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Developing Resilience

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Presentation to Riverbend United Church on Saturday, 21st October 2017

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Developing Resilience

  1. 1. DEVELOPING RESILIENCE STEPHEN MURGATROYD, PHD
  2. 2. WHO AM I? 2 Counselling Psychologist and Practitioner Academic and Writer on Counselling Researcher Trainer of Counselling Psychologists Teacher
  3. 3. BE CLEAR: NOT HERE TO PROMOTE NEW BOOK▸ Available as a paperback at lulu.com and as a e-book at amazon.ca ▸ Co-authored with Sarajane Aris - an experienced clinical psychologists and researcher. ▸ Covers a range of topics linked to today’s presentation.. 3
  4. 4. WHAT IS RESILIENCE? PART 1 4
  5. 5. WHEN YOU DECIDE TO GIVE UP ON RESILIENCE IS.. 5
  6. 6. THE BASIC MODEL OF RESILIENCE 6
  7. 7. WE CAN RECOVER TOO… BEFORE AND AFTER A FOREST FIRE 7
  8. 8. KUBLER-ROSS ADAPTING TO LOSS / CHANGE MODEL 8
  9. 9. BIG IDEAS SIX FEATURES OF RESILIENCE 1 ▸A change in the way you think about yourself: ▸No longer “a victim” or “an and also..” but someone who can make a difference in their own lives. ▸Shift from lethargy to action - from waiting to acting (“no one else is coming..” - Margaret Whatley) ▸Actively seeks to connect with others rather than to disconnect. 9
  10. 10. BIG IDEAS SIX FEATURES….2 ▸Actively seeks to move on, not linger.. ▸Acknowledges, celebrates and recognizes past (in all of its aspects) ▸Develops a vision or strong intentions for the future and begins to act on these intentions ▸Identifies current feelings / emotions / thoughts and begins to identify what the new feelings / emotions /thoughts need to be 10
  11. 11. “TO BE RESILIENT WE DON’T GO BACK IN TIME. WHAT HAPPENED TO US BECOMES PART OF US. RESILIENT PEOPLE DO NOT BOUNCE BACK FROM HARD TIMES - THEY FIND HEALTH WAYS TO INTEGRATE THEM INTO THEIR LIVES..” Eric Greitens, Navy Seal THINK ABOUT THIS QUOTATION….
  12. 12. BIG IDEA SIX FEATURES…3 ▸Resilience follows doing, not thinking or deciding.. ▸Deciding is not doing ▸Thinking and reflecting is doing ▸Acting on decisions and thoughts is doing.. ▸Doing creates the opportunities to build adaptive capacities and resilience..
  13. 13. BIG IDEAS SIX FEATURES… 4 ▸We can find role models for resilience and adaptability and learn from them.. ▸In your circle of friends and in the wider community there are people who have overcome tragedy, loss and disruption…find them.. ▸Learn about them, understand what they did to develop resilience.. ▸Emulate them…
  14. 14. BIG IDEAS SIX FEATURES….5 ▸Rarely do we change alone - connect! ▸Resilient individuals will generally have a person they are connected to whom they look up to and respect as a role model and mentor / coach. Best do this before you need to… ▸Resilient people are not afraid to unburden with this person - to cry, laugh, wonder out loud.. ▸Resilient people gain strength from confronting their situation with others…
  15. 15. BIG IDEAS SIX FEATURES….6 ▸Do good for others - compassionate action helps heal the self.. ▸Getting out and doing good and connecting with others less fortunate than yourself..
  16. 16. 10 ACTIONS TO BUILD RESILIENCE HERE IS WHAT YOU CAN DO..
  17. 17. ACTIVELY SEARCH ACTION 1 18
  18. 18. SET GOALS ACTION 2 19
  19. 19. EMBRACE CHANGE AS A NORMAL PART OF LIFE AND ACTION 3 20
  20. 20. LOOK FOR OPPORTUNITIES TO EXPLORE ACTION 4 21
  21. 21. HELP OTHERS ACTION 5 22
  22. 22. START BEING HOPEFUL ABOUT ACTION 6 23
  23. 23. VISUALIZE WHAT YOU WANT - NO ACTION 7 24
  24. 24. TAKE CARE OF ACTION 8 25
  25. 25. LIVE TO LEARN ACTION 9 26
  26. 26. FIND LIFE FUN - LAUGHTER ACTION 10 27
  27. 27. CLOSING THOUGHT..

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