There is LOVE and there is Undying Love.

1. Awakening the
UNDYING Love

2. My WIFE my BONE
• Q: What did you see in your wife that
made you to love her?
• Q: Is your wife the most beautiful lady
on earth?

3. Not the best…yet my choice
• Settle it in your mind that your wife is
not the most beautiful lady on earth.
• You did not marry her because she is
the most beautiful.
• This way it will be difficult for the
devil to LURE you with more
beautiful ladies outside.

4. Not the best…yet my choice
• This way when she becomes ‘FAT &
UGLY’ so to say, you will still
continue to love her.
• This way when OLD AGE starts
stealing her beauty, then the undying
love has just begun.

5. Many kinds of love
• There are different kinds of love
expressed by many spouses to their
spouses including Christians.
• Undying love is just one out of many
kinds of love expressed by people to
other people.
Q: When we say undying love, what
do we mean?

6. Only 2 SOURCES of love
• There may be many kinds of love, but
there are only 2 sources of love.
• Undying love is from ONE source,
ALL other kinds of love are from the
OTHER source.
• 1Jn.4:8-: ‘…for God is LOVE’
• Undying love is the love that FLOWS
from God Himself.

7. God’s kind of love
NO flesh and blood can
express undying love EXCEPT
God flows into him/her like a river.

8. You must be POSSESSED
• For you to BE ABLE to express
undying love to your spouse, 2 things
must first happen IN you;
a) you must be POSSESSED by the
SPIRIT of LOVE (2Tim.1:7), &
b) this SPIRIT of LOVE must fill every
space in your heart with Love
(Rom.5:5).

9. You must be POSSESSED
• 2Tim.1:7-: ‘…but He has given us the
Spirit of Love…’
• Rom.5:5-: ‘…He has given us the
Holy Spirit to FILL our
hearts with his LOVE.’
• It is one thing to awaken the undying
love, it is another thing to sustain it
towards our spouses.

10. To awaken and sustain undying love
• Start treating your spouse with
RESPECT.
Q: Is it possible to respect a spouse that
does not respect you?

11. To awaken and sustain undying love
• Avoid things that can make your
partner SUFFER EMOTIONALLY
• Give sincere appreciation when he/she
does what you consider as his/her
DUTY at home.
• Greet your spouse Comprehensively
every blessed morning. Ask about
his/her welfare.

12. To awaken and sustain undying love
How do you greet your spouse
in the morning?

13. Keep Talking, Keep Jesting
• Regularly engage in home activities
that will keep you Talking and
Jesting and Laughing with him/her.
• It makes couples bond like super glue.
• Always make a Joke about what you
love in your spouse and Crack Jokes
with it.

14. Laugh! Laugh!! & Laugh!!! together
• Share in your spouse’s hobbies.
• Play Ludo/Ayo Olopon or any other
game that will make you LAUGH
JOYOUSLY together.
• Consciously find opportunities to
laugh out LOUD with your spouse on
a regular basis.

15. To awaken and sustain undying love
• Never forget his/her birthday.
• Be excited about it.
• Make NOISE about it.
• It KILLS tension in the house and
NURTURES the undying love.

16. MAKE it another food
• Make regular sex ANOTHER FOOD
at home.
• Intimate sex will naturally BOND &
CONNECT you with your spouse.
• Undying love among couples
CANNOT survive in the ABSENCE
of intimate sex.

17. Make it another food
• Wherever there is INTIMATE sex,
love NEVER dies, no matter the
challenges.
• INTIMATE sex, apart from boosting
overall health is known to work
against cancer and heart attack
amongst many other health benefits.

18. Make it another food
• Do everything to avoid sex as a duty.
• It attacks your love like nothing else.
• If you are not careful, it is very easy to
LOSE interest in sex with your spouse
as you grow older in marriage.

19. Make it another food
• Q: When your spouse is TIRED, what
should you do?
• Q: Should you be TIRED all the time
it’s time for sex?

20. To awaken and sustain undying love
• Always be honest & transparent with
your spouse.
• Stop being angry hearing the truth
from your spouse, however bitter.
• Stop criticizing him/her for telling you
the bitter truth, no matter how
painful.

21. To awaken and sustain undying love
• You too learn to say the bitter truth in
an acceptable manner.
• Never say the bitter truth to your
spouse when you are angry, or when
he/she is angry.
• Stop being angry at common mistakes
& errors by your spouse at home or
anywhere else. E.gs?

22. Forgive & Forget my friend
• Quickly forgive every time he/she
disappoints or breaks your trust.
• It is powerful enough to bring back the
old flame of love.
• Learn to forgive & forget my friend; no
matter what, LEARN to forgive and
forget.
• It brings your spouse in YOUR direction
and NOT the opposite.

23. Forgive & Forget my friend
What does it mean to
forgive & forget?

24. To awaken and sustain undying love
• LOOK for WAYS to express your
love to your spouse.
• Express it with money, with gifts, with
your strength etc., on a regular basis.
• Consciously show to others that you
love your spouse with passion,
especially in his/her presence.

25. To awaken and sustain undying love
• Be careful how you appreciate what
you see in other homes that your
husband has not yet bought in the
presence of your husband.
• It can ATTACK him emotionally and
psychologically if wrongly done.

26. Dangerous Secrets
• Be careful of certain secrets you want
to keep as a pleasant surprise to
him/her (e.g. buying a land, building a
house at his/her back etc.)
• It may boomerang on his/her love for
you.
• So many times, secrecy is the enemy
of love.

27. To awaken and sustain undying love
• If you want to re-ignite his/her love for
you, stop talking badly about your
spouse to other people.
• Henceforth, mind where you go to beg
for money when he does not have much
money for the upkeep at home.
• Finally, before judging your spouse,
FIRST put yourself in his/her shoes.

28. Don’t say it to your spouse again
• You are stupid /crazy,
• Nonsense/Rubbish/Shut up!
• To ba je emi loko ni, abiwo loko ni o,
we shall see in this house!
• Do whatever you like, I don’t care
• I regret the day I got married etc.
…add more
• They are nothing but Arrows &
Bullets against undying love.