Dissolving Unhelpful Identity Beliefs by Andy Hunt EFT Gathering, Ilkely, 2011
This is me  ->
I am, what I am!
Identity Beliefs What we believe about ourselves <ul><li>I am kind
I am generous
I am compassionate
Etc. </li></ul>
Identity Beliefs What we believe about ourselves <ul><li>I am kind
I am generous
I am compassionate
Etc. </li></ul><ul><li>I am not good enough
I am lazy
I am greedy
Etc. </li></ul>
Nobody's first words are “I'm not good enough!”
 
 
Mama!
Dada!
Doggy!
 
This is me!
Good experiences
Not so good experiences
You are here! ↓
Who am I?
 
Oh, isn't he shy?  -> ->   I am shy!
 
 
 
 
 
->  I am  stupid!  You are so  stupid!  ->
'Ordinary' Beliefs All women drivers are terrible  All men are bastards
Beliefs Are Rules Of Thumb Description This is what was true in the past Prescription This is what will be true in the fut...
I am ... Identity beliefs follow you around Everywhere Always
If I am stupid …
I have to ...
Negative Identity Beliefs What are yours?
Negative Identity Beliefs <ul><li>I am bad </li></ul>
Negative Identity Beliefs <ul><li>I am bad
I am lazy  </li></ul>
Negative Identity Beliefs <ul><li>I am bad
I am lazy
I am not good enough </li></ul>
Negative Identity Beliefs <ul><li>I am bad
I am lazy
I am not good enough
I am wrong </li></ul>
Negative Identity Beliefs <ul><li>I am bad
I am lazy
I am not good enough
I am wrong
I am thick </li></ul>
Negative Identity Beliefs <ul><li>I am bad
I am lazy
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Dissolving Unhelpful Identity Beliefs

