Children are a Blessing in our Marriages

CHILDREN IN
MARRIAGE ARE A
BLESSING
Children come in ourlives fora moment.
They are indeed a blessing as we see them
grow and mature.
Wednesday, July 23, 2014
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 We have a very big responsibility in
bringing up ourkids. They can
become a blessing orthey can make
yourlife hell on earth. With this
blessing, there are responsibilities
that are so crucial to both you and
the children.
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 Yes we can talkof marriage in all
areas but we need to stop and ponder
about the fruit of ourmarriage. If
children do come, we have to prepare
them physically, spiritually, socially
and emotionally to face challenges in
life.
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 Ourchildren are a blessing. They are
one of ourgreatest joys and greatest
challenges. God’s word has much to say
concerning ourchildren because they
are considered precious and a blessing
from God.
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 God’s word tells us in Psalm 127:3-4,
“3Behold, childrenareaheritagefrom
theLord, thefruit of thewombis a
reward. 4Likearrows inthehandof a
warrior, so arethechildrenof one’s
youth.”
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 God’s wisdomconcerning the raising of
children has stood the test of time. In
Proverbs 22:6 it says, “6Trainupa
childinthewayheshouldgo, andwhen
heis oldhewill not depart fromit.”This
simple yet profound verse tells us that
it is the God given responsibility of all
parents to set out adequate guidelines
that will help children to know the right
way while they are growing up.Wednesday, July 23, 2014
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 Proverbs 29:15 tells us, “...but achild
left to himself brings shameto his
mother.” To understand God’s ways
concerning the raising of children,
you must understand this first
principle and take it to heart.
Children will not do well left to
themselves. Children left to
themselves will bring shame to you.Wednesday, July 23, 2014
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 Three areas are absolutely essential as
guidelines fora child to be trained.
 1. Teach a child to honorauthority, to
obey and follow instructions.
 2. Teach a child to reject rebellion,
stubbornness, and disobedience.
 3. Practice consistent discipline and
correction.
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 1. Children are to honor
authority, obey and follow
instructions.
 These three things are needed in
a child’s life. If left undone they
will sufferneedlessly. Obviously
a child will not agree orsee the
need forthese areas in theirlife,
but all are essential. Wednesday, July 23, 2014
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 Foryourchild’s sake, they must learn
to love instruction and heed reproof.
It is with ournew nature in Christ that
we can see authority as a blessing and
a protection ratherthan a hindrance to
ourown way. We find this truth in
Proverbs 13:18, “18Povertyandshame
will cometo himwho disdains
correction, but hewho regards arebukeWednesday, July 23, 2014
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 Children must be taught that
obedience is good forthem and that
obedience is a way of life. This life
principle will prepare them fora life
of obedience to God’s way and God’s
principles.
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 Teaching these three areas will be a
constant part of yourlife while
raising children. Children must have
these three life principles
consistently taught themovertheir
entire growing up period. Some
children will “get it” quickerthan
others.
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 Some children will require more
correction than others. Although all
children are different and will
respond different. This does not
change the truth that all three must
be taught forthemto be blessed in
theirlives.

 Children who are taught to honor
authority, taught obedience, and
taught to follow instructions will
have more friends, get along with
others, get into less trouble, hold a
job longer, get a job easier, make
more money, and have a happierlife
than the ones who were not taught
these three areas. Wednesday, July 23, 2014
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 2. Teach a child to reject rebellion,
stubbornness and disobedience.
 These three areas are opposite to
honoring authority, learning
obedience, and following instruction.
You must show yourchild in every
way possible that these attitudes will
ultimately destroy them.
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 Yourgreatest asset in showing your
child these three destroying attitudes
is yourown example in these areas.
If you show rebellion towards your
boss at workby criticizing him at
home then how can you teach your
children that rebellion is wrong?
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 If you exhibit stubbornness in trying
to get yourway, maybe even using
blackmail oryelling to get yourway,
how can you then turn around and
teach yourchildren that
stubbornness is wrong?
