2. Table of Content
1. Self Sabotage 2. Fear 3. Doubts and
confusion
4. Money
worries
5. Jealousy and
envy
6. Powerful self-
care techniques
3. 1. Self Sabotage
• Part of you holds you hostage until you fully
understand why you had not been successful a long
time ago. It refuses you to feel at ease in your life and
reminds you to carry it. This part keeps you feeling
guilty whenever you forget about it.
• Another part of you shames you daily for not moving
on in the first place. It shames you for not daring to
take the first step and staying trapped. This other
part of you shames you for being trapped and feeling
guilty.
• This is a war raging between shame and guilt in so
many of us and it is extremely time-consuming and
resource-intensive. This can paralyze us because it
takes a lot of our attention.
4. The Healing: Self Awareness
Compassion
Build your
awareness around
this pattern and
each time you see it,
smile and hug
yourself. The only
way to disarm this
violence is through
love and
compassion.
Compassion for self.
1 Minute
This is a daily
occurrence and thus
a daily practice:
Take 1 minute each
time you see the
pattern arise and
consciously love on
yourself.
Love
Just like the best
person you would
like to be for your
kids, your spouse,
your friends, and
your community,
practice being that
person to yourself.
Be patient and
impart love.
Peace
Give yourself a
world of
encouragement,
you are brokering
peace between two
children you love
equally.
5. 2. Fear
• Did you know that each time a thunderstorm is
coming, you can find a herd of buffaloes running
forcefully toward it? You can see hundreds of them
running as if they were trying to meet the storm.
• However, did you know that buffaloes were simply
terrified of thunderstorms? Thunderstorms are one
of their biggest fears! So why would they run toward
the storm and not away from it?
• They were able to figure out that if they ran towards
the storm and not away from it, they would spend
the least amount of time enduring it. Running away
from the thunderstorm was like being chased by it
and eventually getting caught. Who knows for how
long?
• The buffalo dealt with its fear of thunderstorms by
dealing with it head-on. They ran toward the storm
because they understood that the storm was
inevitably coming and thus picked the option that
would allow them to spend the least amount of time
in it.
6. The Healing (1): Face It Head-On
Fear is like a veil that stops you
from seeing and expressing your
true self. The more you peel it
back the more your true voice is
revealed.
Creativity cannot flow if fear is
blocking it. I know it can be
scary, but your true self lies in the
expression of who you are which
is your creativity.
Everything you want is on the
other side of something you are
afraid of.
Courage is the mastery of fear,
not the elimination of fear. Our
“fight or flight response system”
is there to preserve us from harm
hot from living life and getting
disappointed; Disappointment is
not harmful.
You should make it a practice to
look for your fears and face them
daily, soon they will disappear.
7. The Healing (2): Fake Monster
I used to have this repeated dream throughout my life; I
was being chased by this vicious monster. I would run
phenomenally, with Spiderman-like abilities; it would
have been an impressive race to watch if it weren’t for
the circumstances. I was constantly terrified but
thankfully (or so I thought,) I would always manage to get
away…and the following night, it would come back again
with a vengeance chasing me down with more fervor. But
I was fast and so I kept “winning”.
Still, after years, I got sick and tired of feeling like this and decided to fight back. I decided to stop running and
turn around and fight him, although I knew he would swallow me, and who knows what would happen to me.
So, the next day, I did just that. I stopped running, although I could feel his enormous presence right there
behind me. I turned around and faced him. And in one instant, he completely evaporated and brought with
him his crew of dark clouds and resonating sounds. It was all peaceful and I could see the sky again. This was
the last time the monster visited me in my dreams.
8. The Healing (2): Lessons from my dream
The monster was not real
and simply the fruit of my
imagination.
The monster needed to be
faced immediately and
head-on, just like the bull.
He figured it out.
By protecting myself from
the monster, I guaranteed
its perpetuity, I kept it alive
longer. Again, the bull gets
this and runs towards the
storm and doesn’t even wait
for it to catch up to it.
9. 3. Doubts and confusion
• Swimming in a sea of doubt and
confusion, you are terrified of trying hard
and failing but also feeling shame for not
having the courage to try in the first place.
• You have doubts and don't know which
step to take in your life; you have analysis
paralysis. You want to move in a direction,
but you don't know which one?
• You are apprehensive of what the
results of your actions will be and because
you cannot see ahead you don’t move
forward.
10. The Healing (1): “Someone who loves themselves”
If someone who loves
themselves had to solve a
very large puzzle, how
would they go about it?
I suppose they would look
around the space where
the pieces are laying down
and clear up a large area
to collect the pieces
together.
I also suppose they would
open doors, curtains, and
windows to let the light
and fresh air come in.
I am certain they would
throw away old puzzle
pieces that have lost their
meaning to make space for
the current one.
I also bet they would
throw away any trash
laying around without
wasting too much time
wondering why they were
there in the first place
I believe someone who
loves themselves always
wants to operate in a
space that is clean and
sanitary.
I know they would sweep
and clean the rest of the
place to create an
environment that sets
them up for taking on new
and nicer things.
I know they would bring it
a step further and
decorate the place with
things that invite for peace
and comfort.
They would also get all the
tools necessary to help
them solve the puzzle
efficiently (magnifying
glass for instance)
Then, they would get
themselves a really
comfortable chair to sit on
to work on this puzzle.
