Women work hard at their relationships. When something’s wrong, it’s the woman who notices it and wants to talk about it – to figure out what’s wrong and fix the problem. However, many men withdraw from such a conversation or simply fail to respond.

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Why Do Men
Stonewall?
... and what you
can do about it.
The Psychology of Men & Romance
Dr. Debi Smith
PO Box 13154, Newport Beach, CA

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Why Wont’ He Talk to Me?
• Does the man you love ...
– withdraw and refuse to face issues?
– have problems being open about
things?
– frequently misunderstand what you’re
saying?

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Our Beliefs About Men
If you’re like many women, you
probably believe that men …
– are insensitive jerks
– don’t have feelings like women do
– are only interested in one thing
– just don’t get it

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The Boy Code
Rule #1. Be a Sturdy Oak.
• No whimpering allowed.
• No crying allowed.
• No complaining allowed.
• No sign of weakness allowed.

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The Boy Code
Rule #2. Give ‘em Hell.
• Encourages risk-taking behavior
– macho
– invincible
– sometimes violent
– high-energy
– superman

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The Boy Code
Rule #3. Be the Big Wheel.
• Dominate others
• Refuse to let anyone know that he
actually feels
– like a failure
– like life is out of control

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The Boy Code
Rule #4. No Sissy Stuff.
• gender straitjacket that prohibits boys
from expressing feelings or urges seen
(mistakenly) as feminine
– dependence
– warmth
– empathy

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The Boy Code
Read more about
boys’ experience!
Dr. William Pollack

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The Boy Code
Read more about
boys’ experience!
Dr. Debi Smith

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What to do?
• Bring things up sooner rather than later.
• Realize your emotional impact on him.
• Give him time to think before he
responds.

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What to do?
• Realize that men don’t operate on the
same principles women do.
– Don’t think like us.
– Aren’t affected by the same things.
– Don’t act like we do.
– Don’t experience the world the same
way we do.

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