  1. 1. Dissolving Unhelpful Identity Beliefs by Andy Hunt EFT Gathering, Ilkely, 2011
  2. 2. This is me ->
  3. 3. I am, what I am!
  4. 4. Identity Beliefs What we believe about ourselves <ul><li>I am kind
  5. 5. I am generous
  6. 6. I am compassionate
  7. 7. Etc. </li></ul>
  8. 8. Identity Beliefs What we believe about ourselves <ul><li>I am kind
  9. 9. I am generous
  10. 10. I am compassionate
  11. 11. Etc. </li></ul><ul><li>I am not good enough
  12. 12. I am lazy
  13. 13. I am greedy
  14. 14. Etc. </li></ul>
  15. 15. Nobody's first words are “I'm not good enough!”
  16. 18. Mama!
  17. 19. Dada!
  18. 20. Doggy!
  19. 22. This is me!
  20. 23. Good experiences
  21. 24. Not so good experiences
  22. 25. You are here! ↓
  23. 26. Who am I?
  24. 28. Oh, isn't he shy? -> -> I am shy!
  25. 34. -> I am stupid! You are so stupid! ->
  26. 35. 'Ordinary' Beliefs All women drivers are terrible All men are bastards
  27. 36. Beliefs Are Rules Of Thumb Description This is what was true in the past Prescription This is what will be true in the future.
  28. 37. I am ... Identity beliefs follow you around Everywhere Always
  29. 38. If I am stupid …
  30. 39. I have to ...
  31. 40. Negative Identity Beliefs What are yours?
  32. 41. Negative Identity Beliefs <ul><li>I am bad </li></ul>
  33. 42. Negative Identity Beliefs <ul><li>I am bad
  34. 43. I am lazy </li></ul>
  35. 44. Negative Identity Beliefs <ul><li>I am bad
  36. 45. I am lazy
  37. 46. I am not good enough </li></ul>
  38. 47. Negative Identity Beliefs <ul><li>I am bad
  39. 48. I am lazy
  40. 49. I am not good enough
  41. 50. I am wrong </li></ul>
  42. 51. Negative Identity Beliefs <ul><li>I am bad
  43. 52. I am lazy
  44. 53. I am not good enough
  45. 54. I am wrong
  46. 55. I am thick </li></ul>
  47. 56. Negative Identity Beliefs <ul><li>I am bad
  48. 57. I am lazy
  49. 58. I am not good enough
  50. 59. I am wrong
  51. 60. I am thick
  52. 61. I am ignorant </li></ul>
  53. 62. Negative Identity Beliefs <ul><li>I am bad
  54. 63. I am lazy
  55. 64. I am not good enough
  56. 65. I am wrong
  57. 66. I am thick
  58. 67. I am ignorant </li></ul><ul><li>I am invisible </li></ul>
  59. 68. Negative Identity Beliefs <ul><li>I am bad
  60. 69. I am lazy
  61. 70. I am not good enough
  62. 71. I am wrong
  63. 72. I am thick
  64. 73. I am ignorant </li></ul><ul><li>I am invisible
  65. 74. I am too visible </li></ul>
  66. 75. Negative Identity Beliefs <ul><li>I am bad
  67. 76. I am lazy
  68. 77. I am not good enough
  69. 78. I am wrong
  70. 79. I am thick
  71. 80. I am ignorant </li></ul><ul><li>I am invisible
  72. 81. I am too visible
  73. 82. I am deaf! </li></ul>
  74. 83. Negative Identity Beliefs <ul><li>I am bad
  75. 84. I am lazy
  76. 85. I am not good enough
  77. 86. I am wrong
  78. 87. I am thick
  79. 88. I am ignorant </li></ul><ul><li>I am invisible
  80. 89. I am too visible
  81. 90. I am deaf!
  82. 91. I am too big </li></ul>
  83. 92. Negative Identity Beliefs <ul><li>I am bad
  84. 93. I am lazy
  85. 94. I am not good enough
  86. 95. I am wrong
  87. 96. I am thick
  88. 97. I am ignorant </li></ul><ul><li>I am invisible
  89. 98. I am too visible
  90. 99. I am deaf!
  91. 100. I am too big
  92. 101. I am too much </li></ul>
  93. 102. Negative Identity Beliefs <ul><li>I am bad
  94. 103. I am lazy
  95. 104. I am not good enough
  96. 105. I am wrong
  97. 106. I am thick
  98. 107. I am ignorant </li></ul><ul><li>I am invisible
  99. 108. I am too visible
  100. 109. I am deaf!
  101. 110. I am too big
  102. 111. I am too much
  103. 112. I am stupid! </li></ul>
  104. 113. I am stupid!
  105. 114. ?
  106. 117. I am stupid!
  107. 118. Emotional events that “created” I am stupid!
  108. 119. I have trouble remembering!
  109. 120. Beliefs = A Distillation Of Experience + + + = I am stupid!
  110. 121. Identity Relief Process Really good for taking care of negative feelings
  111. 122. Identity Relief Process + Compassion
  112. 123. The Compassionate Mind Paul Gilbert
  113. 124. Identity Relief is one-to-one process (but you can do the next two steps by yourself) Try them out, see what happens.
  114. 125. Pick an unhelpful, limiting identity belief of your own
  115. 126. How true does that feel: 0 – 10?
  116. 127. What is the age of the 'I' in “I am …?” How old is the 'I' in that “I am …”?
  117. 128. Two three things can happen Nothing happens (That's has never happened to me so far) or You get a specific memory that relates to the belief (Use standard EFT to take care of the memory) or You get an answer / impression / idea of the age that 'I' (this is what usually happens)
  118. 129. Frozen In Time I am stupid <ul><li>Feelings
  119. 130. Beliefs
  120. 131. Thoughts
  121. 132. Reactions
  122. 133. Responses </li></ul>
  123. 134. Compassion – The Missing Piece
  124. 135. Compassion – The Missing Piece
  125. 136. The Compassion Bubble Think back to a time when you felt compassionate acceptance for another being.
  126. 137. If the dog fits, care for it!
  127. 138. My compassion moment
  128. 139. The Compassion Bubble Think back to a time when you felt compassionate acceptance for another being. Go back to that time. See what you are seeing, hear what you are hearing, tune into that sense of compassionate acceptance.
  129. 140. The Compassion Bubble Allow that feeling to develop and flow down an arm into an upturned palm of your choice.
  130. 141. The Compassion Bubble If that feeling had a colour, what would it be?
  131. 142. The Compassion Bubble
  132. 143. The Compassion Bubble
  133. 144. Finding a volunteer Would anyone be interested in letting go of an old, unhelpful, limiting belief? What is the limiting belief?
  134. 145. Finding a volunteer Would anyone be interested in letting go of an old, unhelpful, limiting belief? What is the limiting belief? I am not important
  135. 146. Finding a volunteer Would anyone be interested in letting go of an old, unhelpful, limiting belief? What is the limiting belief? I am not important How old that I? Four
  136. 147. <ul>To be continued ... </ul>
  137. 148. A recording of the live demonstration is available on www.practicalwellbeing.co.uk
  138. 149. Acknowledgements Recording John Bullough Images Images are courtesy of the excellent Flikr Creative Commons collection Baby Raba – Badruddeen Tiny Foot – limaoscarjuliet Orion Nebula - Mr. Physics Danielle & Lilliyan - Robert Whitehead Dad & Coop - Jon Ovington Portrait of a puppy - Tambako The Jaguar One world - genista Mirror Face 01 - chimothy27 Warning! Do Try This At Home - jesse.millan Can't go downstairs by myself - chefranden Least Tern, hunting - wolfpix - World's Favourite Sport - vramak - rage - how will I ever Kurdistan - Kurdistan Kurd - Generations - Andrea Costa Photography Mother&Daughter - rolands.lakis Noa, cute baby - titlap Give us this day - lhourahane Joseph, Nativity Play - cowley_mail A Mother's Love - queenie13
  139. 150. Acknowledgements School Friends - wwworks For Big Mistakes - SHUN [iamtekn] Fail Stamp - hans.gerwitz Wince - wolleydog guilherme c - paula.rupolo Albert-Mary St. Crash - jason edward scott bain Size doesn't matter - AlphaTangoBravo Be Stupid @ Amsterdam - michiel020 Not my hat - cogdogblog Sir Richard Branson - gulltaggen No Entry - caitra_ Dining Set - jere-me Legs - trekkyandy Head in Hands - alex.e.proimos Dalai Lama - Abhikrama Detecto - flattop341 Candles - brunkfordbraun snowman - OiMax Sad Girl - Pink Sherbet Photography hand heart - eisenbahner bubble - jeff.kubina World Within My Hands - Capture Queen Spirit of Meditation - h.koppdelaney

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