Taryn Marie Stejskal, Chief Resilience Officer and Founder, Resilience Leadership Institute

1. The 5 Practices of Highly Resilient People:
Why some flourish when others fold

2. DID YOU EVER
BELIEVE YOU
WERE MEANT
FOR MORE?

3. YOU DON’T
HAVE TO DO
IT ON YOUR
OWN
ANYMORE

4. Resilience is the essence of
being human.
C O P Y R I G H T R E S I L I E N C E L E A D E R S H I P I N S T I T U T E

5. ASK YOURSELF ONE SIMPLE, YET,
POWERFUL QUESTION:
“When you’ve faced
significant challenges in the
past, what have you done to
effectively address those
challenges?”
C O P Y R I G H T R E S I L I E N C E L E A D E R S H I P I N S T I T U T E

6. WHAT IS RESILIENCE?
Resilience is the ability to effectively address challenge, change, and complexity in
a manner that allows us to be enhanced by the experience, not diminished.
C O P Y R I G H T R E S I L I E N C E L E A D E R S H I P I N S T I T U T E

7. WHEN WE TRULY HARNESS
RESILIENCE:
WE DON’T BOUNCE
BACK, WE BOUNCE
FORWARD
C O P Y R I G H T R E S I L I E N C E L E A D E R S H I P I N S T I T U T E

8. CONTROL THE CONTROLLABLES
C O P Y R I G H T R E S I L I E N C E L E A D E R S H I P I N S T I T U T E
T H I NGS
I C A N CONT ROL
T H I NGS O U T SIDE
M Y CO NT ROL
Words ★ Mindset ★ Ideas
★ Focus ★ Effort ★
Behavior
Other
People’s Focus
Other People’s Behavior
Other
People’s Ideas
Other
People’s
Thoughts
Other
People’s
Feelings
Other
People’s
Actions
Other
People’s
Words

9. CONTROL THE CONTROLLABLES
C O P Y R I G H T R E S I L I E N C E L E A D E R S H I P I N S T I T U T E
38%
T H I NGS O U T SIDE
M Y CO NT ROL
T H I NGS
I C A N CONT ROL
62%

10. CONTROL THE CONTROLLABLES
C O P Y R I G H T R E S I L I E N C E L E A D E R S H I P I N S T I T U T E
T H I NGS
I C A N CONT ROL
T H I NGS O U T SIDE
M Y CO NT ROL
Words ★ Mindset ★ Ideas
★ Focus ★ Effort ★
Behavior
Other
People’s Focus
Other People’s Behavior
Other
People’s Ideas
Other
People’s
Thoughts
Other
People’s
Feelings
Other
People’s
Actions
Other
People’s
Words

11. REVERSE BUCKETLIST:
Think of a time you’ve faced
a significant challenge:
How has this challenge
formed you into the person
you are today?
C O P Y R I G H T R E S I L I E N C E L E A D E R S H I P I N S T I T U T E

12. Challenge,Change, and
Complexity is inevitable,
The 3C’s are the fabric of our
lives.
C O P Y R I G H T R E S I L I E N C E L E A D E R S H I P I N S T I T U T E

13. ACTIONSTEPSTOTAKETO HARNESS RESILIENCE
SHORTTERM
1. Resilience exists within all of us, the essence of being human
2. Resilience is not quick recovery
3. Learn that resilience means “Bouncing Forward”
LONGERTERM:
4. Upgrade your relationship with challenge
5.Ask “Why is this happening for me?” instead of
“Why is this happening to me?”
C O P Y R I G H T R E S I L I E N C E L E A D E R S H I P I N S T I T U T E

14. THE 5 PRACTICES
OF HIGHLY RESILIENT PEOPLE
C O N N E C T I O N
V U L N E R A B I L I T Y
P R O D U C T I V E
P E R S E V E R A N C E
P O S S I B I L I T Y
G R AT I - O S I T Y

15. To align your INTERNAL thoughts, feelings, and experiences with
the EXTERNAL self you share with the world.
Vulnerability is the cornerstone of authenticity and empathy.
THE PRACTICE OF VULNERABILITY:
C O P Y R I G H T R E S I L I E N C E L E A D E R S H I P I N S T I T U T E

