THE POWER OF FAILURE                             How to handle failure?                                  CHALLA S.S.J.RAM ...
Failure is a given in life; expecting               to sail through without a hiccup is               unrealistic and sets...
It is unfortunate that in societies obsessed with success andachievement, failure can be made to feel like the worst thing...
Expect mistakes. Lifes hard knocks are as common as lifes success knocks. To expect the process of living to always be smo...
Learn to love finding out that youre wrong about something.Thats not failure; its enlightenment and the path to finding th...
Remind yourself that you are good enough. Leo                    Babauta suggests that not believing we aregood           ...
Remain calm. Whatever youre feeling about a failure,dont lose your composure over it. Look at it this way – itwont make an...
Dont take your anger out on others. Its not            good to bottle up feelings, but you cant go            around takin...
Dont obsess about what others are thinking; their criticism reflectstheir own inadequacies.Forget about how other people v...
Allow each failure to serve as an opportunity to strengthen yourdetermination in the face of criticism. This is a far more...
After all, everyones going to fail now and                        then; inflicting gloating on someone else has           ...
Step outside of your personal negative sphere and reach out to thepeople around you who care about you; enjoy their compan...
Worrying doesnt build solutions...                          while humor enlightens.Stop worrying, start laughing. Yes, the...
Be very careful that you dont take on other peoplesmistakes or circumstances as being your failure. Humoris one way of tel...
Review what your failure has taught you. There are always thingsto take away from a failure, to inform your future directi...
Failure can help you discover your best                           self. Failure is a signal that youre willing            ...
Failure teaches you about will-power, persistence, self-discipline, and the valueof hard work. One of the signs of living ...
Stay in the present. Fear of failure is a future projection of worry and a relianceon what happened in the past. If youre ...
Embrace fear. Failure can only keep you down if you continue tofear it. Embrace the fear and you release yourself from its...
Ouch!                          Allow yourself to fail on                          purpose.               Personal         ...
He recommends learning something in                   which you have no talent, trying                   something beyond ...
Keep trying; persistence does pay off                        Focus on trying again. Dale Carnegie once                    ...
Dont confuse lack of persistence with a                             goal thats not possible to achieve; most              ...
Keep growing, all your life                                  Grow. Popular motivational coach                             ...
Your experiences are available for                    others to learn from if youre willing                    to share th...
Defy those bumps and really live!            Ditch boredom and live large. Failure is the flipside            of success a...
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  1. 1. THE POWER OF FAILURE How to handle failure? CHALLA S.S.J.RAM PHANI Empanelled Career Transition Coach and Trainer ADECCO LHH Certified Trainer and Facilitator CARLTON ADVANCED MANAGEMENT INSTITUTE, USA aimkaam : Creating Success for You!2/25/2013 1 www.aimkaam.com
  2. 2. Failure is a given in life; expecting to sail through without a hiccup is unrealistic and sets you up to fall harder when failure does happen. Avoiding failure also prevents you from focusing on gaining the resiliency needed to cope with it, a vital element of bouncing back. aimkaam : Creating Success for You!2/25/2013 2 www.aimkaam.com
  3. 3. It is unfortunate that in societies obsessed with success andachievement, failure can be made to feel like the worst thingthat could ever happen to a person. The reality is that failureis commonplace but so is overcoming it and pushing throughto more successful endeavors in the future. Even where afailure cannot be salvaged, there is always something to belearned from it. In this article, youll learn a little about howto overcome failure through having the right attitude. Whenyou dont let the mishaps of life keep you down too long, thennobody else will be able to keep you down too long either. aimkaam : Creating Success for You!2/25/2013 3 www.aimkaam.com
  4. 4. Expect mistakes. Lifes hard knocks are as common as lifes success knocks. To expect the process of living to always be smooth sailing is to invite a lack of realism into your life. It happens to the best of us. Failure helps to create balance in your life and presents an opportunity for personal growth. Accepting the inevitability that things wont always go your way is an important part of avoiding becoming bitter and twisted, or of preventing yourself from simply resting on your laurels and never pushing further to realize your full potential. aimkaam : Creating Success for You!2/25/2013 4 www.aimkaam.com
  5. 5. Learn to love finding out that youre wrong about something.Thats not failure; its enlightenment and the path to finding theright way.Read How to control perfectionism if this behavioral trait isholding you back in life. Perfectionism causes us to fear failureand to feel were personally a failure when were faced with it.Seeking to always be perfect sows our own seeds ofdisappointment. Trying and failing is a much better teacher ofwhat it means to be human than never trying and neversucceeding.You are always good enough, in fact, youre better. aimkaam : Creating Success for You! 2/25/2013 5 www.aimkaam.com
