3. Goals are just the tip of the
iceberg
A false goal is any-person,
situation or thing that we assume
will make us happy
4. How this worksHow this works
First we decide we want something
outside of us
And that it can make us happy
5. Then since we don't have it
We decide we can't be happy or
content without it
This translates to I don't accept
reality the way it is
Which pulls us out of present time
into our ego
6. Or we get stuck in “I can't have it”
which triggers ego and
hopelessness
This also feeds into the LAW OF
ATTRACTION
Then the 'I can't have...” is what
we attract... nothing
7. As long as we are living from our
ego we will be focused on the past
or the future
Which means we can never enjoy
what we have
8. The fantasy future is never now, it
never comes, is never our current
reality
9. Since you are the one deciding
what or who will make you happy
you could decide that what you
have is all you need or want in this
moment, right now to BE
10. The source of happiness is living in
the present moment.
“IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT YOU
CHOOSE, IT ONLY MATTERS THAT
YOU CHOOSE” Vern Black
11. Some of the false goals or needs
are: valuableness, self-worth,
deserve ability and self-respect
12. Examples of false goalsExamples of false goals
We ask for money, sex, power
when what we really want is
love, security, and inner peace
13. Lets say that I ask some guy what will
make him happy
And he says love
14. This is a FALSE GOAL because true
love can only come from within
Assuming that you need to set
your life up so you can get love is
a false goal
15. Another major false goal is
thinking we need and therefore try
to get acceptance
Acceptance can only come from
you deciding to accept you 'as is'
17. False goals are a big deal because
they often create a false direction
in life
Many people seek material things
assuming they will make them
happy only to find out after many
years that is not true
18. DECIDING WHAT TO DO WITH THE
REST OF YOUR LIFE
THE PURPOSE OF LIFE IS TO
LIVE IN THE CONSCIOUSLY IN
THE PRESENT MOMENT
19. Once you realize that happiness
does not come from outside of you
From people, places, things or
events
20. Then expanding your conscious
awareness or spirituality so you can
live consistently in the present
becomes the top priority
Happiness is only available in the
present moment
21. Deciding what to do with the rest of
your life is now about choosing how
you want to spend your time not
what will make you happy
Instead of trying to find an identity
or a job that gets you the money
you think you need to be happy
22. Freedom from your mind is heaven
on earth
An enlightened perspective is
heaven on earth
23. Life can become an opportunity
instead of a burden or obligation
All of life can become fun,
enjoyable or at least, ok.
You happiness is not determined
by what you do so you can do
anything you want.
False goals pretty much run everyday life.
False goals are basically ego goals.
Trying to control in your life by being dissatisfied as a means to motivate you, simply does not work. Negative motivation does not exist. It simply blocks productive action.
What we don’t see is that we first decide we will be happy if we get some thing, person or situation
We then usually decide we can’t be happy until we get it, which of course, means we can’t be happy now.
Then when and if we do get it we allow ourselves to choose to be happy at that point-maybe but usually
Even if the first ‘it’ shows up we do not ‘decide it makes us’ happy because we are focused on the 2nd ‘it’.
…3ed ‘it’; 4th ‘it’;…
We are always focused on the imagined future where we will be happy if……..
But the ‘if…’ never is enough
This is because we spend very little time in the present or now because the ego can’t be in the present.
As a result of being identified with the ego chatter mind we are always focused on the past or the imagined or fantasy future.
We never ‘stop and smell the flowers’ because it requires we step outside of our preoccupation with our ego mind and be in the present without its protection.
Many, most people are rarely not ‘in’ or preoccupied with their ego chatter mind.
However, this decision is required to live/BE in the present moment.
You can’t really decide to be happy but you can crate the conditions that will create happiness
Choices that facilitate this are:
Accepting yourself ‘as is’
Accepting physical reality ‘as is’
Sacrificing all negative emotions: anger, guilt, judging, greed, self-pity, lack, and limitation.
If in your own life happiness has been elusive or transitory you might as well embrace this new approach
According to the ego this must be based on some thing, person or situation in the outside world.
According to the ego and what you have been taught you have to earn your valuable ness.
And or be able to measure or touch it.
Or you have to fare better or come out on top in a comparison to other people and what they have.