They would get their
favorite drink and snacks,
put some music on
maybe? Maybe diffusing
some essential oils for
smell?
I bet this is what someone
who love themselves
would do in this situation.
11. The Healing (2): Find focus
Most of our confusion has to do with
hearing too many voices in our heads;
voices like our spouse’s, parents’,
friends’, public opinion, all the
“should” that come from beliefs with
questionable origins. And you don’t
know which one is yours and which
one to follow.
In our decision making we
try and consider all of these
different points of vue and
find it hard to meet all of
these different requirements.
In our indecision we do
not recognize our own
voices or have simply lost
touch with it a long time
ago.
I was there, in this pit of darkness and I can
say that the day I discovered what my
purpose was everything made sense. Each
day I am able to understand what my
priorities are; I can juggle all of my
responsibilities with a much lighter heart
because I know where they lie in the grand
scheme of my life and know the role they
play and the requirement or need they are
meeting.
I don’t rely on must-do tasks, work activities,
social gatherings, or family obligations to
provide me with the core sense of fulfillment
that I seek because now I understand that
this was not their role in the first place.
Discovering the path that will
satisfy your soul, you can now
move more confidently and
know what you need to do
each day to keep progressing
on your own journey.
12. 4. Money Worries
• Are you worried that discovering your passion and
following you path will render you poor?
• Do you believe that you simply cannot afford to take
the risk on yourself in case you don’t make it?
• Are you afraid of trying something and your idea is
just not good enough and you end up failing and
bankrupting your family in the process?
• Many who have gained financial success are still
deeply unhappy because their soul has this yearning
that has not been satisfied. They feel more stuck
than you can imagine. They don’t believe they can let
of whom they have sold themselves to be or what
they have accomplished so far to redefine their
purpose. They are imprisoned and their soul aches
immensely.
13. The Healing: Don’t chase the money!
Kiyosaki, one of the billionaires of this century, and Paul Dejoie, another billionaire of our time, have
both said the same thing; “Your mission is the driving force of any of your endeavors. You will very likely
fail if what you do is solely for the purpose of chasing after money. You should follow a well-crafted,
spiritually-infused mission.
Quote from a recent millionaire (Ellie Talks Money) “Figure out what you know how to do and figure out
who would pay you for what you know how to do”. She suggests “Start from the path of least resistance
for you”
I am here to guarantee you that following your purpose is YOUR BEST CHANCE of making it big, in the
way that you deeply desire; the path we will be uncovering will be your path of least resistance!
Why? Because the mission we are getting to define will consider the most important and valuable aspect
of your life. This mission will be in your perfect size. You will feel confident that this is indeed your best
chance.
The counterintuitive morale of the story – If you want money, don’t chase after it!. As you keep your
head down and follow your mission, the money will follow inevitably.
14. 5. Jealousy and Envy
• Many people are secretly crippled with envy and
jealousy towards people they believe are living
their best lives.
• Many people cannot stop contemplating someone
else’s garden and forget to pay attention to theirs.
They cannot get over how the other’s is better than
theirs.
• A brilliant self-development author, Roxie Nafousi
suggested turning envy into inspiration. Let
others’ success be a testament that yours is
possible as well.
• Also understand that no one can take your path
and journey from you. If you are not walking on it,
no one will. Others are simply walking theirs and
yours is waiting for you, unthreatened.
15. 6. Powerful Self-Care Techniques
Here is an interesting analogy to self-care. Imagine being in the dark and having
access to a light switch panel. Each light you turn on helps you see better. Similarly,
when you are in a dark place, you can pull yourself out by intentionally turning the
lights on, each light representing one thing you know usually works for you.
Things such as going to work out, going for a walk, eating fresh fruits, taking a nap,
taking a shower, reading a book, calling a funny friend, meditating, and music. A
combination of these activities will help you get out of a place of darkness. The key is
to not rely on one light switch but many of them at the same time.
Light Switch Theory
16. 6. Powerful Self-Care Techniques
Reverse psychology
We all have that one person (or a kind of person) we think is probably happy and living
the life that we want. We imagine this person walking through their lives effortlessly
and with ease. We imagine that this person knows how to make the best decisions and
that they are surrounded by people to help and support their success.
In your daily life, ask yourself this question when faced with choices, especially the
tough ones. What would someone who loves themselves do in this situation? You will
be surprised at how many of the decisions you take, especially for yourself, will
drastically change.
17. 6. Powerful Self-Care Techniques
A weak body, neglected spiritual life, and self-damaging mental practices have an
enormous impact on your ability to see yourself clearly.
Although this statement might be discouraging, simply taking the first step on those can
completely reverse the darkness and weight you feel you have been carrying around.
Start working on them today. These are like the fuel and maintenance you do for your car to
make it run. Do not neglect these aspects because although you might have a great mission,
the imbalance in your body, mind, and spirit will hold you back. A little goes a very long
way here.
Health – Physical, Spiritual and Mental
18. 6. Powerful Self-Care Techniques
There is a process we can follow, instead of shoving it in, swallowing it whole, or
unleashing our fury onto our environment. Now we can take the time to process
following these guidelines. It only takes a few minutes, and it works well. Let the
dark vibes out using this method. Keep yourself light and continuously heal.
Use the RAIN method each time you feel overwhelmed.
R: Recognize what
you are feeling
A: Allow without
judgment
I: Investigate why
you feel that way
N: Nurture with
self-compassion
Make it RAIN!
