1. Lead with Your Energy
Energy
Tools to
Help Kids
Be
Happy, Cent
ered and
Cooperative
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2. No Right or Wrong Way
The best
way is
what is in
alignment
for you
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3. Overview
1. Align Your Energy
2. Feel the Energy of
What You Want
3. Prevent Power
Struggles
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4. Align Your Energy
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5. Calm Assertive Energy
• Everything’s OK
• I’m an Assertive Leader
or Co-Pilot
Cesar Millan,
The Dog Whisperer
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6. Get into
alignment
THEN
address
behavior
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7. Practice
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8. Feel the
Energy of
What you
Want
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9. Two Sides of the Coin
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10. Practice
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11. Prevent Power Struggles
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12. # 4 Use games,
jokes and play
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13. #3 Leave off
the threat or
consequence
“It’s time to clean
your room”
(With calm assertive
energy)
Instead of :
“Clean your room or
no TV for a week!”
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14. #2 Give lots of choices and
freedom
Or in 15 minutes?
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15. #1 Practice being in
Alignment!
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16. Top 4 Ways to Prevent
Power Struggles
#4 Use games, jokes and play
#3 Leave off the threat or consequence
#2 Give lots of choices and freedom
#1 Practice being in alignment for
yourself and as a model for your kids
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17. Have fun
playing
with
energy
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18. Additional Resources
• Next Free Webinar: December 8th
• Blog Articles at www.caraklee.com
• Books:
– Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn
(and youtube videos)
– How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids
Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
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19. Thank You!
All patterns take
time and patience
to shift
Please call or email
me with any
questions or
concerns
503-347-3966
cara@caraklee.com
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