worth it, as the vehicles outperformed all other competition in power and fuel economy that it resulted in the vehicles being ranked top in their respective classes that year (Poier, 2020).
However, what might Volkswagen do now to build back some of the trust within the corporate world? How can they redeem themselves economically? The first step arguably is to regain the trust of their shareholders and instill a set of ethics the likes of which cannot be questioned. Obviously, a drop in stock price is bad news, however, the company is by no means insolvent, and they quickly recovered following the incident. However ethics the company needs to advertise and explain to investors and to staff some sort of new ethical guidance that can convince people to purchase their products once again.
In regards to recovering legally, there’s been a fairly limited number of lawsuits, there were several major ones, however between the payouts of that and the fines levied against them from the EPA and other countries they seem to have paid the piper, the best way to address the issue legally and ethically would be to launch a voluntary recall in which people with the defeat devices may receive an upgrade at no cost to themselves. This would also address the philanthropic needs of the company. Additionally, many companies devote a sum of their profits to things that seem counter to their product, Coke for example sponsors huge numbers of athletic programs for children. Volkswagen may consider doing the same but planting some sort of forest to help deal with the carbon footprint. While I’m not the most creative individual in the world, it seems that there is any number of philanthropic things the company could do to earn them a “Subaru-Esque” reputation in the industry.
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The Volkswagen diesel emissions scandal has been widely covered. The corporation used a "defeat device" to fool an emissions government test (Jacobs & Kalbers, 2019). There have been major ethical concerns and significant environmental & financial consequences due to the device's release. The scandal has managed to ruin the reputation of Volkswagon. The image of the environmental friendly business has been destroyed. The vehicles had to be .
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1-2 paragraphs
apa format
references
need in 8 hours!
Select one moral philosophy (teleology, deontology, relativist perspective, virtue ethics, or justice) that has influenced the outcome of an ethical dilemma that you have witnessed.
Provide one example of the way in which this moral philosophy influenced the outcome of an ethical dilemma in a past or present organization.
Note
: Please do not identify workplaces or leaders by name.
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1. A:
In your viewpoint, what are the Humanities
? Formulate a definition of the Humanities.
B:
What is the relationship between Humanities and be nurse
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This can be answer in one paragraph with 6 sentence.
2- What is the contribution of Philosophy to Humanities and humanity? Please explain by writing a well-developed paragraph of at least five sentences.
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Identify an ethical consideration besides establishing culturally relevant efforts that are consistent with recognizing that primary prevention is an act of premeditated intrusion into the lives and setting of individuals and groups and ask a question about this ethical consideration.
Suggest an additional mechanism or strategy to increase culturally relevant prevention programming and planning with African American teenagers, ages 13 through 21, spreading sexually transmitted infections.
Provide your colleague with feedback about how prevention as an act of premeditated intrusion into the lives and setting of individuals and groups on Diversity and Ethical Considerations could help bring about positive social change.
Learning Resources
Required Readings
Hage, S., & Romano, J. L. (2013). Best practices in prevention. In R. K. Conyne & A. M. Horne (Eds.). Prevention practice kit: Action guides for mental health professionals (pp. 32-46). Thousand Oaks, CA: SAGE.
Vera, E. M., & Kenny, M. E. (2013). Social justice and culturally relevant prevention. In R. K. Conyne & A. M. Horne (Eds.). Prevention practice kit: Action guides for mental health professionals (pp. 1-59). Thousand Oaks, CA: SAGE.
American Counseling Association (2014). 2014 ACA Code of Ethics. Retrieved from https://www.counseling.org/Resources/aca-code-of-ethics.pdf
County Health Rankings & Roadmaps (2018). How healthy is your community? Robert Wood Johnson Foundation. Retrieved from http://www.countyhealthrankings.org/.
Required Media
Walden Scholars of Change (2016). Giving incarcerated women a second chance. https://www.waldenu.edu/connect/video-and-multimedia/social-change/scholars-of-change/2016-winners/giving-incarcerated-women-a-second-chance
Be sure to support your postings and responses with specific references to the Learning Resources.
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1-2 page single spaced pages in 12-point font. Reference Listed.docxkarisariddell
1-2 page single spaced pages in 12-point font.
Reference: Listed at the top of the paper in APA style.
INTRODUCTION should contain:
* A thorough literature review that establishes the nature of the problem to be addressed in the present study(the literature review is specific to the problem)
*The literature review is current (within 5 years)
A logical sequence from what we know (the literature review) to what we don't know (the unanswered questions raised by the review and what this study intended to answer)
* the purpose of the present study
*the hypothesis/research questions
*State the overall purpose of the paper
*What new ideas or info were communicated in the paper
*Why was it important to publish these ideas?
METHODS. The methods section has three subsections. It should contain:
* The participants and population they intended to represent
* The number of participants and how they were selected
*A description of the tools/measures used and research design employed
RESULTS: The results should contain a thorough summary of results of all analyses
DISCUSSION: The discussion is where the author "wraps up the research."
* A simple and easy to understand summary of what was found.
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1-2 page typed (double space) research and reflection essay on a mus.docxkarisariddell
1-2 page typed (double space) research and reflection essay on a musical group or artist that reflects some of our class themes, such as Race, Ethnicity, Counter-narrative, Social Justice, and Power. Include your personal opinion and reflection on your chosen musical group or artist. What is one of your favorite songs or a song that resonates with you in connection with some of our class themes? Include the lyrics of the song! (lyrics are not counted for the 1-2 pages)
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1. The law of demand implies that:
sellers will offer less on the market at lower prices.
consumers will buy more at lower prices.
sellers will offer more on the market at higher prices.
consumers are not responsive to price changes.
2. An increase in the demand for gasoline today caused by concerns that gasoline prices will be
higher tomorrow is most likely attributable to a change in:
consumer preferences.
consumer expectations.
income.
prices of other goods.
3. If the price of hamburger decreased, it would probably result in _____ in the demand for
hamburger buns.
random fluctuations
no change
an increase
a decrease
4. A decrease in supply is caused by:
an advancement in the technology for producing the good.
an increase in the price of goods that are used in production.
an increase in the number of producers.
suppliers' expectations of lower prices in the future.
5. Figure: The Demand and Supply of Wheat
Reference: Ref 3-6
(Figure: The Demand and Supply of Wheat) Look at the figure The Demand and Supply of
Wheat. If a price of $8 temporarily exists in this market, a _____ of _____ bushels will
result.
surplus; 6,000
surplus; 4,000
shortage; 2,000
shortage; 4,000
6. If the market for buffalo meat is in equilibrium, the price of buffalo meat will probably
_____ in the near future.
decrease
increase considerably
increase
not change
7. Figure: Four Markets for DVDs
Reference: Ref 3-9
(Figure: Four Markets for DVDs) Look at the figure Four Markets for DVDs. Which of the
graphs illustrates what may happen in the market for DVDs if D1 or S1 is the original curve
and D2 or S2 is the new curve and if the cost of producing DVDs falls?
C
D
A
B
8. Figure: Shifts in Demand and Supply II
Reference: Ref 3-11
(Figure: Shifts in Demand and Supply II) Look at the figure Shifts in Demand and Supply II.
