10 Quick Tips on How to Rebuild Trust san diego counseling
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- 1. Jennine E. Estes, MFT #47653 San Diego Marriage and Family Therapist Rebuilding Trust 10 Quick Tips to Rebuild Trust http://www.EstesTherapy.com http://www.estestherapy.com/relationshiptips Providing Counseling services for San Diego: Individual counseling, marriage counseling, premarital therapy, and LGBT/Gay counseling
- 2. 1. Be Honest, no matter what! • Time is of the essence. Every step you make counts when rebuilding trust. Be honest and truthful in everything you do. If you want your partner to trust, you can’t slack off. Be TRUTHFUL! • Share all! If your partner just found out about your hidden behavior, the worst has been found out. Now you have to be honest about all of it.
- 3. 2. Follow Through • Follow through with what you say. If you tell your partner that you will be home by 8:00, come home no later than 8:00pm. If you are going to be late, call them and let them know ahead of time.
- 4. 3. Don’t Be Unrealistic • Don’t be unrealistic. Avoid saying that you will “Always” have your cell phone on or you will “Never” turn your phone off. This is unrealistic. Sometimes your phone will die or you might forget it or you might not hear it ring. Instead, tell your partner that you will try your best to answer the phone. And then….follow through with what you say (tip #2).
- 5. 4. Open Up • Let your Partner in. If you have a wall up, it hides things and creates a suspicious feeling from your partner. Avoid the suspicious behavior and be an open book. The more open you are, the more trust you can build.
- 6. 5. No Wandering Eyes • Keep your eyes on your goal. Body language speaks louder than words….and so does your eye focus. If you are talking to your partner and a beautiful woman walks by, keep your eyes on your partner. If your goal is to build trust, then your actions have to show it. If you want your partner to be self- conscious, then keep looking at other women. It is your choice.
- 7. 6. Communicate! • Make time for Communication. Communication can create a safe and comfortable feeling in your relationship. The more communication and feelings of safety, the more the trust can build.
- 8. 7. Comfort Your Partner • Rebuilding trust isn’t simply about showing behaviorally that you are safe and honest, but it is about the process of healing as a couple. • Show your partner that you care for how they feel. • Don’t avoid your partner’s pain. Lean into the pain and comfort your partner. Once again, time is of the essence.
- 9. 8. Apologize in All Ways • Your partner is hurt. So rebuilding trust also requires you to say sorry in every way possible. Your words have lost value since the trust was lost. So now you must show behaviorally that you are sorry. • If you feel hurt, show the hurt and remorse.
- 10. 9. Become Prince Charming! • Grab your white horse and jump on it. You must be the prince charming and say sorry in every way possible. • Okay, you did wrong. But doing just a little isn’t going to be enough. You need to be prince charming…and you need to be an consistent one! Don’t stop showing her the man she fell in love with.
- 11. 10. Don’t Stop • Many people will do what they can to win their partner back, but they end up dropping the ball a few months down the road. Don’t stop the communication, don’t stop opening up, and don’t stop showing her that you love her! • Your partner may not trust that you have turned a corner, nor should they have to trust it. You have to show them that no matter what, you will be strong and consistent. No matter what, you will always have their back no matter how difficult things get!
- 12. For More Information • San Diego Couple’s Counseling to Rebuild Trust: http://www.estestherapy.com • Relationship Advice and Tips: Relationships in the Rawhttp://www.RelationshipsInTheRaw.com Jennine Estes, MFT Marriage and Family Therapist in San Diego MFC#47653 www.EstesTherapy.com jestes@estestherapy.com
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