i've been create this interactice power point slides for my english communicative during my semester one in Politeknik Sultan Abdul Halim Muadzam Shah (POLIMAS) Kedah.
8. Create a positive image for yourself.
Introduce yourself and have a 5 or 10 minute
chat.
In general, the more personal stuff you talk
about with a stranger, the stronger the
connection you make with them.
9.
10. Being part of a natural group.
An added advantage to making friends
through a group is that you can
strengthen your friendships to several
people at once.
11. Secret social system in a group
environment :
People divide themselves into
smaller groups with seemingly similar
people.
Hierarchy of leaders and followers.
Once you are placed into a certain
category or stereotyped then that
label sticks.
15. Refers to our ‘behavior’
Studies show that because of the
psychological phenomenon of
spontaneous trait transference,
people unintentionally transfer to
you the traits you ascribe to other
people.
16.
17.
Seems artificial, but somehow, this makes us
behave differently, it makes us more open to
people, to make the effort to say more than a
perfunctory hello.
Always Give Value. Don’t Take.
Real friendship takes time to grow and
cannot be forced. All you can do is create
the conditions that allow real friendship to
form.
18.
19. Studies show that the amount of time you
smile during a conversation has a direct
effect on how friendly you’re perceived to
be.
In fact, people who can’t smile due to
facial paralysis have trouble with
relationships.
20.
21. “Triadic closure” is the term for
the fact that people tend to be
friend the friends of their friends .
So friends-of-friends is an
excellent place to start if you’re
trying to expand your circle.
Editor's Notes
* big part of friendship is showing up.
Whenever you have the chance to see other people, take it.
You’re much more likely to become friends with someone if you see him or her often.
It’s better for everyone if you have at least a few people to depend on.
Having an outgoing friend to party with, a knowledgeable friend to gain information and insights from, and an empathic friend to be a good listener during tough times, for example, provides a better blend of social support than any one of these people alone could give.
your outgoing friend could bring your shy empathic friend out of her shell, and the three of you could go out and party together. Plus, your friends can introduce you to more friends, giving you a greater pool of pre-screened potential friends.
those who have social support but don't feel a sense of belonging are much more likely to suffer from depression, for example.
Statement 2 :
Examples;
So if you tell Jean that Pat is arrogant, unconsciously Jean associates that quality with you.
if you say that Pat is hilarious, you’ll be linked to that quality.
If you want to get people to like to and to be friends with you then you first need to show them that you give value of some sort, and not leech from them.
The value that you give doesn’t have to be materialistic or monetary value. You can provide value in many different forms like status value, high energy, positivity, inspiration, motivation, companionship (i.e. offering to join someone in an activity) etc.