The graph shows how supply and demand might shift in response to specific events. Suppose
scientists discover that eating pomegranates causes aging. Which panel BEST describes how
this will affect the market for pomegranates?
panel C
panel B
panel D
panel A
9. Figure: Shifts in Demand and Supply III
Reference: Ref 3-12
(Figure: Shifts in Demand and Supply III) Look at the figure Shifts in Demand and Supply
III. The figure shows how supply and demand might shift in response to specific events.
Suppose consumer incomes increase. Which panel BEST describes how this will affect the
market for designer boots, a normal good?
panel B
panel C
panel A
panel D
10. For consumers, pizza and hamburgers are substitutes. A rise in the price of a pizza causes
_____ in the equilibrium price of a hamburger and _____ in the equilibrium quantity of
hamburgers.
a rise; a decrease
a fall; an increase
a rise; an increase
a fall; a decrease .
1-2 page critique of the film after selecting a character in the mov.docxkarisariddell
1-2 page critique of the film after selecting a character in the movie (main character most of the time) and completing a diagnostic impression as it best reflects the character’s clinical syndrome and how the character(s) meets the diagnostic criteria for the particular disorder(s).
Main Character: Ben Sanderson
**** Use the DSM-5 to develop the character impression. Provide your opinion with supporting details from the movie and the DMS-V. Share your overall critique of the movie. Share your overall critique o the movie
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1. Which of the following changes will result in a shift of the agg.docxkarisariddell
1. Which of the following changes will result in a shift of the aggregate demand curve, and which will result in a movement along the curve? If there is a shift, or a movement, be sure to explain in which direction, and why (either up or down, or, right or left). 1 pt each
a. The Fed lowers interest rates.
b. The price level in the economy falls.
c. Wealth decreases.
d. A foreign trading partner’s national income increases.
2. With a two panel diagram –one panel showing the aggregate expenditure diagram, and the other showing the AD curve – show how a decrease consumption shifts the AD curve.
2 pts
3. What will happen to the aggregate supply curve if the price of foreign oil decreases? Will it cause a movement along the curve or a shift of the curve? Explain clearly. 2 pts
4. Is there any difference between the aggregate demand curve and the demand curve for good x? Explain .
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1-2 page critique of the film after analyzing the main character (Jo.docxkarisariddell
1-2 page critique of the film after analyzing the main character (Jones) and completing a diagnostic impression as it best reflects the character’s clinical syndrome and how the character meets the diagnostic criteria for the particular disorder(s).
**** Use the DSM-5 to develop the character impression. Provide your opinion with supporting details from the movie and the DMS-V. Share your overall critique of the movie. Share your overall critique o the movie.
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1. John, a 15 year old who loves skateboarding, wants to buy th.docxkarisariddell
1. John, a 15 year old who loves skateboarding, wants to buy the new hyped magenta 3000 skateboard. He finds the last one on-line at his local sports store. He uses his debit card to purchase the board and the $500 is taken directly from his bank account. In order to avoid a delivery fee, he selects “pick up” as his shipping option.
When he arrives at the store to pick up the skateboard, the manager tells him he has canceled the transaction because another customer has promised to pay $600 for the board. John offers to pay an additional $150 for the skateboard and the manager agrees. John pays the $150 by credit card and takes the board. As soon as John gets home, he calls the credit card company and cancels the transaction.
The store sues John for the $150 or the return of the skateboard. What result?
A. The store will win. John has to return the skateboard because he is a minor without the capacity to contract.
B. John will win. There was no consideration given in exchange for John’s payment of the $150.
C. The store will win under the doctrine of promissory estoppel.
D. The store will win because the store’s website did not create a valid offer.
B. John will win. There was no consideration given in exchange for John’s payment of the $150.
2. Rob, an elderly man, is dependent on his housekeeper, Larry, to care for him. Larry persuades Rob to withdraw $100,000 from the bank and make an interest free loan to him. Rob’s daughter, Erica, sues Larry on behalf of her father to avoid the transaction. Erica’s best claim is:
A. Unilateral mistake.
B. Undue Influence
C. Economic duress
D. Misrepresentation
B. Undue influence
3. Elise took out an ad in the newspaper to sell her car, fully described, for $17,000. Franklin saw the ad and called Elise, saying that he would like to see the car. Franklin met Elise, drove the car and said, “Okay, I’ll buy it.” Which of the following is true?
A. Elise made an offer, which Franklin accepted.
B. Franklin made an offer, which Elise may accept or reject.
C. Elise made an offer which Franklin may accept or reject.
D. Franklin made an offer, which Elise accepted.
B. Franklin made an offer, which Elise may accept or reject.
4. Colleen sold a house to Ben for $300,000. Before selling the house, Colleen forgot to tell Ben about a leaky faucet in a little-used sink in the basement, which would cost about $30 to fix. Ben inspected the house, but didn’t notice the faucet. Later, Ben tries to rescind the deal on the grounds of fraud or misrepresentation because of the leaky faucet. Which of the following is the best reason why Ben cannot rescind?
A. Because Colleen made no statement about the faucet.
B. Because Ben did not rely on any false statement
C. Because the condition of the faucet is not material to the contract.
D. Because Colleen did not conceal the condition of the faucet.
C. Because the condition of the faucet is not material to the contract
5. Ana, a 19-year-old immig.
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1-Read and print the data from the brain.csv file
2-Extraxt the HeadSzie and the BrainWeight into separate arrays (print as column vectors)
3- Find the average, max, and min values for the 2 data columns.
4- Plot the head size verses the brain weight
Please find the attachment for brain.csv file
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1. Duncan Fisher (2019, march). Children of Divorce The Key Rol.docxkarisariddell
1. Duncan Fisher (2019, march). Children of Divorce: The Key Role of Self-Esteem in Recovering from The Trauma.
https://www.childandfamilyblog.com/child-development/children-of-divorce-self-esteem/
2. Hal Arkowitz, Scott O. Lilienfeld (2013, March 1). Is Divorce Bad for Children?
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/is-divorce-bad-for-children/
3. Judith S. Wallerstein (1989, Jan 22). CHILDREN AFTER DIVORCE.
https://www.nytimes.com/1989/01/22/magazine/children-after-divorce.html
4. Patrick F. Fagan and Aaron Churchill (2012, January 11). The Effects of Divorce on Children.
https://downloads.frc.org/EF/EF12A22.pdf
5. Wendy Paris (2015, March 17). Yes, You Can Raise Happy Children After Divorce.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/splitopia/201503/yes-you-can-raise-happy-children-after-divorce
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Discussion 7
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Q1. What should Mark have done if Jack still was not able to resolve the problem?
McRoy Aerospace was into building freight planes and refueling tankers. Be that as it may, they needed to contend in a market of building business airplane. McRoy could be an effective rival in the matter of assembling business airplane on the off chance that they could discover an answer for the issue of having a instrument for every one of the four sets of entryways in the airplane.
Jack has been an accomplished specialist and most important asset for McRoy Aerospace, and Mark was persuaded that Jack was the one in particular who could discover an answer for the issue. Mark depended excessively on one representative, which is constantly dangerous and is never suggested while rivaling organizations like Boeing and Airbus. In the event that Jack couldn't think of an answer, Mark could direct or an open test where workers and ongoing alumni can take an interest and take care of the issue independently.
Q2. Would it make sense for Mark to assign this problem to someone else now after Jack could not solve the problem the second time around?
In the wake of giving Jack adequate time, depending on him, and pushing him to concoct an answer, it looks bad to drive Jack further, and it would be a smart thought to relegate this issue to another person. While rivaling solid contenders like Boeing, it's better not to depend on one worker. Mark should locate some other official with exceptional and hands-on understanding, who is happy to respond to the call and is certain to think of an answer.
References
Kerzner, Harold. (2013) Project management: a systems approach to planning, scheduling, and controlling, John Wiley & Sons. 14-600. Newyork, NY.
