What not to do as a leader?
What may destroy your leadership career?
Based on:
"What got you here will not take you there" Marshall Goldsmith
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Marshall Goldsmith,
“What got you here will
not take you there”
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We are talking about
successful people …
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They have one or more
annoying behavior …
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Not realizing that it is
happening
AND
They can change it!
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The Success Delusion
Why we resist change!
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The Success Delusion
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We Delude ourselves about:
Our achievements
Our status
Our contributions
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The Success Delusion
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It gives us:
Confidence
Doubt-free life
Blindness of risks!
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Myths!
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I have Succeeded
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Successful people believe in their skills
and abilities
They believe their contributions are
more than they really are!
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I can Succeed
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Successful people believe they have the
capabilities to make things happen
“I am successful. I behave this way. I am
successful because I behave this way”!!!
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I will Succeed
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Successful people are optimistic
Over-commitment stops you from
achieving!
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I choose to Succeed
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Successful people have high need for self
determination (not being controlled by
others)
Cognitive dissonance may takeover our
decisions
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Change of behavior is
possible if you can see that it
is for your best interest!
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Self interest …
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It usually boils down to:
Money (Live)
Power (Leave a legacy or feel important)
Status (Learn or acquire new experiences)
Popularity (Love and be loved)
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The Twenty Deadly Sins!
Habits that hold you back from the top
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What not to do?
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“We spend a lot of
time teaching
leaders what to do.
We do not spend
enough time
teaching leaders
what to stop!”
Peter Drucker
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We do not reward people for
what they did not do!
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1-Don’t be an obsessed winner!
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Winning too much
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Most Common problem!
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In a meeting, you want your position to
prevail
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When arguing with a spouse, you want to
have the final word
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When driving, you do not want anyone to
get ahead of you
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2- Do not try to add your touch!
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Adding too much value
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Successful people always want to say:
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“I already know that”
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“I know a better way”
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This, simply, kills commitment of people
to the idea they are presenting
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3- Do not try to judge others!
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Passing Judgments
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When you rate other people’s opinions or
ideas, you discourage their
contributions!
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Just listen, and say “Thank you!”
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4- Avoid destructive comments!
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Making Destructive Comments
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To avoid them, ask yourself:
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Is it useful to the customer?
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Is it useful to the organization?
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Is it useful to the person I am talking to?
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Is it useful to the person I am talking
about?
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If the answer is no, just Shut Up!
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5- Do not start with: No, but, or However!
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Starting with no, but, or however
“I am right, you are wrong!”
● Stop defending your position!
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6- Don’t act too wisely!6- Do Not act too wisely!
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Telling the world how smart you are
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It insults other people!
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Listen to the idea or suggestion and say
“Thank you!”
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7- Do not talk when angry!
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Speaking when angry
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Anger is rarely someone else fault.
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In most cases, the source of anger is in
here not out there
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8- Avoid negative comments!
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“Let me explain why that won’t work”!
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That is not being helpful!
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It is just being negative
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It comes from the need to prevent others
from appearing smarter than you are!
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Before saying that it won’t work, come up
with a better idea or just Shut Up!
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9 – Do Not withhold information
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Withholding Information
● Leads to: mistrust and suspicion
● When intentional, it reflects a character floe
● Unintentionally, it may happen when you
are too busy
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10- Do not forget to praise and reward
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Failing to give proper recognition
● You are depriving people from the
emotional payoff they deserve!
● Learn to shift the focus from yourself unto
others
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11- Avoid being thanked for what
you did not do!
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Claiming credit you do not deserve
● It is a Crime!
● Ask yourself: “Is it possible that someone
else deserves to be thanked for my
success?”
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12- Do not make excuses
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Making Excuses
● “The traffic ...”
“My assistant ...”
“They ...”
● Be responsible!
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13- Do not blame your parents
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Clinging to the past
● Deflecting blame onto events and people in
our past
● Do not blame others for the choices you
made!
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14- Avoid unfairness
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Playing favorites
● You will always love your Dog! But is it
more important than your child?!
● Admit to yourself that you are not objective
in evaluating people!
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15- Be quick to apologize!
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Refusing to express regret
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It is an aspect of not being responsible
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It is not easy!
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Apologizing is one of the most powerful weapons you
have
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Apologizing turns people into allies
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This is how people change, teams improve, and
companies grow
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16- Do not be rude!
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Not listening
● You are essentially saying: “You are not
important to me!” and “I do not care about
you!”
● Be patient!
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17- Give gratitude!
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Failing to express gratitude
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Gratitude is a skill that we can never
display too often
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If you do not know what to say, say
“Thank you!”
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18- Do not shoot the messenger!
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Punishing the messenger
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How many times did you attack the one
who is bringing you the news?
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Just say “Thank you!”
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19- Do not pass the buck!19- Avoid saying “he did it”
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Passing the buck
● You are never wrong, are you?
● A leader who can not take responsibility for
his team’s problems, is not a leader in the
first place!
● No one expects you to be right all the time,
so why should you?
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20- Do not say “That is me!”
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An excessive need to be “me”
● A character fault is not excused simply
because that is who you are!
● You have to get out of your comfort zone!
● Leadership is about other people.
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Getting over it!
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Take feedback
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Say “I am sorry”
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Listen to people
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Say “Thank you!”
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