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1. Show #2

2. The Two Hemispheres
Left-brain IQ vs. Right-brain EQ

3. EQ-101 Class 2: Emotional Healing
1. Intro / Agenda
Generally, EQ can save the world (show 1)
Individually, EQ can change your life (show 2)
2. The Problem: Left-brain vs. Right-brain
- Left-brain focus, Right-brain neglect
- Right-brain feelings, trauma, belief systems
3. Emotional Healing: How it works/ND
- Freud vs. Adler (powerless vs. powerful)
- Clueless = dangerous, to self and others
- Gives us control over our lives
- Negative Feelings, expressed as intensely as they are felt, will
reduce in intensity and are free to change!
4. Event --> Meaning --> Feeling --> Behaviour
- show sheets, Paula asks, Matt answers/cries

5. "Our ultimate freedom is the right and power
to decide how anybody or anything outside
ourselves affects us inside ourselves."
- Stephen R. Covey

6. Become:
1. More aware, knowing what we're doing
2. More intentional, doing what we mean (results)
3. More purposeful, doing it for a good reason

7. Happiness is a choice!
We don’t react to people, events
or words… we react to what
they mean to us!

8.  Negative feelings, expressed as intensely as they are
felt, will reduce in intensity and are free to change!
 Feelings aren’t good or bad, they just are.
 Maslow’s hierarchy
 We don’t “find” ourselves, we “create” ourselves.
 Emotions are essential to effective decision-making
and motivation

11.  Freudian vs. Adlerian Psychology
 Freud said that we get ‘stuck’ in certain stages of
our lives
 Alfred Adler disagreed, arguing that we start off
ok, but then ‘decide’ via internal belief systems
to shut down our feelings, create separation and
therefore unhappiness. The good news is that
we can ‘Re-decide’ and heal!
 EQ puts us in control of our lives!

12. 1. Stop and Notice what you’re feeling, at least three times a
day.
 Can you identify the feeling(s)?
 Are you feeling more than one feeling at the same time?
 Are your feelings OK with you, or are you fighting or denying
them, even to yourself?

13. 2. Share your feeling(s) with another person.
 Start a sentence or two with “I feel…”, remembering not to
judge or squash your feelings

14. 3. Answer this question to yourself, about yourself, “When,
as a child, did I feel this same feeling?”
 See how the feelings are similar and different
 Notice how feelings you felt as a child are still effecting you
today.

23. 1. Know
2. Identify
3. Accept
4. Express
5. Release (both Feelings and BS)
6. Replace
7. Rejoice

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