Thomaz, J. (2014). Knowledge Management on PMO’s Perspective: A Systematic Review. European Conference on Knowledge Management, 1, 233.
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Discussion 7
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1 reply
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What should Mark have done if Jack still was not able to resolve the problem?
Mark has an extensive measure of want on Jack. He figured Jack would think about a blueprint for using all.
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1. When Thomas Paine writes about reconciliation, he is referring to (1 point)
the southern Colonies staying peacefully connected to the northern Colonies.
the Colonies staying peacefully connected with Great Britain.
the Colonists staying peacefully connected to Native Americans.
Great Britain staying peacefully connected with Europe.
2. Which of the following statements about Common Sense is NOT true? (1 point)
Common Sense was written the same year as the Declaration of Independence.
Thomas Paine wrote Common Sense to persuade colonists to fight for independence.
The printing press enabled the wide circulation of Common Sense.
Thomas Paine was hanged for treason after writing Common Sense.
3. Thomas Paine believed America should be (1 point)
an asylum, a safe place, for all people.
a British colony.
a continent of many nations.
a city on a hill.
Asylum is a word with multiple meanings. Read the following sentence from Common Sense.
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4. In this context, does asylum have a positive or negative connotation? (1 point)
positive
negative
5. Thomas Paine wrote Common Sense to (1 point)
Revolutionary War soldiers.
colonists in 1776, prior to the signing of the Declaration of Independence.
the British monarchy.
women seeking the right to vote.
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The Essential Theater, 10th ed.
, by Oscar G. Brockett and Robert J. Ball.
Topics you should know before answering this question:
1. Neoclassical rules of theater in France (pp. 123-124)
2. The rebellion against neoclassicism and the appreciation of Shakespeare (pp. 136-138)
3. Sturm and Drang movement in Germany (pg. 136)
4. The connection between Romanticism and melodrama (pp. 139-146)
5. Realism and Heinrick Ibsen (pp. 146-158)
6. Realism in acting (Stanislavsky) (pp. 158-160)
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The Essential Theater, 10th ed.
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2. Stanislavsky method of acting (pp. 175-178)
3. African American theater (pp. 224-228)
4. Latino theater (pp.229-233)
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1. |05|cognitive reframing and EXTERNALIZING
the PROBLEM
“The most common way people
give up their power is by
thinking they don’t have any.”
Alice Walker
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Where We Have Been
In Chapter 4, you learned to identify, acknowledge, and accept
how your feelings and emotions can affect your
personal narratives. More importantly, you learned that you are
someone who experiences feelings and emotions, but
you are separate from them—they do not define you. You were
also introduced to insights and strategies that allow
feelings to move through you, rather than overtake you, so that
you can minimize the chance of feelings and emotions
becoming problematic and taking your personal narrative
hostage. Finally, you learned breathing exercises and were
introduced to guided mindfulness and meditation as a route to
quiet your thoughts and connect you to the calming
influence of the present moment.
Where We Are Going
In this chapter, we will introduce you to the concept of
2. neuroplasticity, the brain’s ability to be “plastic” or
“changeable” in nature by actually growing new neural
pathways when tasked with creating new thinking patterns, at
any age (Figure 1). Understanding and embracing
neuroplasticity is important as you begin to update your
thinking
patterns and form more helpful ways of responding to difficult
feelings, emotions, and stressors.
Gearing Up
» To begin to understand the concept of neuroplasticity and
recognize that with it
comes an invitation to shift your relationship to your mindset
problems
» To begin to maximize your brain’s neuroplasticity as you
form new thinking
patterns
» To begin to learn about the important role of cognitive
reframing as you foster
new ways of responding to feelings, thoughts, and beliefs
» To begin to understand the concept and practice of
externalizing your problems
» To begin to identify your main problem and learn the scope
of its current
influence in your life
» To begin to develop a new relationship to your problem(s)
Figure 1. Our brains are capable of
growing new neural pathways at any
age.
3. You will also discover that you cannot always trust your
thoughts as they are often stuck in the cycle of delivering
faulty information based on self-limiting and even self-
sabotaging beliefs (see the discussion on self-talk in Chapter 2).
Because this is so common for many, you will be taught how to
“prime yourself” to maximize your brain’s potential for
neuroplasticity when self-limiting beliefs do in fact surface;
you’ll do this by following a process that starts with simply
pausing and noticing.
Next, you will be introduced to cognitive reframing, a concept
that allows you to view the same information or
experience, but through a different and more productive frame.
Lastly, you will be introduced to the narrative concept of
externalizing problems. This concept holds the potential to
liberate you from problems that previously you may have
understood as evidence of a character deficiency. When
we see ourselves as somehow flawed or broken because of
common problems like procrastination, anxiety, or
overwhelm, we are more inclined to experience things like
shame, guilt, or defensiveness when dealing with them.
Externalizing problems minimizes that potential.
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This is where neuroplasticity comes in. Neuroplasticity is a
term used by neuroscientists to describe
the “plastic” or “changeable” nature of our brains. It refers to
the brain’s ability to form and
reorganize synaptic connections, especially in response to
learning or experience. Neuroplasticity is
key to sustaining emotional intelligence, and allows us to have
an open mind and overcome biases.1
4. Understanding neuroplasticity is an important step in providing
the insight and awareness necessary
to strengthen your desire to form new thinking habits because
knowing brain science will only
support the belief that you can, in fact, become a better version
of yourself (Figure 2). Imagine
a version of yourself that is perhaps more competent in
practicing self advocacy, confidence,
emotional intelligence, resilience, perseverance, and self-
control, and someone who, more times
than not, embraces a growth mindset when the going gets tough.
“Where attention goes, neural firing flows, and neural
connection grows.”
Daniel J. Siegel
Figure 2. Neuroplasticity supports the
belief that you can become a better
version of yourself.
Take a couple of minutes to watch this video, which captures
the concept of neuroplasticity.2
WATCH THIS:
Neuroplasticity
the ability of the brain to form and
reorganize synaptic connections,
especially in response to learning or
experience
5. Neuroplasticity: The Brain’s Ability to Change
What you have been learning in this course has been
challenging you to think about your problems differently, to
create an updated relationship to them, and as a result actually
rewire your brain so that you can more dependably
respond to situations in your life from a personally empowered
place. This is no small feat. It takes the desire and
commitment to want to change and therefore grow. It also takes
dedication, time, and practice to create new thinking
patterns and new habits.
Your thoughts are not always reliable. Thoughts sometimes
represent limiting beliefs about how you see yourself and
the world around you, however, they may also serve as the
gateway to your eventual success. When you begin to
recognize your own thinking patterns, you are taking an
important step toward rewiring your brain.
Neuroplasticity
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ELpfYCZa87g
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A Guide to Leveraging Neuroplasticity
When you start to recognize your own self-limiting beliefs and
negative self-talk, it’s time to interrupt those thoughts
and change them. One method of accomplishing this is by using
the OWN acronym as a foundation.The OWN
acronym is a straightforward guide that can be utilized to
interrupt self-limiting beliefs and negative self-talk as it’s
happening (Figure 3). By practicing this approach, you are
capitalizing on an immediate opportunity to optimize your
brain’s potential for neuroplasticity. Additionally, by applying
the OWN acronym to your thoughts, you remind yourself
6. that you own your thoughts instead of your thoughts possessing
you. You see, change is something that happens
to you, whereas transformation is something you must practice.
This three-step process is your invitation into that
practice.
Figure 3. Practicing OWN helps you
take control of your thoughts.
