importance of pre marital counseling and post marital counseling. How we can manage marital discord

1. MARITAL DISCORD
MANGEMENT
Created by: Shashi Tiwari

2. CONTENTS
 PRE-MARITAL COUNSELLING.
 POST MARITAL COUNSELLING.
 MARITAL DISCORD MANAGEMENT.

3. MARRIAGE
The state of being united to a person as husband
or wife in a consensual and contractual
relationship recognized by the law.
Marriage – Socially and Culturally important.

4. MARITAL COUNSELLING ?
Couple
Therapy
Marital
Discord
Resolve
Conflict Thoughtful
Decision

5. PRE-MARITAL COUNSELLING
“Prevention is better than cure” You can use pre-
marital counseling to address “specific issues”
such as -
 To know the future life partner.
 Expectations in marriage.
 Financial Habits of partner.
 Leisure activity of partner.
 Spirituality.
 Children's and parenting.
 Conflict resolutions.

6. HOW TO CONDUCT
PRE-MARITAL COUNSELLING

7. NUMBER OF SESSIONS
 It is divided in four session each session will be of
atleast 30-45 minutes.
 One session in a month.
 Must be conducted five months before
marriage.
 If possible with both the couples.

8. SESSIONS PLANNING
COUNSELLING
SESSIONS
General
Information
Acceptance
and
Expectation
Roles and
Responsibilities
Communication
and
Finances

9. How did
you met?
Since
When ?
Why you
decided to
get
married?
Friends and
Family’s
perception!
Any previous
relationships?
Financial
Stability!
Your
Apprehensions?
Any other
Issues?

10. How did
you met?
How long?
Why you
decided to
get
married?
Friends and
Family’s
perception!
Any previous
relationships?
Financial
Stability!
Your
Apprehensions?
Any other
Issues?
LISTENING AND OBSERVING
“PATIENTLY”
IS THE KEY

11. IMPORTANCE OF PREMARITAL
COUNSELING
 Better bonding and team work.
 Assess potential conflicts areas.
 Identify expectations.
 Develop conflict-resolution skills.

12.  Improved conveying skills.
 Assets and liabilities of their relationship.
 “Thoughtful decision”.
IMPORTANCE OF PRE-MARITAL
COUNSELING

13. POST MARITAL COUNSELING
Post marital counseling is to be conducted
minimum after six months and at any stage
thereafter.

14. WHAT POST MARITAL
COUNSELING CAN DO?
 Where they are and where they should move
so marriage future can be made better.
 Significant tools and resources to improve
wellness.
 Prevent Marital discord.

15. BENEFITS OF POST MARITAL
COUNSELING

16. POST MARITAL COUNSELING
 Taking time out of their busy schedules and
seriously focus on their lives issues.
 Analyze the behavioral patterns which lead to
conflict.
 “Catalyst” and sort of “Mediator” for healthy
discussions.

17. POST MARITAL COUNSELING
 Realistic picture of each partner can be
ascertained in the couples.
 Resolving issues with in-laws.
 Restoring peace and happiness.
 Provides safe and healthy environment for
discussions. Negative Communication
withdrawn.

18. POST MARITAL COUNSELING
 Improves Communication and understanding
in turn strong bonding.
 Restoration of Emotional connectivity and
lost intimacy.
 Helping couple to negotiate or re-negotiate
commitments.

19. No Relationship is perfect and problem
free all the time. It may be difficult to
manage the problems every time in a
healthy way because stress in the
marriage can come from many sources.
But “Yes” it is possible to manage.
 Understanding the cause.
 Understanding the ways to manage.

20. Marital Discord
Management
Analyse & Manage the Cause

21. WHAT IS MARITAL DISCORD
 State of being in consistent disharmony
between a Married Couple.
 State of being in persistent difference of
opinion in major parts of life leading to a
unhappiness state of living.
 It’s time for a “Guided” root cause analysis
and “assisted” Self introspection.

22.  Money Problem.
 Don’t Allow technology to Interfere - Digital
Communication.
 Virtualizations of Reel Life Romance in Real Life.
 Poor Sleep - Under Rest .
 Missing of Miniature but Grand Gestures of Affection.
 Never Arguing - Keeping Things Inside
Its high time to share!
MARITAL DISCORD MANAGEMENT

23.  Keep away discussing on Divorcing Friends.
 Busy Working Schedules – Take out some Quality Time.
 Talking versus Communication.
 Turned Focus of Female Partner.
 Forgive the mistakes.
 Lack of Trust Factor.
MARITAL DISCORD MANAGEMENT

24.  Describe the Problem in few words - Stop expecting
guesses.
 Look together at deeper concerns - Talk Once.
 Pick the right time and right moment.
 Send away the deal breaker – Don’t start blame game.
 Strengthen the bond - Start the reconnection.
 Finance Management. The NFCC recommends to take a
serious conversation for money management.
MARITAL DISCORD MANAGEMENT

25.  Struggle over home chores - Fairly divide the Labour.
 Give priority to your relation.
 Learn to argue in civil and helpful manner.
MARITAL DISCORD MANAGEMENT

26.  Childs bringing up in turn his/her future is
secured.
 Separations are avoided resulting in social well
being of an individual.
MARITAL DISCORD MANAGEMENT

27. MARITAL DISCORD MANAGEMENT
 Remove these 3 A’s
 Affair.
 Excessive Anger.
 Addiction.

28. The issues may seems bigger and impossible
to handle, its matter of opening up once
&
Its never too late to seek professional help. We
are here to help and support.
MARITAL DISCORD MANAGEMENT

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