WHO AM I?
Counselling Psychologist and Practitioner
Academic and Writer on Counselling
Trainer of Counselling Psychologists
NOT HERE TO
BOOK▸ Available as a paperback at
lulu.com and as a e-book at
▸ Co-authored with Sarajane Aris - an
experienced clinical psychologists
▸ Covers a range of topics linked to
SIX FEATURES OF RESILIENCE 1
▸A change in the way you think about yourself:
▸No longer “a victim” or “an and also..” but someone who
can make a difference in their own lives.
▸Shift from lethargy to action - from waiting to acting (“no
one else is coming..” - Margaret Whatley)
▸Actively seeks to connect with others rather than to
▸Actively seeks to move on, not linger..
▸Acknowledges, celebrates and recognizes past (in all of its
▸Develops a vision or strong intentions for the future and
begins to act on these intentions
▸Identifies current feelings / emotions / thoughts and begins
to identify what the new feelings / emotions /thoughts
need to be
“TO BE RESILIENT WE DON’T GO
BACK IN TIME. WHAT HAPPENED
TO US BECOMES PART OF US.
RESILIENT PEOPLE DO NOT
BOUNCE BACK FROM HARD TIMES
- THEY FIND HEALTH WAYS TO
INTEGRATE THEM INTO THEIR
Eric Greitens, Navy Seal
THINK ABOUT THIS QUOTATION….
▸Resilience follows doing, not thinking or deciding..
▸Deciding is not doing
▸Thinking and reflecting is doing
▸Acting on decisions and thoughts is doing..
▸Doing creates the opportunities to build adaptive
capacities and resilience..
SIX FEATURES… 4
▸We can find role models for resilience and adaptability
and learn from them..
▸In your circle of friends and in the wider community there
are people who have overcome tragedy, loss and
▸Learn about them, understand what they did to develop
▸Rarely do we change alone - connect!
▸Resilient individuals will generally have a person they are
connected to whom they look up to and respect as a role model
and mentor / coach. Best do this before you need to…
▸Resilient people are not afraid to unburden with this person - to
cry, laugh, wonder out loud..
▸Resilient people gain strength from confronting their situation
▸Do good for others - compassionate action helps heal
▸Getting out and doing good and connecting with others
less fortunate than yourself..
10 ACTIONS TO
HERE IS WHAT YOU CAN DO..