Step 1: Observe Your Self-Talk
In Chapter 2, you learned what self-talk is and how it can shape
your personal narrative. We all have different negative
self-talk “triggers,” circumstances under which we feel more
insecure, uncertain, self-critical, or self-blaming. In those
moments, we are certainly caught in the grips of the problem,
whether that be the growing narrative and belief
that we are lazy, stupid, anxious, or undeserving, or that we are
flawed in some deep and essential way. We talk to
ourselves in ways that we would never talk to others we respect:
we shame our appearance, our abilities, our intellect,
and our character.
The next time you find yourself caught up in negative self talk,
start by noticing it. By practicing this awareness and
understanding your own thought processes, or metacognition,
you will be able to start interrupting the negative
self-talk simply by observing it. It is important that you observe
your self-talk with as little judgment as possible. So,
the next time you enjoy that final spoonful of chocolate lava
cake, and the requisite negative self-talk ensues, observe
it (Figure 4). That is all that is required of you in this first step.
Just take note of what is happening and what you are
saying to yourself.
Figure 4. Interrupt your self-talk by
observing it.
7. Metacognition
an awareness and understanding of
your thought processes
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Step 2: Wonder What Your Self-Talk Wants You to Believe
Now that you have begun observing when your negative self-
talk happens, the next step is to ask yourself what your
self-talk wants you to believe. Let’s say you had two weeks to
complete a research paper. Instead of working on it over
the past two weeks, you procrastinated and now have only two
days before it is due. As you begin to experience the
full weight of overwhelm, you may notice the negative self-talk
befall you (Figure 5).
Figure 5. What does your self-talk
want you to believe?
In this moment, take pause. That may be hard, but it is crucial.
The truth is, the words you are saying and the names
you are calling yourself are simply promoting more suffering
and, in fact, are getting you more stuck in this exact
cycle.
The first step was interrupting the self-talk, and therefore
promoting an opportunity for neuroplasticity (that is, change
and growth). The second step is to ask yourself, “What are these
words encouraging me to believe about myself that
aren’t helpful or even necessarily true?” Taking the self-talk
examples from above, here are some limiting beliefs they
may be promoting:
8. » I am unintelligent.
» I am broken.
» I am an imposter.
» I am mentally unstable.
» I should be ashamed of myself.
Berating yourself will not make the situation any better, nor
will it increase your ability to handle it. Yes, you can
be disappointed in yourself—being disappointed in yourself is
very different than beating yourself up. You are not
somehow paying penance for poor behavior when you beat
yourself up through negative self-talk. Rather, you are
actively creating and or maintaining neural pathways that
reinforce both a negative belief in who you are, as well as
potentially perpetuating your tendency to continue to do so in
the future (only deepening the synaptic groove you are
creating in your brain). This has the effect of creating even
more stress and reducing personal agency to correct the
situation. That’s a pretty high price to pay!
Step 3: Notice How This Situation Might Be an Opportunity for
Learning
Now that you’ve noticed and observed the self-talk and thinking
patterns and you’ve asked yourself what they are
causing you to believe about yourself, it is time to continue this
important process of pausing and looking inward. As
you do this, the next question is, “How might this difficult
situation be an opportunity for learning?” In other words,
how might you loosen your grip on the old pattern of thought
(self-talk), and its attachment to the belief about
yourself it promotes? What if you decided to gently let it go?
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In the example of the procrastinated research paper, this might
sound something like, “I am really disappointed
in myself for leaving this paper to the last minute, but I am not
unintelligent or broken. I am a person still learning
about stress management and procrastination stepped in to try to
help. No, it didn’t work, but procrastination is all
about keeping me from being overly stressed in the moment, but
terrible about considering the future. Now, what
can I realistically do right away to address this paper?” By
acknowledging your original self-talk and what it might be
convincing you to believe about yourself, and changing the
thinking pattern and moving forward, you are changing
how you think and react (Figure 6).
Figure 6. Acknowledging your self-
talk and learning from the situation
gives you the means to change how
you think.
Letting go is not just okay, it is good and quite normal.
However, resisting your emotions can also cause suffering.
Much
like you learned in Chapter 4, you are not your feelings and
emotions, you are someone who experiences feelings and
emotions. It is in the act of resisting emotions that we often
extend our suffering. If you fear being overtaken by your
emotions, you may be tempted to resist them altogether. As you
continue to practice your breathing exercises and bring
short meditation sessions into your life, you may find that even
difficult emotions like anger or fear have no permanent
10. home with you.
“Superficial narratives do not get at the deepest abilities of
people. They
often represent the stories within which people have become
stuck—habit
pathways in the brain that have become habit hell.”
Dr. Srini Pillay
Harvard Medical School
Let it Go
Many of us have created thinking patterns that may not
represent our strengths, values, and goals, but have nonetheless
become deeply ingrained and persistent habits.These thinking
habits then inform our beliefs. Many people will go
their entire lives with their unexamined thoughts and beliefs
ultimately residing in the driver’s seat of their lives. This,
unfortunately, tends to create a lot of personal suffering (Figure
7a). But, because this process is being illuminated for you,
you are gaining an important awareness that, if harnessed, can
pave a better path forward (Figure 7b). The simple truth is
that you can make the choice to let go of the limiting beliefs
and negative self-talk.
Figure 7. You can go your entire life
with unexamined thoughts in the
driver’s seat (a); or you can be aware
of your thoughts and follow a better
path (b).
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Neutralizing Emotions by Allowing Emotions
NOTE: If you have been diagnosed with or believe you may
have post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD),
please consult a mental health professional before engaging in
this exercise.
What if you allowed yourself larger doses of feelings and
emotions, rather than continually suppressing or
avoiding them? Suppressing and avoiding emotions can yield
the opposite effect; it can actually increase the
impact emotions have on your life, but in a negative way.
Start by carving out three to five minutes to feel the emotion
that you find you’re commonly pushing away.
Maybe it’s sadness, or fear, or anger. Tune into your body and
notice where you feel the emotion. Is it in your
heart, your belly, perhaps it’s behind your eyes or in your
throat. Notice the thoughts that accompany your
emotions; are your thoughts critical, compassionate, or
somewhere in between? If the thoughts are self-critical
or if you experience fear or sadness, try placing your hand over
your heart and saying to yourself, “Everything is
okay,” or something else compassionate and kind to yourself. It
is recommended that as you practice self-talk in
this way, that you refer to yourself in the third person, like
“Everything is okay, Sarah”. Some people who are in
the process of releasing especially painful emotions find that
while placing their hand over their heart, that saying
something like, “Everything is okay, sweetheart.” is very
calming and therapeutic as it more deeply expresses the
more intentional element of self-compassion. It’s up to you to
find the right way to address yourself.
12. Practicing kindness towards yourself can be incredibly healing
and cathartic and increases not only your self-
compassion, but your compassion and empathy for others, as
well. Notice the feeling and the accompanying
thoughts as if they are merely clouds passing through the
horizon of your emotional perception and awareness.
They come and go, and are not who you are. Feel them and
thank them for whatever lessons or personal
awakening or insight they may offer, then release them (Figure
8).
Figure 8. Be kind to yourself and let your feelings go.
Part of the release process may include journaling, or perhaps
expressing the feelings to another person, which
can be helpful too. Finding an outlet or an expression for
whatever feelings you have can help you to move them
through you.
