End of Term Conflict Analysis Overview The purpose of this paper (6-8 pages- for undergraduate students) is for you to analyze a specific conflict you have had or continue to have with a specific person. Your relationship to this person may be ongoing or in the past. You must incorporate course concepts and terminology from the text in your analysis and self-reflection. Process Before writing: Section I of this assignment sheet includes questions for you to think about before writing your essay. Writing the paper: Sections II –VIII of this assignment sheet include questions for you to consider as you write about the nature of your conflict, the role of power, individual styles, assessment, personal intervention, prevention, and possible solutions to your conflict. You may not need to answer every question in each section. Write your analysis in paragraph form, not as short answers to each question. The questions are to help you frame your analysis. I. Warm-Up Questions Please give a brief description on your relationship with the other party. Where and how did you two meet? How long have you known each other? What is the current nature of your relationship?   Do or did you live together? How long? Did anyone else live with you?  How would you describe your overall relationship?   How would you describe your relationship now, compared to when you first met? II. Nature of the Conflict When did the conflict start? What caused it? Was it a series of events or one event? When did the conflict originate? Why did it occur?   Use a metaphor to describe your conflict. Has the nature of this conflict changed over time? If so, how?  How do you feel about the conflict?   How do you think the other person feels about the conflict?   How does the other person feel about how you feel about conflict?  How do you think the other person feels about you?   What would you like to see come from this conflict?   How would you like to see it resolved? What are your goals? What do you think the other person thinks your goals are?   Do you interfere (current or past) with what you think the other person's goals are? If so, how? Does the other person interfere (current or past) with your goals? If so, how? Has the other done so in the past?  Does the other realize you are interfering with his or her goals?   Have you noticed your goals changing since the beginning of the conflict? Do you feel the other person’s goals changed since the beginning of the conflict?   What do you think the other person thinks your goals are?  Are there others who have become involved in your conflict? Do others feel they need to take sides in this dispute? How did they influence your decisions and behaviors?  Has this conflict become destructive? Does it waver between constructive and destructive or does follow one type exclusively? Has it always been this way? III. Power How much power do you feel you have? How much power does the other person have? Do ...

1. End of Term Conflict Analysis
Overview
The purpose of this paper (6-8 pages- for undergraduate
students) is for you to analyze a specific conflict you have had
or continue to have with a specific person. Your relationship to
this person may be ongoing or in the past. You must
incorporate course concepts and terminology from the text in
your analysis and self-reflection.
Process
Before writing: Section I of this assignment sheet includes
questions for you to think about before writing your essay.
Writing the paper: Sections II –VIII of this assignment sheet
include questions for you to consider as you write about the
nature of your conflict, the role of power, individual styles,
assessment, personal intervention, prevention, and possible
solutions to your conflict. You may not need to answer every
question in each section. Write your analysis in paragraph
form, not as short answers to each question. The questions are
to help you frame your analysis.
I. Warm-Up Questions
Please give a brief description on your relationship with the
other party.
Where and how did you two meet? How long have you known
each other?
What is the current nature of your relationship?
Do or did you live together? How long?
Did anyone else live with you?
How would you describe your overall relationship?
How would you describe your relationship now, compared to
when you first met?
II. Nature of the Conflict
When did the conflict start? What caused it? Was it a series of
events or one event?

2. When did the conflict originate? Why did it occur?
Use a metaphor to describe your conflict.
Has the nature of this conflict changed over time? If so, how?
How do you feel about the conflict?
How do you think the other person feels about the conflict?
How does the other person feel about how you feel about
conflict?
How do you think the other person feels about you?
What would you like to see come from this conflict?
How would you like to see it resolved? What are your goals?
What do you think the other person thinks your goals are?
Do you interfere (current or past) with what you think the other
person's goals are? If so, how?
Does the other person interfere (current or past) with your
goals? If so, how?
Has the other done so in the past?
Does the other realize you are interfering with his or her goals?
Have you noticed your goals changing since the beginning of
the conflict?
Do you feel the other person’s goals changed since the
beginning of the conflict?
What do you think the other person thinks your goals are?
Are there others who have become involved in your conflict?
Do others feel they need to take sides in this dispute? How did
they influence your decisions and behaviors?
Has this conflict become destructive? Does it waver between
constructive and destructive or does follow one type
exclusively? Has it always been this way?
III. Power
How much power do you feel you have?
How much power does the other person have?
Do you think the other person has more power than you? Why
or why not?
How do you feel the other person views your power?
How do you think your power affects the conflict?

