11 Give us today our daily bread. 12 Forgive us our sins, just as we also have forgiven those who sin against us. 13 Keep us from falling into sin when we are tempted. Save us from the evil one. 14 "Forgive people when they sin against you. If you do, your Father who is in heaven will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive people their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
As we develop forgiveness in our hearts then wecan then receive God’s forgivenessGod’s forgiveness is conditional: in that we mustforgive others first.
Unforgiveness leads to our heart being full ofhurt and bitterness.If our hearts are full of this then God’s purelove can not fill our hearts.It is like trying to mix oil with water.
NO!This will lead to anger, bitterness andresentment.Out of mutual growth and maturity (Prov:27:17) we need to let the other person knowwhat they are doing so that they are given achance to stop hurting you.
A Brother Who Sins Against YouIf your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, justbetween the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won yourbrother over.But if he will not listen, take one or two others along, so that everymatter may be established by the testimony of two or threewitnesses.’If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refusesto listen even to the church, treat him as you would a pagan or a taxcollector.I tell you the truth, whatever you bind on earth will be bound inheaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.
However if someone is intent on hurting others oncethey are made aware of the pain they are causing them,then this is not accidental but malice.
Romans 14: 13-21No, it is our problem.For if we continue to do something that destroyssomeone else’s faith (whether right or wrong) then wehave no love for our brother and we miss the point ofour faith and relationship with God.
I’ve seen individuals, for example, who havelost a family member because of a crime. Thesurvivors’ anger and desire for revengepoison their entire beings. They so focus onwhat they’ve lost, and what they wanted thedead person to be, and do, for them, thatthey completely miss the opportunitythey’ve been given to learn about real love.Instead, they seem to believe that hatred,even to the point of capital punishment, willsatisfy their thirst for vengeance and willsomehow bring them healing.
So, with hardened hearts and stiff lips, theysay, “I’ll never forgive.”And the sad thing is that in wishing to sendsomeone to hell they end up sendingthemselves there as well.Hamama-Raz, Y., Solomon, Z., Cohen, A., &Laufer, A. (2008). PTSD symptoms,forgiveness, and revenge among IsraeliPalestinian and Jewish Adolescents. Journal ofTraumatic Stress, 21, 521–529. See p. 527:
“Thus, when inability to forgive and the needto take vengeance are entrenched within thesocial texture, their malignant influence overthese youths’ mental health may be intensified.Forgiveness, on the other hand, was found tomediate the relationship between PTSD andhostility and to be associated with decreaseddepression and anxiety.”PSTD = Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
— “After a murder, victims’ families face twothings: a death and a crime. At these times,families need help to cope with their grief andloss, and support to heal their hearts andrebuild their lives. From experience, we knowthat revenge is not the answer.”
“Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree aboutanything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father inheaven.For where two or three come together in my name, theream I with them.”What are we asking for? (Matthew 18:15-18)Binding Sin and releasing Forgiveness.
“Again, I tell you that if of you on earth agree aboutanything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father inheaven.For where come together in my name, theream I with them.”Why two or three??
The Parable of the Unmerciful ServantThen Peter came to Jesus and asked, Lord, how manytimes shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me?Up to seven times?Jesus answered, I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.
Surely we want people to know how they are hurtingus so that they can stop and receive forgiveness.When you tell your brother what they are doing that issinning against you, you also must be prepared to forgivethem and let go of the pain regardless of their response.However sometimes we want to hold onto the pain so thatwe can be justified in our hate towards the other person.Letting go of the hate feels like we are letting them off forwhat they have done to us. It doesn’t feel Just.E.g. Suzie in “The lovely Bones”
Jesus wants us to forgive, to release us from a prison ofbitterness and pain.We must not let someone else’s actions (whether rightor wrong) rob us of our joy.E.g. Adam in “Rev”
Therefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king whowanted to settle accounts with his servants.As he began the settlement, a man who owed him tenthousand talents was brought to him.Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that heand his wife and his children and all that he had be sold torepay the debt.The servant fell on his knees before him. Be patient withme, he begged, and I will pay back everything.’The servants master took pity on him, cancelled the debtand let him go.
But when that servant went out, he found one of hisfellow- servants who owed him a hundred denarii. Hegrabbed him and began to choke him. Pay back what youowe me! he demanded.His fellow- servant fell to his knees and begged him, Bepatient with me, and I will pay you back.’But he refused. Instead, he went off and had the manthrown into prison until he could pay the debt.When the other servants saw what had happened, theywere greatly distressed and went and told their mastereverything that had happened.
Then the master called the servant in. You wickedservant, he said, I cancelled all that debt of yours becauseyou begged me to.Shouldnt you have had mercy on your fellow- servant justas I had on you?’In anger his master turned him over to the jailers to betortured, until he should pay back all he owed.This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of youunless you forgive your brother from your heart.
" Our Father in heaven, may your name be honored. May your kingdom come. May what you want to happen be done on earth as it is done in heaven. Give us today our daily bread. Forgive us our sins, just as we also have forgiven those who sin against us. Keep us from falling into sin when we are tempted. Save us from the evil one.