Parenting is an art, a beautiful, yet difficult task!

1. Parenting- A SIMPLY Difficult Task
Toddlers-Tweens-Teens
Dr. Reena Bhansali
Counseling Psychologist

2. Birth – 3 years 3yrs – 5 yrs
6yrs – 9 yrs 10yrs -13 yrs

3. Welcome to the World of TWEENS
The tween years are those years between approximately 8 to 13 when a child is not yet
a teen but no longer just a little kid
Rebellious
Academic
Issues
Mood swings
More towards
peers than
parents

4. A Peep into TEEN World

5. Complains
By
Parents
All Around the GLOBE

6. Birth-3 Years
• Bedwetting
• Mud eating
• Thumb sucking
• Toilet Training
• Fussy Eaters
3yrs – 5 yrs
• School Issues
• Temper Tantrums
• Speech Disorders
• Fear and Phobias
6yrs-9 yrs
• Disciplining
• Academics
• School issues
• Sexual Abuse

8. • Don’t Compare
• Don’t play sides
• Address Appropriate Behavior
• Acknowledge each child’s strength
• Listen both side story
• Acknowledge problem , offer solution, Move

9. Parents Expectations

10. Teacher’s Expectations

12. The Dolphins, The Sharks and The Blue Whale
• The blue whale came and it took many dolphins with him!! WHY?
• The shark who created this Blue whale wanted to clean the society? WHY
• The dolphins wanted to die? Why L

13. Because I say so.
Authoritarian
Let’s talk about it
Democratic
Whatever You say
Indulgent
Parenting Styles

14. Helicopter Parenting
Submarine Parenting
Volcanic Parenting

15. Difficult Parents
Children who are not encouraged to do, to try, to explore, to master, and to risk failure,
often feel helpless and inadequate. Over-controlled by anxious, fearful parents, these
children often become anxious and fearful themselves. This makes it difficult for them to
mature. Many never outgrow the need for ongoing parental guidance and control. As a
result, their parents continue to invade, manipulate, and frequently dominate their lives.

16. Are you TOXIC PARENT

17. • It is always about their feelings, their needs.
• They are unpredictable, erratic and have scary behaviors.
• They become jealous of their child’s achievements or
appreciations
• They don’t recognize child’s boundaries.
• They control child using guilt or shame.
• They demand child’s attention- physically, emotionally,
financially and in every sense.
• They interact less with children and impose more.
• They take away their love.
• They’re are overly critical.
• They compete with you.
• They make you responsible for their happiness and well-being.
• You are and you were scared of them.
• The parent creates a bad atmosphere of tension and fear - and
others feel they have to tip-toe around to avoid upsetting
them.
• They play mind games with the child – and they tell lies, give
out mixed messages to confuse and manipulate the child and
cause them to doubt their reality.

19. • When was the last time you talked to your child about HIS/HER friends?
• When was the last time you appreciated him for the work he did?
• When was the last time you asked him to go out and watch a movie?
• When was the last time you asked about his life and not studies?
• When was the last time you did not remind him of the things he has NOT done?
• When was the time you DID NOT talk about his career and future plans?

20. Children report :- The only thing we get at home is
•Pointed Fingers
•Advices
•Yelling
•Instructions

21. With Friends

22. 8 things not to
say to your
child

23. 1. “When I was your age…”
2. “You just don’t understand……”
3. “You only think you have problems…”
4. “I don’t have time to listen now….”
5. “Do what I say not what I do …”
6. “Because I told you to ….”
7. “Why can’t you be more like…”
8. “ You’ll look back someday ……”

24. Family Get together
Office or Relatives Place
Their Friends
Outside the home
Breakfast
Talk here and land up
into trouble!!!!!!

25. Kitchen
Restaurant
Car
Bedtime
Meal time
Shopping
Walk

26. MOM, Please save me
Aware! Accept! Act

27. • Children of all ages, races, ethnicities, cultures,
and economic backgrounds are vulnerable to
sexual abuse.
• Child sexual abuse occurs in rural, urban, and
suburban areas.
• It affects both girls and boys in all kinds of
neighborhoods and communities, and in
countries around the world

28. Myths about Child Sexual Abuse
1. Myth: He looks normal and acts normal, so he can’t be a Child Molester .
2. Myth: Only Men Sexually Abuse Children
3. Myth: Child molesters target any and all children near by
4. Myth: Abused children always tell!
5. Myth: The Victim is Always a Girl.
6. Myth: Child victims of sexual abuse will have physical signs of the abuse
7. Myth: Stranger Danger
8. Myth: Sexual victimization as a child will inevitably
result in the child growing up to become a sex offender
9. Myth: Child Sexual Abuse is a cultural or socioeconomic problem.

31. Warning Signs of Sexual Abuse
•An increase in nightmares and/or other sleeping difficulties
•Angry outbursts
•Anxiety
•Depression
•Difficulty walking or sitting
•Withdrawn behavior
•Pregnancy or contraction of a venereal disease, particularly if under age 14
•Propensity to run away
•Refusal to change for gym or to participate in physical activities
•Regressive behaviors depending on their age (e.g., return to thumb-sucking or bed-
wetting)
•Reluctance to be left alone with a particular person or people
•Sexual knowledge, language, and/or behaviors that are unusual and inappropriate for
their age
•Take it very seriously when a child reports sexual abuse by a parent or another adult
caregiver.
•Is secretive and isolated

32. Helicopter parents 2. Hothousing parents 3. Submarine parents
4. Volcano parents

34. A-Accept your child for the wonderful person he or she is
B-Be a good role model in all you say and do.
C- Communicate respectfully and listen attentively to your
child.
D- Discipline fairly, firmly and with love

35. E- Encourage good eating habits
F- Find ways to get and stay fit together
G- Give chores that built responsibility
H- Hug your child to build self-worth

36. I- Instill respect for other people
J- Join PTMs and other school activities to assess child’s progress
K- Keep your promise or do not make them
L-Laugh together and enjoy each other’s company
M-Make family rules and enforce them consistently

37. N- Never Use physical force on your child
O- Offer your help whenever it’s needed
P- Praise your child for achievements as well as for efforts
Q-Quickly stop your child from harmful activities.
R- Read together often and make reading fun

38. S- Show patience and remember nobody is perfect
T- Teach health and safety rules.
U-Use every opportunity to show your love
V-Value your child’s thoughts and opinion

39. W- Wait until you cool down before disciplining your child
X- Xerox and save records of your child’s achievements
Y-You can make a difference in your child’s life….so
parent with pride.
Z-Zoom over this ABC again and again