RED FLAGS
TO
NARCISSISTIC
PERSONALITY
DISORDER (NPD)
COMPILED BY JENI MAWTER
How does a
relationship that
feels so right …
… go so
wrong?
NPD WARNING SIGNS
IGNORE AT YOUR PERIL
NPDS ARE LOOKING FOR ENABLERS
WHO GIVE „NARCISSISTIC SUPPLY‟
ATTENTION + EMPATHY + ADULATION
YOU ARE SELECTED BY HOW YOU
RESPOND TO THE NPDS FOCUS
YOU BECOME THE TARGET FOR
LOVE „BOMBING‟
AN INTENSE FOCUS IS ON YOU
IT FEELS LIKE YOU HAVE BEEN „CHOSEN‟
YOU ARE SPECIAL
NPDS ARE OFTEN CHARISMATIC
BUT…
NPD INTEREST IN YOU IS A PRETENSE
YOUR ENCOUNTER WILL BE LIKE AN
INTERVIEW, NOT A CONVERSATION
NPDS „BANK‟ OR STORE YOUR EMOTIONS,
THOUGHTS AND EXPERIENCES
(EXPOSED WEAKNESSES WILL BE USED AGAINST YOU LATER)
THEIR LOVE IS ALL-CONSUMING
THIS FEELS PERFECT …
UNTIL …
NPDS HAVE AN INFLATED
SENSE OF „SELF‟ SUPERIORITY
THEY EXPECT, AND DEMAND,
TO BE WORSHIPPED
THEY HAVE A STRONG SENSE
OF ENTITLEMENT
NPDS ARE NEVER RESPONSIBLE FOR
THEIR ACTIONS OR WORDS
THEY BLAME THE WORLD AND OTHERS
ABUSE STARTS WITH
OCCASIONAL SUBTLE PUTDOWNS
EMPATHY IS FEIGNED
WITHOUT AN AUDIENCE
NPDS HAVE NO EMPATHY
NPDS WEAR TWO FACES
FRIENDLY IN PUBLIC
BACKSTABBING IN PRIVATE
NPDS ARE THE
MASTERS OF CAMOUFLAGE
LOVE BOMBING CONTINUES
YOU DROWN IN THIS SEA OF LOVE
BUT… DEVALUING BEGINS
(USUALLY IN PRIVATE)
WHEN WORDS CONTRADICT BEHAVIOUR
YOU FEEL CONFUSED
TO THE WORLD
THIS PERSON IS PERFECT
TO THE NPD, YOU ARE NOT PERFECT
YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO AN OPINION
IT‟S “MY WAY OR THE HIGHWAY”
YOUR VALUE COMES FROM HOW YOU
RESPOND TO THE NPD – NOT FROM
WHO YOU ARE
YOU BECOME ISOLATED
LOSE FAMILY, FRIENDS, COLLEAGUES
AND COMMUNITY
ATTEMPTS TO ASSERT YOURSELF
LEAD TO „NARCISSISTIC RAGE‟
YET YOU FEEL SORRY FOR THE NPD
YOUR ROLE IS TO PLEASE THEM
NPDS ARE HYPERSENSITIVE AND
PERCEIVE CRITICISM
WHEN NONE IS INTENDED
NARCISSISTIC RAGE ESCALATES
(ONLY IN PRIVATE)
MANIPULATION TACTICS USED TO CONTROL YOU
GASLIGHTING DENIAL LYING EXCUSES
I never said that.
You’re imagining things.
You’re crazy.
That never happened.
Can’t you take a joke?
COMMONLY HEARD …
MUCH OF WHAT IS SAID IS A LIE
AS A NPD VICTIM YOU
NO LONGER TRUST YOUR OWN
PERCEPTION, MEMORY, OR JUDGEMENT
BLAMING: NPDS ARE
NEVER RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS
“IT‟S ALL YOUR FAULT”
YOU ARE IN A CYCLE OF VALUE AND DISCARD
YOU KEEP TRYING TO RETURN
TO YOUR OLD RELATIONSHIP
YET YOU OFTEN WONDER…
YOUR BOUNDARIES WILL NOT BE
RESPECTED
YOU‟RE WALKING ON EGGSHELLS
ENABLERS DO NOT BELIEVE YOU
THEY PROTECT THE NPD
YOU ARE SILENCED
SILENCED
YOUR ABUSER WON‟T LET YOU GO
THEY CRY CROCODILE TEARS
WELCOME TO THE CYCLE OF ABUSE
NO, YOU‟RE NOT CRAZY!!!
THIS WHOLE SITUATION IS CRAZY MAKING
YOU‟VE BEEN „NARCISSISED‟
AND YOU NEVER KNEW …
UNTIL NOW
FINALLY THE PIECES FIT TOGETHER!
NO MORE RED FLAG CONFUSION
Please share these other links on
Narcissistic Personality Disorder
http://www.slideshare.net/jenimawter/narcissistic-vict...
Red Flags to Narcissistic Personality Disorder compiled by Jeni Mawter
Red Flags to Narcissistic Personality Disorder compiled by Jeni Mawter
Red Flags to Narcissistic Personality Disorder compiled by Jeni Mawter
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Narcissistic Personality Disorder is insidious and toxic. It destroys relationships with partners, family, friends, work colleagues and members of the community.

This slide show identifies some of the red flags that signal a relationship with someone with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

It is an attempt to explain aberrant relationship behaviours that may be observed at home, with partners, at work, or in community groups.

