10 Tips On
What is Child discipline ?
● Wikipedia defines Child Discipline as “the methods used to prevent
future behavioural problems in children”.
● Some parents view discipline as a negative word which has very strict
● While for others it is an essential aspect of child development and
● Because of the differences in customs, educational levels, belief
systems and moral values, each culture evolves its own methods and
strategies with regards to child discipline.
Child Discipline from an
Indian Parents’ Perspective
What Indian parents mean by Child Discipline?
A disciplined child is one who:
● Listens to Parents/Elders of the
Family on most occasions
● Displays ‘Responsibility’ and
‘Maturity’ in places like Home,
Classroom and on Social Occasions
● Shows Time Sense and Punctuality
● Avoids Bad Habits.
Why Indian parents stress on Child Discipline?
The reasons can be classified as:
1. For a Disciplined Child chances of
success in his career increases.
2. For the Child’s own Safety.
3. Will enhance his/her own
reputation and that of the Family
in the society.
4. Disciplined Child will be easier to
Manage in the house.
10 Tips on How to Raise a
Tip 1: Start Disciplining your Child from an Early Age
● Being disciplined is not a destination. It
is a journey.
● Therefore, parents should start focusing
on inculcating discipline from a young
● Earlier the child gets into the cycle of
discipline, the easier it will be to sustain
it for the entire lifetime.
Tip 2: Set daily Routines for effective habit formation
● A good routine set minimizes the chances
of unforeseen behavioural issues.
● Set a routine for daily activities of your
child that includes:
1. Waking up Time
2. Brushing Teeth and Shower/Bath
3. Eating Breakfast, Lunch and Dinner
4. Going to Play School or School
Tip 3: Lead by Example with your Own Behaviour
● Children learn from their
environment and by imitating the
behaviour of their primary caretakers.
● If you are relying on forcing your
child to be disciplined when you
yourself are not, it is not likely to have
a lasting impact.
Tip 4: Be One Step ahead of your child and Anticipate its
● Each child is different. But every child
will exhibit certain patterns when it
comes to bad behaviour.
● By observing and understanding the
likely trigger points will help you
● And once you anticipate you can
prepare yourself and your child for it.
Tip 5: Communication with your Child is Essential
● Your behavioural expectations need to
be clearly communicated to your child.
● But communication should not be
● Be crisp and clear as to your
expectations and the reasons behind the
● Do not negotiate with your child when it
comes to your behavioural expectations.
Tip 6: Consistency of your expectations is Key to
Sustained Good Behaviour
● Be consistent in your expectation and insist on it every single day.
● Consistency is key to habit formation.
● The main purpose of teaching discipline to your kid is lost if you are
inconsistent in setting your expectations.
● Admonishing the child sometimes while ignoring other times for the
same misbehaviour does not help.
Tip 7: Your Parenting Style is Important Too!
Authoritative parenting style: leads to
good social, emotional and cognitive outcomes
in the child in the long-term.
Authoritarian parenting style: does
induce discipline in children, it may do so with
certain negative consequences.
Indulgent and Permissive parenting
styles: are not conducive to raising a
Tip 8: Positive Discipline
● Positive Reinforcement
(encouraging and motivating) gives
better results than Negative
● Even after a bad episode of
indiscipline, never forget to remind
your child that you love her.
● It will make the child secure and
reduce instances of unacceptable
behaviour in the future.
Tip 9:How You react to Unacceptable Behaviour is Important
● Do not react emotionally or in an
extreme Manner. Scolding the child
amidst other people will hurt his/her
● Parents ignore bad behaviour to avoid
confrontation. This is not a good idea
● No shortcuts, please!
● Redirect the Child’s attention towards
other things once the episode of
indiscipline is over.
Tip 10: Child should know that it’s Bad Behaviour will have
● Children should realize that their incidence
of indiscipline will make their parents to take
● Nature of the measures to deal with child’s
misbehaviour matters a lot.
● Physical punishments should be avoided.
● Parents should explore options such as
● Time-out is removing the child from where
the incident of bad behaviour occurred.
● The aim of discipline should be
to encourage your child to stop
negative behaviours, make
positive choices and ultimately
become a better person.
● Read more about on how to raise
a disciplined child here.
“If you are tempted to “teach” your child by guilt, shame, or
punishment, you will be creating discouraging beliefs that
are difficult to reverse in adulthood.”
― Jane Nelsen, Positive Discipline