  6. 6. Remind yourself that you are good enough. Leo Babauta suggests that not believing we aregood enough rests at the heart of fearing failure. Failures serve as proof of this greatest fear, causing us to want to withdraw and not try again for fear of being further exposed as inadequate and incapable. However, this fear is not founded in reality; nobody is perfect and everyone will err at various points in life.The real difference between people who become successful andovercome failure and those who do not comes down to how youmanage failure and how you view its impact on you. Feelinginadequate is a commonplace human feeling that even very public,very successful people feel but they dont let it keep them down. Youare good enough; all you need is to give yourself the go-ahead tokeep trying. aimkaam : Creating Success for You! 2/25/2013 6 www.aimkaam.com
  7. 7. Remain calm. Whatever youre feeling about a failure,dont lose your composure over it. Look at it this way – itwont make any difference to the outcome itself whetheryou blow your top or stay calm but it will take a lot lessenergy and maintain your reputation if you choose thelatter response. If youre really frustrated and angry,channel these emotions to motivate you to start again. aimkaam : Creating Success for You! 2/25/2013 7 www.aimkaam.com
  8. 8. Dont take your anger out on others. Its not good to bottle up feelings, but you cant go around taking out your anger on those around you for no good reason. Go for a run, a swim, or a boxing session to relieve tension and give you space to think. Just do something focused and energized to distract yourself from the initial intense feelings until they calm. Take your time. People dont usually recover from a large failure overnight. It takes time for the emotions to heal. That doesnt mean youre entitled to mope though. This time is better spent going over how to do it better next time and building up your resilience. aimkaam : Creating Success for You!2/25/2013 8 www.aimkaam.com
  9. 9. Dont obsess about what others are thinking; their criticism reflectstheir own inadequacies.Forget about how other people view you. Not only will any veryobvious failure soon be yesterdays news, but if you think otherpeople are judging you (and maybe they are, maybe they arent), itwont be long before theyre too busy worrying about their ownfailures to sling mud at yours. aimkaam : Creating Success for You! 2/25/2013 9 www.aimkaam.com
  10. 10. Allow each failure to serve as an opportunity to strengthen yourdetermination in the face of criticism. This is a far more positiveand self-sustaining response than giving in to believing the oftennasty and thoughtless things other people can say.Choose balance, not unrealistic negativity or mindless optimism aimkaam : Creating Success for You! 2/25/2013 10 www.aimkaam.com
  11. 11. After all, everyones going to fail now and then; inflicting gloating on someone else has a way of boomeranging right back, a reality which serves as a natural form of tapering off constant criticism. And ultimately, whats it matter what the critics think?Most of the time they havent a clue what effort has gone into whatyouve done and what youre trying to achieve – its all too easy tobe an expert critic without being privy to the inside information.Shift out of your head space. All of the negativity is in your head.The reality is that you will recover. And the bonus is that you willgain knowledge, insight, and experience – wisdom that onlythose who tried something can lay claim to. aimkaam : Creating Success for You! 2/25/2013 11 www.aimkaam.com
  12. 12. Step outside of your personal negative sphere and reach out to thepeople around you who care about you; enjoy their company andlearn about how other people cope with failures instead of simplyfocusing on yourself.Visualize each failure as a stepping stone to a stronger, moreresilient self. Treat each failure as a gift of learning what not to doin the future.Respect the humility that comes with failure. Too much successcan sometimes lead us astray and cause us to grow anunwarranted sense of being infallible and feeling superior toothers. Failure can knock the stuffing out of such unrealistic self-aggrandizement and help set you back on the right course. aimkaam : Creating Success for You!2/25/2013 12 www.aimkaam.com
  13. 13. Worrying doesnt build solutions... while humor enlightens.Stop worrying, start laughing. Yes, the sun will come up again tomorrow. Yes,things might be miserable for a little while but how will worrying help? Thinkback to a time when you worried a lot. Did it make any difference? Most likelynot, apart from giving you more wrinkles and gray hair. The greatest thing youcan do for yourself during failure is to inject humor into your reflection of whathappened. While there will be a period in which you feel especially tender,being able to laugh at yourself for mistakes can be an important part of thehealing process, readying you for moving on again. Being able to say "Oh I didthat, ha, ha, such a way to stuff up, ha, ha!" is part of putting failure intoperspective. aimkaam : Creating Success for You! 2/25/2013 13 www.aimkaam.com
  14. 14. Be very careful that you dont take on other peoplesmistakes or circumstances as being your failure. Humoris one way of telling you that you dont need to carrythe world on your shoulders and that sometimes, thingsjust happen, no matter what you do or do not do.Write down what youve learned from the experience;great for focus and review. aimkaam : Creating Success for You! 2/25/2013 14 www.aimkaam.com
  15. 15. Review what your failure has taught you. There are always thingsto take away from a failure, to inform your future direction. Itmight also be the case that you have made the failure seem worsethan it is; partial failure is also partial success and if you can drawout what was successful and build on that, the sense of havingfailed lessens. Sociologist Hugh Mackay believes that we dontvalue failure in the way we ought to. Stating that failure is ofteninterpreted as a sign of personal inadequacy, he says that thisdenies its vital role as part of the process ofmaturation throughout life. In other words, the learning neverstops and the lessons include: aimkaam : Creating Success for You! 2/25/2013 15 www.aimkaam.com