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Red Flags to Narcissistic Personality Disorder compiled by Jeni Mawter

  1. 1. RED FLAGS TO NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER (NPD) COMPILED BY JENI MAWTER
  2. 2. How does a relationship that feels so right …
  3. 3. … go so wrong?
  4. 4. NPD WARNING SIGNS IGNORE AT YOUR PERIL
  5. 5. NPDS ARE LOOKING FOR ENABLERS WHO GIVE „NARCISSISTIC SUPPLY‟ ATTENTION + EMPATHY + ADULATION
  6. 6. YOU ARE SELECTED BY HOW YOU RESPOND TO THE NPDS FOCUS
  7. 7. YOU BECOME THE TARGET FOR LOVE „BOMBING‟
  8. 8. AN INTENSE FOCUS IS ON YOU
  9. 9. IT FEELS LIKE YOU HAVE BEEN „CHOSEN‟ YOU ARE SPECIAL
  10. 10. NPDS ARE OFTEN CHARISMATIC
  11. 11. BUT…
  12. 12. NPD INTEREST IN YOU IS A PRETENSE
  13. 13. YOUR ENCOUNTER WILL BE LIKE AN INTERVIEW, NOT A CONVERSATION
  14. 14. NPDS „BANK‟ OR STORE YOUR EMOTIONS, THOUGHTS AND EXPERIENCES (EXPOSED WEAKNESSES WILL BE USED AGAINST YOU LATER)
  15. 15. THEIR LOVE IS ALL-CONSUMING
  16. 16. THIS FEELS PERFECT …
  17. 17. UNTIL …
  18. 18. NPDS HAVE AN INFLATED SENSE OF „SELF‟ SUPERIORITY
  19. 19. THEY EXPECT, AND DEMAND, TO BE WORSHIPPED
  20. 20. THEY HAVE A STRONG SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT
  21. 21. NPDS ARE NEVER RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS OR WORDS THEY BLAME THE WORLD AND OTHERS
  22. 22. ABUSE STARTS WITH OCCASIONAL SUBTLE PUTDOWNS
  23. 23. EMPATHY IS FEIGNED
  24. 24. WITHOUT AN AUDIENCE NPDS HAVE NO EMPATHY
  25. 25. NPDS WEAR TWO FACES
  26. 26. FRIENDLY IN PUBLIC BACKSTABBING IN PRIVATE
  27. 27. NPDS ARE THE MASTERS OF CAMOUFLAGE
  28. 28. LOVE BOMBING CONTINUES YOU DROWN IN THIS SEA OF LOVE
  29. 29. BUT… DEVALUING BEGINS (USUALLY IN PRIVATE)
  30. 30. WHEN WORDS CONTRADICT BEHAVIOUR YOU FEEL CONFUSED
  31. 31. TO THE WORLD THIS PERSON IS PERFECT
  32. 32. TO THE NPD, YOU ARE NOT PERFECT YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO AN OPINION
  33. 33. IT‟S “MY WAY OR THE HIGHWAY”
  34. 34. YOUR VALUE COMES FROM HOW YOU RESPOND TO THE NPD – NOT FROM WHO YOU ARE
  35. 35. YOU BECOME ISOLATED LOSE FAMILY, FRIENDS, COLLEAGUES AND COMMUNITY
  36. 36. ATTEMPTS TO ASSERT YOURSELF LEAD TO „NARCISSISTIC RAGE‟
  37. 37. YET YOU FEEL SORRY FOR THE NPD
  38. 38. YOUR ROLE IS TO PLEASE THEM
  39. 39. NPDS ARE HYPERSENSITIVE AND PERCEIVE CRITICISM WHEN NONE IS INTENDED
  40. 40. NARCISSISTIC RAGE ESCALATES (ONLY IN PRIVATE)
  41. 41. MANIPULATION TACTICS USED TO CONTROL YOU GASLIGHTING DENIAL LYING EXCUSES
  42. 42. I never said that. You’re imagining things. You’re crazy. That never happened. Can’t you take a joke? COMMONLY HEARD …
  43. 43. MUCH OF WHAT IS SAID IS A LIE
  44. 44. AS A NPD VICTIM YOU NO LONGER TRUST YOUR OWN PERCEPTION, MEMORY, OR JUDGEMENT
  45. 45. BLAMING: NPDS ARE NEVER RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS “IT‟S ALL YOUR FAULT”
  46. 46. YOU ARE IN A CYCLE OF VALUE AND DISCARD
  47. 47. YOU KEEP TRYING TO RETURN TO YOUR OLD RELATIONSHIP
  48. 48. YET YOU OFTEN WONDER…
  49. 49. YOUR BOUNDARIES WILL NOT BE RESPECTED
  50. 50. YOU‟RE WALKING ON EGGSHELLS
  51. 51. ENABLERS DO NOT BELIEVE YOU THEY PROTECT THE NPD
  52. 52. YOU ARE SILENCED
  53. 53. SILENCED
  54. 54. YOUR ABUSER WON‟T LET YOU GO THEY CRY CROCODILE TEARS
  55. 55. WELCOME TO THE CYCLE OF ABUSE
  56. 56. NO, YOU‟RE NOT CRAZY!!! THIS WHOLE SITUATION IS CRAZY MAKING
  57. 57. YOU‟VE BEEN „NARCISSISED‟ AND YOU NEVER KNEW …
  58. 58. UNTIL NOW
  59. 59. FINALLY THE PIECES FIT TOGETHER!
  60. 60. NO MORE RED FLAG CONFUSION
  61. 61. Please share these other links on Narcissistic Personality Disorder http://www.slideshare.net/jenimawter/narcissistic-victim- syndrome-a-powerpoint-by-jeni-mawter http://www.slideshare.net/jenimawter/moving-on-from- narcissistic-abuse-compiled-by-jeni-mawter
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