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1. How to handle worries and the cost of
worries
The cost of Worry
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2. How to handle worries and the cost of worrying? I was
thinking about this art, phenomenal, activity and I decide to
write about it, due to the fact that, it has robbed me a lot in
the past and I have come to understand it, how to handle it
and put it under control. I see people, love ones and relative
suffer and live with worries they can really do anything about
or will fade after a while and it rob them off happiness,
quality life and productivity.
First, let’s look at what is worry? But before that, let me
mention some of the things people worry about.

3. Haveyouever foundyourselfusing any of this
phrase?
• How do I get money?
• How do I get a house?
• What am I going to eat?
• How do I become healthy?
• How do i?
• How can I?
• where do I?
All of the where, how, what are time robbers. And a
handful of persons will say, it is normal. I must worry
about it, else how do i? It comes again and again.

4. What is worry?
Dictionary will describe it this way; “feel or cause to feel
anxious or troubled about actual or potential problems.” Or
“the state of being anxious and troubled over actual or
potential problems.”
It seems, it is part of human nature, it is part of human
nature, it has its positive and negative impact on he that
worries. The positive or creative aspect of it, is that it forces
us to become creative , curios and open to new possibilities
and the negative aspect, it keeps us trap when we can’t find
solutions to that which we worry about and it can become so
severe that we feel stuck and the time we feel stuck, keep us
trap from doing anything useful and hence we lost control or
account of time or opportunities we can’t get back.
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5. Physical effects of worry.
Worrying is feeling uneasy or being overly concerned about a
situation or problem. With excessive worrying, your mind and
body go into overdrive as you constantly focus on “what might
happen.”
In the midst of excessive worrying, you may suffer with high
anxiety — even panic — during waking hours. Many chronic
worriers tell of feeling a sense of impending doom or unrealistic
fears that only increase their worries. Ultra-sensitive to their
environment and to the criticism of others, excessive worriers may
see anything — and anyone — as a potential threat.
Chronic worrying can affect your daily life so much that it may
interfere with your appetite, lifestyle habits, relationships, sleep,
and job performance. Many people who worry excessively are so
anxiety-ridden that they seek relief in harmful lifestyle habits such
as overeating, cigarette smoking, or using alcohol and drugs.
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6. Why worry does more harm than good
Unfortunately, worry can morph from that healthy, practical form of concern and
vigilance to a preoccupation with perceived threats that are incredibly unlikely or
not particularly threatening. These worries can cause you to obsess so much on
these low-probability, low-consequence occurrences that they interfere with your
worrying about high-probability, high consequence concerns and prevent you
from enjoying your life. And it is these worries that metaphorically strangle you.
So, basically, worrying has been making us miserable. Yet it has also,
paradoxically, ensured our survival.
Unhealthy worry—when it goes beyond concern and reasonable motivation to
protect yourself and makes you miserable—is a complex emotion that isn’t easy
to wrap your arms around. It involves negative and obsessive thinking, doubt,
physical anxiety, and fear. This type of worry is actually a symptom of other
problems that becomes a problem in itself.
Unhealthy worry comes from the emotional baggage you acquired as a child and
a deep, often unconscious belief that you won’t be able to protect yourself:
• Insecurity …The world is terrible or my partner will break up with me
• Perfectionism …I don’t want to be a failure, I might make mistakes
• Need for control …I must know, I have to be in charge
• Social comparison … what will they say or think about me?
• Low tolerance for stress … How ..where.. when.. what?
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7. Best approach to worry
It is inevitable. Worry is a natural part of the human condition. It
has historically played a vital role in our survival and it helps us
cope with many of the challenges we face today. At the same time,
worry that is too intense, too frequent, and too unrelenting can
definitely cut down on your happiness and enjoyment of life.
If you find yourself worrying over anything, anyone, remember,
first it all starts in your thought and perception. Do not ever forget
that. That is the starting point. Evaluate the situation but don’t
stay on it too long. There is no problem that is new. It might be
new to you but it is not new. Relax and and give it a calm
approach. It might be difficult initially as you have been program in
a contradicting way all of your life, but start practicing it and with
time, you will see the amazing results.
Conclusion
Let me show you some of my approach to these situations.

8. How do I get money?
I know and remind myself, there are few ways to get
money. You can work to earn it, you can invest to earn
more, you trade to earn it; sell something or you can
render a service to earn it. And if it is an emergency,
which is not a good life to live, you can borrow to get it.
I go through this option daily and it makes me not to
find myself in emergency. Pick which of the solution
that will work for you and do it. If one doesn’t work, try
another. Put yourself in a good mood, that is essential
and believe, you had money in the past and you can get
it again.

9. How do I get a house?
Now I have more than one apartment but back then, I
knew, it was impossible to sleep on the street and it is
so, because I know quite a few person that will
accommodate me, the only obstacle would be pride.
But why worry when I can seek help that I will get and
then plan on how to get one, which still goes with the
first worry, how do I get money?
What am I going to eat?
The world is filled with abundance, though there is
poverty. Thinking does not feel the stomach but taking
action is what fill the stomach. I use the same routine
as how to get money to solve it.

10. How do I become healthy?
Money cannot buy health on some circumstances, but good
lifestyle and healthy mind can create good health. Worry can ruin
your health. I am privileged to be healthy, I haven’t visited a
doctor for more than 20 years over any sickness, though headache
and back pain now and then, but anyone can do this. The trick is
knowing, our thought and believe has a big influence on our
health. Keep your thought healthy and you will enjoy good health.
Those not knowledgeable about this, should maintain healthy
lifestyle, eat well and engage on regular exercise. Worrying over
your health will make you unhealthy. Remember, we become what
we think about and where the thought goes, energy flow, and it
happens even with sickness.
To be worrying is obviously not a pleasant emotion, but it is
actually an essential, normal, and instinctive emotion that has
been hard-wired into humans to help us survive since we rose out
of the primordial muck. We worry about something because we
perceive it as a threat to our existence and worry causes us to
focus on it and protect ourselves from that threat.

11. Back in the prehistoric days, carefree cave people, though probably a very
fun bunch, were killed by hostile tribes or eaten by wild animals because
they didn’t worry about or focus on the potential threats. Cave people who
worried, though probably not the life of the party survived these threats
and passed their genes on to future generations. So, worry has been
keeping us alive as a species since the dawn of humankind. But make it a
creative art.
I am trying to communicate to you, that all your problems and all the
problems you will ever have fall into two phase and they are those you can
solve and those you cant solve. For the first, don’t linger action, be positive,
decide and act. For the later, pray if you don’t know what to do and if you
can’t pray, trick yourself, things will turn out right and even if it does not,
there was nothing you could have done but it becomes a win win if it turns
out well.
I know it’s not easy, to transform your believe overnight and change it but, I
want you to know you can and that is so, because, it starts with your
thought and perception and that you, I and everyone have control over.
I hope this blog has been helpful in some ways. Please leave a comment
and share your opinion. I will love to know what and how you handle
worries and some other readers will want to know also. Stay Happy.
Frank Egbetamah
For: Frank Academy.