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 If yourfamily practices disobedience
in the area of giving orotherbiblical
commands then you will have a hard
time enforcing rules about
disobedience.
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 You can reinforce the three positive
areas while pointing out the
destructive results of the three
negative areas by pointing out the
harmful effects in othersituations.
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 It is important to rememberas you
strive to reinforce respect forauthority,
learning to obey and following
instructions that these are principles
will allow yourchild to have self-control
which is essential to a blessed life. It
also prepares them to a life of
obedience to God’s laws.
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 3. Consistent, prompt correction is
absolutely essential to training a child.
 God teaches us that there must be a
consequence to wrong actions and
wrong attitudes. If there is no
consequence, little is learned by the
child. These ways are fromthe One who
created all of us and from One who has
more wisdom than anybody else. TheseWednesday, July 23, 2014
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 Propercorrection can take several
forms. Using the rod is only one
of many ways of correction,
howeverthe rod if used correctly
is a powerful tool to teach
discipline. Let us lookat what it
says in Proverbs 22:15, “15
Foolishness is boundupintheheart
of achild; therodof correctionwill
driveit farfromhim.” Wednesday, July 23, 2014
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 Also lookwith me at Proverbs 13:24,
“24Hewho spares his rodhates his
son, but hewho loves himdisciplines
himpromptly.” God does not say you
are selfish orthat you are choosing
an easy way out. Instead He says,
“He who spares the rod, hates his
child.
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 I believe the rod should be used
when all otherforms of correction
are not working.
 The goal is to reinforce the idea that
wrong actions and wrong attitudes
will have a negative consequence.
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 Proverbs 19:18, “18Chastenyourson
whilethereis hope, anddonot set
yourheart onhis destruction.”By the
time a girl is eight ornine the rod
should be replaced with otherforms
of correction. By the time a boy is
nine orten the rod should be
replaced with otherforms of
correction. Wednesday, July 23, 2014
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 In Proverbs 29:17 it says, “17Correct
yourson, andhewill giveyourest;
yes, hewill givedelight to yoursoul.”
I believe wisdom would teach us that
if possible always try and find other
methods of teaching a child that
there is a negative consequences to
wrong actions and wrong attitudes.
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 There are two areas that parents
must be careful in when correcting a
child. One, you must be able to
distinguish between rebellion and
childish behavior. Rebellion must be
corrected while childish behavioris
simply a child being a child.
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 The key between the two is when you
can clearly tell that yourauthority as
a parent is being challenged, this is
rebellion. Rememberwrong
attitudes can be as harmful as wrong
actions.
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 The second area you must be careful
in is to make sure that you do not
correct in angerorfrustration. This
will cause you to overdo in your
correction, which can cause more
harmthan good. I believe the father
should take the lead in the area of
correction, but also the fathershould
discuss any correction overwithWednesday, July 23, 2014
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 In the same way God has an overall
plan forus in this world. Satan’s plan
is to produce more and more chaos
and disorderin this world forhis
plans to succeed. This begins with
children not being disciplined and as
they grow up they become adults who
are not disciplined.
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 Unless we have learned discipline,
self-control, and a respect for
authority, we will neverfulfill God’s
plan forourlives. We live in a world
that is more and more chaotic and
more and more undisciplined.
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 If ourchildren become undisciplined,
we as parents have in one way failed.
So we have a responsibility to bring
up ourchildren well and in the fear
of God.
 In ourold age, we are looking back
and seeing some of the areas we
should have done betteras our
children were growing up.Wednesday, July 23, 2014
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 To enjoy yourmarriage well, ensure
you have done yourbit in bringing up
yourchildren well. You will never
regret. Yourmarriage will also be
strong and sound.
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 Children come in ourlives fora
moment. They are indeed a blessing
as we see themgrow and mature.
They have a lasting effect in our
marriages.
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