1. Never Give up that You have Failed
Press on and on and never give up. It is said that failure is a necessary precursor to ultimate
success. As men we want to make it big in the real world? Fail early, fail fast; fail often, as the
saying goes. We all fail, will continue failing and failing will always be with us but you never
quit. Quitting is not for men. You have a strong heart that gives you the zeal to continue going on
and going strong.
There are many countless success stories that are replete with mistakes and obstacles. A failure
that results from well-designed and well-intentioned experimentation can be worthy of praise.
And regardless of whether failure offers any real value, it’s a common occurrence in our
uncertain environment and a natural part of our existence. Though one has to create a purposeful
life, failing will always come. You have to have a big heart to overcome failure. While we all
want success, it’s not guaranteed. That’s why the ability to recover from setback and move
forward is essential. And this starts with embracing, processing, and even benefiting from
failure.
An American preacher is quoted as having said:
Failure does not mean you are a failure – It does mean you have not succeeded yet.
Failure does not mean you have accomplished nothing – It means you have learned something.
Failure does not mean you have been a fool – It means you have a lot of faith.
Failure does not mean you have been disgraced – It means you are willing to try.
Failure does not mean you don’t have what it takes – It means you have to do something in a
different way.
Failure does not mean you are inferior – It simply means you are not perfect.
Failure does not mean you have wasted your life – It means you have reasons to start afresh.
Failure does not mean you should give up – It means you must try prayerfully harder.
Failure does not mean you will never make it – It means it will take a little patiently longer.
Failure does not certainly mean God has abandoned you – It simply means God has a better
idea for you!
Success is never certain and failure is never final. As long as you have the grace of God, failure
is not final.
Failures help you build resilience and character, give you insights about your work, yourself, and
others, enrich your experiences, test your emotional intelligence, and add to your knowledge and
skills.
2. Blaming yourself for events that are outside your control or constantly rescuing others signals
that you’re taking on too much responsibility. But step up to the occasion when your
involvement truly matters. Think about your role in the situation and decide what you can do
differently and better, going forward. Acknowledge your limits.
Don’t Blame and Give Excuses; When you don’t take ownership of your actions and choices,
you miss out on the chance to correct course. Blaming others or external events can give you a
sense of control, but makes it harder for you to effect the way forward.
Avoid denials. Ignoring and hiding your mistakes cause you to miss out on the valuable lessons
they provide. You are bound to repeat them if you don’t shed light on them. Denying your role in
the failure or that a failure occurred reduces chances of improvement
Embracing failures doesn’t mean deliberately seeking it or creating a lax work environment. It’s
not a call for reckless conduct and disregard of standards. Fear of failure can be healthy when it
protects you and doesn’t paralyze you. Failure and mistakes have real consequences. Do what
you must to avoid or minimize them. Do what you can to fill in the blanks and create solutions.
But realize that you will continue to face uncertainty, mess up, and experience outright failures
because you’re human. You’re fallible and you don’t have all the answers. Knowing how to
accept and process failures will help you use them to your advantage. Recognizing them as
normal and often necessary to success is key.
Whenyouacceptthatyouhavefailed,youcanthenmakeanaboutturnonthesituationandthenpursue,
overtakeandrecoverallthatyouhavelost.Youhavetobelieveinyourselfanddon’tgiveupevenwhen
situationsalmostforceyoutogiveup.Youarestrongandanychallengesthatyouaregoingtofacehavebeen
facedbyothermeninthepast.Thesechallengesmaybenewtoyoubutnottohumanity.
You are the Man and you must not quit or give up.