5. #1 The only “right” way to do poly is what
works for you
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6. Poly is a custom job
Build your own relationship: no two poly configs are the same
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7. Read books
Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and
Sustaining Open Relationships by
Tristan Taormino
The Ethical Slut by Janet Hardy and
Dossie Easton
Power Circuits: Polyamory in a Power
Dynamic by Raven Kaldera
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8. #2 Communication is a journey
Not a destination
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9. Poly Communication 101
Own your shit
Argue respectfully
No mind-reading
Be brave and bring stuff up
Emotional aftercare
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10. Poly Communication 101
Own your shit
Argue respectfully
No mind-reading
Be brave and bring stuff up
Emotional aftercare
@cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
11. Poly Communication 101
Own your shit
Argue respectfully
No mind-reading
Be brave and bring stuff up
Emotional aftercare
@cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
12. Poly Communication 101
Own your shit
Argue respectfully
No mind-reading
Be brave and bring stuff up
Emotional aftercare
@cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
13. Poly Communication 101
Own your shit
Argue respectfully
No mind-reading
Be brave and bring stuff up
Emotional aftercare
@cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
15. Minx’s guidelines about rules
Rules made out of fear are 99%
ineffective
Guidelines = mutually agreed
upon by all parties involved
Stuff changes
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16. Minx’s guidelines about rules
Rules made out of fear are 99%
ineffective
Guidelines = mutually agreed
upon by all parties involved
Stuff changes
@cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
17. Minx’s guidelines about rules
Rules made out of fear are 99%
ineffective
Guidelines = mutually agreed
upon by all parties involved
Stuff changes
@cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
18. #4 People are human beings
Not test subjects threats or solutions to your current problems
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19. Terrible reasons to try
polyamory
Because your current
relationship is broken
Because you can try it and ditch
the new partner if it doesn’t
work out
Because you’re bored or
unhappy
Because you’re afraid your
partner will break up with you if
you don’t
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20. Great reasons to try
polyamory
Because it’s being true to yourself
Because you have a healthy
relationship and want to share it
Because you and your partner
want to explore new erotic
experiences
Because you want to bring new
kink skills back to your current
partner to enrich your relationship
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21. #5 NRE is fun. And blinding.
Enjoy your NRE but don’t let it fuck up your life
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22. NRE Advice
Enjoy it!
Share it! Bring your NRE home
to infuse your existing
relationships
Never pack anything larger than
a suitcase during NRE
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23. NRE Advice
Enjoy it!
Share it! Bring your NRE home
to infuse your existing
relationships
Never pack anything larger than
a suitcase during NRE
@cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
24. NRE Advice
Enjoy it!
Share it! Bring your NRE home
to infuse your existing
relationships
Never pack anything larger than
a suitcase during NRE
@cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
25. #6 You don’t have to do it alone
Best tool for poly success is having a poly community/support network
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26. #7 It starts with YOU
Even if it wasn’t your idea. And especially if it was.
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27. Essential relationship skills
A high level of self-knowledge
The ability to say what she wants,
regardless of the consequences
The courage to hear what a loved
one wants
Emotional intelligence: the ability
to separate behaviors from the
emotions surrounding them
The ability to embrace change
@cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
28. Essential relationship skills
A high level of self-knowledge
The ability to say what she thinks,
wants, and feels, regardless of the
consequences
The courage to hear what a loved
one wants
Emotional intelligence: the ability
to separate behaviors from the
emotions surrounding them
The ability to embrace change
@cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
29. Essential relationship skills
A high level of self-knowledge
The ability to say what she thinks,
wants, and feels, regardless of the
consequences
The courage to hear what a loved
one wants
Emotional intelligence: the ability
to separate behaviors from the
emotions surrounding them
The ability to embrace change
@cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
30. Essential relationship skills
A high level of self-knowledge
The ability to say what she thinks,
wants, and feels, regardless of the
consequences
The courage to hear what a loved
one wants
Emotional intelligence: the ability
to separate behaviors from the
emotions surrounding them
The ability to embrace change
@cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
31. Essential relationship skills
A high level of self-knowledge
The ability to say what she thinks,
wants, and feels, regardless of the
consequences
The courage to hear what a loved
one wants
Emotional intelligence: the ability
to separate behaviors from the
emotions surrounding them
The ability to embrace change
@cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
32. Why relationships fail
One or more of the parties
involved isn’t true to him/
herself
Lack of communication skills
Lack of emotional intelligence
Lack of courage to talk about
EVERYTHING
Fear of loss
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33. #8 Change is good
Life’s challenges bring change for the better
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