2. WRONG.
You need to care what YOU think of YOU.
Unconditional self acceptance is at the core of a
peaceful mind.-Buddha
We run from our fear when it’s just information
for living a more authentic life.
And most importantly, I learned, there is Big
Magic available to all of us as extensions of
light and love.
It’s in our physical world as well as our
Spiritual world.
All we need to do is ask.
Unfuck Yourself is designed to help you peel
away the parts of you that no longer serve you.
Life is meant to be good for you.
You came here for the sheer delight of it.
You came here to serve, but NOT by being at
the beck and call of those around you.
You came here to do what YOU love.
That is how you serve.
That is your gift to the world.
So,
Enjoy yourself as you unfuck yourself and you
will discover just how powerful you truly are!
Hi, my name is Kitt Depatie.
Welcome to Unfuck Yourself!
Why the Catchy Title?
Well, it’s not meant to offend or shock, though it may,
but to get the attention of people like you who just
might suspect they’re in their own way.
Certainly that’s what I discovered over the last six
decades.
Because it’s not other people standing your way.
It’s not your spouse.
It’s not your children.
It’s not your boss, your family or your friends.
That’s just a story you tell yourself about who you
are and what you can do.
It’s YOU standing in front of YOU!
I also discovered life isn’t suppose to knock us
down and kill our spirit. Only we do that, by not
understanding HOW we attract what we attract.
We utilize the Law of Attraction by default
instead of by design.
We hold onto limiting beliefs, which are stored in
our subconscious, as the truth. These affect our
mindset, the way we view the world, and our
participation in it.
We seek, chase, even crave approval from those
who will not give it. When it’s our own approval
we should be cultivating.
There is a myth out there that says I need to care
what other people think of me.
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3.
4. O F T H E
I T C O N T A I N S
is like
a tape recorder. It holds your beliefs, attitudes, values,
and motivations. It’s always in the present moment.
Unfortunately, it takes its orders from not only your
thoughts, but also from what other people have
impressed upon you as well. Research has proven that
over 90% of your life is directed by your subconscious
mind.
is the watchman
at the gate and responsible ruler of your subconscious
mind. Once your thoughts have been accepted as
truth in the conscious mind, the subconscious will not
and cannot argue. It does not judge the quality or
authenticity of the information coming back at you.
The subconscious mind does not engage in the
process of proving. It relies upon the conscious mind
to give it the suggestions and then just follows through.
Your Subconscious Mind
The Conscious Mind
6. Before.
7
The feeling that you’ve been through
.
You’ve heard the saying,
“if you want a different result,
you’ll need to do
something different”
OF COURSE,
you know this,
but... you also know what
they say?
“To Know and
Not To Do…
Is Not To Know!”
Changing your negative
programming is accomplished
the same way you train your
body. Mental strength is secured
in exactly the same way that
physical strength is secured,
by exercise. Through repetition,
you will be able to re-program
your negative subconscious
thought patterns and change the
tapes, apply new grooves and in
time, replace negative thoughts
with empowering new ones.
This CRAP
7.
8. Science
and
research
have
proven
that there
are 2 minds.
The Conscious
Mind
and the
Subconscious
Mind.
And it is the
coordination
of these
two centers
of our being,
and the
understanding
of their
functions
which is the
great secret of life.
10. You’re keeping yourself in check, making sure YOU don’t
get too cocky, or better yet. too self important. It’s important for you
to manage your expectations so that you aren’t disappointed.
But there is only one tiny flaw in this thinking. IT’S CRAP.
And it’s contributing to a subconscious belief that YOU are CRAP.
Sure. It might FEEL helpful.
11. The subconscious mind
makes no distinction
between what’s real and
what’s imagined. Most
of what you believe to
be true, about what
you are capable of,
was impressed upon
you by the age of five!
You can change
the subconscious mind
by asking questions.
Questions allow for
unknown variables and
opens the mind to go
seeking for new answers.
A question that allows for
"What else is possible
that has never
yet considered?"
The subconscious
mind must
automatically go
searching for
something unknown,
because it has
already
considered
every possibility
it is aware of.
13. M A N I A C
YOUR IMAGINED END RESULT
FORCES YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES.
ESPECIALLY IF IT IS LACED WITH
POWERFUL EMOTION.
THE GREATER THE EMOTION
AROUND YOUR INTENDED
RESULT, THE QUICKER THE
MANIFESTATION.
M A I F E S T I N G
14. F R O M
Y O U
G E T T H E R E
-Albert Einstein
“Everything is energy. Match the frequency to
the reality you want and you cannot help but get
that reality. This is PHYSICS. NOT philosophy.”