After you have explored the emotion, you may elect to perform
Dr. Weil’s 4:7:8 breathing exercise, or simply
begin to more consciously practice inhaling through your nose
and exhaling through your mouth. Consciously
focus on your breath for at least three breath cycles. As you
become more present to the moment and connected
to your breathing, begin to notice the sounds around you (this
will support your ability to stay grounded and
connected to the present moment). You can end the exercise by
being thankful for the emotions and reminding
yourself that in the present moment you are calm, present, and
safe.
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13. Cognitive Reframing
Cognitive reframing is a psychological term that very much
supports the narrative coaching approach. Much like
you’ve been introduced to the idea that it is the lens through
which you view your experiences that contribute to
whether you’re caught in a problem saturated narrative or not,
cognitive reframing uses the frame metaphor to
highlight much the same. When we deliberately practice altering
the frame through which we assign meaning to our
experiences, we expand in our ability to move with more
positivity and freedom. When we reframe our experiences,
we shift our thinking by ideally moving away from fear,
uncertainty, and self-doubt. Srini Pillay, brain researcher
and Harvard psychiatrist, says this of uncertainty: “It biases
your brain to think that the worst will happen. That is, it
distorts thinking and pulls in more “bad stuff.”3 Cognitive
reframing supports your ability to move away from distorted
thinking that promotes this kind of personal uncertainty (Figure
9).
“The essential idea behind reframing is that a person’s point-of-
view
depends on the frame it is viewed in. When the frame is shifted,
the
meaning changes and thinking and behavior often change along
with it.”
Amy Morin
Verywell Mind
Figure 9. Through cognitive reframing
we alter how we view our experiences.
Have you ever been with a friend who experienced the exact
14. same event or interaction as you, but tells a completely
different version of what just happened? It can go something
like this:
You are at a restaurant and the two of you are ordering your
drinks. You order a coke and water and your
friend orders an iced tea and a water with a slice of lemon. The
interaction seems totally unremarkable to
you, but as the server walks away, your friend says under her
breath, “What was his problem?”
“Excuse me? What did I miss?” You ask your friend.
“You seriously didn’t notice?” Your friend says. “Didn’t you
see the way he looked at me when I asked for a
water with a slice of lemon? He was so annoyed! He made me
feel like I was putting him out or something. I
was just asking for a lemon slice!”
You pause and reflect: the server didn’t seem rude to you at all.
He just seemed to be clarifying if you and
your friend both wanted lemon in your water, or if only your
friend did.
Same event, but two completely different interpretations. Which
one is true? Well, that depends on which
one you believe!
Both you and your friend end up walking away from the
experience at the restaurant with two very different
narratives. Yours might be completely unremarkable, while your
friend continues to insist that the server was rude.
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15. We have all been in your friend’s shoes: we all view the world
through our unique personal lens which is shaped by
our thoughts, moods, and beliefs (again, our personal
narratives). The real question remains:
Is your personal narrative one that makes it easy to execute the
Big 7 non cogs, or have you noticed—or are
you beginning to notice—that there is a particular frame
through which you view your world and the people
in it that makes navigating new challenges more challenging
than it might need to be?
Applying Cognitive Reframing to a Problem
Your problems do not want the same thing for your life that you
do. This does not mean that things like worry have it
out for you, or are intentionally trying to hurt you. In fact,
worry, like self-doubt (as we explored in Chapter 2), serve a
purpose. Many things that you now consider to be problems
previously showed up in your life to provide safeguards
and provide helpful moments of pause and reflection. And, if
you manage them well, some may still be helpful in
small doses and for specific situations. For this you can be
grateful. It’s all about discernment: problems are not able
to discern when they are helpful and when they are not and they
can easily take over if given the opportunity. This is
exactly why practicing cognitive reframing can be so essential
in claiming authority in your life’s personal narrative.
You see, perhaps a problem that once served you well is
currently showing up and limiting your ability to function as
confidently as you would like in your new role as a college
student. The practice of cognitive reframing can help you
to limit the problem’s tendency to take over, should this be
happening to you. Cognitive reframing enables you to
revisit how you have historically interpreted events and feelings
in your life and it essentially activates your ability to
16. re-interpret them. This is especially important as problems like
worry are not able to take a landscape view of your
life, judiciously doling out how much or how little worry should
be applied to any given challenge. Instead, things
like worry have a propensity to grow and dominate if they are
not acknowledged, reassured, or pushed back upon
in the form externalizing them, like we’re about to teach you.
Problems like worry are less invested in cultivating
growth, supporting expression or creativity, and manifesting
dreams, as they are in steadfastly attempting to keep
you in a state of connection to them—regardless of
contexts.Cognitive reframing provides the necessary push back
to problems, so that you experience a less habituated stress
response to circumstances, thereby encouraging fewer
familiar problems (Figure 10).
Figure 10. Problems like worry are not
invested in your wellbeing.
Worry tries to convince you of things that may not be true.
Maybe it tries to convince you that the more time you
spend worrying, the more prepared and armed you will be in
managing whatever it is you are worrying about. Maybe
your worry works overtime to convince you that spending time
worrying is the best way to manage your life:
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Now, if worry get’s it’s way and you do not create a different
relationship to it, it risks becoming your belief. Imagine
if even one of those worries became a pervasive belief in your
life. Wouldn’t it be awful if you did not live the life you
wanted to live because worry took over?
17. The A to F Model for Working Against Self-Limiting Beliefs
The A to F model is a classical model used in working with
self-limiting beliefs.4 The basic idea is that all events are
neutral. Although the model posits that “all events are neutral,”
we know that this is not consistently true and want
to acknowledge that there exists exceptional events where
people treat others in harmful, abusive, negligent, or
discriminatory ways. The purpose and goal of the model is to
gain more awareness into your own reactions, and
to grow in your ability to discern what is truly happening in an
event, versus what your personal cognitive frame is
shaping it to look like. Only our thoughts stir reactions. Using
this model to understand Angela’s experience will be
a helpful introduction into highlighting how you can use
cognitive reframing in your own life when you experience
challenging events or interactions in your life.
You won’t
be able to
a�ord
college and
later
manage
your
�nancial
debt.
You won’t be able to
handle the
homesickness.
You’ll make bad
decisions and will
live with regret.
You won’t be able to
18. manage your time and
commitments.
You’ll be
intimidated by
your professors.
You’re unprepared
to do this on
your own.
You won’t be able to handle
being away from your
signi�cant other.
The guilt of
leaving your
family will
overwhelm
you.
Everyone
else
knows
what
they’re
doing and
they’re
going to
�nd out
you don’t.
You’ve
never
managed
everyday
19. tasks like
laundry,
cleaning,
cooking or
shopping
for yourself.
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be cultural
di�erences
that will
leave me
feeling
isolated.
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judge you
if you ask
a “dumb”
question,
so better
to stay
hidden.
You’ll choose the wrong
words a conversation and
your friends and they’ll
reject you.
If you get a
low grade
on one
assignment,
you won’t
be able to
recover. You’ll never live
20. up to your own
expectations.
You’re not
going to
get along
with your
roommate.
People
will
judge
you.
You’ll gain
weight.
There will be
a constant
fear of
failure.
You won’t
know what
to do after
college.
You won’t
be able to
handle the
pressure.
You won’t
measure
up.
21. You won’t be
accepted
for who
you are.
You’re
going to let
your family
down.
You won’t
be able to
make
friends.
You won't
make a
di�erence in
the world.
You will
lose your
signi�cant
other.
You will
choose the
wrong
major.
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A = Activating Situation or Event:
22. What is the situation or event that is activating the belief?
B = Self-Limiting Belief(s) About the Situation:
What is the self-limiting belief that has been triggered?
C = Consequences of These Beliefs:
What are the consequences, emotional and/or behavioral, of the
self-limiting belief?