  16. 16. Failure can help you discover your best self. Failure is a signal that youre willing to press on and discover new talents and the edge of your existing ones; reaching beyond what you know into what you dont know. Failure is about mastery. Its easy to flip from one new thing to another and be a Jack or Jill of many skills but a master or mistress of none. Its much, much harder to have the patience to master one thing really well and to do it with precision and exactitude. And to master something, one must fail at it, a lot. aimkaam : Creating Success for You!2/25/2013 16 www.aimkaam.com
  17. 17. Failure teaches you about will-power, persistence, self-discipline, and the valueof hard work. One of the signs of living in fear of failure is distraction. When youallow distraction to overtake your life, youre comforted that your distractionscan hide your potential to fail. Ironically, distracting yourself is a failure in its ownright – a failure to take the time to keep trying, to continue toward perfectingwhatever youre learning to do or seeking to become. Ultimately, failure teachesyou the value of persistence and hard work. aimkaam : Creating Success for You! 2/25/2013 17 www.aimkaam.com
  18. 18. Stay in the present. Fear of failure is a future projection of worry and a relianceon what happened in the past. If youre stuck in this kind of thinking, youre livinglife according to what might happen. Author Leo Babauta suggests that theresponse needed here is to"just do it, now, in the moment... bring yourself back inthe moment and focus on what youre doing right at this moment.“by remaining inthe present, you stay focused on the potential of now and allowyour creativity, smarts, and innovative drive to bloom. Past failures arefoundational lessons for better understandings in the present and an improvedsense of living now; the future is created through your commitment to the presentrather than your present being lead by your fear of tomorrows possible losses. aimkaam : Creating Success for You! 2/25/2013 18 www.aimkaam.com
  19. 19. Embrace fear. Failure can only keep you down if you continue tofear it. Embrace the fear and you release yourself from itscontrol. Allowing fear to control you renders you vulnerable tobeing controlled. Unchecked fear can cause you to let othersmake decisions for you in life; while that may be a recipe for nottaking responsibility when things go wrong, it can also mean youlose your sense of creativity, innovation, and even your sense ofself. Help show people its not only fine to fail but healthy tobreak this fear! aimkaam : Creating Success for You!2/25/2013 19 www.aimkaam.com
  20. 20. Ouch! Allow yourself to fail on purpose. Personal development guru Steve Pavlina recommends failing on purpose. He suggests that it is a good thing to set out to do something that you know will fail provided it wont harm others or have long- term negative consequences. aimkaam : Creating Success for You!2/25/2013 20 www.aimkaam.com
  21. 21. He recommends learning something in which you have no talent, trying something beyond your skills set and asking for something when you know the answer will be no (such as a raise, promotion, etc.).From doing this, Steve believes that youll experiencemore benefits than losses, such as learning how to handlefailure, how to extract key issues, knowing your limits, andunearthing the value of partial success. aimkaam : Creating Success for You! 2/25/2013 21 www.aimkaam.com
  22. 22. Keep trying; persistence does pay off Focus on trying again. Dale Carnegie once said that it was essential to "develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success." Persistence is the source of success for the majority of people on this planet. Overnight successes are rare; they are usually people who have been trying and failing and trying again many times over. Successful ad man Siimon Reynolds believes that lack of persistence is a major reason as to why people fail; giving up too soon means that youll never know whether what youre seeking to do or be was achievable and he says that this is the case for "the majority of people" aimkaam : Creating Success for You!2/25/2013 22 www.aimkaam.com
  23. 23. Dont confuse lack of persistence with a goal thats not possible to achieve; most times its the lack of persistence and not the goal thats the problem. Naturally, doing things the exact same way that lead to failure is not the answer; instead, focus on the goal and take the lessons from what didnt work to show you how you can find new, improvedLet’s be realistic, demand ways to reach your goal this time.the impossible. Better to die standing, than to live on your knees. aimkaam : Creating Success for You! 2/25/2013 23 www.aimkaam.com
  24. 24. Keep growing, all your life Grow. Popular motivational coach Anthony Robbins says that we dont just grow for ourselves – we grow so that we can contribute well beyond ourselves. This is an important thing to remember when youre proceeding through failures. aimkaam : Creating Success for You!2/25/2013 24 www.aimkaam.com
  25. 25. Your experiences are available for others to learn from if youre willing to share them, as well as being willing to share with others how you pushed beyond failure into a more fruitful and fulfilling outcome, and even what happened when you couldnt overcome the failure. This helps everyone become more understanding and accepting of the role of failure in success-driven societies. aimkaam : Creating Success for You!2/25/2013 25 www.aimkaam.com
  26. 26. Defy those bumps and really live! Ditch boredom and live large. Failure is the flipside of success and without it, there could be no joy in pushing through the odds, to know what success truly feels like when achieved. At the end of the day, its a funny world where were all longing for everything to be simple and easy without any bumps on the road; the sooner you realize that life doesnt come with automatic smoothing agents, the sooner youll be happier about experiencing the bumps. And just imagine how boring life would be if you had nothing to improve or aim for! Keep in mind that the feeling of failure is the feeling of being alive. Its a sign youve given things a go, pushed boundaries, and bounced back. aimkaam : Creating Success for You!2/25/2013 26 www.aimkaam.com
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