This again is yet another ego hoax.
That we can’t see through because we are identified with our mind.
Self worth, valuable ness is based on a simple decision that you make.
This decision is based on no-thing in the physical world, has nothing to do with what you have, don’t have, what you look like or how you dress, talk or walk.
It is a simple decision: I AM OK! It is not better then Is is not I am ok and you are not
It is a simple and profound I AM OK! Implied in I am ok is I AM OK ‘AS IS’, AS I AM
After you get accustomed to accepting yourself and reality As you begin to see your connectedness to all that is your I am ok expression will shorten to: I AM The beauty and simplicity of this may escape you now but it will come. We will look at this more closely in the spirituality module
Lets say that I ask some guy what will make him happy.
And His answer is “money”.
Then with deeper questioning I discover that what he really wants is a relationship and he has assumed that he needs money to afford the gym to get muscles, and buy new clothes, and a new car so he can look cool and attract a perspective mate.
Upon still deeper scrutiny I discover that what he really, really wants is self-love, confidence, self-respect.
He has further assumed that he needs a really hot mate to ‘get’ love from.
You cannot ‘get’ love.
The mechanics are if you have a loving handsome or beautiful mate that you must be lovable and
So then you can decide to accept and love yourself.
The presence of a hot mate is an excuse/reason for you to decide to love yourself
There are several potential problems with this.
Whenever the existence of the relationship is threatened, your self love is threatened and or crashes.
If the mate leaves, you valuable ness disappears and with it your self love
This is why some people get so angry when a relationship breaks up..
They can no longer love and accept themselves and that is painful, then they blame their pain on the exiting x-mate.
‘Getting’ love is at best a temporary fix
But this is what dominates most peoples lives.
What we do not see is that we are deciding who we will want to accept us.
Usually that person has to fit our sexual prototype.
‘Getting’ acceptance is fairly fragile too because it depends on someone outside of us for our acceptance.
Our valuable ness is subject to their and our- ego’s whims.
This can create a great deal of stress in ones life, feeling unacceptable.
Contrary to your ego and popular opinion this will not destroy your desire to change and grow.
In fact you will finally have the motivation, the energy, and the will to create the life the real you want.
You cannot live without love and since all love comes from within you cannot live without self-love and self-love is based on self-acceptance.
And to a large extent self-acceptance is based on
TOTALLY ACCEPTING THE WORLD, YOUR REALITY AS IS.
This is difficult if you have not yet given up: guilt, judging, expectations, attachments, and getting your acceptance from outside of yourself
Someone could decide to make a goal to become a performer so they could get fame and therefore self-acceptance and self-love
But when that fame begins to wane, they will have serious problems and often turn to drugs or alcohol.
It certainly doesn't bode well for peaceful ‘golden’ retirement years.
Many men/women do this when they retire because they got their valuable ness from what they did so when that stops they have no valuable ness and it gets pretty painful
The primary ‘goal’ or first purpose in life is to live in the moment
which is also the source of happiness
After you accept the first purpose it is much easier.
Because what you do/have no longer defines you, or gives purpose, meaning or happiness to your life.
The purpose of life is to deepen your enlightenment.
And/or become ENLIGHTENED which is ONE with God and all beings…
When what you have or what you do no longer define you and you love you so you doint need to get love life becomes much easier.
This is a dramatically easier decision and it doesn't even need to be for your whole life.
It can change as often as you choose to change it
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???“Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all things shall be added unto to you”
When you live from unconditional self-love and self-acceptance then you do not fear others.
Because they cannot take your love away from you.
So you can love and accept everyone, unconditionally – there is no more danger.
Living from an enlightened perspective will also give you the power to create or attract situations, opportunities, wealth health and happiness*.
The entire construct of ego lack and limitation collapses.
Yes you still have to pay taxes and the rent but it will become much easier, all of life will become much easier.
Even death because you can see that your are not your mortal ego but rather you are an immortal spirit… but more on that later.
Once you give up expectation, attachment, doubt and fear
Your current goals will become dramatically easier and might even change.
Remember that one of your new goals needs to be daily meditation for a half hour, once or twice a day.
This will make whole process living outside of your ego mind dramatically easier.
Mediation is aerobatics for the mind