D = Disputing the Self-Limiting Belief(s):
Dispute the self-limiting belief by asking yourself the following
questions:
» Is my belief realistic?
» Is my belief logical?
» Is my belief helpful?
E = Effect New Beliefs:
How can you acknowledge your feelings and change, or effect,
your beliefs to create a new non-
limiting belief?
F = New Feeling:
After applying your new perspective on the situation or event,
what new feelings and beliefs have
you created?
Using the above as your guide through the situation, you can
create the following table, which shows cognitive
reframing of a situation or event:
A to F Model
ACTION BELIEF CONSEQUENCE
23. B
EF
O
R
E
What is the situation or
event that is activating
the belief?
What is the self-imiting
belief that has been
triggered?
What are the
consequences,
emotional and/or
behavioral, of the self-
limiting belief?
A
FT
ER What is the situation or
event that is activating
the belief
What is the NEW
non-limiting belief?
After applying your
new perspective on the
situation or event, what
24. new feelings and beliefs
have you created?
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Angela’s Perspective
When Angela walked into the financial aid office, she was
feeling nervous. Talking about finances, filling out
confusing paperwork, and keeping on top of important deadlines
seemed overwhelming. She had been putting
off dealing with this all week, and had finally forced herself to
walk across campus to ask for help. When she
went up to the front counter to make an appointment, no one
seemed to notice her. She saw a bunch of people
behind the counter working: staring at their computer screens
and clicking away on their keyboards, talking on
headsets, or working directly with other students. Everyone
seemed so busy. She didn’t want to bother anybody,
so she continued to wait to be noticed.
After a couple of minutes passed and no one walked to the
counter to assist her, she finally softly said, “Excuse
me?” to the closest employee who seemed to be within earshot.
The woman had a headset on and had an
irritated expression on her face. Angela felt herself immediately
blush for interrupting her. She was embarrassed
so she quickly left, telling herself that later this week she could
go online and try to make an appointment that
way instead.
Let’s unpack Angela’s experience and analyze it through the A
to F Model. The prompts will be answered in the
first person, by Angela.
25. A = Activating Situation or Event: What is the situation or
event that is activating the belief?
» I say “Excuse me?” and the representative has a particular
expression on her face.
» This translates into asking a busy and crowded office staff
for help.
B = Self-Limiting Belief(s) About the Situation: What is the
self-limiting belief that has been triggered?
» I believe that I have interrupted the representative and that
her expression is showing irritation about
the interruption.
» This translates into the belief that I am an inconvenience and
annoying. Other people’s time is more
important than mine.
C = Consequences of These Beliefs: What are the consequences,
emotional and/or behavioral, of the
self-limiting beliefs?
» I feel embarrassed for annoying the representative and rush
out of the office, telling myself that I will
go online sometime later to try to make an appointment that
way.
» This causes me anxiety, embarrassment, and shyness, as well
as a lack of self-advocacy and
confidence. It also causes me to continue to procrastinate and
potentially miss timely financial aid
information necessary to fund my education.
26. D = Disputing the Self-Limiting Belief(s): Dispute the self-
limiting belief by asking yourself the
following questions:
» Am I being realistic in my belief? I am not. There was no
way to really know if the woman’s facial
expression was in response to me or something or someone else.
» Am I being logical in my belief? She may not be annoyed
(that could just be her face), she may be
annoyed about something else, or I may be the thing that is
annoying her; I have no way to know. If
my asking for assistance is annoying her, that says more about
her than it does about me. I am just as
important as any other student. It’s normal not to know what to
do or to need help. I will always be as
respectful to others as I can be to get my needs met as a student.
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» Is my belief helpful? It is helpful to care about how others
feel. It is not helpful to believe that I am
annoying and an inconvenience when I need help. I can practice
remembering that what I might
interpret as a response to me, often is not the reality or the
intention of the other person. It might
just be that I am seeing someone else in the midst of their own
struggles, and that is what the facial
expression represents. This is useful to remember because it
helps me feel less self-conscious and
focused on my own fears, anxieties, or insecurity. Though it is
important for me to be respectful of
other people’s time and to follow the rules, it does not mean
that by asking for help (self-advocating)
27. I am not still respectful and deserving of their time and
attention.
E = Effect New Beliefs: How can you acknowledge your
feelings and change, or effect, your beliefs to
create a new non-limiting belief?
» Perhaps the representative is listening to a student on her
headset and has heard a question that she
does not understand.
» Although I prefer for people to notice my needs right away,
even if they don’t, it is perfectly
acceptable to speak up until someone acknowledges me and can
help me. This means that I need to
learn that even if someone appears to be annoyed with me, it
may not be me that is annoying them.
» Letting go of this self-limiting belief will make me less
anxious and more likely to make an
appointment or return to ask for help again. I can feel concerned
but not so nervous that I avoid
getting the help I need.
F = New Feeling: After applying your new perspective on the
situation or event, what new feelings and
beliefs have you created?
» I recognize that the woman has a headset on and that the
facial expression may be in response to
another conversation, not to me.
» I am still not totally confident, but growing in my confidence
and my ability to ask for help from the
financial aid office as well as other administrators, staff, and
faculty at the college. I still have some
28. nervousness, but I am willing to not walk away from a new
situation as quickly as I usually do.
ACTION BELIEF CONSEQUENCE
B
EF
O
R
E Angela says “Excuse
me?” Representative has
a particular expression on
her face.
Angela believes that
she has interrupted
the representative and
that her expression is
showing irritation about
the interruption.
Angela feels
embarrassed for
annoying the
representative and
rushes out of the office,
telling herself that she
will go online sometime
later to try to make an
appointment that way.
A
FT
29. ER Angela says “Excuse
me?” Representative
has a particular
expression on her face.
Perhaps the
representative is
listening to a student
on her headset and
has heard a question
that she does not
understand.
Angela recognizes
that the woman has a
headset on and that
the facial expression is
in response to another
conversation, not her.
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Learning to Externalize Your Problems
Externalizing problems is a core principle of narrative coaching.
It is the practice of conceptually separating your
personal identity from the problems you encounter. When
you’re able to shift your relationship to a problem by no
longer seeing yourself as somehow inherently flawed or broken,
it lessens the tendency to experience additional guilt,
shame, or defensiveness in response to the problem, as well as
minimizing blame or avoidance. Furthermore, as you
will explore, externalizing problems encourages greater
creativity and insight as you seek to loosen the constraint that
mindset problems may have over you.
30. As you begin to practice the skill of externalizing a problem
when your mindset problems arise, you can expect to
feel awkward and the concept may feel completely
counterintuitive to your current habit of thinking and
responding
to things like mistakes and stressors. This is okay and
completely normal. Feeling uncomfortable and even awkward is
part of the process of learning a new skill—and part of getting
out of what Dr. Srini Pillay calls “habit hell.”5
Just keep going. In this case, “keep going” means keep
interrupting the old thinking patterns and replacing them
with the updated ones; with time and practice you’ll be
liberating yourself from self-destructive thought patterns.
Think of it this way: if you find yourself engaged in thinking
patterns (personal narratives) that are overly self-critical,
negative, or fear-based, chances are your thoughts are not very
trustworthy. If you find, like many of us have, that
you engage in self-limiting beliefs that are grounded in a sense
of personal lacking or deficiency (remember the
importance of self-talk), remember that you are not who you
think you are!