16. THE VULNERABILITY BIAS
C O P Y R I G H T R E S I L I E N C E L E A D E R S H I P I N S T I T U T E

17. Plays on fear that if you are vulnerable, The Three L’s will
occur:
1. You won’t be LIKED
2. You won’t be LOVED
3. People will LEAVE you
THE VULNERABILITY BIAS:
C O P Y R I G H T R E S I L I E N C E L E A D E R S H I P I N S T I T U T E

18. ACTION STEPS TO PRACTICE OF
VULNERABILITY
C O P Y R I G H T R E S I L I E N C E L E A D E R S H I P I N S T I T U T E
SHORT TERM:
1. Vulnerability is NOT discrediting, degrading, or downplaying
YOU!
2. Vulnerability is allowing people to see more of your “inside” on
the “outside”
3. The Vulnerability Bias blocks authenticity, empathy, and
connection.
LONGER TERM:

19. WHEN WE LEARN TO JUDGE
LESS, WE HAVE TIME TO LOVE
MORE.
C O P Y R I G H T R E S I L I E N C E L E A D E R S H I P I N S T I T U T E

20. THE 5 PRACTICES
OF HIGHLY RESILIENT PEOPLE
C O N N E C T I O N
V U L N E R A B I L I T Y
P R O D U C T I V E
P E R S E V E R A N C E
P O S S I B I L I T Y
G R AT I - O S I T Y

21. The connect INTERNALLY, deeply with YOURSELF, i.e.,
Intuition, worth, and value.
Then, connect EXTERNALLY with others; to draw on
strength and support from your community.
THE PRACTICE OF CONNECTION
C O P Y R I G H T R E S I L I E N C E L E A D E R S H I P I N S T I T U T E

22. 22

23. “What follows
'I am ____________.’
follows you.”

24. What if it works out?
What if it’s better than I think?
What would happen if I truly believed in and supported
myself?
What if I am the one holding me back?
What would I say to someone I love and care for?
TO CHALLENGE NEGATIVE SELF-TALK
ASK:
C O P Y R I G H T R E S I L I E N C E L E A D E R S H I P I N S T I T U T E

25. You become the average of the 5 people you
spend the most time with.
SHOW ME YOUR FRIENDS &
FAMILY.
I’LL SHOW YOU YOUR FUTURE.
C O P Y R I G H T R E S I L I E N C E L E A D E R S H I P I N S T I T U T E

26. SHORTTERM:
1. Listen to the voice within you.
2.The practice of connection beginsWITHIN you!
3. Recognize the role of worthiness in wellness.
LONGERTERM:
4. Conduct a “self talk audit”, and evaluate the words that follow
that follow
“I am __________ ….”
5.Audit your external connections. Surround yourself with the
with the people you want to become.
C O P Y R I G H T R E S I L I E N C E L E A D E R S H I P I N S T I T U T E
ACTION STEPS TO PRACTICE CONNECTION

27. WE ALL NEED A FRAMEWORK TO ASSESS
AND ENHANCE THE QUALITY OF OUR
CONNECTIONS ALONG WITH THE
STRENGTH OF OUR RELATIONSHIPS.
C O P Y R I G H T R E S I L I E N C E L E A D E R S H I P I N S T I T U T E

28. THE 5 PRACTICES
OF HIGHLY RESILIENT PEOPLE
C O N N E C T I O N
V U L N E R A B I L I T Y
P R O D U C T I V E
P E R S E V E R A N C E
P O S S I B I L I T Y
G R AT I - O S I T Y

29. GET COMFORTABLE GETTING
UNCOMFORTABLE

30. Hosted by:
© 2021 The Alexander Group
PICTURE A DAY WHEN ….

31. Hosted by:
© 2021 The Alexander Group
WHAT ONCE SCARED YOU IS YOUR
MOST SACRED OPPORTUNITY FOR
GROWTH

32. WE NO
LONGER
HAVE TO
SOLVE OUR
CHALLENGES
ALONE

33. HOW WILL YOU SHOW UP?

34. THE POWER
OF SIMPLY
SHOWING UP

35. THE POWER
OF SIMPLY
SHOWING UP

36. HOW WILL YOU SHOW UP?

37. NOW, IT’S TIME FOR
YOUR RESILIENCE
MOVEMENT!
QUESTIONS