The key quality you should prefer in your Life Partner if the lock down and wfh becomes the new normal.

1. The key quality you should
prefer in your Life Partner if the
lock down and wfh becomes
the new normal.

2. During the time of crisis, stock market tumbles
down heavily and that's when Investors realise
the importance of All Weather Investing to keep
their investments safe and let it grow as well,
similarly in the times of crisis it becomes very
important to look for an All Weather Life
Partner who can make the life journey smooth
especially in turbulent times.

3. In my workshops and coaching, time and again, I
generally face the same question from different
set of individuals:
A key question from Singles- What are the
qualities I should look for in my future life
partner?
A key question from Separated ones - What
could have saved my marriage?
A key question from married couples - How to
strengthen the bond and ensure longevity of our
relationship?
.

4. Is it mental compatibility, financial stability or physical
appearance the most important factor in your life
partner? With divorce heading for more than 40
percent in Metros and it doesn't end only at
relationships. Broken relationship lead to torn up
finances, emotional turmoil, ill-health and disturbed
career. A surge in domestic abuse in lockdown times
is an indicator of how important it is for us to have the
right emotional and moral support structure. So then,
what is the X factor that can guarantee sustainable
relationships.
.

5. Quick search shows about 1,09,00,00,000 results in
0.53 seconds while searching for the best quality in
life partner and about 64,20,00,000 results in 0.59
seconds on how to save your marriage.
(true..thousands of results in less than a second).
Long back, my own response to that question was to
keep it simple and look for life partner who is PED=
Presentable, Educated and hailing from a Decent
family. Period

6. However working as a Coach for few years and
coming across several hundred couples in my
practise I was surprised to see the One quality which
has the power to decide not only the longevity of
relationship but also how graceful will it be, especially
in these modern times. I am going to sound little
unromantic over here but the trait is nothing other
than Volunteerism – One who practises contributing
consistently while keeping in mind the practicalities of
life.
I interviewed millennials who are married for at least
a decade and then I took a reverse route and
interviewed equal number of divorcees
understanding their habits and thoughts.

7. I interviewed millennials who are married for at least
a decade and then I took a reverse route and
interviewed equal number of divorcees
understanding their habits and thoughts.
I didn’t stop there. I studied world’s greatest
Philanthropists right from Bill Gates to Warren buffet
to Azim Premji to Shiv Nadar and found the same. Its
the quality of contribution, helping people and
volunteering.

8. So what is about this quality which strengthens
personal relationships. A thorough understanding of
these individuals lead to further insights.

9. An individual working as a volunteer has inbuilt traits
of being selfless towards everyone and anyone and
we all know that selfless devotion is the base of
institution called family. Kind heartedness,
forgiveness, compassion, empathy are some
common traits of a genuine philanthropist and those
tend to be sound foundations for any relationship as
well. Gratitude, contentment and feeling of
abundance is Being of their life adding to the grace of
people surrounding them.

10. While practising in USA, I learnt from a Doctor, who
referred one of his patient to me, that a doctor who is
good at heart never gets sued. And it’s so true that
you never want to get rid of good hearted people in
life and same holds true for generous people in our
lives.
Ironically, one who gives all his treasure is the
one who ends with the most of it