You Are Not the Problem
As you begin to examine your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs
and recognize how some have evolved into problems,
it will become increasingly important for you to revisit and
update how you talk about them. Updating our language
is a core component of both neuroplasticity and cognitive
reframing. It’s like the final step. Remember those “I am
statements” we discussed in Chapter 3? That concept applies
here, as well.
Rather than using language and syntax that places a problem
within you, as in “I am angry” or “I am anxious,” it
31. is important to change your sentence structure as you update
your relationship to your problems and gain more
command over them. What this means is that you will begin the
practice of changing “I am angry” or “I am anxious”
into something like “I am dealing with anger” or “I am working
on managing worry.”
We are not the first to shift our wording and in so doing shift
the relationships to our problematic feelings. Author
of Big Magic and Eat Pray Love, Elizabeth Gilbert, has made a
video, “A Letter to Fear,” that embodies the same
approach.6
“A Letter to Fear” by Elizabeth Gilbert
To begin to learn what Gilbert exemplified so well in her video,
we will start with this simple but bold statement:
YOU ARE NOT THE PROBLEM, THE PROBLEM IS THE
PROBLEM (Figure 11).
WATCH THIS:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=utW2cq17nBk
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=utW2cq17nBk
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It’s safe to say you probably did not hear or feel that sentiment
when you were mired in a moment of fear, overwhelm,
procrastination, perfectionism, anger, or anxiety, but imagine if
you had. How might that have changed your
relationship to the problem as well as your relationship to
yourself?
Often when this statement is shared, people assume that we
32. mean that personal accountability in relation to our
problems no longer matters. This is entirely not the case. This
does not mean you get a free pass, or that the
consequences of your problems taking over in your life are not
yours to take ownership over. Rather, it means that you
have more power to tackle your problems and be in a healthier
relationship to your problems than maybe you’ve ever
imagined. In teaching this approach to one academic coach, she
came back after a few months of using it with her
students and explained her experience this way:
“Making problems outside of students just leads to more
productive conversations and makes positive
behavioral change happen faster.”
When you can see problems as something separate from
yourself, you gain more distance, perspective, and, often
times, insight. Plus, you are more likely to avoid feelings of
guilt, shame, or defensiveness that put you right back
into a state of stress, which is what you want to avoid when you
explore how to be in a relationship with problems.
When we engage in problem-solving conversations where
people are labeled as the problem, they tend to bring
less creativity, innovation, and passion to finding a better way
forward because labeling and sometimes even
pathologizing people seldom leads to energizing and inspiring
conversations that include hopefulness and resilience.
Getting Unstuck from Your Problems
Through thinking about stuff that has already happened in your
life and the stuff that is happening now, you can start
to see that maybe too much of the story you tell yourself about
yourself and your life has gotten overshadowed or
“bossed around” by those darn mindset problems. Problems can
be very sticky and cause us to spend a lot of time
trying to unstick ourselves from them. If can feel very
33. frustrating and too often futile, like no matter what we do, they
just keep showing up. We will be teaching you a way to get
unstuck and minimize, if not even stop the constant
battle. Try this:
Instead of saying... Say this:
“I am so lazy. I never get my
homework done on time.”
“Laziness sneaks up on me and
convinces me that it’s okay to watch
YouTube videos instead of doing my
homework.”
Two things are happening here:
» First, it’s safe to assume there has been at least one time you
got your homework done on time (maybe
even two). So that statement isn’t even true!
» Second, if you call yourself lazy all the time, laziness begins
driving your vehicle. It wants you to call
yourself lazy and it wants you to avoid getting your homework
done. Maybe this paid off as a child when
you wanted to avoid discomfort or something overwhelming,
but it’s outdated and not sensitive to your
goals and dreams. Laziness is living in the past but is first in
line to show up when you have a task to
perform. Laziness represents an outdated way to emotionally
self-regulate.
Figure 11. Recognize that you are
not your worry, or anger, or anxiety,
34. or procrastination. Rather, these
problems are the problems.
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Depression Is Not Interested in Your Goals and Dreams
First generation college graduate and current freelance writer
Eva Recinos shared that she struggled with a
tremendous sense of guilt and pressure to succeed that
eventually led to depression:
“If your college career doesn’t pan out perfectly, you aren’t just
letting yourself down. You’re letting your
entire family down. But I couldn’t keep striving to be the
perfect student while completely ignoring my
mental health.”
In her article, “How it feels to be a first-generation college
student dealing with depression,” Recinos highlighted
that guilt and pressure (leading to depression) did not want the
same thing for her life that she did and whether
she knew it or not, she was externalizing her problems.7 Here is
her externalizing statement:
“Depression doesn’t care about your privilege or lack thereof. It
doesn’t ask you for information about
your grades or your extracurricular activities. It wants nothing
more than to consume your interiority, no
matter your outside successes or dreams.”
Recinos is right. Depression is not interested in your goals or
dreams or the context of your life. The only thing
35. that it is invested in is dominating your beliefs. That’s what
problems do—they seek to dominate. It’s up to us to
keep them from doing this.
Here are more examples of externalizing statements:
“Worry really likes to take my thoughts hostage after I’ve made
an important decision. It thinks it’s helping me by
reminding me that everything that could go wrong just might,
and to doubt myself is a way to stay safe by being
vigilant.”
“Procrastination works to convince me that important work is
always better left until tomorrow. Living for the moment
is preferable because I won’t risk feeling uncomfortable and
being unprepared to tackle a task as well as I think I
should be able to. Procrastination, like laziness is trying to help
me emotionally self-regulate and procrastination is
often bosom buddies with perfectionism.”
“Anger has a way of knowing when I am most tired, hungry, and
lonely. It wants to be the powerful voice of more
vulnerable feelings I have been carrying around, like hurt,
rejection, or frustration.”
Externalizing Emotions that Have Become Problems
Emotions are something we experience, they are not who we
are. The thing about emotions, however, is that they are so
captivating. When we feel them strongly, it can feel next to
impossible to have any perspective at all. It’s like when we’re
laughing and happy and feeling deeply connected to friends or
family; in those moments, feelings of sadness and isolation can
feel so utterly distant and remote. Conversely, when we are
feeling nervous or sad or overwhelmed, attempting to tap into
joy
can feel like you’re being asked to speak a foreign language you
36. have never heard spoken before.
As a college student, you will be challenged, and for many of
us, when we experience great challenge, we also feel great
emotion. If difficult emotions stay, without allowing for other
more neutral or pleasant emotions to surface, and when their
attempt to dominate persists, they can develop into problems.
And you know what we say about problems.
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Identifying Your Main Problem
To kickstart externalizing problems, start with identifying your
main problem. This might feel like a lot of pressure, like
“What if I pick the wrong one?” Well, there really is no wrong
one. Sure, some problems might be bigger than others,
or show up more than others, but the cool thing is, even if you
start by “picking the wrong one,” it’s really no big deal
because you can easily replace it with the real or bigger
problem should that reveal itself later. And, over the course
of time, problems can shift and change. It’s in practicing how to
externalize our problems in general that you are
equipping yourself to more effectively manage the influence of
all mindset problems.
Again, this is mindset stuff; avoid choosing problems like
finances, academics, or medical issues; those things are real
and are of course problems, but the following exercise won’t
work if you’re choosing situational problems. However,
the sooner you get proficient in mastering your mindset
problems, the more effective you will be in managing your
situational problems. Consider math as an example. Math is a
situational problem. We can’t make math go away, but
we can certainly actively engage in minimizing avoidance—
37. which is a mindset problem—in relationship to the reality
of needing to pass math.
