Are you having issues in your marriage/relationship? Are you overwhelmed by the constant misunderstandings in your marriage? Then, you need to find out the deep secret behind those issues.

1. ‘AGENTS’ of Darkness
in our homes
By
Rev. Dele Shobowale

2. OFFENSE will always come
• In times past, many people have
offended us;
• In the time to come, many more
people will still offend us.
• Of all the people that can offend us, it
is easier for our spouse to offend us
much more than any other person.
• Why?

3. Forgive please!...Quickly Forgive!
• No matter the offense of your spouse,
learn to Forgive Quickly.
• Every time your spouse injures or
disappoints you, Quickly Forgive,
even before he/she apologizes.
• Long before he/she asks for
forgiveness, give Forgiveness
generously.

4. Forgive please!...Quickly Forgive!
• Forgiveness brings your spouse in
YOUR direction and NOT the
opposite.
• It gives your spouse emotional &
psychological peace all the time.
• It portrays you as an understanding
spouse to your spouse.

5. Forgiveness vs Facebook
• Apart from making your spouse your
First friend, forgiveness draws many
other friends to you.
• Forgiveness makes many True friends
for you better than the facebook.
• Facebook may give you many friends;
but forgiveness gives you many
TRUE friends.

6. DIGGING out the COVERED
• Ps.32:1-: How blessed is he whose sins
are forgiven, whose transgression is
COVERED.
• Unforgiveness digs out your
transgression that were covered before
God.
• He keeps SHOUTING in the ears of
God that the person whose sins were
forgiven REFUSES to forgive.

7. ‘AGENTS’ of Darkness
• 1Jn.2:11-: ‘whoever HATES his
brother is in Darkness and Walks in the
Darkness…’
• You Can Not claim to love the spouse
you REFUSE to forgive.
• If you don’t forgive your spouse, it is a
PROOF that you Hate him/her and
darkness is not far from you.

8. Forgiving EASILY before Apology
• You are a LIAR if you claim to love
the person you REFUSE to Forgive.
• True love makes a person forgive
offense EASILY even BEFORE
apology.
• True love is not in you, if you are
waiting for apology before forgiving
your spouse.

9. ‘AGENTS’ of Darkness
• There is nothing like:
‘I don’t hate my spouse, and I
don’t love her/him either’.
• You either love your spouse or you hate
him/her.
• And since unforgiveness is a Proof that the
LOVE of your spouse is not in you,
• it means HATRED is already taking a sit in
you, and DARKNESS is not far from you
(1Jn.2:11).

10. ‘AGENTS’ of Darkness
• It is very possible to Hate someone
and not know that you are living in
hatred.
• You can Hate your spouse and not
know that you Hate him/her.
• Most of the time, the ONLY thing
used by many people to measure
hatred is bitterness.

11. ‘AGENTS’ of Darkness
• However, ‘that you are Not Bitter at
your spouse does not mean you don’t
hate him/her’.
• There are many other indicators of
hatred.
• When you stop showing love to your
spouse, either in cash or kind because of
offense, HATRED is already coming in
to your heart unknowingly.

12. ‘AGENTS’ of Darkness
• Whenever hatred moves, he does not
move alone.
• Wherever hatred goes, he goes as a team.
• Every where hatred goes, he goes with
his closest companion: DARKNESS
(1Jn.2:11).
• Why is hatred referred to as a ‘he’ and
not ‘it’?

13. ‘AGENTS’ of Darkness
• 1Jn.2:11-: ‘whoever HATES his
brother is in Darkness and
walks in the Darkness…’
• Every time hatred takes a sit in your
heart against your spouse because of
unforgiveness, darkness is always
attracted to you.

14. RESERVOIR of Darkness
• When hatred takes a sit in your heart,
DARKNESS has also taken a sit.
• When you Don’t forgive (which is a
proof of hatred in your heart), sooner
than later, you become a
‘RESERVOIR of darkness’.
• And every reservoir of darkness is a
carrier (‘agent’) of darkness.

15. RESERVOIR of Darkness
• And every CARRIER of darkness will
always RADIATE darkness.
• Every where you go, a Cloud of
DARKNESS follows & surrounds you
like an envelope.
• Every day of your life, a Cloud of
DARKNESS surrounds you like a
garment.

16. ‘AGENTS’ of Darkness
• Mat.6:23(ISV)-: ‘…Therefore, if the
light within you has TURNED into
darkness, how great is that darkness’
• CEV-: ‘…If the light INSIDE you is
dark, you surely are in the dark’.
• There is a light INSIDE man that is
far greater than any other light around
man.

17. ‘AGENTS’ of Darkness
• But this light can be snuffed out &
turned into darkness by many things
including UNFORGIVENESS.
• That man is in BIG trouble whose inner
light has turned into darkness.
• Why?
• 1Jn.2:11-: whoever HATES his brother
…walks in darkness and does not know
where he is going, because darkness has
blinded his eyes.

18. Unforgiveness affects your FEET
• 1Jn.2:11-: ‘whoever HATES his
brother …WALKS in Darkness …’
• When you refuse to quickly forgive
your spouse, willingly you are leaving
the path of light to walk in the path
of darkness.
• And the darkness begins to tamper
with your FOOTSTEPS in life.

19. Unforgiveness affects your MIND
• 1Jn.2:11-:‘whoever…walks in darkness
...does not know where he is going because
darkness has BLINDED his EYES.’
• When you don’t forgive your spouse
quickly, something begins to happen to
your eyes (MIND).
• Unknowingly, a Cloud of DARKNESS
begins to form around your eyes (MIND).

20. Error upon Error Galore!
• Unknown to you, your eyes begin to get
dimmer and dimmer until you become
TOTALLY blind in the MIND.
• The more you look at every situation,
the less you see (understand).
• Most, if not ALL your DAILY decisions
will be full of mistakes & errors, just
because of unforgiveness.
• It is a GREAT tragedy!

21. Protect your INNER Light
• Lk.11:35(BLB)-:Therefore take heed,
lest the light that is in you be darkness.
• AMP-: Be careful, therefore, that the
light that is in you is not darkness.
• God is saying ‘do everything possible to
prevent the light in you from turning into
darkness’.
• God is saying ‘protect your inner light at
ALL cost.’

22. Protect your INNER Light
• One good way to protect your inner light
is to RUN from unforgiveness.
• When you refuse to forgive your spouse
quickly, then you are not taking heed.
• When you refuse to forgive your spouse
quickly, then you are not being careful.
Your unforgiveness DIMS your inner
light on a DAILY basis.

23. Do Yourself a Favour by Forgiving
• Every time you are offended, you CAN
NOT afford Not to forgive quickly.
• When you don’t forgive quickly, YOU
SUFFER THE MOST, even more
than the offender.
• When you Forgive Quickly, you do
yourself MORE favour than the person
you are forgiving.

24. Forgive for YOUR OWN sake
• Mat.18:21-22: ‘Then Peter came to Jesus
and asked, Lord, how many times shall I
forgive my brother or sister who sins
against me? Up to seven times? Jesus
answered, I tell you, not seven times, but
seventy-seven times.’
• When Jesus says forgive seventy times
seven times, He is asking you to
QUICKLY forgive for Your Own sake.

25. Take time to Cultivate the VIRTUE
Forgiveness is not a gift of the Spirit,
but a VIRTUE that must be consciously
cultivated like a HABIT.

26. The day you start forgiving offenses
and trespasses as QUICKLY as they
come, is the day you stop being an
‘AGENT’ of darkness.