Kimmel And Changes Between The Sexes


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Kimmel And Changes Between The Sexes

  1. 1. Changes in last 40 years, according to Dr. Kimmel Gender matters Work place changes Family and workplace balance Sexuality
  2. 2. men
  3. 3. OR
  4. 4. gender <ul><li>Doesn’t affect men </li></ul><ul><li>Limits work rarely </li></ul><ul><li>Sexual roles </li></ul><ul><li>30 years ago at San Diego State, a women’s Studies program began </li></ul><ul><li>Women , a concern </li></ul><ul><li>Limits work </li></ul><ul><li>Sexual roles </li></ul>
  5. 5. The work place <ul><li>Women have increased role in Medicine </li></ul><ul><li>Dental med. </li></ul><ul><li>Law </li></ul><ul><li>Only 20% of us had Grandmothers who worked in a “career” </li></ul>
  6. 6. Shared balance of family and work between sexes <ul><li>Now---------still a work in progress </li></ul><ul><li>Then ---------no way! </li></ul>
  7. 7. Sexuality <ul><li>Sexual revolution  gave men less commitment & more partners </li></ul><ul><li>Moral values changed </li></ul><ul><li>Birth control changed </li></ul><ul><li>Very little changed in terms of women’s sexual benefits </li></ul>
  8. 8. Example on sexuality <ul><li>1954 Dr. Kinsey found only a small number of women masturbated ( or claimed so!) </li></ul><ul><li>1994 = 91% </li></ul>
  9. 9. Another example <ul><li>Among working class women in 1975 </li></ul><ul><li>40% faked orgasm </li></ul><ul><li>1975 </li></ul><ul><li>Among same group </li></ul><ul><li>10% 1997 </li></ul>
  10. 10. Times have changed Expectations have changed
  11. 11. REALLY?
  12. 12. What has changed with men <ul><li>Less all male jobs and careers </li></ul><ul><li>Less all male colleges </li></ul><ul><li>male dominated areas in society-rare </li></ul>
  13. 13. Men still adhere to 4 basic rules No sissy stuff Be a big wheel Be a sturdy oak Give ‘em hell
  14. 14. Bring the sexes together Female area 1 Gender- no problem for us Inherent privilege (Like racial issues) Female area 2 Workplace hostile? Not really –we had “entitlement” Female area 3 Men train to be oaks, ill equipped for family commitment Female area 4 Sexuality: give ‘em hell is not very “sexy”
  15. 15. Female area 3(work and family balance) men’s tasks have not aided Taking out garbage (weekly task)-----men Snow clearing (weekly task)------men Bed making ( daily) you guess! Cleaning (daily) you guess! Cooking ………..mostly women
  16. 16. Sexuality:area 4 men women Men: sex may be a compete issue and aggressive affection dominance equality Shirk sexual responsibility Pregnancy, reputation Risk Spontaneous and promiscuous Comfort and safety Meaningful??
  17. 17. Male and female issues <ul><li>Biological variation </li></ul><ul><li>Gender schools of thought </li></ul><ul><li>Intimacy issues </li></ul><ul><li>Society is continually evolving </li></ul>
  18. 18. Biology: some differences between same sex members are >than between sexes Aggression: due to relative Testosterone levels not an absolute variation Physical strength : same Society overemphasizes femininity (accommodating, compliant, submissive and unequal) Math vs. Verbal Ability: evolutionary theory
  19. 19. Brain Differences Limbic system more developed in male Speed and response Connecting fibers between hemispheres Larger in females Male develops slower than female Certain brain areas vary between sexes Sexually Dimorphic Nucleus =larger in male
  20. 20. Male brain
  21. 21. And………..
  22. 22. Variations Lead to male action orientation, lateralization,immaturity and ? Language use
  23. 24. Schools of thought on gender <ul><li>Freud– gender a function of family and sex </li></ul><ul><li>Cognitive theorists– child develops and sifts thru gender hints </li></ul><ul><li>Feminist theory: boys dominate girls submissive </li></ul>
  24. 25. Intimacy among men Competition-do not share vulnerability Men do action oriented activity for bonding. In control ( a male need) Homophobia ( limits affection) Poor social skills for intimacy Side to side intimacy & not face to face Friendships shrink with age  loneliness
  25. 26. Intimacy with women Friend ship with women should be not only sexual Sex becomes loveless and novelty oriented Spreading of genes: contraception,internet,adult films dehumanize sex Non relational sex
  26. 27. Male Female Explicit non attached relationship Phallocentric whole being Double standard Fantasy Promiscuous less so
  27. 28. Perhaps evolutionary demands lead to men forming separate identity Separate from mom Independent Strong Not affectionate Not dependent
  28. 29. We are sexy bitches
  29. 30. Evolution of society <ul><li>Gap has shrunken in work, play, family, sex </li></ul><ul><li>Early sexual debut, contraception and education have helped, as well as feminism and law </li></ul>
  30. 31. Sexual dimorphism and polygamy <ul><li>These don’t benefit modern evolving man. </li></ul><ul><li>Male/female size difference now 17% ( 300,000 years ago was 50%) </li></ul><ul><li>Monogamy may benefit males that live far beyond breeding age—70s, 80s </li></ul><ul><li>12% of primates are monogamous </li></ul><ul><li>Grandchildren benefit from pair bonding </li></ul>