3. How do you think the other person’s power affects the
relationship?
What qualities do you feel you have that the other values?
What qualities do you value about the other person?
Has this conflict considerably altered your daily life with the
other? If so, how?
Do you think that the other will agree with you regarding who
has the power?
What do you depend on from the other person?
What does the other person depend on you for?
Does the other person ever feel threatened by you? Do you think
you threaten the other person?
Who do you think has more power?
Who does the other person think has more power?
IV. Styles
What specific choices do you make in the conflict?
What individual conflict styles do you use?
a) Avoidance—minimize open discussion of the conflict
b) Domination—one person wins, the other person loses
c) Compromise—you and the other person give something up
in order to reach an agreement
d) Integration—working together to find solutions that
benefit both parties
e) Obliging—avoid asserting one’s own needs and preferring
to cooperate
Does your style vary with the situation? Why? How?
What is the other’s style of conflict?
a) Avoidance—minimize open discussion of the conflict
b) Domination—one person wins, the other person loses
c) Compromise—you and the other person give something up
in order to reach an agreement
d) Integration—working together to find solutions that
benefit both parties
e) Obliging—avoid asserting one’s own needs and preferring
to cooperate
Does the other’s style vary? Why? How?

4. What tactics does the other person use?
What do you or the other person do to keep the conflict going?
Do you or the other person suggest solutions? If so, what are
they? Are the solutions followed through with? How? Why or
why not?
What nonverbal behavior do you notice in the other during a
conflict?
If you do notice a behavior change, does that influence your
conflict style?
Do you preplan your choices of words and actions during a
conflict, or are you more spontaneous?
Do you feel the other person preplans their word or actions?
Do you or your partner ever start conflicts deliberately? How
and why?
How will you handle the conflict if it is not resolved?
Is there anything that you'd like to say or do but haven't? Why
or why not?
V. Assessment
Is the conflict repetitive? If so, how? How much time has been
spent trying to solve the conflict?
Did you think that the conflict could be changed?
What would you like to see happen?
Did you try to change your behavior in any way? Who or what
influenced this?
Did the other person change his or her behavior? Who or what
influenced this? Why do you think this happened?
Do your conflicts ever carry over into other aspects of your
life? In what ways?
Does this dispute carry over into other aspects of the other
person’s life?
Are other members of your household ever drawn into your
conflicts? How? How do they feel about this?
Has there ever been a conflict that has not been resolved in the
earlier stages of the relationship? Why not? What was its
impact?

5. What differences have you noticed in the other person since
your conflict?
What differences in yourself have you noticed since your
conflict began?
How would you like to see your conflict resolved? Do you think
it will be resolved this way?
What do you think will happen to the relationship in the future?
VI. Personal Intervention
How do you express your anger?
How does the other person express their anger?
How could you manage your anger better? (i.e. alternatives)
How could the other person manage anger better?
What other changes, if any, would you like to make in your
behavior? What would you like to change about the other?
Do you feel comfortable saying how you really feel? Do you
share your true feelings? What about the other person?
VII.
Solution
s
How might the situation have been handled better?
Have attempted solutions become part of the problem? How?
Why or why not?
Can you think of any solutions that have not been tried? Would
you like to try any of these? What additional resources might
you need?
What do you think will be the long-term relationship between
you and the other person?
Do you believe there is something you could do to resolve this?

6. What is it? How would you go about it? Would it make you
happy to do this?
Do you believe that there is a way you could compromise?
Collaborate? What would you perceive to be a win-win
situation?
In what ways do you attempt to control and alleviate this
conflict?
In what ways does the other attempt to control and alleviate this
conflict?
Are you satisfied with the current outcome or do you wish a
better solution could be found?
VIII. Prevention
Do you think this conflict could have been prevented? If so,
how?
How might future conflicts be prevented?
Would a third party be helpful or has a third party been helpful?
What relationship and identity issues do you have in this
conflict? Are they similar to issues you have in other conflicts?
How might you address these?
What communication skills might help you better manage
conflict in the future?