Establishing a New Relationship To Your Problem
In many video games, you need to know your opponent: what it
looks like, what it sounds like, and what it thinks
(and more importantly, what it tries to get you to think). Again,
your problem may not have malevolent intent like a
video game enemy, but it is certainly often misguided and out
of alignment with who you are working to become. In
order to outsmart it, and keep it from occupying the driver’s
seat along your journey, it’s important to become better
acquainted with it. Here are some ways to go about doing that.
Hear Your Problem
» If it had a voice, what would it sound like?”
» If it had a theme song, what would it be?
» If it had a quote, what would it be?
When you’re trying to accomplish something or follow through
on something
important—especially if that task is hard, or you feel like life is
extra stressful or
maybe even boring—what does your problem try to convince
you of:
» About yourself?
» About life?
» About the possibility of being a successful student?
Now that you’re on the path to becoming more acquainted with
your problem and you can perhaps see it and hear it
more clearly, the next step is to gain a deeper understanding and
appreciation for the influence of the problem. The
reason for doing this is two-fold:
38. » To prepare you. The more you understand the ways in which
the problem is affecting your current life,
your goals, and even the people around you, the better prepared
you can be in managing it.
» To motivate you. Taking a serious inventory of the sheer
extent of the influence of your problem often
generates motivation. It can be extremely energizing to
experience that “enough is enough” moment
which, for many, has the benefit of increasing their commitment
to take action and reclaim their lives.
These kinds of moments can evoke emotion, and it is often
emotion that moves us to action!
Understand the Influence of the Problem
» When your problem is taking over and winning, what is it
trying to
convince other people about you?
» What are you most tired of putting up with that your problem
causes
when it gets the best of you?
» Does your problem want the same thing for your future that
you do?
» How would you prefer things to be in your life currently and
in the future?
Returning to using avoidance as an example, following is what
responses to the above questions might sound like,
given Angela’s experience with avoidance.
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Angela’s Relationship to Avoidance
When Angela left the financial aid office without receiving the
assistance she needed, she told herself that she
would make sure to either go online to try to schedule an
appointment, or call the office to make an appointment
with whomever picked up the phone. But, as the week moved
forward, she kept finding herself avoiding that
task. Whenever she remembered, she would tell herself that she
would do it later. As each day passed, later was
pushed out yet another day.
She did not like to remember and yet again feel the feelings she
experienced while at the financial aid office
earlier in the week (embarrassment and shyness), and she did
not like how thinking about finances made her feel
in general (overwhelmed, scared). So, when those
uncomfortable feelings arose, avoidance would immediately
swoop in and come to her rescue—for the moment. It was as if
it was saying to her, “You don’t need to feel those
feelings now; just avoid them and distract yourself. Tomorrow
is a much better time to take action than today.”
Let’s lead Angela through an externalizing exercise by using the
questions we posed above in relationship to her
battle with avoidance:
Question: When your problem of avoidance is taking over and
winning, what is it trying to convince other
people about you?
Answer: It is trying to convince other people that I am timid
and scared, not serious about school, or
that I am less capable or immature. It works to convince people
that I need a babysitter, or
40. someone to rescue me because I am not to be trusted with the
responsibilities in my life. It
makes people feel like they need to constantly hound me, which
makes our relationship really
tense and resentful for both of us.
Question: What are you most tired of putting up with that
your problem causes when it gets the best of
you?
Answer: I am most tired of feeling bad about myself. I am
tired of doubting myself and feeling guilty
that I should be more responsible, but continually not following
through. The problem takes
a really big toll on my self-esteem. It’s super manipulative
though, because it seduces me into
only thinking about the moment; it tells me that it is helping me
when it is actually only making
things harder for me in the long run.
Question: Does your problem want the same thing for your
future that you do?
Answer: Not at all. The problem wants me to avoid taking
risks and to continue doing what I have
always done because it’s safe and predictable. My problem
keeps me small and likes me to
remain small and timid. It’s like the problem wants me to stay
young for some reason. I want
more for my life. I want to feel more self-respect and dignity
and I want people to trust me and
see that I can do more and be more. I want to succeed at the
things I am passionate about.
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The Proof Is in Brain Science
Neuroplasticity, cognitive reframing, and externalizing your
problems represent what we imagine will be significant
shifts both in your understanding of how your thoughts,
feelings, and beliefs shape your experiences and potential
success, but also significant shifts in your thinking habits.
For this reason, give it time, and if you need to revisit this
chapter more than once, it is here to concretize your
learning process. As you continue into Chapter 6 and beyond,
these elements of the narrative approach will serve as
the building blocks from which you can employ further learning
and practice. But, rest assured, having gotten this far,
you are already well on your way to updating your narrative to
reflect the best of who you are now, where you want to
be, and how you are going to get there. Problems will continue
to surface and stressors will continue to be a part of
your life. The main ingredient that is changing is your ability to
think about them differently and see yourself as more
competent in the face of them. Hey, it’s basic brain science.
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underlying-principles-to-changing-your-brain/#7ff4b7a45a71
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44. Instructions:
1. Identify three (3) “I am” statements that you make the most
that are related to a
mindset problem.
2. Rephrase the “I am” statement in an externalizing way.
Example: I am a
procrastinator. → Procrastination works to convince me that
important work is
always better left until tomorrow.
3. Choose one of your “I am” statements that you identified.
Applying Cognitive
Reframing, establish a new relationship to one of those problem
using the
"externalizing the problem" process. Answer the following
narrative questions to
hear the problem and under the influence of the problem:
Hear Your Problem
•
o
§ If it had a voice, what would it sound like?
§ If it had a theme song, what would it be?
§ If it had a quote, what would it be?
§ When you’re trying to accomplish something or follow
through on something
important—especially if that task is hard, or you feel like life is
extra stressful
or maybe even boring—what does your problem try to convince
you of:
•
45. o
§
§ About yourself?
§ About life?
§ About the possibility of being a successful student?
Understand the Influence of the Problem
•
o
§ When your problem is taking over and winning, what is it
trying to convince
other people about you?
§ What are you most tired of putting up with that your problem
causes when it
gets the best of you?
§ Does your problem want the same thing for your future that
you do?
§ How would you prefer things to be in your life currently and
in the future?
Example:
Hear Your Problem
• If it had a voice, what would it sound like?
Procrastination would be loud and obnoxious. It would yell over
anything I tried to
say to it.
• If it had a theme song, what would it be?
46. “Float On,” by Modest Mouse
• If it had a quote, what would it be?
“I'll think about that tomorrow.”
• When you’re trying to accomplish something or follow
through on something
important—especially if that task is hard, or you feel like life is
extra stressful
or maybe even boring—what does your problem try to convince
you of:
o About yourself?
Procrastination is trying to convince me that I’m better off
putting off important
tasks and enjoying myself in the moment, even if it’s just going
to cause me
more stress later.
o About life?
That maybe I don’t need to be doing hard or boring things.
o About the possibility of being a successful student?
If schoolwork is hard or boring, then maybe I don’t need to be a
student or I’m
not smart enough or willing enough to be a student.
Understand the Influence of the Problem
• When your problem is taking over and winning, what is it
trying to convince
other people about you?
Procrastination is trying to convince people that I am lazy and
unreliable.
• What are you most tired of putting up with that your problem
47. causes when it
gets the best of you?
I am tired of the additional stress I feel when I’m rushing to get
something done that
I could have done sooner. I’m also tired of people thinking that
I’m unreliable.
• Does your problem want the same thing for your future that
you do?
Not at all
• How would you prefer things to be in your life currently and
in the future?
I would prefer to have less stress from putting things off and for
people to believe
they can trust me.