You THINK you’re focusing on what you want, BUT
you’re really focusing on everything that isn’t work-
ing now. Your focus is your point of attraction.
You can’t get to your Big Life if you’re focusing on
your irritating co-worker or holding a grudge against
your brother-in-law. WON’T WORK. Sure, you might
get that great job, perfect mate, but then things will
go to shit because you’ll go right back to your
old wiley ways, AND think it’s ok to talk about,
point out to and generally bemoan your life to
everyone who will listen.
The language of the universe is vibration and
energy, not words. So when you see something
wanted and say yes to it, you include it into your
vibration, because you are focusing on it. But,
when you see something unwanted and yell NO to
it, you include it into your vibration, because you
are focusing on it. ONLY focus on what you want
to manifest and you will have begun mastering the
Law of Attraction.
18. via the Law of
Attraction, returns to
us the experiences
that are in direct
alignment with where we
are vibrating, which is determined
by what we FOCUS on MOST
consistently. Because the Law of
Attraction is impartial and unemotional, it has no way of
knowing what we want, NOR does it discriminate between
our hopes and aspirations, likes and dislikes. It only knows
what we want, by what we FOCUS on.
LIFE,
19.
20.
21. YOU'RE A BADASS! Don’t ever
forget that! You have everything
you need to make your dreams come
true. You just need to move, take the
step, JUMP if you have to. When you
move, Universal Energy, God, God
Force moves too.
Everything you ever wanted is on the
other side of fear. Fear kills more
dreams than failure ever will. FEAR is
PART of your big adventure.
So stop worrying about what can go
wrong and anticipate what can go
right . You are powerful beyond
measure. Most people have no idea
how powerful they really are. The
sad truth is most people live their
whole lives and never ever discover
this. If you are waiting for the big
guarantee that everything will work
out, then, here it is, EVERYTHING
WILL WORK OUT, but probably,
AND MOST LIKELY, not as planned.
H A V E N O I D E A
T H E Y A R E
you’re probably on someone else’s path."
"If the path before you is clear
22.
23. TIME TO GET OFF THE
You are the person people come to for help. You are
the person that’s always willing to lend a hand, stay
late, pitch in. You are the person they can count on
to always say yes. You are good and reliable and
available and exhausted. You say YES when you
mean no and NO when you mean yes. You are
confused and depleted and wonder why you have
no energy for yourself. There is a myth out there that
says: “I need to care what other people think of me.”
WRONG. You need to care what YOU think of you.
Falling down the rabbit hole of other people’s
agendas?
You are the director of your life. The key to an
extraordinary life lies in listening to your own voice,
your own intuition. Trying to be accepted by everyone
else is the death of your creativity. You came here to be
unique. There is a part of you that knows you are meant
for something more. In order for you to fully activate
your inner power and grow into the life you dream of,
you will need to get off the approval seeking hamster
wheel. Throw that down the rabbit hole!
24.
25.
26. Youar
e the Author of You
rLifeYour energy will rise.
You will begin attracting
a higher caliber of people and
opportunities to you. BUT
Itʻs going to piss people off.
.
Being authentically
you means to become
the author of your life.
When you are
authentically you,
you raise your power
in the world.
Your life isnʻt yours
if you constantly care
what others think
about it.
When you DO NOT seek
or need approval from
others, you are at
your most powerful.
There is a myth out there
that says: “I need to care
what other people think of me.”
WRONG, you need to care
what YOU think of you.
27. LETTING PEOPLE TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOUR GOOD NATURE IS
NEITHER VIRTUOUS NOR HONORABLE NOR PRODUCTIVE IN ANY WAY AND IT
INTERFERES WITH YOUR ABILITY TO MANIFEST THE LIFE YOU LOVE.
33. if you were going to die within a
week. Would you hold onto your anger & bitterness &
resentment or would you put them down and
concentrate on what you love? Would you have it out
with your brother-in-law, neighbor, boss or would you
just quit your job, move, let it go?
Are you under the assumption that in order to lead
a happy life you need to eliminate anger, resentment
fear? True spiritual awakening isn’t about getting
rid of your fear. It’s about transcending it.
True spiritual awakening puts you in touch with your
pain so it can be healed. The object is to make peace
with your fear, because at the root of all these scary
emotions is fear.
The anger.
The resentment.
The guilt.
The un-forgiveness.
These are the usual suspects that show up as you
are moving into a higher vibration. The good news is,
you not only have the ability to find yourself. The good
news is you have the ability to free yourself.
34.
35. It’s the meaning
you give to
what is happening
that is causing
you joy, or anger
or resentment
It’s not what’s
happening
to you
that
causes
you
problems
The real issue
isn’t with the
hand you’ve
been dealt It’s the commotion the mind
makes about the hand you’ve
been dealt.
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39. Sometimes you are
the toxic person.
Sometimes you are
the mean, negative
person you’re
looking to push
away. Sometimes
the problem
is you. AND
that doesn’t
make you
less worthy.
Keep on growing.
Keep on checking
yourself. Keep on
motivating yourself.
Mistakes are
opportunities.
Look at them,
grow from them
and move on.
Do Better.
Be Better.
CHECK YOURSELF.
43. Your Success in school, work, sports, the
arts, and almost every area of human endeavor can be
dramatically influenced by your mindset and beliefs.
People with a fixed mindset—those who believe that
abilities are fixed—are far less likely to flourish than
those with a growth mindset—those who believe
that abilities can be developed through hard work,
good strategies, and mentorship.
A growing body of research strongly suggests talent
and brains DO NOT guarantee success. Giving kids
the label of “smart” and “talented” does not prevent
them from under performing. It might actually be causing
it. They get the message that they are smart and they
shouldn’t have to try.
Emphasizing effort gives a child a variable that they
can control, They come to see themselves as in control
of their success. Emphasizing natural intelligence
takes it out of the child’s control. Your mindset is
enhancing or diminishing your ability to manifest the life
you want.
46. Darwin and Tolstoy
were considered ordinary children.
greatest actresses was told
she lacked talent.
Ben Hogan, one of the
and graceless as a child.
was completely uncoordinated
greatest golfers of all time
47. Are you a baby elephant?
The Circus trains baby
elephants by tying them up
to a 10 ft. pole driven deep
into the ground so only the
top is showing.
Baby elephants only try
to pull the stake out a
number of times before
the learn they CAN’T.
The circus only has to
travel with 1-10 ft. pole for
the youngest babies. For the
rest of the elephants they
use a 16 inch stake and the
elephants NEVER try to free
themselves because they
ASSUME they CANNOT.
They have all this strength and
years of growth yet the old
years of limitations keep
them stuck.
48.
49.
50.
51. BreneBrownRisingStrong
I
am enough just as I am.
When I spend my life trying
to distance myself from the parts
of me that don’t fit who I
think I am suppose to be
I stand outside my story
and hustle for my worthiness
by performing, perfecting and
pleasing. There is a part of
me that knows what is best
for me & it isn’t following
the safe path, the known
path. That path
belongs to
someone
else.
52.
53. Do not follow where the path may lead go
instead where there is no path and leave a trail.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
Concerning all acts of initiation and creation,
there is one elementary truth,
the ignorance of which, kills countless
ideas and splendid plans;
the moment one definitely commits oneself,
PROVIDENCE moves too.
All sorts of things occur to help one that would
NEVER HAVE OTHERWISE OCCURRED.
A whole stream of events issue from this
decision, raising in ones favor, all manner
of unforeseen incidents and meetings and
material assistance which no man could have
dreamed would come his way.
Whatever you can dream,YOU can do.
BEGIN IT.
Boldness has
genius, power and magic in it.
-W.A. Murray, 1889
T H E R E I S
W I T H I N
64. Why I DO What I DO!
QUITTER KITTER
You could say I’ve turned it into an art form because
I’ve learned to quit things that no longer serve me.
I’ve walked away from safety and security when I had
NO Clue where I was going.
I have, many times, found myself free falling in the
place between no longer and not yet.
I found I was the problem with my problems.
By
staying, when I should have gone.
By
blending in, when I should have stood out.
By
remaining silent, when I should have been shouting
from the rooftops.
I learned the path to my Big Life requiresa Big Person.
Not demanding guarantees, that it be cozy and
comfortable and easy.
Because it wasn’t
But it was worth it!
Through all the pain and
anger and frustration a
NEW ME emerged.
I found I was strong in places I didn’t know I had
abilities. I was most definitely “off riding in the
dark forest of original experience.”
I had created a path that made sense to me.
NOT my parents.
NOT my friends.
Certainly, NOT my exe’s.
I BECAME A QUITTER
I Quit living by other people’s standards, agendas,
timelines.
I Quit putting myself last and
I Quit being scared of life.
I Quit being a pussy and started standing up for myself.
I Quit listening to people that dis-empowered me.
I Quit thinking I had to be richer, smarter,
better educated.
I Quit whining and moaning and complaining about
my lot in life.
I learned the things I take for granted, other people
are praying for.
I started owning who I REALLY was!
And most of all, I quit putting off my Big Life.
I realized I had everything I needed, but it was up to
ME to make the first move, because I learned this;
“When you move,
”PROVIDENCE moves too.
Whatever you can dream, YOU can do,
BEGIN IT.
Boldness has
genius, power and magic in it.”
-Joseph Campbell
-W.A. Muarry